I'm having a hard time watching romcoms because they reinforce that a woman would need a man

letsberealforamoment · 2020-12-03T03:39:14+00:00

"The Shining" is a rare example of a believable film about a relationship. And it has a happy ending too🤣

shirtofsleep · 2020-12-03T04:39:11+00:00

Oddly, costume dramas based on books like Austen’s Pride and Prejudice or Gaskell’s North and South show a woman making more intelligent decisions about her life and the man she might let become part of her life than RomComs do.

Bitemebitch00 · 2020-12-03T02:48:58+00:00

Yes those movies are made by the same people who created the mess we live in now. Hollywood and media have been brainwashing women for generations. They feed women's insecurity, enforce gender roles and sell us stupid fairy tells.

letsberealforamoment · 2020-12-03T04:30:59+00:00

I dare all you sisters to watch "Twilight" again. Trust me....you will struggle to get through the first half hour. Gaslighting, stalking, hot and cold bullshit, the whole imma want to kill you Bella and drink your blood, her self annihilating pickme behavior....its fucking endless! Everything FDS stands against is in that movie. A d MILLIONS of teenage girls swooned over that garbage.

letsberealforamoment · 2020-12-03T03:14:10+00:00

I cant suspend my sense of disbelief and enjoy any kind of romance novel, show or film. Zombies are more believable 😂

veruscka · 2020-12-03T05:16:11+00:00

Sometimes it’s fun to watch them from a purely anthropological perspective. I watched “My Best Friend’s Wedding” recently while trapped at a relative’s house and realized Julia Roberts was the villain. Sooo I still enjoyed it and laughed, just in a different way.

fireforestfairy · 2020-12-03T06:03:30+00:00

Many romcoms are targeted at pickmeishas.

Jiou112 · 2020-12-03T06:02:18+00:00

I was binging the Simpsons when I found FDS.. I might have cried for Marge at one point. Had to stop watching.

darling89 · 2020-12-03T06:29:21+00:00

This is like sex and the city. Idk why women love this show. I hate watching it.... so much sex with too many different men.

curlygirl507 · 2020-12-03T03:08:12+00:00

Yep! I stopped watching almost every fictional show/movie a long time ago, partly because of this. 95% of what I watch are documentaries/true stories.

ponchoacademy · 2020-12-03T06:43:52+00:00

I only watch romcoms after a breakup, so I can yell at my tv how stupid everyone is being.

Its oddly therapeutic...

diaaanneee · 2020-12-03T05:22:46+00:00

This is why I love Miranda and Crazy ex girlfriend. Not to say they are completely free from awkward pick me moments but still.

Pasdepromesses · 2020-12-03T09:01:56+00:00

I always hated to watch romantic moves and only liked some romcoms (the Proposal, Miss Congeniality and the Holiday), but this actually explains a lot. Most guys in those movies are at least partially HV.

It's funny because I'm really into action movies and Marvel (especially Jessica Jones) and almost all of my ex boyfriends kinda had a problem with that.

A few weeks ago I saw the Heat for the first time. I loved it. I know it's an older movie already, but it shows you can make a funny comedy, centered around women and their relationships with other women, without making it all about 'getting the man'.

umbralgarden · 2020-12-03T12:47:58+00:00

Try watching British gardening shows. Very soothing :)

2020-12-03T17:18:28+00:00

Greys anatomy is a lot like this too. Like I’m just wondering when Meredith can ever be a strong woman by herself and not needing a man. She always needs mcdreamy or someone else to love her. Also they slept on the first date like wtf 😅

vardebi · 2020-12-03T17:41:01+00:00

I've been watching Gentleman Jack which is basically a LVM-gets-the-girl romcom only the LVM in question is a woman, and it's actually been really great and refreshing to recognize LVM behavior (manipulation and self-centeredness mostly) outside its expected context.

I always return to the newer Star Trek series (TNG, DS9, Discovery) when I need something soothing but engaging. The romantic subplots are usually de-centered and the courtships are usually long and respectful, but of course, the shows are largely produced, written, and directed by men so there are plenty of counterexamples.

FDSxMuffinVSrat · 2020-12-04T12:34:39+00:00

I've had an issue with romcoms for YEARS even pre FDS.

They always manufacture issues that don't exist in reality. Someone does something stupid and the other forgives after a big romantic gesture. That's not love.

And it ends with a relationship beginning, which isn't how life goes either.

But now after joining FDS, I just see LVM before I even assess how stupid the plot is.

foxorhedgehog · 2020-12-03T15:02:29+00:00

I've always hated rom-coms and it took finding this sub to figure out exactly why!

justforfds · 2020-12-03T16:18:02+00:00

I've had Virgin River on as background noise while working from home. For a start, the actors playing the lead couple, have a16 year age gap from the old man down to the young woman - it was so jarring and creepy looking at them. I won't go into spoilers but good grief! Every relationship except 1 is centred around a pickme and an opportunistic, self interested, dishonest man. I can't even be bothered to check if a man or woman wrote these 'romantic' propaganda. If it's a woman, she's radicalized or infected with the parasite of patriarchy. Courtly love was after all invented by unqualified men to gain access to women out of their league. Many modern men think they can ride on pioneer men's coat tails without putting in the work. So many 'RomCons' (deliberate) are only that in title while underneath it's a mask to promote lowball offers.

maracat1989 · 2020-12-04T00:13:18+00:00

Try to rewatch The Jersey Shore without pulling all your hair out! Or any dating reality show, the amount of gaslighting and double standards is horrid.

2020-12-03T14:38:48+00:00

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Title	I'm having a hard time watching romcoms because they reinforce that a woman would need a man
Author	Bitemebitch00
Upvotes	307
Comments	75
Date	December 3, 2020 2:36 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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