It should be that simple. I’ve had a guy literally do all of these things, then proceed to say he doesn’t want us to be “official”.

2020-12-01T22:21:08+00:00

I’d be her girlfriend in a hurry.

AmazonArtemis · 2020-12-01T23:19:47+00:00

Anyone with an ounce of emotional intelligence knows she’s speaking straight facts. I’ll never understand how adult men justify doing all of that (the “I see you all the time, tell you my deepest secrets” bit), while expecting wife shit... basically be in a relationship without a title... and still won’t put a label on it.

Also she is gorgeous, completely correct and hilarious with impeccable comedic timing.

whokilledhydra · 2020-12-02T01:20:31+00:00

I had a LVM "best friend" orbiter who did all of this, short of sex. I initiated a conversation about dating several times. But he only viewed me as a friend, though he thought I was hot. Sorry, girl. We carried on as friends for a year or so. After he tried to have sex with me, I demanded either we date, or he leave me alone. He did not want to date. I blocked his phone. Three months later, I got an email that he was in love with me and was sorry he did not know it earlier. In that email, he declared valiantly he was not writing out of loneliness, it was true love. By then, I had a clear head. Looking back, I am shocked how I let that man access me for so long.

🤡

ASeaOfQuotes · 2020-12-01T22:43:28+00:00

The alarm got me. In our dreams I guess. 😪

if11bravehawk · 2020-12-01T22:32:39+00:00

For a second, she made me believe there might still be some hope for men! xD

Guess not

randomgirlimok · 2020-12-02T02:54:37+00:00

He wants HER to be in a relationship with just him, but HE can date other people.

girludontbringhome · 2020-12-02T02:34:40+00:00

Even the girlfriend title does not mean much, they will still use you...

yolosunshine · 2020-12-02T05:04:35+00:00

It’s a dominance thing.

If y’all in a relationship that means he has an obligation to reciprocate in kind and at that level if he expects wifey shit from you.

Otherwise in his (NVM) mind he’s free to receive anything and everything from you with zero reciprocal energy.

No title, no gf shit. No ring, no fiancé shit. No husband, no wifey shit.

Simple math.

Saitschik · 2020-12-01T23:21:52+00:00

The fuss some of those dummies make about calling a relationship what it is, is one of the most off-putting things about men nowadays.

Who should take such a man serious, honestly.

It's all a power and dominance play at the end of the day by the biggest losers

Elisa_LaViudaNegra · 2020-12-02T12:43:32+00:00

I communicated a standard to a guy I was talking to. Said I don’t do xyz with dudes that aren’t my monogamous boyfriend. He said “monogamy is great. I just think titles and marriage are arbitrary bullshit.” I know this man in his 30s did not hit me with the same TIRED dusty line that teenage boys use to try and manipulate young girls. I should have stopped talking to him then. He then went on to say that “most girls have a hard time keeping up with him mentally” and he “needs some serious wit.” Sir, first of all, I’m a grown woman. There are no “girls” present. Second of all, I literally did not ask. It seems like he wants me to be the one tap dancing to chase and impress him and it ain’t gonna happen. That was our last conversation and I’ve moved on.

randomgirl34861 · 2020-12-02T07:59:31+00:00

It will be a cold day in Hell the day I sleep with a man who hasn’t put a label on the relationship. Never have, never will. They don’t deserve it, and I truly believe the world will be a better place when we do

pikkpie · 2020-12-02T06:17:04+00:00

It's because he wants to keep his options "open" 🙄

Squidwrd_Tortellini · 2020-12-02T01:06:36+00:00

hahaha I busted out laughing. this is hilarious

WinterMidst · 2020-12-02T11:13:18+00:00

YES. This happens. I didn’t realise it happened so often that so many people can relate.

Title	It should be that simple. I’ve had a guy literally do all of these things, then proceed to say he doesn’t want us to be “official”.
Author	kittycakes22
Upvotes	729
Comments	34
Date	December 1, 2020 10:09 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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