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[–]SerenaFitPickmeisha™️404 points405 points406 points 5 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Yes exactly ! That’s why we take our time. That’s why we want to talk. That’s why we wait for things. That’s why we don’t jump right in. Because we have learned the hard way that we need to vet properly.
[–]sleepykittnFDS Newbie161 points162 points163 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Trust takes time. That should be understood without question.
[–]SerenaFitPickmeisha™️70 points71 points72 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Absolutely yes.
[–]RhiannonEmiliaFDS Newbie3 points4 points5 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Totally agree. If I if I talk to men online and they want to meet right away, I refuse and it’s a huge red flag. And then they have the nerve to accuse me of being a catfish and/or wasting their time.. It’s like no, I just don’t know if you’re going to k*ll me or not because I’ve literally only exchanged three sentences with you over an app/Facebook/whatever. Also I find that those men who want to meet right away, like that day or the next day, usually just want to bang me anyway.
[–]SailorMoon1999FDS Newbie290 points291 points292 points 5 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
Obviously it's not all men. But it's too many.
[–]Happy-MuffinFDS Newbie128 points129 points130 points 5 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Imma start saying all men.
[–]i_said_what_i_said_FDS Apprentice105 points106 points107 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Me too, I’ve been so careful, over many years, to make clear when speaking about these things I don’t mean all the men, but they still whinge nOt AlL mEn so I won’t bother any more
[–]jargon_explosionFDS Newbie43 points44 points45 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
We don't even need to say all men. We just need to generalize and the men we need to avoid will out themselves. Two women and I were having a discussion about men and we weren't making any excuses, just talking frankly, and a male friend of ours came in and sat and listened and didn't say anything. No interruptions, no objections, just sat and listened. So yeah, not all men, but the ones who get it, they don't whine about "notallmen" anyway. They get it. They don't interrupt. They understand it's not their place. So I'm not worried.
[–]oddcharmFDS Newbie106 points107 points108 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Any man I’ve spoken to irl who has problematic views doesn’t hesitate to say woman as a whole only care about whether or not a man has money, aren’t funny, are emotional, etc but make one comment about how men are more likely to do something based on data and they sound the “not all men!” alarm LMFAO
I wonder if they get tired from all the Simone biles level mental gymnastics they do
[–]i_said_what_i_said_FDS Apprentice51 points52 points53 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
They’re so thin skinned their skeletons are showing
[–]imarriedmybookshelfFDS Newbie22 points23 points24 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Im inching close to this because the men I've encountered, when they arent predatory, boundary stepping assshats are absolutr negative value with questionnable choices in life. No, im not settling for a lesser evil. Not being a r*pist doesnt qualify as husband material so boys dont @ me with your i can have a waifu pillow and watch anime octopus porn at least im not committing a crime.
[–]Repulsive-Ad1092FDS Newbie162 points163 points164 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Not all men are abusers, but many of them ignore it when their friends are acting like shit.
[–]yolosunshineFDS Newbie58 points59 points60 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I felt double betrayed finding out people who hurt me or others have been let off the hook multiple times over the years by ‘good’ men around them not saying ‘change or get out’ to their friends.
You knew, you said ‘thats a disposable female problem’ and you aren’t worth any trust now.
[–]oscine23FDS Newbie[S] 24 points25 points26 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
That part.
[–]BombiniCan39 points40 points41 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
I'm fucking sick of all these men commenting not all men on everything. Obviously not all men are abusers but I guarantee almost all men know one and will stand by him or look the other way when they misbehave.
[–]thowawaywookieFDS Newbie19 points20 points21 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
They do. It doesn't affect them, so they don't care.
[–]OrangeyPandaFDS Apprentice188 points189 points190 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Women's safety>male feelings
[–]MagnfiqueMaleficentFDS Disciple82 points83 points84 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
But I thought women were the ones who are all wrapped up in our feelings? Overly emotional? No? Gosh, it’s like we just don’t know what to believe when men tell us what to think about ourselves. 🤷🏻♀️
[–]yolosunshineFDS Newbie16 points17 points18 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Well that’s why we’re the confused irrational sex, right? 🤣 not listening to men explain how we’re crazy and they need to let their pp steam off with us even though they hated us 5 seconds ago. How can we not see the logic?
[–]fdssavedmylifeFDS Newbie282 points283 points284 points 5 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
Men are completely welcome to assume the worst about ALL women before they meet us. Thing is, most men’s biggest fear when it comes to women is that we’re fat. Our concerns aren’t equally valid.
[–]yolosunshineFDS Newbie57 points58 points59 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Margaret Atwood quote is still best:
‘Men are afraid women will laugh at them. Women are afraid men will k*ll them.’
[–]MissYouMagdalenFDS Newbie25 points26 points27 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Some men kill women that laugh at them or reject them. Fragile male egos have done more harm to women than any other factor. Lots of men would rather live a lie than admit some women are smarter, more educated, or more expert. Some are filled with hatred for women because we don't immediately jump to be their perfect robot bangmaid that never asks questions or disagrees.
In my own experience, most men believe or want to believe they are superior to women. Being equal is unacceptable to fragile male egos.
[–]yolosunshineFDS Newbie0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yes
[–]Dorkamus_RexFDS Newbie132 points133 points134 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
There was a study about fears between genders. Men's greatest fear was having a woman laugh at them or reject them. Women's greatest fear about men was getting raped/murdered.
[–]fdssavedmylifeFDS Newbie78 points79 points80 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I don’t see why a man would get upset about women being wary of them unless they’re the type of man we should be wary of. Because good men, HVM, understand our caution and have no problem taking the time to earn our trust, because they aren’t worrying about “slipping up” and showing their true colors.
[–]RecentSprinkles5997FDS Newbie28 points29 points30 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
It’s totally within men’s control to fix this too if they stopped making excuses for and defending predators and abusers . If whenever they came across one they cut him off/warned women / called the police. If they held each other accountable Women would be able to trust men. But they won’t I haven’t had one “ good “male friend yet who didn’t have that one friend they knew hated women and they didn’t care . So not only do they actively shield abusers they then have the audacity to be upset we don’t trust them for it
[–]MissDesignDivaFDS Newbie49 points50 points51 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Exactly! to use an analogy, "you're given a bag of skittles and told 2 are poisoned but not which 2, you're not gonna just go ahead and eat a handful" that's what we mean when we say "all men, because sure only a smaller % are probably actually terrible, but I'm not sticking myself into the mix and accidentally ending up with a poison one, I'd much prefer to live.
[–]oscine23FDS Newbie[S] 38 points39 points40 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
And if we're being real, it's more than a small percentage. With the advent of the internet, these LVMs and NVMs have entire platforms to spread their misogyny at an alarming rate. They're fkn everywhere, man.
[–]dancedance_83FDS Newbie77 points78 points79 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Prince said it — “until I find the righteous one, computer blue.”
For me, it’s all men until a HVM appears. Vet, vet, vet.
[–]sweettheoriesFDS Newbie13 points14 points15 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
☔️
[–]berryberrykicksFDS Newbie58 points59 points60 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
When men say, “Not all men,” my first thought is, “So?”
So what if it’s not all men? Whatever conversation about women’s pain was taking place is no less substantive because of a man’s whiny, uninvited interjection.
In contrast, “Not all men,” has no substance or insight. It’s not even commentary. The objection is just superfluous squawking from a man with hurt fee fees. And to that I say:
[–]yolosunshineFDS Newbie11 points12 points13 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yessss
[–]U_nhoelyFDS Newbie2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It's still all men for me because instead of using their time, energy and anger to change our perspective about men as a whole they would rather fight us over a phrase. As long as men are free to call us ugly and wish for us to be raped after getting their Male ego's bruised by a tiny rejection then this phrase will remain in my mouth.
Sidenote: Most men who fight over this phrase are most definitely the same men we are talking about.
[–]terrn1981FDS Newbie14 points15 points16 points 5 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
The "Not all men" bunch are just as dangerous as the perps in crimes. To be more upset over generalizations than rape, violence and murder of women, just shows their lack of empathy for women, shows they see men as more human and than women, and says they value men's feelings over the safety and lives of women. Lack of empathy will cause violence towards us that they will not regret.
[–]A_FishstickFDS Newbie20 points21 points22 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Not all men, but an alarming number of them. Not all men, but you ptobably cross paths with, work with, socialize with several male predators/abusers every single day.
[–]MagnfiqueMaleficentFDS Disciple43 points44 points45 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Same advice all men, yes, ALL MEN, would give their daughters and sisters.
[–]valleygirl1221 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
exactly...I always want to say/ask "would you want your sister or daughter treated like this, or dating someone like you???" they would be baffled, of course, and not know what to say, bc they dont want to tell the truth...its always amazing when guys have young daughters, and still act like that...totally hypocritical, of course, since they will also talk crap about women that arent attractive, but "think they are", meaning, they have standards and wont put up w/their crap, just bc society tells them theyre not good enough...but, of course, thats the opposite of what they tell their daughter...that shes the most beautiful girl in the world, and shouldnt put up w/any crap from guys...which is probably why, they always joke about how she cant date until shes like 35, lolll...gee, I wonder why??? just speaks to more of the hypocrisy and double standards that guys have, that they dont wanna challenge, bc it benefits them, but then, they should also keep their daughters away from the icky men, bc, life. *shrug*
[–]didsome1saybaconFDS Newbie6 points7 points8 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
https://vm.tiktok.com/ZMekS6qHf/
[–]breadandbunnyFDS Newbie5 points6 points7 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Especially when you have been mistreated before, it stands to reason to assume everyone might try to hurt you or deceive you. Protecting our hearts doesn't make us evil. All the good men should blame the bad ones for why women feel so wary of them all.
[–]carltherFDS Newbie14 points15 points16 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Every man and any man can cross boundaries in the bedroom. Aggressiveness, smacking, more forceful bj's, "BDSM". It's a short, short trip from that to rape.
[–]FluffandRaincloudsRuthless Strategist3 points4 points5 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Someone commented "it's like Russian roulette, but he knows where the bullet is.' Chilled me to the core. 🥶
[–]EveSerpentFDS Newbie33 points34 points35 points 5 years ago (12 children) | Copy Link
All men are potential rapists. It’s up to them which ones act on it.
[–]fdssavedmylifeFDS Newbie37 points38 points39 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Any man who jerks off to his friends’ photos or continues hitting on a woman he knows isn’t interested or sends a dick pic without being asked or pretends to be a woman’s friend while actively sexualizing her (“friend zone,” anyone?) is just a rapist who doesn’t want to face consequences or hasn’t escalated. And yeah, I’d say that’s probably 99.999999% of men at least. But I’m very cynical (and proud of it).
[–]EveSerpentFDS Newbie16 points17 points18 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Truth. And are you actually cynical, or a realist?
[–]MomoKun999FDS Newbie15 points16 points17 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Realist
[–]yolosunshineFDS Newbie2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yessssssss flip it where it belongs.
[–]ProtoetypeFDS Newbie6 points7 points8 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
We can do the scrotes a curtesy and instead of just saying men we can say 99% of all men when we reference them so they don't feel the need to remind us. If they still complain about this then we'll have to start demanding to know percentages.
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Exactly
[–]RikaRikaw1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I would never rape/murder someone. You would never rape/murder someone. But we cant ignore the fact that a lot of people out there would.
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