Ladies, don't shave your coochie the first time he goes down on you.

Smolfrend · 2022-04-10T17:36:39+00:00

Imo, only guys that are overly pornsick have a problem with pubic hair on women. Also, the majority of them don't bother to even manscape. Rude and entitled.

BoxingChoirgal · 2022-04-11T05:48:54+00:00

Funny story on this topic.

I've (58/f) been celibate almost 3 years, preferring it to LV sex. (there have been offers)

I've had a #1 contender for over a year now and have been very patient with him. (He is a HVM but with serious health concerns. So the jury is still out on whether or not we will go forward).

Since he has not been up to the task of a relationship, we have not consummated and it is understood that if other options present themselves I would consider getting involved with a different man.

A month or 2 ago another man with whom there was past attraction but no involvement started expressing interest . In a matter of weeks / a month we came very close to sexual intimacy. I've known him for a while and was always very attracted.

We got to the point of near-nudity and he asked to see me.

I was not "prepared" and although trimmed, i still had a natural amount of hair. He made very excited/approving remarks.

He also commented on how much he would like it if i were waxed or shaved when we take things to the next level.

There was no next level.

He never got to see it again. He has eliminated himself, for that remark and a few others that my former pick me self would have overlooked.

The thing about waiting is that once you are accustomed to it, it's easy to wait longer.

Hell, how long I can wait = Infinity.

Being alone is far better than compromising myself .

Never forget this: Oral sex has existed for a lot longer than pubic hair removal.

Devils_Tango · 2022-04-12T05:22:12+00:00

My last relationship was with a man with fairly HV traits and I was very pleased when he went down on me with enthusiasm and zero complaint the first time we were intimate and I hadn’t planned for it by even trimming. It was full bush and he made himself home in the forest 😂

Olympia43 · 2022-04-10T16:40:42+00:00

Yes, I think it is a good strategy, especially if you do not like shaving/removing your body hair but do it due to social pressure. Sex should be an overall pleasant experience. We, women, should not have to anticipate a whole logistic and schedule to "prepare ourselves" in order to "convince" a man to pleasure us. He should want to, body hair or not.

millennialpink2000 · 2022-04-10T20:23:08+00:00

I trim but have never had a bald coochie. Disgusting. I'm a woman, not a child. It's a solid vetting strategy because they will immediately react if they have an issue with it. And if they do? NEXT

Equal-Ear2312 · 2022-04-11T07:43:16+00:00

I mean ... We should know if he's worthy of giving us oral before giving us oral but I'd love to see the reactions!!! However, I am afraid of the possibility of violence towards me. If I'm in a vulnerable position, naked or in a bed and he just starts yelling or something - no, I wouldn't do it!

Last time I asked a presumably hvm about body hair on women and he got me with a "it's a sign of respect on the women's part to shave their legs"🤡

So my body hair is disrespectful to him☠️? I don't even want to entertain such men.

crapeescape · 2022-04-10T17:32:13+00:00

I like to shave it and keep a strip down the middle. I don’t like hair pulling and getting caught up on underwear elastic. I will NOT tolerate a man telling me how to have my body hair and any time a man says he likes it completely bald it’s an instant red flag 🚩 for me. It’s either bordering on pedophelia, isn’t mature enough to be having sex with adult women or has a porn addiction. Yuck I don’t care about a man’s pubic hair and it’s weird that they obsess about ours. Worry about your own damn body, don’t worry about us!

stripesonthecouch · 2022-04-10T17:22:35+00:00

Don’t shave it - ever. It’s a bunch of patriarchal misogynistic bullshit that women have to be hairless to be sexy.

I stopped shaving all parts of my body over a year ago. No regrets. The right man won’t care.

GailaMonster · 2022-04-10T17:18:29+00:00

I am going to keep my genitals groomed the way I like. No way am I going to remove OR RETAIN hair, either to appease or test a man.

You vet based on whether they make ANY comment about your hair regardless. my best quality partners are too focused on my pleasure and being in the moment, and too focused on snuggling in the afterglow, to make a comment about my pubic hair. I could have a 70's bush, I could have a brazilian everything plus a little landing strip. he's down there for the intimacy and for the experience of giving me pleasure, because (in my experience) a good man considers his partner's enjoyment just as important as his own, and wants me happy and satisfied just as much as he wants to get off.

I have never ever EVER had a comment by a guy who ate me out about my pubic hair. EVER. he either had his mouth full (lol) or was too happy that I enjoyed what he just did to think about my pubic hair at all. he had a clit to think about! if my pubic hair's on their mind before/during/after sex, they're telling on themselves that they're bad at sex, and bad at focusing on your pleasure. THERE is your vet - style your genitals the way you want, and ANY comment from him signals he's not worth to spend time with those genitals.

mandoa_sky · 2022-04-11T02:52:00+00:00

nurses and drs all say being completely bare is a bad idea.

whenever I come across a guy who insists on it - I ask him to show me his medical degree

pickadaisy · 2022-04-11T16:13:52+00:00

100% good strategy to check for porn sickness.

I don’t bother to remove hair at all anymore. It’a a pain, time intensive, and costly. A man who isn’t porn sick will cherish what’s real and natural - including pubic hair.

Kristeninmyskin · 2022-04-10T20:10:49+00:00

I am a bikini waxer by trade (high school guidance counselor did not prepare me for that!) and most of my clients do it for themselves. Any time they dare mention a man’s preference I say the same thing “If someone criticizes the moat, then they don’t get to visit the castle!” Never fails to get a laugh. For the pedantic out there, yes I do realize that hedge would make more sense than moat because it’s more bush-like, but moat trips off the tongue better.

queen_azulaa · 2022-04-11T16:24:10+00:00

Very much agree. And super red flag if they expect you to be hairless and theyre practically carrying a bush with a mushroom sleeping in the middle. Any guy that doesnt treat giving you oral sex as an exciting act but also wants BJs only sees sex as something women give to men and something men receive from women. Not a shared experience to be enjoyed together.

Kind of a hot take but I prefer being hairless down there. Same with armpits. BUT! I also expect the same for my partner. No armpit hair. No pubic hair. If you cant reciprocate Im just not the person for you 🤷🏼‍♀️.

I've converted a couple otherwise incredibly hairy men (full beard and all) to shave their pits and private areas 😅 They like the "breeze"

ponchoacademy · 2022-04-10T18:25:11+00:00

Different take, do whatever makes you comfortable and dont modify your personal standards of grooming for anyone, whether its to shave or not shave, wear makeup or not wear makeup, style your hair or wash and go, whatever. If your partner happens to like you as you are doing whatever you do to feel comfortable and happy with yourself, awesome..if not thats their personal problem to deal with.

Ive had guys tell me, you dont have to go through all that trouble shaving for me everytime we see each other, youre always so smooth, its okay to just be yourself and if youre natural when we see each other. And my response is the same, hilarious you think I do this for you.

So whether a guy is pushing for you to shave or pushing to not shave, or wear make up or do the whole, you look beautiful without makeup why do you do all that for me, or its a non issue you fix up your hair or makes a fuss over how long it takes to do your hair cause, you look fine you dont have to do all that....its not about whether he likes you as you are, its about whether he wants to change your personal habits from what you prefer to do with your own body.

And the thing is, its not even about one or the other, like most guys like that I shave, I think the whole thing of telling me its okay not to, is a power play to see if I will stop doing it for him. The inverse is true. And I think this test will do more harm than good, cause if you always shave then stop to see his reaction, his reation with being okay with it might only be becaue he feels like oh yeah, she was only shaving just for me, and now she feels comfortable enough with me to not have to do that anymore, this is the *real* her, Ive got this one bagged. The message you send that its about him will not be lost on him, and he will take that and run with it to see how else he can get you to modify your behavior for him.

Just be the real you from the get go. If you dont like shaving and have some sort of negative feelings about it, be it fear over what you look like or feel like its just to maintain some sort of social standard and what it might mean to partners to the point you want to test a guy over it, let that social conditioning go and just dont shave to begin with. Do what makes you feel good within your own skin always. Changing yourself for a partner, for any reason at all, whether its to appease them or test them, makes no sense to me.

FDS-GFY · 2022-04-14T07:12:28+00:00

Don’t shave your coochie for him. There, I fixed it.

KetoKittenAround · 2022-04-11T01:16:09+00:00

Speaking for myself I do it for me. I just feel better with it. Now… do I feel better because of my internalized patriarchy? Gotta dig deep on that. I just have always kept it this way. Always. Well before a man was gonna be seeing lol

Still I’d be really pissed if a man said I should HAVE to do this or that. Women are beautiful and attractive no matter their hair down there.

These men will try to out their socks into food for goodness sakes!

Men will say… “oh not clean” while they look like they are trying out to be the hairy guy at some freak show… the projection!

Many men are very unclean and their hair is not the same as ours. They need to get to shaving their backs and all of the parts if they even want to be able to open their mouths on this subject!

bananachka · 2022-04-10T16:12:10+00:00

I mean personally I like it shaved. But I never like become ocd about it. If I missed some parts there, then it is what it is. It happens. But I guess just do whatever u want with your coochie.if the person is sexually compatibile with you, they probably will also have the same preference of how hairy it is. 🤷🏻‍♀️ I just would never overthink how I should shave for a man, I just do it for myself because it makes me feel good.

Necessary-Peanut-506 · 2022-07-13T16:07:36+00:00

My ex barely went down on me. Yet he was so picky about the head he got and other elements of it. When I told him I wanted oral he would pick it back and not follow thru. Then I put my foot down and he was all," I can't go down on you unless you're shaven." I the end he didn't even make me cum and purposely ate it until I nearly climaxed with negatively frustrated me. After that he used mouthwash and I don't stink or taste bad down there.

Meanwhile I had another ex who went down on me and I didn't shave. He said he liked it that way. Interesting.

Title	Ladies, don't shave your coochie the first time he goes down on you.
Author	poppinkitty
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Date	April 10, 2022 4:05 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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