Pretty Privilege is Real, But False and Fleeting.

clytemnestra_23 · 2022-01-03T19:51:34+00:00

Beauty products are a racket. Women are brainwashed into tweezing, injecting, shaving, plucking, painting, squeezing themselves into tight clothing, high heels (which can lead to foot/ankle issues if worn too often) for two main reasons — it makes them shiny objects for men to consume and it lines the pockets of cosmetics, plastic surgery, and fashion companies, which are headed mostly by men. Beauty, as marketed to us today, is unattainable. Models are airbrushed and photoshopped into oblivion. Women are left chasing ghosts. Look up the rise of Instagram filter inspired plastic surgery.

That’s not to say women shouldn’t pay attention to personal grooming. I like to be clean and dressed presentably, as most women do. But the standards for personal grooming are so much higher for women than for men.

catsuramen · 2022-01-04T17:24:56+00:00

I have to respectfully disagree. To me, pretty privilege isn't about gaining access to things, it is the LACK of obstacles compared to a lower rank in attractiveness person. For example, the bouncer might let you slide in the club even though it's on max capacity or the lady at the check out lane let you go first when you buy only one item. Sure, pretty privilege might earn you a drink from stranger, but the real advantage having cops on your side when there's a conflict, or having plausibility when you excuse yourself from work.

Pretty privilege is usually innate. Being at a healthy weight with no physical deformities, aligned teeth, shiny hair, manicured nails (cut not colored), and basic hygiene already gets you most of way. Obsessing over the hair on big toe is excessive. That sort of beauty and the advantage that comes with it is not fleeting. People like to associate with healthy, fit people no matte the age. Because in modern society, sick people viewed as bothersome to accommodate and so they have more obstacles to overcome. Think of a guy in wheelchair having a hard time watching a baseball game when everyone stood up.

Commercial_Place9807 · 2022-01-03T19:59:43+00:00

My weight has fluctuated a lot through out my life. This is when you REALLY see pretty privilege at work. Having a yo yo weight issue means it’s like you’re a spy or like you have a magic power to see how truly despicable people are to women that aren’t conventionally attractive.

And what’s really alarming and has always sort of unnerved me is that women who have always been conventionally attractive may never learn how truly awful men can be because when you’re doing something for their dicks you have value to them so they treat you like a human.

And in fact, some of the worst pick me’s I’ve known have been women who have always been conventionally attractive, never had a chubby face, a pimple face, etc. I’ve also noticed that it’s these women that have the hardest time with aging because they’ve all of a sudden lost that “soft power” they’ve always had and now are confused why people (mostly men) are being rude or dismissive of them.

It’s an act of course, they see that you’re fulfilling the role they’ve decided women should fill in society, i.e., doing something for men’s dicks so they reward you with humanity.

The second that stops though and you’re not filling your assigned role…than they’re either outwardly hostile or ignore you. At my heaviest men wouldn’t even acknowledge my existence, even if it made sense to, like at a work function, like they will not make eye contact, will not exchange basic pleasant small talk, etc

Obviously fatphobia occurs with women too but it is so much more pervasive from men. And is really telling in how little they actually see us as people worthy of humanity rather than just as ornamental objects, because when you’re not hitting that subjective pretty mark they become either vitriolic or treat you as if you’re not there.

fab_pofu · 2022-01-04T03:08:44+00:00

Let’s talk about pretty privilege.

A study looked at how university professors graded students based on their appearance. IIRC they were given the same exam with different attached photos. They found that appearance had no bearing on the grades men received. For women, attractive women were graded EQUAL to the men. Unattractive women were graded BELOW the other three groups.

To me, I believe there is no real pretty privilege in society, what we are seeing is just punishment of unattractive women due to sexism.

Ok-Appearance5982 · 2022-01-03T22:59:05+00:00

The shadow side of being pretty is in relationships. Men date you for their ego and to show off to their male friends. Not because they genuinely like you as a human-being. They date you for their social status and their friends.

sexualfoodpantry · 2022-01-03T21:50:03+00:00

Pretty privilege is something people came up with to prevent women from realizing that skill privilege holds all the power.

If you are skilled, they might hate you, despise you and call you ugly behind your back, but they will work with you. And if their behavior doesn't ruffle you, in the end they will also respect you.

SnooEagles9138 · 2022-01-03T19:59:17+00:00

Yes, it takes so much time every day to put out an outfit, wear make up accessores etc.

When I was studying computer science I got so jealous of the amount of time the guys had on their side, simply bc they show with the same t-shirt and shorts everyday. Don't even get me started on costs, washing etc.

freeloadingcat · 2022-01-03T21:39:17+00:00

Some of these unlucky ones got married at a young age, spent their youth being a mother and home maker, then their husbands threw them out (penniless) once their usefulness are over and their beauty faded.

People wonder why the divorce laws are so favorable to women... above is the reason why. So many women throw out of their homes penniless. Now, there are pick mes willing to forgo the protection of the law... and then, in the years to come, we'll hear argument supporting common-law marriage.

Such beauty is nothing but a curse for these women. Without such beauty, maybe they'd have a chance to mature, learn, and grow up.

Davina33 · 2022-01-03T22:22:35+00:00

I also don't feel pretty privilege is the same for all women either. As a mixed woman, I've been told I've been beautiful. However a White woman who isn't as beautiful or equally as beautiful will generally get better treatment than me, same with Asian women. I've noticed beautiful Black women get even less privilege. Still, the point stands.

I grew up ugly due to severe neglect from my parents. I remember the horrible things boys used to say and how they would try to chat me up as an adult. It's interesting seeing it from many angles. I've never been overweight it one thing I've always been clear about is to shut overweight men down who criticise overweight women in any way whilst putting me on a pedestal, same with black men putting me above black women. I will always support other women over a scrote.

katiekat0214 · 2022-01-03T21:57:46+00:00

I don't think it's power, I think "pretty privilege" is influence, and there's a big difference.

At my heaviest, I was over 400 lbs, and I was so hyper-visible, I was invisible. Now I'm 250, a basic plus size. I'm a "small fat" and quite often, down here in the Deep South, in much better shape than a lot of women. In Los Angeles, of course, I was not even on the radar, even after losing 170 lbs.

Long, long ago, in my teens, I gave up on makeup and style, because I knew that for me, it would be making a silk purse from a sow's ear. I'm not a pig; in fact, I have a kind face, but I knew that the goalposts always were being switched around, so I was going to play a rigged game, that was rigged against me. I streamlined my wardrobe and my life, and felt better for it. I knew early on that fashion just wasn't a gift and it was one I didn't care to develop. I wanted comfortable clothes I could move in, because getting stuff done was more important than how I looked while getting stuff done.

I also decided that if anyone wanted to get to know me, then they'd have to make the effort. If fashion and stylish clothes mattered to them, then they wouldn't get to know me, and neither one of us would be missing out. Overall, I'm happy to be average looking, and while yes, I could play up my looks, I just don't care enough to. I prefer to be invisible and left/let alone when I go out in the world.

Emergency-Feed8216 · 2022-01-04T06:18:33+00:00

An old Norse proverb goes something like,

The fjord has no bottom/The river has no end/The mountain has no summit/And pretty girls have no kinsmen

Perks, sure. At a huge price. I know some of Gerald Marie's victims-- not the women in the Sixty Minutes profile but others who are considering coming forward. https://youtu.be/yl_FXbNrq9o

Title	Pretty Privilege is Real, But False and Fleeting.
Author	labrat_96
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Date	January 3, 2022 7:38 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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