This poor girl.

2020-11-12T18:23:49+00:00

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Ok_Ad_67 · 2020-11-12T18:26:38+00:00

You don’t have to accept what makes you uncomfortable just because of societal norms. If him looking at porn makes you feel insecure, you don’t have to just put up with it.

There are plenty of men who don’t watch porn (just look at r/nofap for example). And not every guy is going constantly check out other women or look at naked women on reddit.

You’re allowed to have your own preferences and standards and you don’t have to settle for less.

It’s completely okay and natural to not feel okay with this. Your boyfriend shouldn’t make you feel insecure. Or make you feel like you have to compete. You’re worth so much more than that! 💕👑

LiquidxDreams · 2020-11-12T17:25:30+00:00

What infuriates me is that she thinks SHE needs help to get over it when the entire problem is HIM. We've been so conditioned to just accept it that she is gaslighting herself. Heartbreaking.

blerty567 · 2020-11-12T18:36:55+00:00

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Madholley · 2020-11-12T17:14:21+00:00

When will this “evolutionarily visual creatures” shit stop? I can appreciate attractive men and attractive women equally. I am not desperate to be inundated with those images.

This lie that we are only valuable as long as we are attractive is insidious. We have to break this cycle. I have had to fight the guilt but now enjoy going to the store in my shitty sweatpants with my hair not brushed. It is not my job to be beautiful. I remind myself of that every day.

abstractsadgurl · 2020-11-12T18:24:38+00:00

And then he will find a nude photo of her on a subreddit page post a thread about how mad he is and somehow twist this on her. I've seen this all too many times. Yet hes the hypocrite. But yeah it's unfortunate. The normalization of this is shitty and hopefully things change all we can do is be aware of this stuff

NotSoBunny · 2020-11-12T17:20:40+00:00

Now she wants to start giving away nudes to make herself feel better. This is just heart breaking.

eveninghope · 2020-11-12T18:07:29+00:00

It's insane that we've been brainwashed into thinking that (1) it's totes cool if your bf is constantly looking at other women bro just chill out, (2) mEn NEEEED tO lOoK bC MuH BiOLoGy and (3) if you have a problem w any of this you're a stuck up needy bitch and you're feelings are invalid.

PorkNeckBone · 2020-11-12T18:41:05+00:00

Everything about this is so sad and I hope she doesn't actually start posting pictures of herself just to look for validation that she is still sexy. Your fuckability should never be a basis for your self-esteem and I hate how much the idea that it is continues to be pushed on women.

She should get out before his porn addiction makes itself fully known if it hasn't already. All it's going to do is destroy her self esteem.

stayforskz · 2020-11-12T18:56:42+00:00

Everyone forgets that watching porn and obsessing over naked models is not a natural law either.

Aggressive_Birthday4 · 2020-11-12T20:59:02+00:00

https://imgur.com/a/20FTWUT

This was posted as a comment on that thread. Yeah, “porn isn’t demeaning to women!! It’s normal and it doesn’t hurt anyone!” but also “porn girls are disposable!! -insert weird LoGicAL analogy-“.

2020-11-12T21:52:21+00:00

Honestly if he’s not going to worship you, he needs to financially incentivize you somehow or just bounce lol. What’s the point otherwise lmfao unless you have the birth defect of actually being sexually attracted to scrotes.

burntbpd · 2020-11-13T01:42:42+00:00

I have been one of those girls who used to post nudes here (with an alt account and when I hadn't found fds). I Wish I could explain to her everything I saw and people's behaviour online. She needs to level up because nothing justifies what her boyfriend is doing.

blerty567 · 2020-11-13T00:28:44+00:00

I bet he doesn’t fuck her as often as she’d like. No need to wonder why.

StrawberryMoon3 · 2020-11-13T02:53:18+00:00

So young and worried about crusty wankers. What the hell? Girl, go live your life and have fun. Men are nothing but cheap tricks so don't give a dman about them. You don't have to accept anything that makes you uncomfortable.

Eat_Pant_b0ss · 2020-11-12T20:19:14+00:00

I am having a harder and harder time feeling sorry for these women. At a certain point you are just being masochistic and acting just as bad. Yes, she is a victim of her man's gross behavior, but she's also contributing to porn culture by watching it (women who do this automatically win the handmaiden award. Getting off to your own sisters' pain is disgusting. No excuses) and her solution is to... post porn of herself??? To degrade herself for other men's eyes since she's not getting picked by the man she's currently with? No. Im sorry but no. The thought process necessary to see that as a possible remedy speaks of a deep hatred of women and herself as one that is beyond pity. I physically can't anymore.

okcool_12 · 2020-11-12T22:07:55+00:00

I'm curious as to what the comments are saying.

PinkBlair99 · 2020-11-13T03:48:58+00:00

OMG, I just heard about the sub like two days ago, and I’m so relieved to have found my people

Eat_Pant_b0ss · 2020-11-12T18:34:59+00:00

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2020-11-14T17:14:48+00:00

No babes, only misogynistic and predatory men will be interested in other women while having an amazing SO.

2020-11-12T19:21:00+00:00

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Title	This poor girl.
Author	LiquidxDreams
Upvotes	325
Comments	78
Date	November 12, 2020 4:58 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/jsy9c0/this_poor_girl/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/this-poor-girl.326535 https://theredarchive.com/post/326535

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