A body trait we are usually made to feel self-conscious about since pretty much birth is our weight, often along with our body shape/fat distribution. It’s a powerful tool used by patriarchy to make sure we are never happy with ourselves no matter what.

Growing up I was bullied a lot for being on the heavier side, despite never being obese (which even if I would have been would only have been MY problem but anyways). Along with this came a variety of weight comments from boys and then later on from grown ass men.

Due to the number of times I have been on the receiving end of weight negging from various LVM, I have almost developed a weight neg detector and have learned to look out for several conversational red flags:

• mentioning his/your/someone else’s weight very early on. Weight is very rarely a topic of conversation, especially with people you’ve barely met, unless the two parties involved have discussed it in the past for whatever reason

• making comments about what you eat, e.g. “are you going to eat ALL of that?”, “I could never eat that much” etc.

• making diet recommendations (suggesting you try a new dish is ok) e.g. “i heard eating this amount of X at Y time of the day is good for you”, “you should cut out all X” etc.

• bringing up going to the gym in conversation repeatedly, alluding to you going/joining him, can also be a sign he’s red pilled

• gaslighting you about your caloric needs e.g. “there’s no way you need X amount of calories, I eat less/women need X amount/other misogynistic bs”

• insulting your appearance in other subtle ways which allude to weight loss, e.g. “your thighs are so thick”, “that looks tight on you”, “is that comfortable to wear?” etc.

My main piece of advice when it comes to negging, since LVM are constantly finding new depraved ways to do it, is that if a certain comment feels off to you, puts you on defense mode or makes you feel bad in any way, then it’s an instant red flag. Do not give these scrotes your time of the day because the only weight you need to lose is that of these LVM wasting your time ✨

I hope this helps at least someone and please let me know if you have any weight neg stories or red flags that you’ve also heard before!