What do you think, ladies?

asianinindia · 2020-05-24T17:12:30+00:00

Everytime I've asked a guy out he's viewed me as loose and easy. If he asked me out then he's treated me with respect. There was nothing different about the relationship apart from how it started. I'll never ask a guy out again.

EclecticBarbarella · 2020-05-24T17:54:23+00:00

So wait, she should have asked him out, when he wasn’t into her and either would have rejected it or tried to sleep with her since he didn’t care, because later on he caught feelings so it’s her fault that she’s over him now. Fuck off with that, you shot your shot and missed, gtfo

diflorus · 2020-05-24T16:58:16+00:00

Modern men have such low energy, everything has to be convenient, they don’t want to put effort into dating anymore and it shows.

If a woman has to pursue a man, it shows weak male social competence and low confidence, which are traits women seek in men. Why do men act like women are a different species? Is it so difficult to do a friendly, non creepy approach? Or they’re just too afraid of rejection, so now women must bear the brunt.

Men SHOULD put more effort in to pursue a woman, because the woman is more of “a prize” in their eyes, she gives them sex. What does the woman really have to gain from a man that she can’t really do herself or get from friends and family? Women don’t chase sex like men do.

What is valued and difficult to attain is pursued, not the other way around. The demand does not chase the supply.

2020-05-24T18:09:22+00:00

TRANSLATION: I put this girl on the backburner to see if there was anything better out there. There wasn't, so I went for my bronze medal and is was GONE. Woe is me.

_HEDONISM_BOT · 2020-05-24T20:16:18+00:00

This is male-authored "dating advice" aimed at women. It's primary purpose is to benefit men by getting them laid.

This ONLY serves to get them laid. If you ask a man out and he says YES, it's because he's either horny or interested in you. You won't be able to tell. It's a shitty dynamic that puts the woman in a place where she can be used for sex and then discarded once the guy's done with her. She will then sit back and watch as he pursues another woman he's actually interested in and it's heartbreaking to go through.

NO. This isn't sound dating advice that maximizes the benefit to women. It maximizes the benefit to men.

iamjustventing · 2020-05-24T17:06:34+00:00

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VikingPug · 2020-05-24T16:58:27+00:00

He wants a girlfriend but can’t even ask a girl out. The girl in his example dodged a bullet. Instead of reflecting on why he’s too lazy and shitty to ask someone out he makes a whiny Reddit post about it. 👎🏻

Oh god the comments section makes my head hurt.

umbralgarden · 2020-05-24T22:36:34+00:00

Ugh men want women to EVERYTHING for them.

SeaNegotiation8 · 2020-05-24T18:08:28+00:00

This reads like women are consistently losing interest in him after getting to know him for a few months.

NewGirl_WhoDis · 2020-05-24T17:03:05+00:00

I have been seeing this idea being floated around lately. Personally, it's a big no for me. I WANT to be chased! If a man likes you, he should be the one to go after you and ask you out. His not asking you out might just mean he's not interested enough to want a relationship with you so why would you want to commit to such a man? It goes against nature when a woman is the one that does the chasing. Even in the animal kingdom, it's the male animals that compete for the female attention so why should human beings do the opposite?

If shit eventually hits the fan in the relationship, I am very sure the man would be quick to scream "I didn't even want you, you are the one that asked me out and I only said yes because I didn't want you to feel bad". Nope, the sun would fall to the earth before I ask a man out.

Novemberinthechair · 2020-05-24T17:28:50+00:00

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nutshit · 2020-05-24T20:54:36+00:00

Absolutely not. I’m very anti women pursuing men. It’s not natural. You set the tone for the relationship that you are the pursuer after that. If he wanted you he would get you. All women need to do is put yourself in the position for him to ask you. Don’t approach him because even if you aren’t his type, he’ll keep you around for free sex until his ideal girl comes around.

throwahweigh3521 · 2020-05-24T18:46:20+00:00

Just nope.

Men cry big over rejection. Let’s unpack that a little. Men are miffed because of the no, not the delivery. Women are programmed to politely say no. To be kind and let a guy down nicely. And to be as nice saying no the first time as the twentieth (to the same guy).

I’m so tired of men pretending that we’re all equal and have the same experience of life. I already have a full buffet of men fuckery to consider adding more to my piled high plate. I’m not taking on asking men out because men.

I can pretty accurately predict how many men would reject a woman asking him out from working in the service industry. I have stories for days of men freaking the fuck out. Of making a federal case out of nothing. There was never anything rational or proportional about their outrage.

Dude posting is delusional as per usual for men.

blk_grl_lvl_up · 2020-05-24T23:29:45+00:00

So men who barley have to maintain basic hygiene or find the clitoris now shouldn’t even be encouraged to do anything. God I have see you make other people lesbians, please bless me as well.

sisima_sharazd · 2020-05-24T17:01:18+00:00

If it was for business, or work or something other than dating yes and you must pay because it will increase your connection and the people that you know professionally. For dating neeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeever ever ever ever ever ask a man out because you will only increase his ego and he thinks that he is better thz'than you because you asked him out

Nina-Nina- · 2020-05-24T18:30:08+00:00

I spent a lot of time listening to men’s drivel in the past. They would say that they liked an “aggressive” woman, but without fail they would end up dogging those girls out or making fun of how pressed they were. Being asked out gave them the upperhand. Instead of feeling as if they needed to impress her, they were waiting for her to impress and prove her worth to them. They became the prize. I will never ask a man out. There are subtle ways to show interest that don’t involve blatantly asking a man for a date.

BabyGothQ · 2020-05-24T19:13:49+00:00

“a lot of people flirt with me”

entitled

NEXT!

Meccha_me_2 · 2020-05-24T19:50:37+00:00

Ive always found that the women I know who “made the first move” on their now bfs/husbands didn’t really make the first move so to speak....

For instance, I have a friend who says she made the first move, but what she means is the guy asked for her number, always texted first, asked her to go on a road trip with him, and initiated workouts with her multiple times a week, but just genuinely didn’t have the guts to ask her out because he feared he didn’t fit her ideal type.

After months of that she said “I think I could be interested in you” and they started dating, still are. Turns out it was love at first sight for him and that he always hoped she would end up liking him.

Cute, sure. But instead of recognizing that that’s a unique situation, that same friend consistently uses that story as “proof” that women making the first move works and always tries to convince me and other women to cold-approach men we don’t know.

So be wary of those success stories.

gursky0 · 2020-05-24T17:14:44+00:00

If he doesn’t ask you out, it’s because he doesn’t want to. Simple as that.

--qtbunny-- · 2020-05-24T20:41:34+00:00

No, no, no. A woman should never ask a guy out. He’ll think she’s easy and desperate for him. The man is meant to pursue a woman. If he hasn’t asked her out yet, that means he isn’t as interested as she is into him.

I had a guy ask me out to set up a date after the quarantine ends, awhile ago. Then as we kept getting to know each other, he EXPECTED me to chase after him. I could tell was that he was a LVM who wanted attention.

positivecatz · 2020-05-24T23:26:16+00:00

I can’t think of one good reason to ask a man out.

Wait__No__What · 2020-05-24T20:03:32+00:00

The egg doesn't swim to the sperm. Case closed.

meanemad · 2020-05-25T00:29:20+00:00

sounds like he thought that he could get a"better" girl so he didnt pay attention to her. After 3 months his alone ass crawled back to her and the girl was gone🤯so strange that happened🙄🤦🏻‍♀️😂😂😂😂

mars888999 · 2020-05-24T16:57:23+00:00

Like yeah buddy it took you months to realize you didn't just want to string her along and by that time she had lost interest 🤷‍♀️ jeez I wonder why.

kirky500 · 2020-05-24T23:22:13+00:00

I agree that he looks weak if he can't make the first. Forget it. Alot of young men seem to want everything to be so easy. No. Bye Felicia

outside-perception · 2020-05-24T17:39:33+00:00

Lmao no. If he can't ask the simple question of "want to go on a date?" then why should we put the energy into it?

eden_else · 2020-05-24T18:09:14+00:00

He's basically saying he's not attracted to people except after a certain amount of time. Tbh that sounds pretty reasonable. Why would he want girls that he's just said he's not attracted to to ask him out then? He had no problem asking her out once he worked out he liked her. I genuinely don't see what he's complaining about other than getting rejected by a girl who'd moved on.

Novemberinthechair · 2020-05-24T21:41:40+00:00

Uh, no.

Comicalacimoc · 2020-05-25T03:54:03+00:00

Nope

kirky500 · 2020-05-24T23:19:14+00:00

I think if it Ain't Broke....

sadcello · 2020-05-26T10:37:10+00:00

Let's be real, if the girl asked him out, he would pump and dump her and he won't ever fall in love with her the same way he did because she never asked him out.

azzyh4 · 2020-05-25T07:09:43+00:00

I don't think it's a good idea for women to ask men out because if it comes to the point where there is so much uncertainty that YOU have to ask him out then you're an option. I tried that out (back when I was a pickmeisha) because there were so many mixed signals for an extended period of time that when I asked him out it basically gave him and ego boost and some more macho to go for one of his 'better' options. If a man wants you he will ask you out himself.

ItsYesMaam2u · 2020-05-24T17:15:09+00:00

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PinkestMango · 2020-05-25T06:12:27+00:00

Moldcell sounds just about right.

Title	What do you think, ladies?
Author	easteuropeangirl
Upvotes	71
Comments	64
Date	May 24, 2020 4:52 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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