Why are there never any discussions about women’s mental health and loneliness?

Phoenix__Rising2018 · 2021-02-02T19:26:46+00:00

I didn't notice till now you linked to another sub. You need to remove that or this post will be removed. I will check back later. Thank you.

outgrabed-momerath · 2021-02-02T17:02:00+00:00

That thread is so interesting because the two comments I read that were constantly repeated were:

"I once opened up emotionally to a girl and she didn't respond so I will never ever again do that."

and

"Something bad happened to me and I couldn't tell any of my guy friends because they would tell me to man up."

Like...guys won't open up to their friends and when they expect the ladies in their life to shoulder all of their emotional baggage (which, omg some examples of them *opening up* are actually some scary ass confessions) they're surprised when it's too much.

OrangeyPanda · 2021-02-02T17:16:16+00:00

In regards to womens "support system": having a support system requires daily maintenance and years of building trust and reciprocation in order to have someone who will always be there to support you. Men seem to think that if you're born with a vagina then you just have a flock of friends there to support you, but it works exactly the same for us as it does for them. They just got unlucky that male friendships suck. They're they only ones that can help themselves.

Edit: just came across the post you were talking about. LOL I've never seen such tone-deaf, sexist, unaware wolves men in one post before. Its literally: men can't share feelings, stop telling us to share our feelings and let men be men not cucks, women suck, women are too emotional, women aren't having sex with us for some reason 🐺, we have no male friends but women have lots of female friends so this must be womens fault, etc. 😂😂😂

penelopesheets · 2021-02-02T17:17:19+00:00

Men need to be talking about their mental health with their fellow men. Men are the ones dismissive of men's mental health. Women typically take that shit seriously but get called emotional or sensitive for doing so. The fact that they need to bring up how women have it easier in this domain (lmao) shows that they have no interest in genuinely discussing mental health with other men, but want to circlejerk about how women actually don't have it that bad.

Phoenix__Rising2018 · 2021-02-02T16:29:13+00:00

It takes a lot of nerve for a group of people that generally prey on women, rape us, use us as housemaids and servants, use us for breeding, abuse us, to then turn around and whine about how nobody cares about their mental health.

MakeURegret · 2021-02-02T16:42:40+00:00

Because women are never lonely because they always have so many men willing to “provide companionship” aka use their bodies. /s

Hmmm hey wait a second maybe men mean something different when they use the word “lonely” 🤔

Also lol @ the below:

women have it much easier and better because we have “support systems” like friends and family 🤡 As if men dont have friends or family too many just dont give af about them 🤡

Once again men discounting emotional labor and expecting things for free. Women typically have more friends and family to rely on because they do the emotional labor to cultivate the relationship. They don’t just do the bare minimum in a relationship and then expect to be helped when they’re going through a hard time.

nebsemi · 2021-02-02T16:36:46+00:00

I'm telling you - men didn't bring any attention to men's mental health until we brought attention to that of women's. Kind of like they do with rape victims.

Also: Men are usually the cause of women's decline in mental health.

Women bear the brunt of the wars men wage.

millennialpink2000 · 2021-02-02T16:41:52+00:00

Yet another reflection of a society that prioritizes men over women. Society is fine with women suffering and being depressed, but not men. Even though they're the one's who perpetuate it by shaming their friends for expressing emotion

Sapphonie · 2021-02-02T16:44:47+00:00

Because men need to be taught to cry /s

janeaustenfan99 · 2021-02-02T17:13:46+00:00

They might think we have it easier in terms of dating and maintaining social relations. But lots of women’s relationships are based on providing some form of care and emotional support to others, especially in dating/romantic relationships.

alwaysonalongtrip · 2021-02-02T17:21:30+00:00

Men have more resources than women to care for their mental health.

They are under the illusion that they don't bully women when women express emotion which is insane.

Women are shamed when they express emotion but we still manage to support each other and our family and friends and seek therapy when we need it. It's all we can do.

Grouchy-Math41 · 2021-02-02T17:56:13+00:00

It's literally daily, you're right. It's hysterical how they think no one talks about mental health in men. In their eyes women can't be mentally ill, it's a little scary. AskMen is a shithole.

Maingurl · 2021-02-02T17:44:38+00:00

All their problems seem to come from a place of mediocracy and wallflower syndrome. Mixed in with the idea that women's emotions are 100% coddled and reciprocated.

grayforamerica · 2021-02-02T16:48:23+00:00

Because women have it soooo easy 😤 mEn Just FlOck tO tHeM 😤 they have large social groups, the woman species is a social creature. 🤬

I have seen these ridiculous statements on multiple subreddits. I have suffered from social anxiety my entire life, along with a small family and like 1 friend. I never blamed men for my loneliness like they blame us for their mental problems. Why are we expected to ~heal~ them while receiving absolutely nothing in return? Men made me feel even more lonely when I was dating. They don’t care about our mental health and they don’t understand what it’s actually like to be us. And they’re assuming all women’s lives are the same lol.

PasDeTout · 2021-02-02T19:32:21+00:00

I think most people living alone are female. This is largely due to quite a few elderly widows living on their own. Do we think they’re not lonely? Some might be lucky enough to have family close enough to visit regularly but it’s also an age when your friends start dying off and it’s not easy to make new ones. If you’re in your nineties, chances are your children could be in their sixties and seventies and one or more of them might have died.

Kitty_Pompous · 2021-02-02T17:43:40+00:00

Men, and especially incels, love to pretend that isolation and social rejection do not exist for women. All conceivable social issues simply vanish into thin air by virtue of being a woman. My theory on the loneliness/isolation issue is that men boil down all intimacy and bonding down to sex. If having positive social experiences is just sex, of course I can’t take issue with being alone, because with a moderate enough face I can simply invite some scum over to do what he wants and then leave

And I swear, when I was friends with these incel “mentally ill” (ie sad sociopath) dudes, they’d downplay everything I said or discount any advice I gave as totally obvious. Being their free therapist is the least rewarding volunteer work I’ve ever done. So no wonder nobody else wants to do it when you’ll be actively berated in trying to help them. They don’t actually want help. The kicker is, they don’t care about men’s mental health either, they just hate women so much and blame themselves so little. Every little thought in their head is one of absolute selfishness

Snoo-97022 · 2021-02-02T19:49:38+00:00

Thank you so much. I live alone. You have made me feel heard and seen which is the first time in a long time. Working through another lockdown in the UK and get sick of hearing people bleating about not seeing family members. At least they have a family. Not all of us are that lucky. Thank you ❤

1Here4Bach · 2021-02-02T17:42:16+00:00

Because any discussion about mental health that leaves out men is SeXiST! So they have to talk about mental health in a broad and gauge way. Which helps no one.

Villanelloh · 2021-02-02T19:22:10+00:00

I was literally thinking about this - there are all kinds of charities and campaigns tailored for men but women specific mental health issues are swept under the rug. When was the last time you saw a news article about post-natal depression? Or poor mental health caused by gynaecology related problems? Exactly.

2021-02-02T19:08:54+00:00

I thought we weren’t supposed to link to other subreddits from here? Or is it certain ones?

uptownxthot · 2021-02-02T20:42:10+00:00

women are pretty much brainwashed from birth to accept all forms of abuse from men bc “tHaTs JuSt HoW mEn ArE!!” even though it clearly hurts our feelings and wrecks our self esteem. but we’re supposed to care about a man’s mental health when they’ve been given a free pass to completely destroy ours their entire lives? FOH

Title	Why are there never any discussions about women’s mental health and loneliness?
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Date	February 2, 2021 3:28 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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