Is it really over after a failed “shit test”?

throwacomment-789 · 2021-07-22T17:34:47+00:00

With so many options now it very well can be, one fuck up and she's on to the next dude on her list.

xFallacyx69 · 2021-07-22T18:26:40+00:00

Dude every relationship I’ve been in there has been a “testing” phase where they try to pull some BS without even realizing it. If you tell them to fuck off when they cross the line, you’ll be fine.

Don’t treat everything like a shit test, but if you see your boundaries being pushed/crossed, why the fuck would you want to stay with that chick? Some chicks literally shit test themselves out of EVERY possible good relationship then bitch when the guys they go after don’t give two shits about them.

Don’t chase those chicks, leave that shit alone. End male thirst.

Orange_Paisley · 2021-07-22T17:44:10+00:00

I don’t think I’ve intentionally done this shit testing thing. There are things a guy has done or not done that impacted whether I would take a second date with him. How he treats servers and baristas, for example. Basic manners in general. His ability to carry on a conversation and escalate it to flirty banter. But that’s not really what I would consider shit testing, just observations.

poppy_blu · 2021-07-22T17:52:48+00:00

Doesn’t TRP operate on the premise of essentially “masculinity tokens” - not those words but that if he passes other shit tests and is just masculine in general that he’s got capital built up so she’s not going to dump him for failing one shit test. I could be wrong.

To your point about LTRs, you’re right but TRP doesn’t advocate for LTRs sit it’s moot. their advice is focused on casual sex and short term relationships. So I wouldn’t be looking at any of this from that lens. Different dynamics altogether.

teradar · 2021-07-22T17:56:18+00:00

I don't think people are saying the impact and effects of one failed test will result in the end of the relationship, but that they're multiplicative and if you fail one, you're extremely more likely to fail the next because they ramp up in severity.

Don't think of Shit Tests as an actual, one time event but like a class in highschool. You don't need straight A's, but if you're unable to keep up or completely bomb quizes frequently.... yeah it's over. So if you have like a D in the "shit tests" class, probably better to just retake the class from the start than to put effort improving your grade, because you won't let your grades get that bad when you take it again.

sootlord · 2021-07-22T17:46:29+00:00

In my opinion depends on when the "shit test" was delivered. However you wont need to worry about shit tests when you adopt the attitude of indiference.

Feisty-Saturn · 2021-07-22T17:38:28+00:00

I had no clue people actually did this, men or women. Seems childish to me.

Eleusis713 · 2021-07-22T17:44:47+00:00

A "shit test" is practically by definition cruel, manipulative, and just plain dishonest. I personally, as well as many people I know, avoid women who use shit tests purely out of principle. I simply cannot respect someone who would reduce the process of getting to know someone down to a few manipulative, psychological tests. If you want to get to know someone personally, then you need to actually do the hard work and communicate with them like a normal human being.

HappilyMrs · 2021-07-22T20:54:41+00:00

I can promise you, over the last almost twenty two years, my husband has failed a ton of shit and comfort tests, and I've likely failed him even more! The thing is, you learn to forgive each other and understand that you're both really flawed human beings but that doesn't mean you can't build something great.

Sure, I find that he and I are both happier when I allow my femininity to guide me in my looks, behaviours, hobbies, and he takes more of a guiding role. But life isnt perfect. Stuff will happen that will undermine the frame of even the most committed RPer.

Edit: "So from a woman’s perspective what are the failed shit tests that make you want to walk away completely that a man should be aware of?" There is no shit test he could fail that would make me walk away. Infidelity, physical abuse, and harming our child are about the only things I would walk away over. Not him not being able to deal with me being bitchy about something.

ItIsnt0verYet · 2021-07-22T17:53:35+00:00

I don't know many women who did "shit tests" who weren't also drama machines. If you think she's trying to manipulate you, you should already have a foot out the door. Better to be alone than with someone who is intentionally trying to rile you up or manipulate you.

But i also think the number of women who genuinely "shit test", not asking questions to see how compatable you both are, is pretty low.

yungthrowaway97 · 2021-07-23T08:01:41+00:00

I read about this shit test. I never heard of it until now. As an OLDer (online dater) male by default I am settling in all my relationships. The girl I am dating now literally cooks and cleans my place when I ask her too. Its actually pretty chill and you never get bitched at when you settle as a guy. They are terrified you will leave them

PeskyHijinks · 2021-07-23T15:18:13+00:00

Any woman who gave me more than one shit test within a few months would cause me to flee whether I passed or not. Life is too short to deal with other people's bullcrap.

pongaminbloom · 2021-07-22T18:02:23+00:00

Yes, it is over. I don't make or tolerate "shit tests". If I can't trust someone to express his real feelings/preferences/expectations, I cannot have a healthy relationship with him. I would be forced to walk on eggshells and waste immense amounts of time and energy analysing everything he says and does for hidden meaning. E.g How can I know he really means x? Maybe he really wants me to do y to prove z. I don't have the emotional bandwidth to play those games.

wtknight · 2021-07-22T18:07:58+00:00

You won’t get shit tested it she’s really attracted to you from the beginning. Shit tests are what women do when they are close to the same level of attraction as the guy and she wants to test if he meets her standards or if there might be some other, better guy out there for her.

I think that it really depends upon the woman’s personality how she shit tests, so there’s really no exhaustive list. Some are going to test a guy’s wit. Others his physical strength. Others his social skills, etc. Men have to realize that they’re not going to attract every woman out there. Even the most handsome, charming Chad isn’t going to be some woman’s type. My advice to guys is just to work on their strengths and not to worry if every attempted relationship doesn’t work out.

flapperfemmefatale · 2021-07-22T19:11:19+00:00

So from a woman’s perspective what are the failed shit tests that make you want to walk away completely that a man should be aware of?

Using the term "shit test" lol

michael1962-01 · 2021-07-22T19:55:44+00:00

All women use them. The harder they are into you and the more masculin you are the more and harder they try to do them.

They are easy to handle if you know them.

In a ltr you have to let some pass (loughing inside) as she needs some comfort too.

If you are experienced you can use the tests in your favor.

Women are easy to understand and handle if you accept their nature.

ToughAnswers · 2021-07-22T17:37:14+00:00

LTR’s or married

TRP rejects commitment, even referring to using TRP for commitment as "using redpill to chase blue pill dreams"

BlackPorcelainDoll · 2021-07-22T19:07:56+00:00

LetsDelveIntoIt · 2021-07-22T17:31:46+00:00

So from a woman’s perspective what are the failed shit tests that make you want to walk away completely that a man should be aware of?

Can't speak for all women but, on a first date (assuming he asked me out), I always offer to pay the whole tab at least or split it. If the man takes me up on either of those options instead of insisting on picking up the whole tab himself, he's failed my shit test. And yes I will not go on another date with him again.

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TheBookOfSeil · 2021-07-22T18:45:48+00:00

It could be, yes. If a woman really likes you, she'll give you more chances but the number of chances you get depends on how much she wants you to pass her dumb tests.

Don't even bother with women who give tests though. If she gives you a test, put her to rest.

Murphysmongoose · 2021-07-22T18:54:01+00:00

It's basically more like that masculine point system analogy Atlas used to use here.

Things you do gain and lose you pussy getting points with a woman, and it's a constant gauge like a thermometer on a car.

You can drop really low, then build yourself back up. But you can be driving straight ahead to pound town, and say or do one thing to wreck you, and have to start all over from negative.

superlurkage · 2021-07-22T19:43:57+00:00

The red pill includes any expressed doubt about your character, motivations or statements as a shit test. You think that’s a reasonable designation?

0112358f · 2021-07-23T02:39:51+00:00

I'm not sure exactly what you're referring to but I suspect it's leaning on the fact that it's easier to get someone new attracted then try to repair attraction.

cathetic_punt · 2021-07-23T03:40:04+00:00

It basically means once/if she has lost interest in you upon shit test failure... is not worth you pursuing longer as you have to put in more effort to persuade her. Which can end in actual disaster.

Title	Is it really over after a failed “shit test”?
Author	IHaveSalesQuestions
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Date	July 22, 2021 5:26 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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