I used to be active on the sub a few years ago. I see the same people (won't name any names) here saying the same shit. See the same arguments. I see some new folks, though. This is for the young men struggling with all the bullshit. I went from a borderline incel to happily married to a unicorn by TRP standards (very attractive, sex positive, low n-count, ect). I'm not here to brag or preach. I'm here to pay it forward, the only way I know how: share what actually fucking helped. Maybe it'll help someone else, maybe it won't.

Most women (and men) are shitty. Dating is absolutely unfair, and no one here can do anything about it. So... let it go. Vent, rage, yell at people online, but get that shit out of your system. Dwelling on the unfairness of dating is just going to poison your mind and ruin any chance you had before you even start.

Until you find a partner worth a shit, look out for Number One. Focus on YOUR happiness, and YOUR standards. Stop giving a shit about what other people say, or think. Be your true self, and if other people have a problem, they can fuck off. Most women you meet will absolutely not be worth your time and energy, so don't give it to them. Save it for one who is.

When you DO find a woman who is worth the effort, put in the damn effort. Yes, you'll have to be the one doing most of the work. That's just how it is. If you don't think it's worth it, then she's not the one. Cut her loose, and keep looking until you meet a woman that you DO want to do it for. Eventually, you'll hit a point to where she's putting in effort too. As much or even more than you are. If that never happens, she's playing you. Cut her loose, and try again.

Finally, if you are actively looking for a relationship, get off this fucking sub. This place is goddamn kryptonite for having positive thoughts about the opposite sex.

Thank you for coming to my TED Talk.