Pretty simple but as someone who formerly used to struggle with attention from women and these days its the opposite, I've noticed with me and other men, attention and dating success is very binary. You either get it or you don't. There's no tiered system of a little attention here and there that gradually increases to more and more attention.

It's simply that once you "make it" as someone somewhat attractive, cool, fun, financially fine, educated, and confident, your options go from 0 to thousands overnight. Of course you still have to go through the process of approaching women, likely making plans and paying for things, having a stable or fun life she can enter, and multiple little shit tests and putting up walls and insecurities she has regardless of if she's a modelesque 9 with the perfect body, a thriving social life, and her own wealth/education/status, or introverted slightly overweight 4 barista. Both of which don't really look your way if you're a on the level of the latter woman.

This doesn't really apply for women however. There's a very real correlation with how attractive, social, and cool y are with what men you have access to. The latter woman maybe has access to a cool pothead drummer getting his HVAC license and living off of occasional gigs and a linecook job, maybe something better than that for exclusively one night or a situationship, so for the sake of commitment lowering your standards does have a real benefit. But the former 100% has access to potential commitment (character dependent) from a tall successful, rich, fun, and social men

I will however acknowledge as previously said, character is a wild card. You can't really adjust your standards for kindness, empathy, and emotional intelligence. That will always be a wild card for men and women