It has been remarked before that "red pill" tactics are somewhat self-reinforcing, in that by pracitising red pill dating strategies, you attract more women who like red-pill men, which reinforces your idea that "all women are like that".
I want to take this a step further and posit that internet discourse around sex and gender as a whole is also mediated by a set of strongly-correlated female traits.
Some background to why I think this:
My real-life experience is blue- or at least purple-pilled. I'm not a stereotypical nerd, but I am quite obviously bookish, a little sensitive, ectomorphic, average height (5'10''). I think I have a fairly attractive face, but one that is not ultra-masculine. I hate fighting and virtually never get angry, let alone aggressive.
According to red pill theory I should struggle for female attention. But I never did, and I married young (and am still happily married) to a woman who I'm certain adores me. A lot of my like-minded friends are in similar situations.
However, reading accounts online managed to convince me, contrary to my real-life experience, of some red pill "truths". The accounts that convinced me were not from men but from women themselves, about their preferences in men, what turns them on, what they fantasise about.
I need to reconcile my blue-pill personal reality with what I observe in the wider world.
After much thought there is at least one option that makes sense: there's a massive selection effect at play in online discussion spaces like reddit.
I think the following things are strongly correlated in women:
- Erotophilia
- Porn usage
- Sexual submissiveness
- Rape/ravishment fantasisation
- Partner facial masculinity preference
- Partner aggressiveness preference
- Belief in gender role strictness for men (no correlation/weak anti-correlation for female gender role)
- Propensity to socialise in male spaces
- General promiscuity
The first four are definitely correlated and there are studies to back that up.
Their correlation with the others is completely speculative but would explain a lot. It's based purely on my own personal observations.
For example, my wife is clearly not particularly interested in very masculine partners (has expressed so/never dated or pursued any). She doesn't watch porn and never has. She reads romantic books but ones with little/no smut. She likes sex but doesn't really talk about it. She's very LGBT-tolerant. She has female-stereotypical hobbies like knitting and playing Animal Crossing. Her friend groups are all-female. I know quite a few women who follow this pattern (obviously excepting knowing about their porn usage!) and they're mostly happy in relationships with with beta-ish males.
On the contrary, following reddit profiles down the rabbit hole, I notice that a lot of women who express strong preference for masculine/aggressive men are also kind of disagreeable themselves, they like to talk about sex, they often comment in NSFW/porn subreddits (and frequently extreme/maledom BDSM ones), they have masculine hobbies and interests.
I wonder if much of what I have internalised about female nature is an artifact of the second type of woman being (1) way more likely to be present on traditionally male spaces like reddit and (2) being way more likely to share their thoughts on sex.
One side note, I don't body type or height preference are correlated with the above, at all.
I also don't think the red pill is "wrong", it's a strategy that often works, it's just that, genuinely, not all women are like that.
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