Why do men become possessive?

RandomRedditGuy322 · 2022-04-07T02:02:39+00:00

If I had a ice cream cone I'd be very concerned if other men were sticking their dicks in it

StopTheIncels · 2022-04-07T03:17:32+00:00

Aside from competition, paternity certainty is not a guarantee in men as it is in women.

Asatmaya · 2022-04-07T02:14:58+00:00

Why do women become possessive?

Taipanshimshon · 2022-04-07T04:14:10+00:00

Who said that men are more possessive

Jacke766565 · 2022-04-08T02:06:04+00:00

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PlayfulLawyer · 2022-04-07T03:14:42+00:00

Source? Lol

People can get possessive over things that they value, and yeah that includes relationships, if hey man values his woman there's going to be some level of possessiveness there, if he doesn't then he's just not going to give a shit at all

NockerJoe · 2022-04-07T02:00:38+00:00

Men either get to possessive or they say there was never a relationship or they catch feelings or a million other things. My sisters in christ, make up your damn minds because theres an assertion men do a different exclusive thing every 3 days here.

Slyfer_Seven · 2022-04-07T02:07:19+00:00

We're competitive with each other, so other dudes are always actively, or passively, trying to steal your chick. If a guy is in a weak position in the relationship, or lets the competition consume them, then they become possessive as a defense mechanism

sernamedeleted · 2022-04-07T03:21:44+00:00

Why do women become possessed?

2022-04-07T05:31:25+00:00

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warramite · 2022-04-07T10:28:57+00:00

It isn't specific to men. Both men and women feel entitled to love, sex and affection from who we find attractive

We've all seen the women beating each other over some man they deemed high value because one of them can't admit she isn't desirable to him

We've also all seen the ridiculous "Where have the good men gone" saying all over the place as she ignores hundreds of men in her DMs

Reality is both men and women become possessive when an attractive person is foolish enough to allow them into their lives.. they begin thinking they own the person

BlackPorcelainDoll · 2022-04-07T23:19:38+00:00

I'll list one major reason as poor communications between men/women. Women have a tendency to communicate poorly with men. Women typically need to learn disagreeability, reduced conflict avoidance, firmness, direct language, and how to properly end ties with a man. Women are often unclear with men in that the language or communication is ambiguous and open-ended, even when she is done or checked out in her mind.

Sometimes when a man becomes possessive, it is because the woman has poor communication skills with other men. "Not interested but we can still be friends," for instance. A woman thinks a man will interpret her form of communication as she does and see no issue with it. "I told him I wasn't interested," so that must be enough, yet she left the door 'open' on various angles. How she interprets is not how men communicate or interpret things.

To be fair, this is not the "responsibility" or a fault of the woman either. She should understand dynamics between men and different environments when she enters them as a female. I think most of this responsibility is on men because they can communicate best with other men; men respond to other men in a way a woman cannot elicit, as that is what they are structured and socialized to do and be attentive toward.

A woman should always attend certain places with her male partner (if not any kind of man will do ex; date, male guest, brother, friend etc..) if she is not single for instance. Certain environments call for her man to be present, EVEN IF she can handle herself just fine - not because she is not a woman that can't cut men off, but because men handle other men better, and interact with each other differently in a way in which a woman doesn't.

If a woman is attending an event with many men around or "bachelors," she should always at bare minimum, invite her male partner, if he does not want to go. It is the little things and recognizing the dynamic of men and what her presence as a woman will do to the atmosphere around her, whether she intends it to happen or not.

I do not think once this understanding is made and miscommunications are improved and resolved "possessiveness" would that common in most cases that I've seen it because women have proven to make rational decisions in relation to other men. Possessiveness without reason is often insecurity and unnecessary.

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Da_Druuskee · 2022-04-07T05:00:01+00:00

Evolution wise, it’s to make sure the bloodline remains his bloodline.

SmarmyPapsmears · 2022-04-07T06:49:10+00:00

I'm not possessive, strictly because I understand it's an ugly quality for a man to have.

ogsimpology · 2022-04-07T07:55:11+00:00

Because men want to lead independent women. So it turns into possessiveness, instead of being a leader in the relationship

BadAssPrincessAlanie · 2022-04-07T10:33:43+00:00

Jealousy and society. The whole you are mine and I am yours idea. People have a lack of trust.

back_in_blyat · 2022-04-07T15:14:05+00:00

Because although I am a very attractive man, my girlfriends never have to worry about other girls approaching me in the gym, at the bar, out shopping, getting hundreds of DMs, etc because that is just reality for guys. They have to worry only about ME downright putting myself in a situation to cheat. Since I never have cheated, am not a chronic liar and am very transparent, and social circles always vouch for my character, girls I date don't ever feel the need to be possessive like that.

On the flip side, since I date very attractive women, I have more rational reasons to be "possessive". THEY WILL find themselves in questionable situations regardless of if they genuinely do try to avoid them and I have to trust they will get themselves out EACH AND EVERY TIME across a vast medium of being approached/social media etc.

edit - this does not mean I don't ever trust girls I date, quite the opposite, and am not CoNtRoLlInG, just that I have far more realistic fears in this specific regard than any girl I am dating would logically have for me

2022-04-07T20:29:14+00:00

After going through over 150 dates and rejections way beyond anything normal people would count i would be worried about that one women choses to be with me knowing she will still have many guys her approach or try their luck.

"Sorry lads i know how you feel and i know how shitty dating is for men but this one girl is for me. I wouldn't entertain your girl too if i know she is taken."

decoy88 · 2022-04-07T04:35:48+00:00

A little insecurity mixed with objectification. The idea of feeling ownership over another human being is pretty fucked. But it’s so common that we carry on as if it’s normal.

januaryphilosopher · 2022-04-07T10:02:28+00:00

It's natural to feel a degree of possessiveness over those you love. Men might do it more because of the idea that women are objects to own, and they don't want to share.

johnnyferrera · 2022-04-07T13:58:52+00:00

I don't understand these posts. The reason is always the same: women can easily find someone else, so they don't value what they have, men can't so they hold on for dear life. It's always supply and demand.

Smitten_Squire · 2022-04-07T16:16:34+00:00

To protecc

roguish_rogue · 2022-04-07T22:52:22+00:00

Paternity uncertainty, duh?

abhilodha · 2022-07-13T19:23:08+00:00

When i was a kid i never allowed other kids to play with my new toy car. However i allowed them to play with my old ones.

Same is the case with girlfriend. If he is possessed that mean love.

Title	Why do men become possessive?
Author	sinisterforces
Upvotes	8
Comments	110
Date	April 7, 2022 1:49 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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