Preface: Can we please have some new content on this subreddit every now and then? I'd be happy with just one somewhat original and/or rarely-discussed post / idea on the front page every few days. More mechanics, less feel-good, empty bullshit. Thanks pals; can't ask without giving, here's my contribution.

ALOOFNESS

Aloofness is not playing hard-to-get.

Displaying aloofness to a girl is going to turn her on more than pretty much anything. Makes sense because it's way harder to display aloofness than it is to display confidence, status, non-neediness, you get the picture.

Merriam-Webster defines aloof as: "removed or distant either physically or emotionally"

In terms of seduction, this definition turns into: Pretending to not notice and choosing to not react to signs of obvious interest coming from a girl

But this idea of aloofness will not result in anything but a pissed-off and confused girl who either thinks you're an asshole, uninterested, socially inept, or a combination of them all.

So, we need to add one caveat to the context of aloofness in seduction so that it actually makes sense: Pretending to not notice and choosing to not react to signs of obvious interest coming from a girl, by saying something that appears to be ignorant, while otherwise acting in the exact opposite way

                          BUT WHAT DOES IT MEAN???

This means that when a girl says something indirectly flirtatious, you say something that appears to brush her off or be ignorant of her come-on, but your response, in either your verbal subtexts or body language, will actually demonstrate to her higher value, escalate the interaction, and make her laugh (All of which will increase attraction).

(Don't be aloof when a girl flirts in a direct manner, e.g. telling you she likes you, that you're attractive, or anything else that can be taken as directly coming onto you. If a girl decides you're cute or cool enough to break the social norm and be direct, you best be direct too)

EXAMPLES OF ALOOFNESS IN ACTION:

1). Girl: "Are you gay?"

A girl asking you if you're gay is on the same level as if she asked you if you were single. It means she's interested in you, because: 1. Girls think gay guys are hot (Well-dressed, clean) 2. She wants to know if she has a chance.

You could say answer with "No." or "Why? Are you interested?" (A favorite here). The second response is better because it's not straightforward (+1), and takes some amount of confidence (+1).

OR, you can choose to go the aloof way.

"Are you gay?"

"Whyy does every girl keep asking me that??"

This is a much better answer because she's being indirectly flirtatious, which will be taken as a sign of obvious interest by her, other girls, and more socially-aware guys. You say: No, I'm not gay, and it answers her question but doesn't do anything else. If she also did that as a shit-test, you failed. You say: "Why? Are you interested?" and it shows that you get she's flirting and you're into it, but it's a little cocky (Cocky's good but aloof's better!), and she can easily get embarrassed and defensive: "No! I was just asking" ignores you for the rest of the night

But if you look her straight in the eyes, smirk, and say in a jokingly whiny voice: "Whyy does every girl keep asking me that??" (Yes that punctuation was important enough to repeat, it changes the sentence's tone), she’ll have a laugh and she’ll know you’re interested (You demonstrated it non-verbally), and that it also implies you get asked that all the time by other girls (Pre-selection. All girls know this is a flirtatious question).

2). Girl that you're obviously hitting on: "Why don't you have a girlfriend?"

Again, this is also a indirectly flirtatious question. She's curious because it seems like you should, because you come off like a cool, attractive dude. This is always a shit-test, and/or a question to determine if you're a player.

Also, this is a stupid fucking question. To ask anyone. Seriously. There's absolutely no good, straightforward answer to this question, which is why it's always a shit-test from girls.

Choose aloof: "Why don't you have a girlfriend?"

"Because I don't know how to talk to girls!! Will you teach me?"

Again, same principles. It's an indirectly flirtatious question, and you're verbally brushing off what she considers to be a fairly obvious sign of interest. But, you're the one who came up to her hitting on her, and you're staring her right in the eyes and saying all the right things. You obviously know how to talk to girls. Your response makes her laugh, she starts complimenting you ("Yes you do, you're so funny, witty, etc) and the most passive-aggressive question she could've ever asked a stranger is successfully deflected without being wimpy (Beta-response) or sleazy (PUA-response).

3). Girl: "I wish I had a guy." "I'm having a lot of trouble finding a boyfriend." "No cool guys want to date me."

She has to be giving off some big IOIs when saying this one (Otherwise it's just a girl bitching). Any variation of this + eye contact and a smile means you're in. But you don't say something like: "Aw I'm sure you'll find someone." or "I'll be that guy!!" or all is lost.

Alooof: "I'm having a lot of trouble finding a boyfriend."

"Ohmygod, me too! Whenever I walk around on campus and see a couple kissing or holding hands, I just get so pissed, but then I have to try and get as close as possible without them noticing because it's the only intimate contact I get."

DO YOU SEE WHY ALOOF?

Being aloof works on so many levels. You notice that all of the examples from the girls could also be considered shit-tests. Being aloof passes the shit-test by not being straightforward and making her laugh, but it also doesn't reward her behavior (Because shit-tests are fucking stupid) by giving her validation.

It increases her attraction to you because being aloof takes: Self-awareness, confidence, wit, a solid understanding of body language, vocal tonality, and timing, and (What girls appreciate most-of-all), not taking yourself so seriously. It's cockiness without being cocky, self-deprecating without being self-deprecating. That's aloofness in seduction. Girls are socially aware enough to immediately recognize and acknowledge everything going on behind an aloof comment, even if it's just subconsciously. Aloofness takes being socially-aware to a whole new level; you definitely need some panache to pull it off.

Best of all, aloofness keeps her guessing. You don't want to overstate your intentions and turn her off, but you don't want to appear to be disinterested, and turn her off. By being aloof, you're keeping her interest by showing your interest in your tone, subtext, and body language, all the while maintaining the "chase" aspect of the game. You make an aloof comment, then ask her out five minutes later.

Note: It does require some sort of attraction and intent on her part because being aloof is a reaction to a girl's flirtation, not an attitude.

Also, this sometimes doesn't work on dumb or really drunk girls.

EDIT:

I've read the dissenting replies. Here's my counterpoints and clarification: A lot of contention is just based off of me simply using the word aloof. I literally listed the textbook definition; I do know what it means. James Bond (I've only seen Craig's films) isn't aloof when it comes to women, only to his job. He's just very nonreactive and not emotionally-attached, but he doesn't act distant or cold towards girls; he makes his intentions totally clear and shows empathy to them.

Aloof in the way you guys are describing it would be how Tom Cruise acts as Jack Reacher when that twenty-something girl hits on him at the bar. If you haven't seen it, she sits down at his table and introduces herself. He makes polite conversation with a few very, very slight flirtatious (That's a stretch) asides and completely rebuffs her obvious advances. He then implicitly insults her and calls her a slut. That's aloof, and that doesn't make the girl very happy.

So in this post, I redefined aloof with a twist (Saying one thing and doing another) so that you can pull off brushing-off a girl (As in Jack Reacher) while keeping her interest and raising her attraction. And while being nonreactive, holding your frame, having strong body language, and passing shit-tests (Much of the criticism here says that what I call aloofness is merely a combination of these things), there's more going on behind a truly aloof comment. I want to restate what I said before: Aloofness is cockiness without being cocky, self-deprecating without being self-deprecating, and what makes an aloof comment different from any other response you'd give to a shit-test is that you're showing that you don't take yourself too seriously.

EDIT 2:

The only girls you can truly be traditionally aloof (Cold and emotionally distant is traditional aloofness, and what a bunch of you are saying is the only real aloofness) with are girls that you are not trying to sleep with. Otherwise, acting traditionally aloof with girls that you want to get with is a paradox. It's an act. You're trying to be appear cool and distant, like you don't give a shit about her, even though you actually really want to get to know her and fuck her. It's fake, and girls can see through the act. You can't act like you don't care about a girl while trying to make meaningful conversation with her at the same time. You goddamn keyboard jockeys.