Thailand a bad idea?

flying_pigs · 2022-08-16T15:38:12+00:00

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TheJoeyJoeJoe · 2022-08-16T16:42:46+00:00

Go to Thailand to enjoy yourself. It's a fun place!

If you have no social skills and approach anxiety, you're still going to struggle to meet women.

Yeah, you'll get 'attention' from massage girls, bar girls and prostitutes. But other than that, you'll probably have to make it happen.

Also many people complain about Tinder mostly being full of prostitutes, bar girls and ladyboys also, So, you'll have to deal with all that.

There are hundreds of ways to 'improve your confidence', but I don't think this is one of the most effective.

booniedog1 · 2022-08-16T16:03:30+00:00

They don't call it "Bangcock" for nothing

cobraCL · 2022-08-16T16:02:03+00:00

Why not haha. Even if the sexual prospects are meh then you can still enjoy a cheap vacay at an incredible destination 😊

You have nothing to lose. All the best and have lots of fun!

RightTrack44 · 2022-08-16T18:16:54+00:00

You’ll actually find you’ll mix with more Americans and Europeans over there than you will Thai. Most English speaking people over there don’t really want to be around westerners unless they’re trying to make a buck outta you.

Focus on practising your social skills in hostels and on excursions. People on those are extremely friendly and this’ll help your confidence a lot.

jayrack13 · 2022-08-16T18:41:57+00:00

I’d suggest Manila too. I could just chill in my hotel and swipe tinder and they would come over after two messages.

Intelligent_Date1302 · 2022-08-16T16:00:04+00:00

Yeah go to Thailand try to pick up non trans chicks and the best part is, if you get rejected, 0% chance you’ll ever see those women again. I think it’s a great idea and I’ve had plenty of friends that went there and had a great time. The only bad stuff I’ve heard is the quantity of trans men flirting and touching etc.

THAT_LMAO_GUY · 2022-08-16T23:18:41+00:00

It will be easy mode and might help boost your confidence. You might also be very depressed and bitter when you return to the West and find less attractive women are rude and hard work work after your experience in Thailand.

Its a great place to travel to in general. Very high quality of life for low cost.

By going you will increase your status when you return as you will have travel stories. Do as many adventurous things as possible there.

Be wary that you might get "sexpat" comments when you return. Do not ever bring up the women there when talking about it IRL. Just talk about adventures you went on and how you stayed in 5 star resorts for cheap and all the scenery and beaches and food.

LolaBijou · 2022-08-17T05:18:17+00:00

This is such a POS idea. Quit playing into the mentality that Asian women are submissive fuck dolls, get your shit together, and learn how to have a conversation with a woman who is from your same culture. This smacks of trying to take advantage of a whole group of women because that’s easier than dealing with your own social anxiety and shortcomings. Use that extra money to get therapy. And btw, if women in other countries are just coming at you out of nowhere, it’s probably because they’re probably desperate to support their families, and not because they’re attracted to you. Young women regularly get tasked by their families to get money off of tourists by acting interested in them.

ResponsibilityKey427 · 2022-08-16T18:47:13+00:00

Bruh if you travel for sex you already lost…

Normal_Tutor391 · 2022-08-16T16:25:28+00:00

the last sentence made me lol

neversleeps212 · 2022-08-16T20:40:35+00:00

There’s going to be a language and culture barrier to some degree, so I suspect it won’t be that easy to pick up girls who aren’t sex workers. If you’re struggling with anxiety, honestly I’d say spend that money on therapy. As someone who’s dealt with anxiety, the thing to understand is that it’s not rational. Confidence isn’t the antidote. Recognizing anxiety for what it is and having ways to step outside of that feeling are much more powerful.

Ravensrock0420 · 2022-08-16T19:24:39+00:00

Just start talking to women why wait until you have money, they are going to chew you up and spit you out. Why would you want a woman who wants you for money? You need to grow your confidence and not from money in your pocket.

passengerpigeon20 · 2022-08-17T04:37:13+00:00

I think that you should definitely conquer your shyness and try running game in person before going abroad, as this has a much higher chance of success than online dating - SEAmaxxing is a great way for Incels to ascend, but considering you used to be married and apparently went on online dates, that demonstrates you have potential here in America. Also, Thailand is a lot more conservative than you might think; it is only stereotyped as very sexually liberal because of the large number of commercial sex workers there driven by tourist dollars alone. By the way, how old are you, what is your height and how would you rate your face out of 10, if you don’t mind me asking?

VirusTheoryRS · 2022-08-16T17:50:32+00:00

Ah the “loser back home” mentality

Edit: lots of losers in this thread but that’s not much of a surprise for this sub

Zelanor · 2022-08-16T18:52:16+00:00

dump_fool · 2022-08-17T05:37:57+00:00

I’m definitely a shy guy, not comfortable with things I don’t have confidence in.

You will carry this problem no matter where you go. Fix your problem first.

Think_History_5682 · 2022-08-16T17:38:27+00:00

Yes definitely go it will ease your anxiety problem this helped my life immensely. The women there do all the work. It's a complete reverasl.

Important things to remember go to Pattaya. It's a beach town with lots of action. There will be no shortage of girls

And most importantly

Do not come home with anyone's contact info!! Nor give your contact info out!

They will ask for money and con you.

You should not enter into a relationship with any of them.

If you want a relationship with a foreign woman get one from Brazil or Latin America . They will adjust much more easily here and have better values.

vicvicious420 · 2022-08-16T19:16:20+00:00

I dont think so because the women there will want you for your money and a green card. The women here aren't as desperate so I don't think if you come back from Thailand picking up women by saying "5 dolla sucky sucky?" Will work

Yoshitheman · 2022-08-16T19:17:54+00:00

Go to a latino country

logicallyillogical · 2022-08-16T17:43:30+00:00

Check out Costa Rica also! Might be a bit cheaper as well.

Operation_NoFap · 2022-08-16T19:23:56+00:00

Go to Colombia instead bro

Sure-Wish3240 · 2022-08-16T23:32:40+00:00

Greetings. Please fellow males. This is a soul asking for help. Let us to help him.

I have seen this situation too much. People change country but they cant run away from their internal demons. PTSD is a serious desease. Get medical help from veterans affairs.

Read. I overcame my mid age Crysis reading Ayn Rand's books. When Nietzsche cried ( not sure How the title goes in english) also helped.

The First goal is to like what you have become. For that you must forgive yourself from your mistakes. Then proceed to take Care of yourself. Stay fit, earn money and be a father to your son.

As long as you love yourself that energy will help you love others. You may find Love, but do not make Love a priority in your life. Loving who you are takes precedence.

Living in small cities is Poison to the soul of single and divorced men. Accept job offers to bigger cities. Why? Because you need a better dating pool and access to sex professionals. I suggest 1 million habitants as the bare minimum. You will make friends até work and their network will give chance to meet good women in real life. Also you will be fishing on a bigger pool on online apps, but online apps only help If you follow the 2 rules of tinder. Don't count on online apps tô solve your love life ir sex needs.

Lastly, i regret having starting to use prostitutes so late in my life. I have faced toxic females on dates , spent time money and mental health on girls that do not deserved my time or attention.

If you are really into asians, created profiles saying so and aim really high. Say you are interested in asian girls with at least college education tô build a family together. I am sure you will find Nice girls that would love to date an American veteran. Those include medical doctors with japanese blood in my country, Brazil.

Best of look in your search for yourself.

Kenan_benan · 2022-08-16T17:43:47+00:00

It can be a great idea or a bad idea. Do u like the culture? What do u know about Thailand? Are u going just to get girls? If you’re only going to pick up girls not to see Thailand and it’s Beauty then yes it is a bad idea. If u want to go see Thailand and girls are part of the trip, then great idea

raatdigedi · 2022-08-16T17:09:27+00:00

There's a reason so many indian guys go there

2022-08-16T16:33:24+00:00

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Repulsive-Fee393 · 2022-08-16T22:41:18+00:00

Interesting thought, yes you will definitely get female attention but bare in mind it’s out of necessity rather than their own genuine desire for you, you’re better off honing your pickup skills in real life. I’m a pretty realistic person and here’s what I’ve come to learn about dating and socialising.

1) look good, dress the best you possibly can and hit the gym, first appearances count.

2) Stop masturbation and porn consumption, jerking off depletes you of sex pheromones signalling to females that you are a masturbator, don’t drain yourself and they’ll come to you in hordes.

3) change your internal monologue, learn to love yourself, it’ll rub off.

4) Have a drink, alcohol loosens inhibitions and allows you to speak your mind more freely, this gives you a chance to connect with people on an emotional level.

5) have fun and stay positive, this is all just a game, don’t take it too seriously.

Yung-Split · 2022-08-16T16:10:17+00:00

Nah it's a good idea for sure. I just got back from 3 months South América and it's a similar gig there. The American thing plays very well socially.

WiiWynn · 2022-08-16T19:35:50+00:00

It’s a great idea. You’ll begin to understand women way better. And also, your fear of them will just disappear. The women over there are no different than the women in the west. Only over there, you’re high value as a western guy.

Your mindset will open up to what the few high value men in the west get to experience with western women. The Thai women will treat you like a king, but treat their own men like shit. And guess how western women treat western men, like shit (unless you’re high value).

So have some fun, get some life experience and insight in women, and go back home with an understanding that all women are like that. In spite of what progressives will deny, they’re all the same deep down. The good ones just don’t act out on those basic impulses.

lefthandedaf · 2022-08-16T15:49:07+00:00

It’s a great idea, just an expensive one because of the plane ticket and stuff.

some-other-human · 2022-08-16T17:41:45+00:00

Glad you have the privilege to change contexts and figure it out.. as a brown guy, I can't do that lol

Mshalopd1 · 2022-08-16T22:38:04+00:00

Worst case you can always get a massage. Some might also consider that the best case 😂

mssolainie · 2022-08-16T22:39:52+00:00

They’ll all love you. But yeah, hard to tell what they’ve got/don’t got.

Neo-Rio · 2022-08-17T00:10:40+00:00

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dTjvG4WJD\_A

Keithlct · 2022-08-17T00:36:39+00:00

You can use cmb bagel to "like" women in Thailand. Just change your location to Thailand. Build the contact from there and when you are there just meet up with them. No harm. Good luck.

KingOfTheNorthern · 2022-08-17T01:10:33+00:00

Dude, I’m reading some of the comments, and I think learning the language of the place you’re going to is huge. I do the same. It’s a safety mechanism and an opener.

Going to Thailand sounds like a great idea. It’s a different culture, it sounds like you’re into the women, and it’s a great opportunity to reflect. I say go for it!

chrissolo_ · 2022-08-17T02:33:59+00:00

Ladyboy

The_Dufe · 2022-08-17T02:39:30+00:00

There might be a language barrier lol….

Ragnarok992 · 2022-08-17T03:22:37+00:00

Thai women are beautiful for sure that being said just enjoy the vibe honestly who cares if you go to fuck or find your soulmate, we have tinder here and of stars and no one says anything about that so you do you

Decent_Engineering_4 · 2022-08-17T03:43:34+00:00

Philippines, Maybe?

CometAzur42069 · 2022-08-17T04:52:43+00:00

This isnt going to help you get girls. So go ahead and do it for fun, it’s your vacation. It wont change what your issue is and eventually your self perception will go back to its old self when you realize you’re validation is that you’re white (which you wont find fulfilling in partners who seek that?

ShameAffectionate15 · 2022-08-17T06:11:48+00:00

If ur white, ur golden. U might not come back.

nerveclinic · 2022-08-17T08:52:08+00:00

It will change your life…go. One of the most amazing places on the planet.

QryptoQid · 2022-08-17T10:19:46+00:00

I live in Thailand if you want to ask me any questions. I've lived here for 7 years and lived in Asia for 15 years.

PurgeDeBrutes · 2022-08-17T11:34:06+00:00

It’s not just a fuck trip, you’re right. It’s something far more unhealthy for the soul: an ego trip. That’s not to trash on ego because you need it for self-esteem, but you don’t want to use others, particularly women, to bolster it because that won’t substantiate your ego. It will only apply a band-aid on a wound that you need to tend to on your own with, at most, the indirect help from others because it is a personal journey. Not one your therapist can directly fix for you but merely point you in the right direction. There are things you can do closer to home that are healthy for the ego: make friends, acquire new hobbies, converse with females the same way you would with males, throw out any expectation you have when approaching others (especially of the opposite sex), and in general just learn to appreciate humanity and explore things you like or may like to do. These women and sex workers know you’re just there for a band-aid and they’re making a living off that, and people ITT rightfully think it is acceptable yet laughable that you need to execute said plans to substantiate your ego because it won’t. You’re, IMO, going in the wrong direction and quite literally hundreds of thousands of miles across the Pacific Ocean in the wrong direction. Before you tell me it’s not about ego, your OP has something far more concerning written in it than anything else: “Americans are rock stars over there” and while you many denounce that as a general statement it was written in the OP for a reason you probably aren’t comfortable enough to share with an online community. That said, take better care of yourself in more sustainable ways.

mugatucrazypills · 2022-08-17T12:24:39+00:00

You're going into the most skilled den of emotional manipulators in the world.

In the Philippines and Thailand women will spend 70% of time on online foreign sugar daddy shakedowns from previous sex-tourists.

You're only one once, but be aware.

dobbs1997 · 2022-08-17T12:59:43+00:00

Learn to talk to women wherever you’re at, don’t listen to those people who travel just for affection of a woman. They think the women are the problem where they live so they go overseas, when really it was never the women who were the problem it was the man who had no game to him, he doesn’t know how to converse with women, he has no belief or confidence in himself and he hates himself. Keep working on your game, if you can’t talk to women where you’re at then it’s not gonna be any different in Thailand.

UpperPurple744 · 2022-08-17T14:32:31+00:00

JFC, as someone who’s half Lao it’s actually sickening to see that this is what yellow fever ridden boomers think of SEA.

Let me guess bro, mid 30’s, dad bod, and white? Heres the truth: The women there don’t think your a fucking “rockstar” just because your American, they think that your a guy who’s down bad and is more than willing to spend big on literally ANY female attention he gets over there since he’s not getting any back home.

TheJoeyJoeJoe · 2022-08-17T15:27:37+00:00

I just saw your Edit 2: Fix your mental health before travelling abroad solo.

puma085 · 2022-08-17T15:46:26+00:00

Visting Thailand is nothing bad per se. it should be a interesting country that is my bucket ist to travel as well.

But I never got it how visting a poor country is going to boost the confidence of shy guy? How is going to help in the long term? It might be fun for these guys to get the attention of women due their money and/or their exotic look but that's usless. As soon as these guys are going back home nothing has changed.

Title	Thailand a bad idea?
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Date	August 16, 2022 3:35 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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