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ricewheelie · 2022-04-26T07:01:08+00:00

i've never drank in my life. I just get a coke and don't make it a thing.

norwegiandoggo · 2022-04-26T07:00:29+00:00

Every place has alcohol free drinks. Alcohol free beer is now often really good IMO, so if they have that I'm always a happy camper

ricewheelie · 2022-04-26T09:39:46+00:00

Lol i got laid a lot more when i didnt drink. When i started drinking and doing coke, molly thats when it drastically went down.

The real masters of the game dont drink

Aquix · 2022-04-26T08:15:23+00:00

I don't drink alcohol. Get laid regularly. Girls don't care about shit like this man. It's weird only if you think it's weird. If I take a girl out and she wants to drink, then she does. I order a virgin mojito or whatever other drink I'm feeling for. Any comment related to this is merely a shit test that's pretty easy to handle. Usually the girl is more self-conscious about herself and whether she should be drinking if I'm not (because I honestly don't give a fuck).

it seems like getting a drink with a girl is a very important step in "wooing" her

It is not. The only benefit of alcohol is giving them an excuse to justify their slutiness ("I couldn't help myself, I was tipsy"). But you can alleviate concern and make a girl feel comfortable without alcohol (learn game).

also would it be weird if i go to a bar (with friends most of the time) to pick up girls and not have any drinks?

Probably, yeah. Not "weird" but incongruent. If you don't drink, why the fuck are you going to bars man? Are you so desperate to fuck that you'd opt to create a facade that you're "one of them"? Instead, you could place yourself in scenarios where you don't have to be worried about being yourself. Hang out with friends that don't drink as a hobby. The only exception would be if you're specifically looking for a lady that drinks alcohol (I cannot imagine why), in which case it'd make sense for you to go to bars to pickup women.

legbreaker · 2022-04-26T12:57:08+00:00

I have had periods of not drinking. Those were my best hookup years.

I have stopped drinking because of sport training earlier and now I am not drinking because of alcohol problems.

People will offer you drinks.
People will ask why you do not drink.
95% of people won’t care once they have asked and it can be a conversation starter.
Partying can be just as fun. But sometimes you get bored earlier and don’t stay out all night like others. But that does not have to hurt hookup possibilities.
Girls love that you can drive them home safely.

Main thing for me, don’t excuse it. Don’t say sorry I don’t drink. Say that it’s your choice and that you feel good about it because it’s part of your religion, personality, personal preference… etc.

Rules:

Never say sorry. Never excuse it.
Own it all the way and people will respect it.
Don’t hook up with girls that are too drunk. They can feel taken advantage of if you were sober.

peduxe · 2022-04-26T06:48:20+00:00

repeat with me “virgin drinks”

that’s all.

you can lead in two ways here as well: - asking for the virgin drink in the bartender’s ears so the girl doesn’t hear it

asking for the virgin drink openly and also use it as a conversation starter, I’m sure the girl will be intrigued by you not drinking alcohol

VDKay · 2022-04-26T08:18:43+00:00

I rarely drink alcohol when I go out. Maybe I'll get some wine and have just a couple of sips and leave the rest, but otherwise I'll opt for a sugar-free soda, or fizzy water. Most of the times I'm either driving or on a diet which prevents alcohol

In my experience, girls are almost never question that, and if they do, I simply tell them the truth. Noone has weirded-out ever.

Also, no, drinking alcohol is not an important step in "wooing" her. In fact, for some people (including myself), it hinders them because you can't think with a clear mind, so it's easy to mess up when approaching and talking to girls/people.

Live-Ad-6309 · 2022-04-26T11:51:32+00:00

Nope. It's perfectly possible to pick up girls sober. I probably haven't done any social drinking since 2019.

Once you have the social anxiety dealt with the alcohol doesn't really help.

modidlee · 2022-04-26T14:46:40+00:00

I think most women that drink won't want a guy that doesn't drink. But I think many women that don't drink will be ok with a guy who does drink moderately. I just think most women don't want to be seen as the one with more unhealthy habits. We're conditioned to think men are supposed to be the ones who are reckless and have more unhealthy habits. That's just been my personal experience.

vardarac · 2022-04-26T08:58:41+00:00

I always drink water and tip for it. The bartenders are happy and I get to find out who's obnoxious about my habits quickly.

2022-04-26T20:10:37+00:00

Daygame will change your life friend. Best way to meet women stone cold sober.

burncushlikewood · 2022-04-26T08:17:34+00:00

https://youtu.be/yicP7ZEEz1k

Blackmagician · 2022-04-26T11:08:41+00:00

Be authentic and let them know you’ve given up drinks for a while but don’t mind if they do. Sip on a virgin drink though and not just watch them drink.

Only way it will feel like a weird vibe is if it goes from one drink to maybe a couple if the person is a complete stranger. Safety issues may start to creep up in their mind as we’re designed for reciprocation and whether they admit it or not you not mirroring will cause you to lose “points” that you’ll have to gain in other areas.

Once people are familiar with you no one that you will actually want around you is going to put you down or hold sobriety against you.

AmberWaves80 · 2022-04-26T11:10:55+00:00

I don’t drink- it’s like my dream to find someone who doesn’t. Not that I go to bars. But if I did, and someone was drinking water/soda, I’d be overjoyed.

Number4extraDip · 2022-04-26T12:42:47+00:00

Girls like to have fun and alcohol in right ammounts is a good way to unwind and start having fun.

Being sober you are more conservative unintentionally.

It might be harder to maintain a proper dynamic without drinking. But no, it's not impossible

deeronmylawn · 2022-04-26T15:57:06+00:00

I do need alcohol to loosen my inhibitions. Otherwise I'm shy and reserved.

2022-04-27T00:01:16+00:00

I’m so sorry but what?

Girls don’t find drunk idiots attractive. Do you want to kiss someone who’s breath reeks of alcohol? Bien sober is attractive

Zealousideal6669 · 2022-04-26T09:01:29+00:00

If you dont drink it's fine but going to the bar makes no sense at all. Everybody drinks around you and you clearly don't so if you're going to talk to a girl they gonna clearly see that you're there for an agenda. There are still a lot of other places to meet girls like public places if you meet someone new in your friend group, online dating, and so forth. These might be even better at pubs in some context so give it a try

persikuzale · 2022-04-26T10:18:43+00:00

Nah man, all the sober people are single

hagakurejunkie · 2022-04-26T21:36:27+00:00

You have to go out but you don't have to get drunk, I drank club sodas with a lime for years. Nobody even asked if I was drinking. Worked out even easier since I was always able to get it up.

5_7pickup · 2022-04-26T09:33:13+00:00

No. I have plenty of wings who go sober.

Canadian-Seductioner · 2022-04-26T12:32:09+00:00

Depends on how good your game is.

RedPillAlphaBigCock · 2022-04-26T12:35:25+00:00

Does not make any difference whatsoever. Just get a Coke or 7 up and don’t mention it

ThatGuy_Nick9 · 2022-04-26T17:42:06+00:00

Do you do cocaine?

Ejmd4328 · 2022-04-26T17:53:10+00:00

Don’t drink man, you’re showing girls that you have control. They’ll try and pull you away and possibly offer you to drink with them but stay masculine and decline. Put your needs first (not in a bad way)… you don’t need to drink to get a girl, you can also go get coffee or just text them saying you do not drink however you’d like to go out with them sometime …

ikeepon · 2022-04-26T18:03:00+00:00

Who cares?! If you don’t drink then that’s that. If the hottie asks say why. Done. If she doesn’t like it on to the next one.

AkranarKun · 2022-04-26T18:04:27+00:00

I went out to bars and clubs 2-3 times a week for 3 years and didn't drink. No one cares. If anyone asks, just say you don't drink and move on.

sarge4567 · 2022-04-26T19:13:00+00:00

Alcohol is totally unnecessary, you should only drink it if you actually enjoy it (I'll have a glass of wine, or beer, or other...to enjoy it in moderation), not to please a woman.

The main problem is tons of men are incapable of being themselves without getting pretty drunk as they're stressed out by the girl.

2022-04-26T20:11:06+00:00

i ducking hate alcohol and i had to force myself to get a beer the other night just so i fit in lmfao

MomsSpecialFriend · 2022-04-26T20:18:46+00:00

It is NOT okay for you to take drunk women home, as a sober man. Meet them, but fucking them when there is a serious imbalance of functionality could be a HUGE problem.

2022-04-26T22:48:15+00:00

Yes it is , honestly this should be the default

crjahnactual · 2022-04-26T23:10:13+00:00

Just order tonic water & lime, no ice, in a short glass. Looks just like a cocktail.

bandsupjay · 2022-04-26T23:32:21+00:00

Nope. Isnt weird at all. You’re different and have standards for yourself. Nothings wrong with that, could also make you more attractive

willgo-waggins · 2022-04-26T23:38:03+00:00

No but you have to be very careful and forthcoming about the fact that you do not drink.

There are many women out there that if you are trying to hide it or act in any way suspicious about it will assume that you are up to something nefarious like trying to drug/take advantage of them. Sadly this is a common occurrence in many bars and clubs today so they have to be cautious and suspicious.

Be up front and be honest and understand that there will be a certain number that will reject you out of hand because of being a non drinker.

rustoof · 2022-04-26T23:52:41+00:00

When I got sober I just started ordering Shirley temples which I think can be both cocky and funny, and they always want your cherries

tropius5 · 2022-04-27T00:19:27+00:00

Just order a virgin cuba libre for yourself, they don't have to know what you're drinking. Just be aware that they can't legally consent once they're drunk, so I recommend getting their numbers and make plans for later in the week.

Krouser1522 · 2022-04-27T07:51:34+00:00

You can get a soda like other people said or even seltzer and it’s definitely not a requirement for most women especially since you can ask her out and just grab coffee or just take a walk in the park or do some physical activity

joeyggg · 2022-04-27T20:43:31+00:00

Lots of fun people don’t drink. You can still go out. If anyone questions you on it just laugh and say “they say it’s not good for you”

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