How do you guys that are introverted (like me) meet girls?

Velociraptor2018 · 2022-04-11T00:50:42+00:00

From a fellow introvert learning all this too, it's not an excuse for poor social skills. You don't like going out because you don't practice, so you don't go out and you don't get any practice. I'll give you an example Friday night I went out to two bars, had a great time by myself talking to people. Even got a phone number. Saturday I stayed in and recharged. Just put yourself out there but remember to take some time for yourself.

RProgrammerMan · 2022-04-11T00:33:39+00:00

Salsa dancing is good for introverts and is a very healthy way to meet people.

putcoolusernamehere · 2022-04-11T00:04:11+00:00

Cold approach is the perfect way to meet girls as introvert.

Shadow__Account · 2022-04-11T08:41:16+00:00

Its a hard road, but every little win will feel amazing, don’t accept the idea of being an introvert it’s very fucking limiting, everytime you’ll get out of your comfort a little your ego will pull you back because you are an “introvert” as long as you’ll have that image of yourself you’ll never be out there being social without your ego pulling you back eventually. Just make little trips outside of your comfort zone and those will slowely build your confidence, work on the issues and anxiety you have that are holding you back. It will be a lifelong journey and it will have many very hard and depressing periods where you want to give up, but it’s worth it

stephanienyc108 · 2022-04-11T02:05:35+00:00

Sports, as in co-ed ones

shaggy2gay · 2022-04-11T03:34:22+00:00

Cold approach is king and daygame is king of kings.

bill1bill1 · 2022-04-11T04:50:28+00:00

i also consider myself as an introvert, i don't like social events and meeting new people, i'd rather read books and working out rather than talking to people, but hey if you wanna get a girl honestly you need to go out there and meet women, you don't need to be funny or flirty, you just need to interact with them and overtime as your confidence starting to get better, your game will also get better

excentrik-art · 2022-04-10T22:22:29+00:00

Yes you need to get over it and start making friends. Even if you will have really introverted girl, you will never keep her if you will have no friends. I know it sucks, but thats reality

joy_collision · 2022-04-11T05:07:44+00:00

Leverage your social circles as best as possible if you are introverted. That's one tip that has helped me meet women by word of mouth.

NoJackfruit5641 · 2022-04-11T06:56:57+00:00

Make a rule to talk with four girls daily

TheTriPolarBear · 2022-04-11T08:41:16+00:00

I’m one of the most uncurable introverted man. Every effort to change that proved to be in vain for 43 years now. But I managed to find a way to get over the anxiety of meeting new girls with technology. So I started a tinder account and for about 3 years I exposed myself there, being as honest as I could about me. That really worked for me and now I’m in a almost perfect relationship. Good luck with that and be patient. Good things will happen naturally.

Zealousideal6669 · 2022-04-11T10:00:18+00:00

You dont have too many other choices than being comfortable with people. How to do that? Simply spend more time around other people. Look for an activity that you like, if you find girls there then awesome, you got the same interest so you already have something to talk about

RepulsiveCat1681 · 2022-04-11T10:24:42+00:00

Well idrk. but a universal tip for dating is to go to the same (social) place regularly. Could be a cafe, beach, store etc. but ig if you’re introverted, go to a place where you feel comfortable, for me (i like anime) so i go to a japanese bookstore (just for example!!). also go to more than a few places regularly, like don’t just find a nice waitress and put all your eggs in 1 basket. try new things n people. But again, not super introverted so i’m not 100% sure :))

skyk3409 · 2022-04-11T21:00:17+00:00

It was loads easier for me to talk to girls online vs in person. Helped me find common ground so I could build up confidence to talk to them in person!

WhistleVSH · 2022-04-11T21:02:27+00:00

Join a club or activity and meet a girl there, use your shyness as an advantage to be sensitive towards a girl who wants a genuine bond.

5_7pickup · 2022-04-10T22:52:57+00:00

You go to places where there are girls you want to meet and introduce yourself to them. It really be that simple folks.

recyclablebanthas · 2022-04-17T02:57:56+00:00

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However, I want to stop online dating and meet girls in person.

No one starts out being a social butterfly. Most people need their alone time. None of that's strange.

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You could go out to a bar and effectively throw yourself in the deep end by trying to establish a social life for yourself that way amidst all that chaos.

But it would be the equivalent of taking someone who doesn't know how to drive and throwing them behind the wheel of an F1 formula racer and asking them to do their best to take a lap around at a hundred miles per hour.

You want an easier way? Go find some social groups that hold regular social events. They post their information on social media platforms like Facebook.

You go to the social media platform and you do a search for [your city] + [a hobby/interest/activity].

Then you browse through the Groups or Events tabs until you find something that looks interesting and you go to it.

You can sample a number of different things this way and have a variety of different experiences.

Look, you could do this a harder way but low hanging fruit is therefore a reason: grab it. These kinds of things can allow you to build up your social skills in a comfortable environment where everyone's expecting to be meeting new people anyway.

You try something like this out, then you can always try cold approaching or walking up to random people in bars when you're more comfortable.

CocoBabeNYC · 2022-04-11T00:52:51+00:00

Lol. You either want to fuck women or you want to go fishing and hang out by yourself. It seems like you are not horny enough to want to fuck women.

UnderstandingNo4813 · 2022-04-11T02:22:40+00:00

Lol you’re gonna have a rough time. Men will come to you though.

unfinity2 · 2022-04-11T02:40:26+00:00

Sometimes we get really lucky and girls hit on us?

chocolateegg1233 · 2022-04-11T08:50:41+00:00

Stop being a introvert Its not helping you Change yourself

incognito3107 · 2022-04-11T05:49:08+00:00

Being introverted is more like a preference of spending your time and expressing yourself, you should still take part in some social interactions from time to time. You can develop some anxiety if you cut yourself off your fears while still feeling in need to face them.

You should still find your compatible way to meet women just like any extravert, just start small. Focus on 1 on 1 interactions, learn to make short casual conversations.

AccomplishedFlow2606 · 2022-04-11T06:41:40+00:00

Well I do have few friends and I usually reach out

alexmaycovid · 2022-04-11T07:51:48+00:00

I meet online

Lucazzz14 · 2022-04-11T09:31:10+00:00

By doing what I enjoy (solo or around people, I.e the gym) and keep myself open for conversation and smile at people. As much as I love doing stuff on my own or being on my own, you do have to go out there in order to meet people.

Where can you go? It depends on your interests.

RoyalChallengers · 2022-04-11T09:41:30+00:00

Bro first try to start to initiate conv to a girl, maybe like if ur in college, take notes, then say thankyou.

These little things will matter the most, in ur conv initiation process. Then use the dan brazilian method. Try Talk to a lot of girls everyday, many would be uninterested at first, but at end of the day at least one or two would saya yes for coffee or will give their no.

No matter how much attractive or unattractive you find her, if you start to roam around with girls your market value will increase and your confidence will boost. Then after that it's easy.

Make sure if you wanna get along with famous girls try to get into parties. Famous girls are always at the parties or girls who try to be.

SheikisGod · 2022-04-11T10:31:00+00:00

We don't meet girls cuz we are shy :)

Canadian-Seductioner · 2022-04-11T11:22:34+00:00

How do you guys that are introverted (like me) meet girls?

By becoming extroverted. Introversion has a strong correlation with insecurity and a lack of confidence which are unattractive traits and girls have a tough time distinguishing between them. Being social and extroverted has a strong correlation with the opposite which is extremely attractive.

jjboy91 · 2022-04-11T11:43:49+00:00

I'm not attractive enough for girls to see me as a potential partner 😅

poly_nerdy_panda · 2022-04-11T12:56:13+00:00

Hey fellow introvert here, sorry dude that is just an excuse not to own up to what you want. I've dated some crazy outgoing chicks I think the big key for me is go out with friends who don't mind talking to a brick wall, or find some friends who are girls who like going out and push you not to be so just about that fishing, hiking,gym life.. or when you're on a hike and you see anyone try to talk to them.. In Los angles, they had hiking meetups. A last ditch thing would be do barre in your town and invite all the women out because they will think your gay anyways and just shock them when your not lol

martyr1337 · 2022-04-11T12:59:37+00:00

Force yourself to behave extraverted and talk to women

DoctorForesight · 2022-04-11T16:28:14+00:00

It seems like all I can is do pretend not to be an introvert and just get drunk and dance like crazy at the club. So far the only results I've gotten is making out with the least attractive girl at on the dancefloor 🙄

SadBox4529 · 2022-04-11T17:16:30+00:00

As an introvert I just pretend to be an extrovert….

WilhelmTrooper · 2022-04-11T18:02:06+00:00

Girls can tell when a guy is approaching them just for sex or a relationship, they’re not stupid. It’s a lot of pressure. Plus, you seem desperate. I’m 19, and in high school and my first year of college I felt the same way. I wanted a girlfriend more than anything. But then I realized how problematic such thinking was.

Do some introspection. You really want a relationship, you want to meet girls, you want to find whatever tip or fix it will take to get a girl to be your girlfriend or sleep with you (I can’t tell which). Why is that? Why do you want that so badly? Is it because you want validation or you want someone to be there for you and carry you because things are tough right now? I’m not saying I think this is what is wrong with you specifically, but these are the kinds of questions you should be asking.

Women, hell people in general can sense when someone isn’t self sufficient and confident in themselves. Maybe not consciously but definitely subconsciously. It’s a lot of baggage and pressure to put on someone and is an immediate turnoff. Relationships are supposed to alleviate stress not add to it.

Something that I’m working on right now is I’m trying to make myself more desirable. I haven’t anybody in about 5 years, and I always wondered why. Then I realized, the problem was with me, and the more I think about it now I see plainly how I wasn’t someone people would want to date. Now I’m eating right, starting to go to the gym, picking up skills and hobbies to build my personality, really putting in the work. Relationships are a two way street. When people say “work on yourself” they mean it. You need to be self aware and make yourself as good as you can and as desirable as you can.

Also, don’t just immediately try to go for a relationship with someone, you’ll come off as needy and/or desperate. Just try to become friends with girls, and if romantic feelings come up form you than great! Express those feelings! Something that I realized about myself was when I wanted to date girls I wasn’t liking those people specifically, but I was doing 2 things

1) Thinking with my other head

2) I wanted the idea of dating, but not that person specifically.

Now, I know I’ve talked about myself a lot, and I don’t actually believe all of my experiences apply to you, but I do think there is a chance that you can find some wisdom here, and if not than ok, it’s ok to be a completely different person than me, I’m just trying to help :)

LongHairedKraut · 2022-04-11T18:30:25+00:00

I could have written this post. I myself used apps as a crutch for the longest time but now I want to actually try real life. It seems daunting but something has to give. Wish I could offer you any advice but I'm in the same position as you.

humptyone · 2022-04-11T20:00:45+00:00

From what you wrote, the first thing you need to do is go where the girls are. Maybe join a hiking club, or any club that you find interesting

LimitlessHarmony · 2022-04-11T20:07:02+00:00

Dance. Yoga. Anything that moves your body. Motion creates emotion (Tony Robbins)

Mtoufga · 2022-04-11T20:51:53+00:00

R u addicted to pmo

Paradise_Princess · 2022-04-11T23:13:53+00:00

Bumble/tinder

PopMart_1997 · 2022-04-11T23:16:33+00:00

Facebook groups

Algo2Pete · 2022-04-12T00:37:15+00:00

Low carb diet, intermittent fasting and workout. Oh also I watched a few Dan Bacon's vids on yt. Works for me. Gl bro.

Title	How do you guys that are introverted (like me) meet girls?
Author	dangercat415
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Date	April 10, 2022 10:19 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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