My new GF (4 months in) is perfect in every way except 1….. [recovered]

azizbadaasjsj · 2022-03-10T17:16:51+00:00

it's our girlfriend bro

chillbill1220 · 2022-03-10T20:33:25+00:00

If it was selfies or slutty pics it’d be an issue for me. But you said it’s not so I’d just ignore it. You’ll never find a “perfect” girl. A lot of girls post obsessively on social media these days

mattgk39 · 2022-03-10T21:01:00+00:00

Let her do what makes her happy. Some girls are just like that. If it’s not affecting your relationship then it’s not a problem.

Zeus_xo · 2022-03-10T17:10:34+00:00

Let her do whatever the fuck she likes!

You get everything you want from her so stop trying to make her perfect and accept her as she is and what she does.

If it doesn't affect her, you shouldn't be affected by it either!

the_root_of_all_evol · 2022-03-10T21:04:52+00:00

If that’s your only problem, you’ve found a winner. Don’t try and change her!

EnvironmentalRule525 · 2022-03-10T21:07:51+00:00

Not everyone is perfect. Putting up with her social media posting seems worth it based on the other qualities you like of her. I’m pretty sure you have flaws that she doesn’t like that you do, but the positives of you outweigh those flaws.

ArtofWar2020 · 2022-03-10T21:08:30+00:00

You just gotta let some shit slide. She’s gotta have an outlet and It’s better she posts all that shit to Instagram instead of texting it to you all day

snowdude11 · 2022-03-10T20:34:46+00:00

How to I bring this up in a way that won’t blow up in my face?

Don't bring it up and stop being pretentious. Nobody but you cares about your Gf's social media posts. Get over yourself dude. She is posting funny memes and songs and you consider that trashy? That says way more about you than her.

You said it yourself, she is perfect in almost every way so why are you trying to make a big deal about nothing.

eeggrroojj · 2022-03-10T20:55:27+00:00

That's a turnoff for me. Excessive social media use.

creativeoutlaw44 · 2022-03-10T21:57:45+00:00

"It makes me look bad when my GF is actin’ a fool on social media."

Until you start being part of her posts/stories whatever, who the fuck cares? You can probably count on one finger the number of people that know you're together.

But I wouldn't participate in it, especially at that rate.

Let her be happy and make it clear that you're not into that.

Bitches be crazy amiRITE?!

Mister-Noy · 2022-03-10T22:31:58+00:00

I don’t have anything helpful to add since it looks like everyone else has you covered. I just wanted to comment that the first sentence got me good 😂

smithkoli · 2022-03-10T17:43:40+00:00

Spent more time with her outside or inside , talk with her , say something good about her cooking

2022-03-10T22:22:10+00:00

I hate social media and my ex used to post and do snap chats a lot. I worried a little about it at first but I didn't use social media anyways so I just went ahead and deleted my accounts. Problem solved!

Supersquigi · 2022-03-10T22:27:51+00:00

Everyone's said the obvious of just let her do what she wants, I'd add that you should try to get in on what she's doing too. Even if you don't necessarily like social media like that, it will help your understand her and why she does it better if you get involved with her hobbies like that.

woyak4643 · 2022-03-10T22:35:11+00:00

Lol bro I love the sense of humor in your opening line. #reallyenjoyedit

GorillaGlue89 · 2022-03-10T22:36:30+00:00

Just don’t be okay with her posting semi naked shit or doing that 😛 face women do for attention. That shit just screams I want attention and compliments. If she has you why do all that. Your call bro your happiness matter just as much. If it’s just memes then it’s just memes.

Pires007 · 2022-03-10T23:04:45+00:00

Let her have her fun, as long as she knows the dangers of too much time on social media and can handle it, it's fine.

Lacy1986 · 2022-03-10T23:18:07+00:00

Stop checking her IG…problem solved

rofnacla · 2022-03-10T23:21:10+00:00

She belongs to the streets

surferguy999 · 2022-03-10T17:30:40+00:00

Let her do whatever, I don’t use social media personally (no insta, no tik toc, no snap, no FB). So I can’t see what she posts and don’t care.

Only thing I ask her is not to be on it (for hours) while I’m trying to spend time with her.

But if I’m doing my thing (studying, games, etc) then she’s free to do hers.

Pedalcrunch · 2022-03-10T20:15:46+00:00

If she's cool with you and backs it up frequently don't even worry about it man, just let her know you're not a big fan of it.

iamfromtwitter · 2022-03-10T20:44:15+00:00

lmao do you have narcissistic traits? cause sound like it. a gf isnt supposed to be a social status reflexion of you

guice666 · 2022-03-10T21:05:38+00:00

How to I bring this up in a way that won’t blow up in my face? It makes me look bad when my GF is actin’ a fool on social media. Lol.

You don't. This is your problem. Is she ignoring you? Are you not feeling like she's involved in the relationship? If it's not directly affecting your relationship, then leave it alone. There's nothing wrong. You are annoyed by it, but that's your trigger and not a real problem.

great_account · 2022-03-10T21:19:47+00:00

Yeah I would just leave it alone. Seems harmless.

kyle_fall · 2022-03-10T21:30:41+00:00

This comes from you not understanding her fully and where she's coming from. She's your girl, why is she doing this? Does she have a group of friends that she shares these memes and this is her culture(as funny as it sounds, there are a lot of subcultures of people, especially in millennials.) I would consider that mostly harmless.

Is she insecure that uses this to get validation from random orbiters? That would be problematic behavior, insecure women will do irrational actions that will end up hurting you.

Is she an aspiring creator/artist and uses this as creative expression? That's the greatest possibility and would be worth exploring with her.

You will never fully connect with your woman if you don't understand her deep essence and help her flourish in that. As gay as that sounds lmao. Ponder on her character and motivations and talk about it with her. Social media is a staple here to stay so your own relationship to it and your girl's is worth deeply exploring and understanding.

EnvironmentalRule525 · 2022-03-10T18:21:48+00:00

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KingOfNeptune · 2022-03-10T22:17:50+00:00

Women are moldable. Don't address the problem directly, just exert subtle and constant operant conditioning and she will change slowly over time.

Be a rock in her life, give her myriad joyous experiences, be unwavering in your strength and vision, and slowly your reality will overtake hers. Her insecurities and needs that are being filled by social media will be replaced by you. Then subtly train her by giving her the light of your attention when she doesn't use it, and withdrawing it when she does. Over time, her usage of it will wane.

massellusbrah · 2022-03-10T17:22:46+00:00

be a sigma and let her now this.

beetee0123 · 2022-03-10T18:03:21+00:00

You sound like a tool OPN

zertsetzung · 2022-03-10T17:31:35+00:00

"sexually, and is absolutely 100% in love with me.How to I bring this up in a way that won’t blow up in my face?

Oh trust me if you are the type of person who is not so comfortable with direct confrontation, its going to blow up in your face.

But I wouldnt let that deter you if I were you.

If you need some leverage, just lie and say that one of your exes was also heavily into social media and ended up cheating or something because of it and you had to end the relationship as a result.

And that now, because if it you are salty towards social media, and that is very unlikely to change. And that now you dont think that you can date someone who uses social media like that.

Be tactful and calm but make it clear that you arent willing to compromise on this one, at all.

Obviously this is a situation that you are going to have to handle delicately, because if you go about it with not much conviction you will just come off as a dude who is loosing grip on his frame barking orders because he is insecure.

That being said, if you go full hulk smash/beast on her about getting your way. Then you've just pretty much just wasted that much emotion on something that could later down the road be framed as not that big of a thing by her.

And that being said, you never want to go full emotional or dictator on a girl anyway. Because that tactic can become quickly used up. Anger and brute force can be scary. But people become desensitized to it and it stops working. Putin should definately take heed of that.

When giving a girl an ultimatum about something like that, it you dont want it looking like this, "girl I swear if you dont stop doing x, y, or z I will leave you!". Dont say it like that because that looks and sounds shrill and fearful>like you are just bluffing, or if you do, you will quickly change your mind.

No, it needs to look like this, "look I cant stay with you if you are going to continue to do x, y, or z. I'm sorry I but its just where I stand". You want to almost seem sad when you say it. As if you are picturing leaving her because she didnt quit the social media and the thought of it all is just disappointing.

So yeah. I am out of words now. Hope this gives you some ideas on how to approach the situation.

jjboy91 · 2022-03-10T20:13:09+00:00

Why does it bother you ? Stop stalking her and mute her stories..

Healthiemoney · 2022-03-10T20:51:27+00:00

Lol you got me bro.

ninjamiran · 2022-03-10T20:52:45+00:00

Bruh almost all girls are like that some worse then others , clout chasers are in their blood literally, when haven’t u met a girl who doesn’t like attention, that’s like saying a guy who hasn’t looked at girls asses or tites

nbh1995 · 2022-03-10T20:56:13+00:00

maybe she isn't your girlfriend.

Meaningless_Ninja · 2022-03-10T21:12:00+00:00

She fucks her ex time to time

Don't u think that's already a good reason to leave her, she is literally cheating on u.

freespirit1963TJ · 2022-03-10T21:15:11+00:00

The best way is to not bring it up.

2022-03-10T21:26:14+00:00

You're surprised women are addicted to social media?

KabalMain · 2022-03-10T21:29:07+00:00

Where you be finding these crazy women who can cook and are freaks?

Shox187 · 2022-03-10T21:37:26+00:00

Remember if you try to change anything about her then she may not end up being the same girl you are now attracted to..(she might change for the worse)

davedude97 · 2022-03-10T21:40:37+00:00

Stop being judgmental man! Let her enjoy what she likes.

YerekYeeter · 2022-03-10T21:47:48+00:00

You delete Instagram from your phone and consider yourself lucky that this is the worst problem you have.

AngeloMacon · 2022-03-10T21:49:41+00:00

If she's not being a thot, then it's not a big deal. She should probably get a more productive hobby is about the worst spin to put upon it.

TheGoldenEgg · 2022-03-10T21:50:10+00:00

How does this effect you in any way

n0wmhat · 2022-03-10T21:53:08+00:00

bro you better be laugh reacting every single one of her memes

sohappyred · 2022-03-10T21:58:48+00:00

In my experience, talking to your partner is the best strategy

NakedWalmartShopper · 2022-03-10T21:59:04+00:00

Lol you can mute her instagram stories if they annoy you so much

muchostouche · 2022-03-10T22:10:03+00:00

If it was thirst trap shit I'd be pissed but if she just enjoys social media then let her. My girlfriend is really active on Instagram and has a lifestyle/wellness page with thousands of followers. It's annoying that I have to take pics of her like everywhere we go for content but it could really be a lot worse lol. Ya she spends a lot of time on her phone but I can easily spend too much time playing video games so who am I to talk. The only time I do get annoyed is when we watch tv or a movie together and shes on her phone and then asks what happened lol.

coldbrew18 · 2022-03-10T22:11:38+00:00

Unfollow her? It’s her hobby and you don’t have to like her hobby.

kongpin · 2022-03-10T22:17:15+00:00

The unethical life protip is to start commenting on her social media using a fake account, then slowly make it uncomfortable to use it. That or just tell her to not do it when she is with you.

1DarkDD · 2022-03-10T22:21:28+00:00

Don't bring it up, just don't check social every 5 minutes.

krispykreme01 · 2022-03-10T22:21:29+00:00

I spend the money and recoup before I sleep…

DoctorRiddlez · 2022-03-10T22:22:39+00:00

Ask her if she is making money from it.

Sweet-Remote-7556 · 2022-03-10T22:24:18+00:00

That's not your gf, you are her backdoor, she is using you.

HootingMandrill · 2022-03-10T22:25:33+00:00

Mahomes is that you?

Waterstick13 · 2022-03-10T22:26:39+00:00

Let her be man dont control everything.

Grand-Transition-626 · 2022-03-10T22:36:56+00:00

don't bring It up. that's not anything to get worked up about. also, who cares what people think about her posting? didn't know you were in a Polyaramous relationship with you, her & them

SilkTouchm · 2022-03-10T22:40:13+00:00

This has nothing to do with /r/seduction. This isn't /r/relationship_advice

ambushn · 2022-03-10T22:40:30+00:00

if you want her to be how you want just break up and masturbate dude, you are really pretencious, and if you care that much that she makes you look bad then you dont love her, you just want to be admired by the people that sorrounds you

ValteriButtAss · 2022-03-10T22:45:21+00:00

You know what you should do? Buy her a box of chocolates, neatly wrapped, with a flower or an orchid

LifeguardFeeling25 · 2022-03-10T23:05:37+00:00

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Chance_Base_854 · 2022-05-02T18:39:03+00:00

Are men really this selfish and controlling?

Title	My new GF (4 months in) is perfect in every way except 1….. [recovered]
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Upvotes	98
Comments	113
Date	March 10, 2022 5:03 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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