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Live-Ad-6309 · 2021-12-09T12:20:00+00:00

Northern European here.

My 2 go too options are a coffee shop, or a wine bar. Don't worry about her judging you. If she doesn't like your choice, that's her problem. There will be other women who will like your choice.

WaterbearEnthusiast · 2021-12-09T13:24:29+00:00

First dates rules: 1. Public spaces 2. Defind beginning 3. Defined end (puttputt golf or a looped trail is great for this. Ice cream and coffee empty means say goodbye) 4. Arrive separately 5. Somewhere you can talk

No one wants half way through an undefined date to realize this isn't for them and feel trapped. If it is going well, suggest sweets places. Point of dates are to get to know the other person. Therefore you don't assume this is the start to long term, it's a trial run.

Sensitive-Permit-877 · 2021-12-09T12:36:41+00:00

Lol good question nowadays. You young bucks have it easy and the hardest nowadays. Social Media has opened legs but closed hearts.

No_Way2496 · 2021-12-09T15:52:02+00:00

20 year old do not need to worry about fancy places as it’s understood that you are not rich.

Any nice student bar will do.

Northern Europe now it’s cold, in summer you can go for a walk in the park, feed the ducks some bread.

Zoo is also a good option. Its something active you can laugh take pics and then after the zoo go for drinks.

I always try to have the first date Mon-Thu. Reason; less likely to have plans. Places are less crowded so better for me.

Canadian-Seductioner · 2021-12-09T12:21:19+00:00

Bar.

Elbynerual · 2021-12-09T12:19:44+00:00

Take her ice skating

2021-12-09T12:29:11+00:00

Wherever you want. I like coffee dates or craft beer dates. You can also just walk, or combine it. It doesn't matter as long as you have fun

BrummieAMN19 · 2021-12-09T16:37:13+00:00

From the UK here, I do dates straight to the house majority of the time or I go to this coffee shop where it’s open until like 8pm as an evening date. Basically keep it simple and don’t do anything that puts pressure on the girl such as a dinner date. You only do that 3-5 dates in after you’ve had sex.

HyakuShichifukujin · 2021-12-09T13:38:13+00:00

For first meet I do either bar/cafe, or straight to my apartment. No don’t wait until the weekend, always move quickly and schedule that first (and second) date as fast as humanly as possible within the constraints of your and her schedule.

If bar/cafe first then I usually also go for a walk after and the plan is to schedule date 2 straight to apartment. Straight to apartment on date 1 takes more balls and some screening for dtf-ness but is also efficient (a good number won’t be down, but the ones that are will be so pleasantly straightforward).

I live in Canada and have no desire to go outside between December and March, you might feel the same in Northern Europe 💁‍♂️. But if you are inexperienced and/or don’t have a system where you efficiently prospect a large number of girls, I don’t necessarily recommend the straight to apartment approach, at least not now.

aneverconfusedbeing · 2021-12-09T15:51:55+00:00

Coffee, ice cream, movie theater, free local events, not free local events, sports game, theater performance, picnic in a park, bowling, arcades, parties, etc.

AelfredRex · 2021-12-09T12:37:17+00:00

Should always keep a first date light, coffee or drinks, where you can talk and learn more about each other.

PocketTennis · 2021-12-09T16:05:35+00:00

Go bowling for a date. You will have enough time to check each other out without having to hide it, have something to drink and actually have fun or tease each other.

2021-12-09T17:01:49+00:00

The key is multiple venues. Keep the date moving. Start with dinner at an affordable but good place. Move it to a fun spot (arcades are great, bowling alleys, mini golf, walk through a park/museum/city landmark/etc... something active). From there you can try to take it place to your place to watch a movie (or alternatively a theater if she's not ready to go home with you). Between venues is when you can escalate physiciality. Between food and arcade, hold her hand. Between arcade and movie, kiss her.

Also weeknights are in general better, because people have plans on Fri/Sat night and are usually ramping up for the week on Sunday. Thursday night is really good, Wednesday would be a close second (Mon/Tues people are still groggy and bogged down from the week).

MrSittingBull · 2021-12-09T20:45:37+00:00

Your apartment ding ding ding

Frankiedrunkie · 2021-12-09T17:16:12+00:00

I’m 26 but I’ve dated girls from 19-24

Most 19-21 year olds, we met up and smoked (not sure if you’d call that a date but it’s also an easy way to fuck if you both want something casual)

One of the girls (21yo) we hang out at a park with her dog smoked after that and fucked

I honestly don’t suggest going on dinner dates with 20 year olds, not sure why but it always seems off but go ahead if you’re serious about her

Been on a coffee date to “help” one girl (20yo) do her home work at a star bucks

I’ve also gone to the mall with a certain girl (21yo) she loved music so we went to a lot of music stores looking at CDs

willgo-waggins · 2021-12-09T14:49:33+00:00

Couldn’t tell you where you are at.

My son takes girls out to activities they can do and outdoor places. Or they just go to one another’s it friends places.

2021-12-09T16:04:35+00:00

Coffee shops and walks. Maybe even an arcade. If you can drink, then you can go to a bar after these. If she likes you then the venue doesn't matter, just pick something where you can talk and maybe even do an activity together.

whererusteve · 2021-12-09T19:47:50+00:00

Go skiing

valteri777 · 2021-12-09T16:31:14+00:00

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SaigonNoseBiter · 2021-12-09T16:05:33+00:00

Simple and easy. What I did for the first date was take her to a fastfood restaurant or any not bad place works. I don't recommend taking them to overly expensive date, cuz yk it's the first date. Then after you're done eating, I'd recommend taking a walk around the downtown and talking.

Idk sounds boring but it's really fun if they're interested

2021-12-09T20:41:31+00:00

i always go for the escape room

2021-12-09T15:58:07+00:00

The bedroom

skyalke · 2021-12-09T18:05:09+00:00

First date go on a walk together in a park, a nice public place where you can just chill. If it's too cold go for a bar or cafe after a short walk.

Second date, have a drink together, loosen up, maybe go for diner as well.

Third date, go on a high class date

Beyond that just follow the feeling. It's about getting to know the other person

bloodyblob · 2021-12-09T16:37:21+00:00

Meet at a bus or train station in the afternoon then walk somewhere to get coffee

Alternative_Angle_58 · 2021-12-09T16:53:02+00:00

The playground

2021-12-09T17:29:50+00:00

You good at anything? Any hobbies? Fun ones? This is where you are going to be most authentic, in one of your own settings. It's your day, shes just tagging along.

heatherleean · 2021-12-09T17:45:48+00:00

make sure it’s in public! do something that’s really engaging, avoid movies or classy restaurants where you can’t really talk to each other. maybe if you guys are both 420 friendly a nice picnic in a park, pack some food and bring a blanket! try out an arcade or bowling. anything where you two can interact and be close to each other😊

youni89 · 2021-12-09T18:29:55+00:00

Anywhere you guys want

2021-12-09T19:18:46+00:00

In my opinion, a cafe or a bar are the best options for the first date. It's informal, cheap, allows you to be closer to each other, and it can be quick if things don't go well, no pressure to stay longer.

2wood4u · 2021-12-09T21:16:32+00:00

Go play a board game in public, like a coffee shop or somewhere scenic

UrFavPlayerIsBack · 2021-12-09T22:53:30+00:00

Wherever easier and safer to smash

WheelIntelligent1354 · 2021-12-10T00:09:17+00:00

Just get 1/2 cheap alcoholic drinks. You really don't need more.

youcheekydelinquent · 2021-12-10T01:29:59+00:00

lol its like 20 year old's stopped learning about "the internet"

cormacru999 · 2021-12-10T01:57:25+00:00

Anywhere they want. They are adults.

artichoke2me · 2021-12-10T02:51:06+00:00

If she like you she’ll go anywhere even stake n shake at 12am or a gym parking lot 3am or dirty college dive bar on a Sunday night.

Edit: also if she is not interested doesn’t matter where you take her out (free concert ticket or high end Miami club where your spending 200-500.

ImRikHard · 2021-12-10T03:52:13+00:00

Bring her to somewhere not expected, like a museum, or a zoo idk, or something like that, it will be unique to her first experience with you.

MistressMayFox · 2021-12-10T08:48:19+00:00

Ask what SHE wants to do and thank me later

7heFr3ak · 2021-12-10T09:13:57+00:00

my go to is a walk in the park, i can easily leave or change it to a cafe/bar if the date goes good or bad. Plus it's a public space so they feel safe.

The_Deleter99 · 2021-12-10T11:18:55+00:00

Too many comments but take it this way, everything what someone already can give to her dont take here there, by that I mean restoraunts, coffe etc. Dont pay anything for her yet because everyone can do that

Its easy to take her out anywhere but the point is after the date that you get the girl

Best you can do, do something fun with her, action, get her heart beating let her feel excited, I suggest take her to a luna park, take her at a bar where you play 8ball or pikado, teach her how to play it, touch her...

So just ignore boring stuff like how do you see the world and what you are on the first date, it has to be fun and something that everyone cant give

TheTruth221 · 2021-12-10T11:20:07+00:00

sports game to cheer on the team

Altruistic_Flow_9253 · 2021-12-10T12:12:42+00:00

Tbh bro it’s not so much where you go but the vibes you bring, tbh my last like 10+ dates I’ve taken a girl to like a big park walked around a bit and I’ve had much success closing the date and escalating to further than a kiss. It’s mastering being entertaining without having to take her anywhere that imo is important. Just my two cents

gunluver · 2021-12-11T00:19:37+00:00

Take her to Pound Town

throawaysarethebest · 2021-12-15T04:14:30+00:00

Think of something romantic but also public. Something that is different,

RedLantern- · 2022-01-06T06:53:14+00:00

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