Last night I set out for the downtown area of the college where I’m doing grad school. I kind of got a late start to the night, so I didn’t make it to the bar area until around 11:30. However, this happened to be perfect timing because as I’m about to walk in the door I see two of my friends from high school rolling up (one guy, one girl) with two other girls that I don’t know. So we all head into the bar, and I meet the two girls , and we are all having a good time.

Now because I know my two friends who are with the girls I am able to isolate each of them at separate times to get to know them a little bit, and they aren’t really perceiving me as anyone but a cool guy who knows their friends. All the while applying heaving kino.

So fast forward a little bit, and I take the one of the girls by the hand and lead her out to the dance floor where I get the k-close. Then we go over to the bar to get some drinks.

This is where the don’t be this guy comes in. Some guy who is friends with my girl comes over, and she is really happy to see him, and gives him a hug (this is around 1:15 and he has just come out so that he can give my girl a ride home). So I introduce myself and play it cool, and talk to him a little bit. I can immediately tell that this dude is a hardcore AFC.

So fast forward some more and my two friends, the girl I’m with, AFC, and myself have bounced to another bar. So AFC goes to the bathroom and I say to my girl, “He really likes you.” She responded with, “Yeah, I know. He asked me out while we were on a ski lift together one time, but I really just see him as only a friend. “ A little bit later the bar is closing and I ask her how she is getting home. She tells me that AFC is going to give her a ride, to which I reply, “No, he doesn’t have to. I’ll drive you.” She then turns around to AFC and tells him that I’m going to give her a ride, and she doesn’t need him to. AFC then just turned, and walked right out the door. I actually felt pretty bad for him.

TLDR: If you want a girl make your move. Stop being passive with shit you care about because otherwise someone else is gonna swoop in.