I love OKCupid. I love the tests. I love the detailed match breakdown. I love the match graphs. I love the %match math. I love the extra search features you get when you subscribe.

This site gets me laid a lot with women more beautiful than I manage in clubs, and I thought I'd share my enthusiasm. It requires different approaches, but has a ton in common with much of the art and science usually described in seddit.

Here's my process, in a nutshell.

First, online means you can have lots of spinning plates and it takes all of the pressure off doing a fast close. No need whatsoever.

I have optimized my picture using okcupid's mybestface feature. This is the equivalent of dressing properly and having nice shoes. :) I also wrote my profile carefully to attract. I feel it's like a resume - it is a selling document. I present as smart, accomplished, romantic, fun, and intense.

I subscribe to the premium service, which is $10 per month but lets you limit search results to 4* or better which is a huge timesaver. Let's face it we're not here to dig in the dirt.

I limit searches to people online in the last day, or online now. This is the equivalent of going to nightclubs to seduce women; let's face it if they're not loitering in a club they're probably not looking for a new relationship. Same thing goes online, if they're not signing on there's no particular gap to be filled right now. Saves enormous time.

I send short, personalized messages to targets, usually on something topical on their profile (do they list a band? mention they're coming to town soon. favourite movie? maybe you've seen it.) Ultimately, it doesn't matter so long as it's customized. Three possible responses. (1) they never reply and never even visit your profile. Give up on these ones. (2) they don't reply and do visit your profile. Here you can wait a week and follow up, or often times if you spot them online and you open with something interesting, they'll take your IM. (3) they actually reply... in which case the game is on.

Closes are different. A close is a conversion to the non-okc IM platform. Then you're in touch with them more. Asking for it is much like asking for the number; you need rapport, a good reason to want it (pretty obvious - I'm not online here enough, give me your normal IM and I'll find you later).

I am not an aggressive flirt. This probably goes without saying but well-behaved men do better in online dating than aggressive flirts. The number one algorithm girls' brains are running is "creep detection". Creep her out once, in the slightest, game is over. My modus operandi is to take a genuine interest in her and befriend her. Even over a few weeks' conversation, the time investment is rarely countable in hours since you can do other things while IMing (well, can't you?) so it's about the same as typical investment.

Once you go for the second close, the meeting in real life, I find it helps to be a bit skittish. Go for a short meeting, like a lunch, with an ending. Make it seem like you probably should meet but you're not ready to commit to an evening date "in case this turns awkward". She'll know EXACTLY what you mean but won't be used to you being the one bringing that up... that's her job. :)

Always kiss on the first date. I make that a discipline. First dates are about testing chemistry, why bother doing that if you don't kiss the girl. I am fucking up-front about this if necessary. Hey this is a first date, we're going to kiss. Otherwise what was the point of all this if I walk away without even figuring out if you're a good kisser, or figuring out whether my heart flop-flops the way I like when we're kissing? You see what I mean.

Do all this and the third close usually comes on the second date. Then you can keep as many on the wire as you want, and work on more. I find the sweet spot is keeping three active since one will drop out in favour of some serious, monogamous relationship before long, and you'll still have two gfs to prove your social worth while working on three.

At least, this is what works for me. About a dozen lovers per year this way.