I've got a friend in from out of town – he's ex-Israeli military, and an overall badass/nice guy all around. And he fucking KILLS it with women. A complete and total natural.

There's a dominant idea in this community that naturals are oblivious to what they're doing – that they just go around and pick up girls by their nature alone. Although this is true for some, I've noticed that at the highest levels of seduction, even the naturals need to know exactly what they're doing to really be in control of their lives.

For example, some guys can naturally pick up girls, but they're a mess in every other aspect of their lives. They've slept with over 100 girls but can't maintain a relationship, have no financial skills, and no reliable emotional control.

Who wants this? Not me.

My Israeli friend is the only natural I've ever met who’s never studied any seduction material, yet can attract women effortlessly AND kills it in every other aspect of life. But more-so, he's aware WHY he's successful with women, and can explain it – something very few "naturals" are capable of.

I've learned a HUGE amount just from hanging out with him, and I figured since he's around, he could provide some outside of the box ideas... hopefully stuff no one's seen around here.

So without further ado...

Idea #1: Posture, and REAL "Peacocking"

We all have an idea of what "peacocking" is from Mystery... weird hats, rings, goggles... basically looking like a clown.

Funnily enough, this idea completely misses the point. The Peacock does not need external accessories to attract a mate. Instead, everything it needs is built into the peacock, naturally.

Humans are no exception to this rule. We have all the tools for attraction and "peacocking" built into us, by default. But it doesn't come in the form of rings, watches, or external objects.

So where does it come from? Posture. Your posture is a direct 1:1 manifestation of how you feel internally. If you're depressed and shy, you have closed down posture. If you're feeling extremely confident, you'll be relaxed, you’ll have little-to-no muscle tension, and TALL posture.

When you are in this confident state and are receptive to finding a good looking girl, you are naturally "peacocking". You become an antenna for women who are also looking for a mate of their own! The funny thing is, every man is naturally a chick magnet... but most of us have never learned how to flip the switch!

By walking with tall posture (literally, standing as tall as you possibly can), you realize something very important: women often make the first move!

But they don't do it through touching you or talking to you. No, they do it through eye contact, smiling at you, shyly looking down when you hold eye contact, etc. If you have fantastic posture and stand with absolute confidence in yourself, you become a magnet for these "first moves". Therefore, the game changes from "I'm going to try and seduce a girl" to finding the girls who are already “making moves” on you, and talking to them.

Realize that when you first stand up tall, you’ll feel a bit goofy... you’ll feel really self-conscious. You think, "I look weird standing up tall like this." Realize EVERYONE feels this way, which is why very few people truly stand with fantastic posture. It's not easy!

But now that you're aware of this, be strong enough to hold your head high no matter what, and you will literally become a magnet for girls who are looking for a confident man.

Think about it... regardless of how you look, if you're the only person out of 100 who is standing up as tall as he can, what does that say about you?

After learning this from my friend, I put it into action. I immediately noticed girls trying to get my attention, when I've spent so many years trying to get theirs! Try it out… after seeing it in action, you will NEVER walk around with slouched posture again.

Even though I'm much smaller than my Israeli friend, the fact that I have the confidence to stand as tall as I can at all times proves I have deep, unshakable internal confidence.

Idea #2: Minimal Texting

If you've ever lost a girl due to poor texting, pay close attention to this part. Personally, texting was ALWAYS my achilles heel... I’ve “lost” countless girls due to shitty texting.

But after grasping this idea, that’s all changed – I now view texting as "solved".

When we first get a girl's number, we wonder when we should text her. And what that text should say. Then we spend all of our time trying to get her to respond to us.

You know how it feels... you send a text and you feel like shit: "was that the right thing to say?" Then we beat ourselves up, because right after we send the text, we realize we could've sent one that was 100x better... but it's too late!

This is fucking madness and it’s all unnecessary. In fact, it's not the texts themselves that get you the girl, so trying to be witty is what's losing you the girl in the first place!

If a girl is into you, she wants to meetup. Therefore, texting every second of the day is going to do nothing but show your neediness, and increase the odds that you say something that turns her off.

If a girl isn't into you, no amount of witty comments will change that.

I remember I was working next to my Israeli friend, and I asked him if he'd texted a girl he met at the bar the previous night. He said, "no, I don't text girls when I'm working – only when I can meet up with them."

That's right. He only texts a girl if he has the ability to meet up with them. This makes texting incredibly simple. Is your night free? Send her a text.

Now, this doesn't mean you just text her saying "come over". You still use stuff like call-back humor for the first text. But after a text or two, you invite her out, or over to your place, or whatever it is you choose.

If she says yes, you're in. If she says no, pay attention to how she says it:

• If she says NO with an excuse ("I'm busy, headache, homework") and DOESN'T give you an option for another meetup ("I'm busy, what about tomorrow evening?"), she's most likely not interested in you. Either text her in a week's time and try again or delete her number.

• If she texts NO but suggests another time to meetup, meetup then and seal the deal!

This will save you TONS of time... both in exchanging messages back and forth, and texting girls who aren't interested in you to begin with. In my early days, I would literally text girls for months (or in the worst case, YEARS), never making anything happen with them! This way, you make things happen very quickly, or they were never going to happen in the first place.

View texting as a logistical tool – nothing more!

Idea #3: Want a Girl Who's Working? Ask for the Number IMMEDIATELY

We all have fantasies of picking up that cute waitress, or the girl who works at the bank. And we've always heard that this is one of the most difficult situations.

It's true – girls are in "work mode", and if they flirt with you, it's most likely because they have to because of their job.

But there is a way to break this "work mode"... you come out right upfront and say what you're interested in. Picture this, you see a good looking girl at a bank, you walk up to her, she says "Hello, how are you", you say "What's your number?"

She's shocked, her world is turned upside down. She will most likely not give you the number immediately... however, you've now changed the entire frame of the interaction. It's no longer "work mode". You've broken through that, and can now proceed with the intent to get her number before you end the interaction with her.

Obviously this doesn't guarantee you a number of a girl working. It's still not easy. However, this gives you a MUCH better chance of getting her number, and also fulfills her "prince charming" desires... the wish every girl has for a one-in-a-million dude to come up to her and destroy her reality.

I've always wanted to be able to pick up girls who are working. But I always did it wrong. I would go to a place a hot chick worked, flirt with her, then leave, planning on "getting her number later". Months would go by, I'd finally ask her, and be horribly rejected.

However, with this mindset, I've never failed to get a working girl's number.

Now, this mindset is really dependent on your inner state. Are you truly a confident and high-value man? If you are, you will emit the vibe of "Here's your chance to have me". And that's all it will be – a chance for her to meet up with you later.

You have to be professional. If it clearly isn't going to work, simply go along with what you were doing. If you were at a bank, ask for her number, if it's not working (and you'll be able to feel it), simply go about your business at the bank, and say "have a nice day" without thinking about it.

This is definitely not easy to do, but it is a REAL method that can truly help you meet up with women you met while they were working. If the thought of instantly asking for a number bothers you, try making it the third thing you say: 1) intro 2) direct compliment 3) ask for the number.

Closing Thoughts

These three ideas have totally changed my life. When talking to my friend, I asked him if he'd be willing to answer questions. Thanks to his advice, I've gone from a dude who could only flirt with girls, to a dude who can get numbers, meet up with girls, and seal the deal consistently.

He doesn't have much time, but if you have a question and you’d like a solid answer, if you donate $1 to a charity he’s working with, he’ll answer your question. It's for education, and from what I know, it's an outside of the box way to get money straight to teachers who give a damn.

If you have a sticking point that's been holding you back, and you have no clue how you can get past it, or you feel it's impossible to get past it, he can definitely help you out – he's done it with me countless times.

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