Why are comments like this allowed?

KafkaesqueZeal · 2018-10-08T03:07:33+00:00

I would downvote a comment like that.

recyclablebanthas · 2018-10-08T04:43:49+00:00

What? Something like that, allowed here?

Technically, they're not allowed. What you do is keep flagging those comments or drop a note to us.

dailymanup · 2018-10-08T03:34:33+00:00

That's bullshit man. I'm surprised that was allowed to be posted. I've been trying to help you for months, as have a lot of other people I've seen. Whoever posted that should feel sorry for himself.

chronosthetitan · 2018-10-08T05:12:20+00:00

You’re autistic? My suggestion is learn about body language and tonality first. The more socially adjusted you become the better off you’ll be, I gave my cousin a book on drawing facial expressions which helped a lot.

lovinlife1 · 2018-10-08T03:46:42+00:00

I'm sorry someone said that. That was hurtful and mean.

lItsAutomaticl · 2018-10-08T11:45:41+00:00

Welcome to the internet.

LSDilly · 2018-10-08T03:37:16+00:00

Yeah that comment sucks but so does your post about asking people on here to pretend to be you on your tinder profile to get you laid.

I can see why someone would tell you to stay home and jack off if that’s what you’re on here asking for.

FederalBlood · 2018-10-08T03:32:07+00:00

I agree, what a stupid comment.

ThiccNiggaGeorge · 2018-10-08T03:08:28+00:00

Screw him

rathic · 2018-10-08T04:19:30+00:00

Fuck that guy.

_Legendairy_ · 2018-10-08T03:39:19+00:00

Although it’s a shitty thing to say, censoring it opens the doors to worse things.

In the end, what he says doesn’t matter, it’s the message you take from it. You could either interpret that as “wow this guy must’ve had a crappy day, what the heck” or “alright I guess I better start looking for some prospects”.

It’s all about reading between the lines

tractorinballs · 2018-10-08T07:56:52+00:00

Honestly if you just define yourself by a diagnosis and have already relegated yourself to the pile that has nothing to offer women, you should just stay home and jack off...

Now if you want to realize you're more than a diagnosis (I'm going to argue you probably aren't the only person with autism in here) and you want to find the value you have to offer women, then you're in the right place....

The_spud_abides · 2018-10-08T04:44:28+00:00

There will always be assholes out there bro, don’t let it get under your skin and definitely don’t dwell on it. You are the master of your mind and only you can decide what to accept and reject when others present their views to you.

xbris · 2018-10-08T07:57:12+00:00

I don't see what was so rude about that.. It's a valid option and for many (including married couples) it what most guys do anyway.

That being said if you are serious about meeting some women you should not be masturbating at all or at least not more than once a week.

The rest of the people here don't care about you or your problems, they are simply virtue signaling.

Good luck

DadOnDabs · 2018-10-08T05:56:03+00:00

You always have people who are gonna be straight dicks. Just brush them off and continue with your day.

Clbull · 2018-10-08T07:21:12+00:00

As someone on the spectrum myself, these kinds of comments piss me off.

In fact, the wide mockery of autism I see in some communities on here to the point where 'autistic' is thrown around as a general insult for anyone that acts asocial, angry or stupid is just wrong.

Luffydude · 2018-10-08T07:37:54+00:00

People are mean, suck it up and move on

A_Suffering_Panda · 2018-10-08T17:02:41+00:00

Heres the real lesson 1 from this sub: Sometimes people are bullshit and you shouldnt listen to them. Learn to figure out when that is, like in this case

Schroef · 2018-10-08T06:07:00+00:00

It’s called ‘freedom of speech’, and you should be able to deal with it. It’s your privilege to live in a society where you can be offended. The guy’s a dick, but he can speak his mind.

Runway_ho · 2018-10-08T09:59:39+00:00

Reddit usually has all opinions represented. It's the upvotes that give you a meter of what people think. I've been in the boat of being banned or having my comment removed because the mods didn't like what I was saying. You feel hurt, betrayed and excluded from the conversation. That sucks for everyone as you become radicalized in your thinking and start seeing sides where there are none. Instead, if you're simply downvoted, you are still a part of the conversation and usually have a number of people tell you why it is that you're wrong.

Then you have the 'slippery slope' aspect of it. When you start banning for toxic comments, it allows you to start banning based on disagreeable comments as well. The mods start overly pruning the subreddit, stifling it and often leading the sub down the wrong path. Some subs go so far as to automatically ban comments from users active on historically incompatible subs.

So I'm of the opinion that you ban as a last resort, keep the sub open and openly discuss with the more bitter element to change their views and open them up to what we're doing.

Jacob_961 · 2018-10-08T07:22:30+00:00

It's called freedom of speech. It doesn't make the guy less of an asshole but I wouldn't say silencing the asshole should be the go to approach for this sub. You have to take into consideration that most people on this sub are frustrated themselves. It's more of a reflection of how this guy communicates with himself than actual advice. Every one can improve but your ceiling might be lower than most which is fine. You play the hand you are dealt and make the best of it. This is life. Keep your head up and good luck.

WIPAlpha · 2018-10-08T06:42:12+00:00

Fuck that guy man. Regardless of your autism bro, i’m sure you will find someone who loves you as you love them.

irishmastermind · 2018-10-08T17:52:06+00:00

Downvote and report

double-victory · 2018-10-09T02:29:37+00:00

Fuck that guy. That said, you've mentioned your perceived disadvantages in pretty much every post you've made on this sub, and as a catch-all rebuttal to comments that urge optimism and self improvement. Perhaps this outlook is what needs changing more than your socioeconomic level?

_BatsShadow_ · 2018-10-12T23:47:13+00:00

A bit late I know, sorry. But keep your head up brother, you’re the man, don’t let any one tell you otherwise. That dude will get what’s coming to him.

popcornplayaa28 · 2018-10-08T08:35:57+00:00

Prove him wrong

NJBarFly · 2018-10-08T11:40:02+00:00

Was the comment highly upvoted? If not, then down vote and move on. Don't waste your energy on assholes.

guimafelipe · 2018-10-08T04:23:36+00:00

Because mods are asleep and people are assholes.

secretmonkeyassassin · 2018-10-08T06:03:10+00:00

Comments like that are not "allowed" though - they just exist until they've been reported.

Did you report the comment? Mods can't be everywhere at once

BigBootyRatchets · 2018-10-08T09:31:08+00:00

Fuck that guy dude. We're all on the same team here. Hes just taking his insecurities out on you, probably from his poor skills w women

wanker7171 · 2018-10-08T13:42:13+00:00

Plenty of people here have answered you well enough but I wanted to focus on this

I'm an autistic man with low prospects, not young anymore, has little to offer women (at least not if you measure by status and money)

Because I really want to stress that money and status are the same yet completely different at the same time. Money, like your job or some position of power, is something that is objective as it is measurable in scale. While having that objective status is nice it is not what will keep a girl genuinely interested in you. That's where social status comes into play which is 100000x more important than your objective status because it's what will keep a girl interested in you. And I promise you no girl wants to fuck a guy who believes he has "little to offer women." Some of the best pickup artists out there look like a discount Austin Powers. They're living off the streets but they have confidence in themselves to know women want them and that's all that really matters.

barricade551 · 2018-10-08T15:19:17+00:00

As jacked up as a comment like that is, use it as an opportunity to help build your IDGAF attitude. Having a mindset where you literally don’t care will improve game in addition to helping you learn to maintain frame. You’re always going to piss someone off, offend another, or annoy someone. That’s just life. The less you worry about how others feel about you and more about how you feel about yourself the better

damnit_darrell · 2018-10-08T12:04:43+00:00

Yeah fuck that guy. I'm autistic too but I'm doing better with women than I feel most do. Am I where I need to be? Hell no, I need to work on daygame AA, but I'm getting there.

Dallas_Stars_Fan · 2018-10-08T14:57:55+00:00

That guy is a dick, but more importantly your prospects may be a lower amount of women but that doesn't mean it's over. Some people who see others trying to improve themselves get spiteful and like to kick them down for showing vulternability and courage. Do not let them get to you. You can find a woman to make you happy. Truly, you really can.

autmnleighhh · 2018-10-08T18:28:48+00:00

Treat it like life. There will always be someone with a pessimistic view. You just gotta ignore them and keep it moving.

brownhoosierboy · 2018-10-08T18:36:50+00:00

It’s a condition you can’t change. Own it. Make it yours. If you watch Tyler from RSD, he is also on the spectrum.

Leonidas_79 · 2018-10-08T20:31:38+00:00

Listen mate, the world is a harsh place and this sub should be “harsh” because of the pragmatic nature of pickup.

That said, even if you have autism that doesn’t mean you can’t pick girls up. That guy is just being a prick.

jpsoto47 · 2018-10-08T21:49:16+00:00

Hi Aeon199 i don't know you, but you matter your fight matters and you matter ok? Keep going at it every day, that is bravery in my book

dani098 · 2018-10-09T01:09:21+00:00

I see a lot of stuff like this, and call it out often, no sense for the negativity

FireTiger89 · 2018-10-09T02:55:01+00:00

Welcome to reddit

Nealaf · 2018-10-28T02:49:27+00:00

One of my good friends is autistic and has a lovely girlfriend and a child. She is beautiful soul inside and out and he’s a all around rad guy with a fun personality who embraces that side of himself.

That person who made that comment is a Scumbag, that kind of attitude won’t get him far other than with people who have that same mindset-(which unfortunately for shitface isn’t a lot of people)

PinballWizrd · 2018-10-08T04:02:49+00:00

I read that as sarcastic. I can see how you could take it seriously but I think he was probably poking fun at you, although in a jerk way.

YippyKayYay · 2018-10-08T08:05:23+00:00

I think we can all agree that comment was written by a lowlife...

But dude I want to help you address this feeling of inadequacy that brought you here in the first place.

EVERYONE has value, yes even the lowest person of the low brings something to the table. The trick is finding it within yourself and loving yourself (cliches I know, but hear me out).

For me I think I started loving myself when I saw who I wanted to become and I started making progress towards being that person. (We will never be 100% who we imagined ourselves to be, therefore rejoice in the small steps along the way...) Perhaps the same may work for you, my friend?

And lastly yes, autism is autism. But plenty of autistic people get married and live loving relationships ( conversely plenty of normal people don’t get married/don’t have loving relationships). Life is what you make it and love is a deep understanding of the other person that you develop. Autism doesn’t have to mean that you die “forever alone.” Develop that understanding with someone and enjoy it.

Anyways that’s my 1am advice. Fuck whoever wrote that advice to you in the first place and I hope you have an amazing life :)

cammilo96 · 2018-10-08T08:16:34+00:00

That user ought to be banned instantly

looking4answers25 · 2018-10-08T05:49:38+00:00

I’ve had comments so bad I dare not repeat them.

iamtheswoop · 2018-10-08T14:14:09+00:00

This may be an awful comment but this is actually excellent practice for you. one of the things you're going to have to get used to in seduction is rejection and the other thing is learning how to truly not give a fuck about what people think about you.

Use this as a learning moment

The_Reddit_Jester · 2018-10-08T14:54:11+00:00

I'm going to take the other road and say you do nothing, you make no moves, and you whine on here about it. So I would say that same thing to you given your post history. If you actually made an effort to change, I would say fuck that guy, but you make no effort so...

mouzer2 · 2018-10-08T15:54:49+00:00

Hey ignore them there are mean people in this world and the dude who wrote it is probably in a terrible situation and is just trying to make themselves feel better by hating and being angry

pairevo · 2018-10-08T16:09:06+00:00

Aren’t there women with autism? Any groups you can meet in?

04915 · 2018-10-08T16:24:48+00:00

i can 99% guarantee you someone saying that is not getting any results.

RSDtyler has aspergers, and is living proof that you can make it happen with the right diet and lifestyle choices. keep going, man. :)

jogo1300 · 2018-10-09T04:00:12+00:00

😂😂😂

lazy784 · 2018-10-08T10:11:41+00:00

The comment is fucked up, yes. Complaining about it won't do anything however. Certainly wont help you in your dating life. Focus on the more important things in life.

I read your post about wanting someone to pretend to be you on Tinder. Trust me dude, get those professional pics and a regular bio and you'll get matches. And the only way to get better at talking to girls is to talk to lots of them.

greenpoe · 2018-10-08T03:55:52+00:00

Too many posts/not enough moderation?

UpperRedSide · 2018-10-08T05:26:12+00:00

Unfortunately, the internet is crawling with assholes.

You just gotta learn to navigate around them.

Spore2012 · 2018-10-08T05:44:36+00:00

People say random shit on the internet for shits and gigglea, maybe he was serious, maybe it was a poor taste joke. Just ignore those types of comments. Mods cant be everywhere.

Banequo · 2018-10-08T11:59:37+00:00

Streisand Effect.

Learn it.

Bustedwire · 2018-10-08T07:15:29+00:00

Don't take it personal, It's the ignorant pecking order. Many would like to visualize themselves as being worth more than others. It's not typical of a confident person to belittle their way to a higher social status.

But it's worth noting that even ignorant confidence triumphs over insecurities. You're worth more than you credit yourself for.

bdog666 · 2018-10-08T07:29:03+00:00

Mothafuck that guy

theboldmind · 2018-10-08T13:01:54+00:00

Fuck them

yeayourwrong · 2018-10-08T16:38:33+00:00

Like every sub bro its got its share of douchnozzles. No worries broskie keep on keeping on!

1saidy · 2018-10-08T16:48:17+00:00

They are a lot of trolls, but that guy's comment is probably the realest comment you will get on this sub, I use to not give a fuck, but the truth is, if you want to improve, you'll need comments like that. From what I see, he made a very strong point, people don't care if you are austistic or not, and if you have no prospect, this is a mindset that you will have to change about yourself. If that is the mindset you have going into anything, you're going to only look down on yourself.

ilovethosedogs · 2018-10-08T05:24:49+00:00

That other sub got banned, those people have to go somewhere.

Title	Why are comments like this allowed?
Author	Aeon199
Upvotes	351
Comments	138
Date	October 8, 2018 2:59 AM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/9mb8d3/why_are_comments_like_this_allowed/
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