Remember: The only men complaining about your standards are the men who know they cannot meet them. Pay them no mind.

ENFP_Canadian · 2021-04-08T14:16:28+00:00

This reminder is like food for my soul after dumping an narcissistic ex who complained when I asserted my boundaries.

AineofTheWoods · 2021-04-08T19:08:45+00:00

It got depressing doing online dating with men much older than me trying to guilt trip me into dating them. They were usually in their 40s or 50s and divorced with kids, when I'm in my 30s, I've never married and have no children. Apparently it's too much to ask to meet a man who is also in his 30s, never married with no children. I'd rather be single than be guilt tripped into a relationship with someone I'm not keen on.

MadamLeFay · 2021-04-08T14:17:49+00:00

A few months ago, I was basically told that since I'm overweight, divorced and pushing 50, I shouldn't have any standards at all.

mostdefinitelynturs · 2021-04-08T15:26:16+00:00

Like that time I put "Dustphobia" on Facebook and my low earning ex thought I was talking about him. I said "if it don't apply, let it fly." 🙃 He was such a fucking cry baby. He had NO business being with me.

Faefae33 · 2021-04-08T17:46:30+00:00

It's the exact opposite of what love would say. Love tries to make you feel good about yourself. But men don't love so....

Lavender_flow · 2021-04-08T21:16:01+00:00

Also why all the dusties of reddit are so mad about FDS. They know they will not have these women and they are so fucking mad about it. It is unreal. Post after post after post. They are obsessed. If we were the femcels they claim they would leave us alone. But nope. They make posts about us . All. The. Time. Stay mad.

hippiepotomus · 2021-04-08T21:40:29+00:00

When I broke up with my ex last year, he kept saying my standards were too high and he never felt he could reach them. Apparently “Don’t yell at me” and “treat me with respect” are such outrageously high standards 🙄

Twolipz_78 · 2021-04-08T16:59:49+00:00

So what does it mean when he says that you should have higher standards?

ihaveafunnyname71 · 2021-04-08T15:43:03+00:00

I remember the initial online date meetup where he showed up on a bicycle... ya know, cuz having your license taken away for a DUI isn’t any sort of red flag or anything.

Then on my way home from said “date”, saw dude getting off his bike at the liquor store down the road... this was a breakfast/coffee ‘date’ on a Sunday morning.

And he had the audacity to be offended when I responded for a 2nd date request with a no thanks, I don’t think we’re compatible. LOL

orangeboobert · 2021-04-08T16:49:05+00:00

Or getting violent or aggressive where you dare to express any feelings that aren’t grateful, happy or indebted to them.

They can’t empathize and they know this so they turn it all on you by framing it as dramatic, overreactive, nagging, expecting too much, needing too much, being too much.

SorryNotSorry58 · 2021-04-08T17:12:54+00:00

This is literally ALL I get when I find the strength to go on dating apps. Just endless lines of men who are simple value that they can't even see my standards, let alone meet them...

Hikari3747 · 2021-04-08T19:29:45+00:00

I was called entitled for having standard.

I didn't realize asking for an equal partner is entitlement.

I have my MBA, a car, my own apartment, money in the bank, no record, a career, no debt (minus my student loans). So what the problem if I only want to date guys who are also similar in social status?

_queeeen_ · 2021-04-08T19:28:14+00:00

Exactly this.

Princesspeach8188 · 2021-04-09T01:24:27+00:00

When I was dating my ex, I was casually looking at houses on Zillow one day. I saw a house in my home neighborhood that was for sale for ~900k and commented on how nice it was. My then boyfriend immediately snapped back with “You don’t need a 900k house.” .... Nah I more than deserve it, you just would never be able to afford to put me in a 900k house. Such a loser lol

Title	Remember: The only men complaining about your standards are the men who know they cannot meet them. Pay them no mind.
Author	BasieSkanks
Upvotes	1344
Comments	51
Date	April 8, 2021 2:05 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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