How often do bar hookups happens?

Captain_w00t · 2025-05-29T07:31:18+00:00

There isn’t, because you can’t have generic statistics about that.

If you don’t pull, there might be a lot of reasons: for example your expectations based only on the fact you consider yourself a 7/10 in looks and you lift weights. That’s not how it works.

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TheCoolerDanieI · 2025-05-23T05:34:59+00:00

Not as often as you would think especially now

Pedro_Moona · 2025-05-23T05:00:23+00:00

If your good looking, have a good personality and story/plan of success or something interesting; and have decent game and a clean, private, convenient spot and your in a city with alot of singles or a college town, I would say you can hookup every couple months if your going out 5-10 so times a month.

If you're super good looking this could go way up and if you're not all that good looking, you might struggle to find some table scraps.

Really the name of the game is just to find a reason to get a girl home with you after she has shown interest at the bar, then maybe half the time it will go down..

The best thing is not to over push for anything that night but make a good connection and plan a date quick. Some girls will hookup that night but there is a whole different class of girls that at least want to go on a few dates.

kingafri · 2025-05-23T11:31:52+00:00

Not that often tbh. You have to understand that no matter how attractive, charming, etc you are women are always (and rightfully so) concerned for their safety. The chances of meeting a women and then hooking up with her within the next 4-7 days is much higher and attainable. Honestly I’d be a little concerned if a women wanted to sleep with me after a few hours of chatting that I’ve never met before.

Aranea101 · 2025-05-23T07:12:00+00:00

Never happened to me.

Frankly don't really understand how it happens to anyone

ThreeColorsTrilogy · 2025-05-23T04:45:32+00:00

Frequently

Either_Sundae6099 · 2025-05-23T10:35:05+00:00

If your going out just to hookup... good luck.

If you are going out to have fun and talk to people... then its quite easy.

Desperation and neediness is repulsive.

theadoringfan216 · 2025-05-23T08:26:25+00:00

What kind of question is this? Obviously it happens all the time lol

tiiilted · 2025-05-23T18:32:21+00:00

Very often if you want it to. Not rare at all. Know what you’re doing with ladies who are interested, hot or not.

CuteGuyInCali · 2025-05-23T06:24:00+00:00

I speak from not being the best looking guy ever and even I have hooked up. Even as a married man, one time I went to the bar alone. Struck up a converstaion with a group that I had no idea was together. The guys left so I was sitting there with this women just talking about things. No hook up talk no flirting. Im married and I was was wearing my ring that she didn't notice. We were talking about traveling and how many places I have beem to in Mexico and she was talking about her travels. Then out of nowhere she invites me to travel to Sonora Mexico with her.... In my brain I was in shock, I was thinking..... "did she just invite me, a TOTAL STRANGER to travel to Mexico with her? Of course I decline and I told her I was married. Again I was not flirting it was just bar talk. About half hour later my wife picked me up from the bar because I don't drink and drive....

THE POINT IS: I could have totally hooked up that night had I been single and without even trying!

And just to add that I have hooked up at the bar (when I was single)....not as many times as I would have loved to but yes. It happens.

Certain_Process_7657 · 2025-05-23T05:47:57+00:00

Depends on the guy but I've seen it many times. If you're referring to meeting her at a bar (not a planned date) and taking her home that same night to smash I've done it maybe about 10 times.

Prestigious_Water336 · 2025-05-23T07:36:57+00:00

Very often.

It's one of the main proposes of going out is to get laid. Not all people go out to get laid but many (including myself) do.

You need to go to party bars where the music is loud and the people are dancing and doing shots.

The drink and chill bars aren't as good for pickup.

Be sure to go out early so you have time to approach and make a connection with someone.

Just-Tumbleweed-9111 · 2025-05-23T08:31:25+00:00

Often if you dont make it look like your desperate for just that.Its good to have the confidence to go up to any woman and be able to hold a conversation with her for more than just hi,my name is...Whats yours?If your not scared of approaching women and talking to them it becomes quite easy as long as you dont come off as a creep or desperate

cuzimicyspicy · 2025-05-23T08:11:53+00:00

In Europe, I've only seen it maybe 4-5 times since I go to bars and clubs for last 8-9 years. Situations where I could saw they didnt knew each other and involved kissing etc

TripleDigitNomad · 2025-05-23T09:38:39+00:00

I don't think there is any verifiable statistic out there. There are so many variables that determine how successful you could be. The vibe of the bar, how much competition you have, how many girls are at the bar, how good your game is, etc

jackthehat6 · 2025-05-23T13:34:25+00:00

I've pulled it off quite a few times (cold approach random girl in bar, flirt, go back to one of our places for sex)

But before you think i'm bragging, know that I put in some serious volume!! It's a numbers game. I eat a LOT of rejection, but back when I was 'hungrier' i'd approach so many girls in a night that i'd usually get laid 'most' weekends. It was always about finding girls who were not only social/adventurous and wanted to chat to strangers, but also girls who thought you were hot. All of them things needed to be in place

I get laid a lot less now. Could be because i'm older and uglier yet still going for the 18 year olds. But a part of me also thinks it's to do with the changing culture.

And also, as someone whose been going out a few nights per week for YEARS, I really do'nt think it's a very common thing to happen at all, to be honest. It's so rare that I even see guys approach girls on nights out nowadays. And even amongst my many single friends, most of them have almost never pulled a girl from a bar (only one or 2 exceptionally handsome dudes who used to get laid at will)

So long story short, I really don't think it's half as common as people think! (but that would also vary somewhat based on where you live I guess)

shouldwecuddle · 2025-05-23T18:38:32+00:00

Pretty often

UniqueUserName2017 · 2025-05-23T07:24:11+00:00

I dont think three's statistics or a research done, its anecdotal. I'm not very good looking and I'm kinda short and I've hooked up plenty of time just hitting up bars or clubs downtown alone

StepGeneral3597 · 2025-05-23T18:54:34+00:00

Often if you’re me. And if you approach a lot of girls. Most guys are pussies.

PeakProud2514 · 2025-05-23T05:28:45+00:00

Mate I just got me cock sucked at me local pub, it wasn’t hard. Double meaning😂

SamShelby7 · 2025-05-23T04:53:12+00:00

Enough where the ground is white

topher_atx · 2025-05-23T15:28:39+00:00

They happen, but I think its fairly rare. I could be wrong though. For the most part, I think most women aren't looking for casual most of the time, but sometimes they go for it if the guy is out of their league.

Nabbzi · 2025-05-23T18:34:09+00:00

7/10 guy might get a girl at a bar about 10-20% of the time which could be worse.

Shawager · 2025-05-23T18:55:24+00:00

I think it’s kinda cultural too, depends where you from. I live in Portugal, it’s kinda common to make out with strangers in bar/clubs, but taking a stranger home it’s a totaly diferent story.

I only know like 3 guys who went home with a random girl from a bar the day the meet. I know some girls who made out with like 30 strangers but are still virgins

MineDesperate2920 · 2025-05-23T22:20:01+00:00

Depends on your game and how often you go out. I’d say once a month is realistic if you go out frequently and have decent game

Far_Marsupial8572 · 2025-05-24T01:22:40+00:00

Often 🤣 I used to only go to bars to hook up with someone lol granted I did this in a city I newly moved to and lived alone. So it was just that. But in my hometown I go to bars with my girls and it isn’t the same, I’ll take a phone number or 2. But yeah in a new city where I live alone…yup I’m tryna f*** 🤣

adrianitoninesixty · 2025-05-24T01:50:20+00:00

I really wonder what’s a 7 out of 10 for you

Nate64 · 2025-05-24T03:43:15+00:00

Worked in quite a few bars over the years, it’s basically a looks + confidence thing. Sometimes a confident odd dude would pull but not as often as the really good looking lads.

AaViOnBando · 2025-05-24T05:21:09+00:00

For someone like me, never. For others, maybe often.

CharmingRejector · 2025-05-24T05:53:47+00:00

In my 20's and 30's I'd sometimes get several a week. Now in my 40's it's not as easy, but I still get it occasionally. But when I do get it, it's always a really young and hot girl, so there's that. Meaning quality of those I do get has taken a huge leap up, while I'd bang a lot more when I was younger. I'm not even sure why, but perhaps maturity is a thing, idk. I do look better now than ever before, though, in terms of fitness, so that might be it.

swallowedbymonsters · 2025-05-24T12:50:49+00:00

Daily. Very often

TransitionOk9918 · 2025-05-24T13:34:07+00:00

How many women are you approaching when you’re going out? And also what do you mean by bar hookup, doing it in the same night or maybe in 4 days after you got her number etc. If you’re going frequently for several years and haven’t got anything so that’s may be a skill issue. And I think it’s also heavily depends on the location, if you’re in a big city or in a place with a lot of tourists I would say it’s happen extremely often, I once had 2 hookups night after night from bars in this kind of settings. And I’m not even that attractive.

AaronFreedom · 2025-05-24T20:22:10+00:00

If by hookups you mean making out, quite a lot. But if you mean sex, not that often imo and experience and talking to many men who go out

dobbs1997 · 2025-05-24T23:41:47+00:00

how many women do you talk to during a night out ?

Expensive_Style_2515 · 2025-05-25T05:41:08+00:00

Depends on the bar.

funkysupe · 2025-05-23T06:25:26+00:00

I’ve had about 100 personally. Very often. Even more often if you live near bars.

Glacier_Sama · 2025-05-23T07:28:38+00:00

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