Holy fucking shit, stop complimenting women right away.

yourmajesty_69 · 2026-05-20T21:38:14+00:00

I got two numbers yesterday approaching saying they have rad style - better than some gimmicky pick up line as long as you aren’t fawning over her then compliments are okay.

ftdrain · 2026-05-20T21:54:36+00:00

If they are into you they are into you, its not about the compliment itself, but about non neediness, everything else is a gimmick, thats the only thing you need to mind, are you being needy by doing this or saying that?

ManhattanT5 · 2026-05-20T22:08:04+00:00

-vibejuice out

becomesharp · 2026-05-20T22:00:13+00:00

Compliments aren't the problem.

Compliments THAT COME FROM A PLACE OF NEEDINESS are the problem.

Does Chris Hemsworth blow out of a set if he gives her a compliment? No.

Do smooth black guys blow out when they approach with a compliment? No.

It's like back in the day when guys would swear that anyone who buys a drink for a girl or pays for dinner is a supplicating loser.

We eventually learned that thats not true. The real problem was BUYING HER A DRINK FROM A PLACE OF NEEDINESS.

howtobemisha · 2026-05-20T21:54:39+00:00

Actually, I approached a girl saying the lamest “you’re cure” stuff last week and we went on an insta date. So, I think it may depend on a country, a girl, etc.

When you just starting out, it may be difficult to improvise around at first. At least to do an approach is already something for some guys

Of, course, when 80+ approaches came to nothibg it is also not cool (in a previous post) and we need somw confirmation bias here or rewards

So, it depends. Maybe go to another country and start practicing there? I started out in Bangkok, it was quite tough to start from 0, then I went to Saigon and it was easier there

Revolutionary_Ad5209 · 2026-05-21T11:05:08+00:00

Just with how you’ve written this, I can tell you’re pretty new to the game.

Sit down and listen up, kid.

The longer you focus on what you say, the longer it will take you to understand it has nothing to do with the actual words you are saying.

Matter_Still · 2026-05-21T05:42:41+00:00

Holy fucking shit! Another absolute. More black and white thinking. Make a woman earn that compliment. Tote that barge. Lift that bale. Hold that frame.

Use one of those pre-canned openers that PUAs have been employing since Jesus was in the third grade: “You look like trouble.”

Yep. That line opens a world of possibilities that a sincere compliment about a beautiful tan wouldn’t.

And never, forget, ever: you can give a compliment that makes a girl blush but you won’t get laid. It just can’t happen.

Realwoujo · 2026-05-20T22:18:13+00:00

Hard disagree. Compliments are great so long as 1) they are genuine and meaningful, and 2) you are not obviously complimenting them to get something. If you are complimenting them to manipulate them, then yes, it's bad.

Broad-Cranberry-9050 · 2026-05-20T21:44:30+00:00

Lol, was this post made against a post today where a guy approached a girl reading a book and told her he approached her because she was pretty basically?

But i agree. I see dudes immediately call women godesses from just looking at them. Liek bro, women hate when they are seen as sex objects and when guys approach just because they are pretty. I started doing better when i complemented everything but their looks.

"I like that outfit where'd you get it?"

"I like your hair, i wish my curls were as good as yours. What do you use on it?", etc.

Dudes out here trying to wow a girl in 3 sentences or less. It's not the movies, slow and steady wins the race.

Extreme_Perception38 · 2026-05-21T03:17:47+00:00

Women aren't dumb. They know you're approaching because you want to fuck them

mrwb · 2026-05-20T23:52:09+00:00

YOU HAVE REALLY NICE TEETH. want to hang out?

Ambitious_Meat5194 · 2026-05-21T01:31:20+00:00

the examples listed are even worse

Kylearean · 2026-05-20T22:52:42+00:00

Easy rule to follow: Compliment choices and values, not appearance.

They know their own appearance is fake and subject to change at any moment, so don't compliment the "bait".

Quiet_Rock_5696 · 2026-05-20T22:15:26+00:00

No, you're just insecure, we're not playing poker against these women lol we're trying to have a positive, upbeat interaction. I get great responses when I give women compliments (leading eventually to sex)

Pristineonk · 2026-05-20T22:16:59+00:00

it's worked for me a fair bit. There's no rules in game

If you open direct and she's not at all interetsed, I guarantee that going indirect would simply mean a 'slower' rejection lol

Most-Famous-Wasabi · 2026-05-21T00:37:23+00:00

>> How does a conversation happen after you’ve given away your purpose for approaching her?

However you want it to.
It's really up to you to take the lead.

I have no idea about your background or level of success. But it's honestly bizarre to me that anyone could be in-field with this dogmatic approach.

I honestly think you've taken too much onboard from a subset of instagram PUA's without giving yourself room to experiment in-field.

Total_Obligation_371 · 2026-05-21T04:33:24+00:00

Damn I guess the dozens and dozens of girls I've slept with from opening with a compliment thought I was beta the whole time.

You can open with basically anything if you're confident. The lines you gave are so gamey it's hard to imagine a person actually doing them in real life. I doubt you've actually used them consistently.

Withholding a single simple compliment is what someone does when they are insecure and think that any bit of positivity they give to a girl will automatically lower their value.

United-Implement-382 · 2026-05-21T09:20:46+00:00

Its not about giving out compliments. It depends whether or not if she’s attracted to the guy giving them out.

WeirdMuch634 · 2026-05-22T02:34:37+00:00

Woman here: sooo we have to earn compliments huh? Because we're apparently all full of ourselves enough already, so don't deserve it? And you think an attitude like that is going to get you laid?! Fuck you asshole. If some guy approaches me, what he says, how he says it, his body language, and attitude are what determines where things go. I don't know what you look like, but you could be gorgeous and I still wouldn't go home with you if this is who you are. And those killer lines of yours? I'd laugh, but only because of how cheesy they are. Oh, I'm sure they'd work on some women; the easy or desperate ones. I guess it depends on her standards. But unless plenty of alcohol is involved, I very much doubt it'll work on most. I'll take a genuine compliment from a nice guy over a tacky pick up line from a guy who clearly doesn't value women and is obviously only after one thing. Thanks but I'll pass on the stds.

4206998 · 2026-05-21T00:17:25+00:00

Please don’t suggest negging 😭😭

OtherwiseCode8134 · 2026-05-20T21:55:24+00:00

As a woman nothing makes me unmatch a guy quicker than when his opener is some cheesey line, like “do you know how gorgeous you are?”

Like how am i supposed to respond to that? It doesn’t feel genuine, it just feels like a line you’re using on every girl hoping one is insecure enough to take the bait.

MyUsername0_0 · 2026-05-20T22:03:44+00:00

You can complement just do it with something that’s not generic and be unique

Stuckatsevendee · 2026-05-20T22:31:14+00:00

Very based and straightforward tip; this man fucks after being disrespectful

AbbreviationsAny9759 · 2026-05-20T22:43:57+00:00

I agree and disagree. There's nothing wrong with giving a woman a compliment off rip. But it's how you give it that matters.

I agree that yeah, just dropping a compliment on her and nothing else can be kind of awkward. But if you continue off that compliment, like maybe you approached her and said "you're beautiful," instead of leaving it there, continue: "You're beautiful, how do you get your hair to look like that?" Or "I need to know what you do to your skin." This allows for actual conversation rather than compliment dumping. That doesn't mean go up to a woman and ask "Nice ass, is it real?" Might get a fun reaction, but with my completely "professional" opinion, I'd advise against it.

You don't always have to flirt or say something slick. Genuine interest and curiosity is enough to engage. You don't need pickup lines, just don't be socially awkward. Don't tell, ask.

But yeah, I mostly agree and see what you're saying. A lot of guys just drop compliments and think that's all they have to do. But I think that's a product of social awkwardness or just the inability to talk to women rather than the compliments themselves. Genuine compliments in my opinion are great openers if you're actually wanting to talk about it.

Brahms12 · 2026-05-20T23:43:54+00:00

Thank you

Toodoe · 2026-05-21T07:17:20+00:00

If you really want to compliment a girl on her looks right away, compliment what she has control over - her style, hair, tattoos, piercing, etc. At least that's what works for me 💃

ShawtySayWhaaat · 2026-05-22T07:19:41+00:00

Reading these comments feels like a trip to the zoo

autodidacticasaurus · 2026-05-20T23:48:39+00:00

Nah, this is wrong. You just need to know what you're doing. You need to have the right vibe. Deliver the compliment man-to-woman, in a way that implies "I want to fuck you." Trust me.

"Hey, excuse me, you look incredible tonight" with a smile and looking into her eyes. She melted. Calm, confident smooth.

"Damn." <- this worked to get things started. 😂 haha

"I love the color of your eyes." Just don't say it like you're asking for something. Say it like you want her.

The reason you and these other guys are fucking up because you're implicitly asking her for something. She has the value and you want it, rather than just going up to her and telling her how you feel. You should be expressing yourself, not trying to lure her in or some weird shit.

Now, I'm not saying you can pull off compliments all the time. You gotta be in the right mood and in the right context. If you don't have your mojo that day, it's gonna fall flat. Way safer to go with contextual openers or teasing since that's more guaranteed... but trust me, a girl's gonna respect if you have the balls to go direct and you can pull it off. It'll get you further.

I know a guy who only does that actually and he does pretty well with it.. better than all of us I'm sure. That's what taught me it was okay to do it actually. I just saw the proof and trusted in the way... so now I do it sometimes too and it's alright.

boentrough · 2026-05-21T05:32:11+00:00

This sub used to be legit advice and is just the most incel ass shit now. I'm like a solid 6 and I can get what I want pretty easy and it's never this cringe ass shit.

CTIndie · 2026-05-20T21:55:14+00:00

What responses do you get from saying someone looks like trouble or a heartbreaker?

dysiac · 2026-05-21T00:17:52+00:00

How about a wild and brilliant idea - stop playing games with women and idk...BE AUTHENTIC?!?!?

If y'all want to play games like this - "women should earn compliments" like wtf dude??? this is why you don't have a gf, what an absolutely horrible post, DO NOT LISTEN TO THIS MAN IF YOU WANT ANY CHANCE TO HAVE A PARTNER ONE DAY

Chemical-Low209 · 2026-05-21T01:23:48+00:00

I don't compliment women they get enough compliments already

Ok-Needleworker1061 · 2026-05-20T22:57:08+00:00

I either compliment on style, their makeup if it looks good, or just simply ask for their name and what they are up to.

FrYoungtrad · 2026-05-20T23:56:24+00:00

Well as a professional poker player, I can tell you that folding before the flop is the correct play roughly 78% of the time in a full ring cash game. Seems about right with women also

confused_8357 · 2026-05-21T03:52:02+00:00

it doesnt matter , its not what the guy said , its about who complimented her .

OP is right to say to stop fawning , i would go as to say compliment only if she is confused why u approached. dont say omg u look gorgeous , just say you look good/cool

the fact that u approached her and are talking -- she knows

learn to put the least effort in the approach

soul_flex · 2026-05-21T05:49:27+00:00

What about calling them, "Bad"... Because, that's kinda like an Oxymoron, by calling them, "Bad", perhaps implying that they're secretly naughty behind closed doors or something, but also talking about their looks... Bad... meaning, "good" looks... Oxymoron... No?

IGetBoredSometimes23 · 2026-05-21T05:53:10+00:00

"u/Vibejuice-official likes to keep their posts hidden, but check out their stats to learn more about them."

Lol! This is obvious rage bait incel shit, probably made by AI to increase engagement to the site.

demo34 · 2026-05-21T05:53:32+00:00

And the Value Proposition just happens and people crave for your compliment right?

Try to keep the girls rather than just getting them to give you their numbers vibejuice.

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HomelessMilkman · 2026-05-21T11:33:52+00:00

Compliment or no compliment, you're right that you have to expand, elaborate, improvise more than that to end up in a conversation. That should be 'common sense'.

Saying anything and standing there blankly, "The ball is in your court now", and expecting them to make an active 50% contribution based on your one opening line is unrealistic.

Most people, if you allow them to lead, will completely kill all fun, enthusiasm, enjoyment out of the interaction with their robotic stilted responses, and you'll end up with no 'chemistry' or 'interest'.

The whole point is demonstrating that social ability - that the 'social value', the actual fun, enthusiasm, enjoyment of the interaction is fuelled by you. Consistency of results is down to you taking a proactive role to direct the interaction to a lighthearted, positive, uplifting result.

MustJarkus · 2026-05-21T15:10:33+00:00

Dont compliment them, instead say, "I like ______ about you", etc.

bigolboooom · 2026-05-21T16:47:08+00:00

I usually just bite her and then give her a hair rub

Ok_Yoghurt_3908 · 2026-05-21T17:57:54+00:00

Took multiple numbers by complementing on outfits like on one girl i said hey i like your earrings it’s nice where’d you buy it im looking that for my mom… and that flowed naturally

onemanslifemission · 2026-05-22T05:51:36+00:00

This is so lame. He's trying to project that he's alpha, when in fact he knows nothing about dating and women. What a joke

SalesAficionado · 2026-05-22T06:24:01+00:00

Yapping non sense

Pugwhisper · 2026-05-22T08:41:41+00:00

Can I just stop giving them my time in general? Don’t text me with your problems if you have a boyfriend.

Let him worry about that and I’ll look for someone who actually cares about me and doesn’t just see me as an emotional dump.

nordik1 · 2026-05-22T23:18:05+00:00

if the woman finds you attractive you’re not going to turn her off with a compliment

You can turn her off with the follow up, but not with a complimentary opener

If she finds you unattractive, you’re fried 9/10 times with a compliment or crafty opener

Msyunmi · 2026-05-23T06:37:50+00:00

What should I say if I want to hookup and not get to know each other and don’t want a relationship?

ariez17 · 2026-05-23T08:57:04+00:00

Lol this guy said dont compliment but its fine to tell them they look like trouble....quite literally the corniest shit ever lmao.

Maybe dont give generic compliments surw, find something unique to compliment her on so she can see you noticed her specific style and preferences.

vesieco · 2026-05-21T07:41:14+00:00

I disagree. Nothing wrong with approaching and giving a simple compliment, whether it’s about her style or just calling her cute. It’s worked perfectly fine for me in the past and I’ve met numerous women that way.

I’d argue that you should compliment her. It’s a way of stating your intention right off the bat and letting her know why you’re talking to her. Not being direct with your intentions would actually be disingenuous, if anything.

SireThomas · 2026-05-21T04:47:18+00:00

Ideally don’t compliment them at all. They are genuinely not worth the time. You will be better off getting your finances and life status up than you would be chasing tail.

Title	Holy fucking shit, stop complimenting women right away.
Author	Vibejuice-official
Upvotes	448
Comments	146
Date	May 20, 2026 9:29 PM UTC (2 months ago)
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