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Conversationdavid10277/r/seduction04/01/22 05:12 PM
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First off... Stop worrying about what shes gonna do.. Focus on what your gonna do... Focus on reconnecting with friends/family Hit the gym..make nee friends Work on your yourself and make some goals. Stop curling up in a corner ...go fight for the life you want a live.
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/24 01:39 AM
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Once u learn to NGAF about what "others think" you will learn to focus on yourself. I'm not protecting nothing...tell the truth and stop trying to protect her image. Your still acting like a married man ..shes not your wife anymore and will be someelses problem. Go celebrate..
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/24 01:33 AM
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First thing you must do... Forgive yourself.. Then proceed with everything else
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/24 01:29 AM
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Will take a seat and let me explain.. No..unless there is criminal records for her that would impact of the safety of the children .that's the only thing.tne courts care about and that only impacts visitation and who has full custody. All what posted doesn't mean anything She can bring a guy home and have sex with him in the next room. Shes still getting half and your paying support.
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/24 05:38 PM
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Yes totally.. It's not the cost of the divorce it's what it's worth to it well being...that's priceless
/r/Divorce_Men23/10/24 03:36 AM
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Yep... It is.. We have all been there and found out the hard way how screwed up the family court process is.. Divorce pays the female a financially and we cover the bill...it sucks and no one seems to be able change this flawd system.
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/24 01:10 AM
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Doesn't matter who's on the mortgage or who's on the title ..doesn't even matter who worked 4 jobs and saved and paid the mortgage... Once you acquire it during your marriage it becomes a matrimonial asset.. She gets half.. Welcome to divorce..!!!
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/24 01:07 AM
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Yes I found someone I totally fell in love with... Me !!!!
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/24 01:03 AM
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Mine had an affair after 30yrs She Got caught She Filed Got half my shit Gets SS and CS for my daughter totaling 4k monthly Cost me 80k in legal fees on useless back and forth Now living my best life, sugaring girls , dating some vanilla oned and have 2 subs which please me anyway I want. All that and I love my life now...im I totally healed.. no but that's never gonna happen. Rebuild your life exactly how you want it to ..will I get remarried..nope will I settle down with one women..maybe but d…
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/24 09:23 PM
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I will share this as I have shared many times. First thing you must do is..forgive yourself Only then you can move forward
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/24 12:04 AM
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Why would you buy another house ? So let's see first need 80K downpayment Then monthly payments for the next 25yrs Seriously...why would you want to repeat that agian..I had a house which was sold during my divorce..and the kids stayed with me vs mom. You need to stop and rethink your life and what you want. Your 50 yrs old. Stop thinking what ur kids want or need. They just need to be happy and have a comfortable place to sleep when there with you. Your still thinking like a husband- your not a…
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/24 11:39 PM
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Your problem is... You being manipulated and want to see the good in her... It's not there ...divorce her and cut communication
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/24 03:17 PM
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She left you for some other dude and because you wont tske her back shes gonna commit suicide. Your STBX is playing victim ..classic narcissist shot and your falling for it. She manipulating you into feeling sorry for her. Classic tactic
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/24 02:13 PM
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Educate yourself on narcissist You cant rationlise a narcissist You wont get closure or an apology from a narcissist You need to cut all communication you will be gas lighted by your narcissist You have been abused and suffering trauma from what she has done to you. Educate yourself on narcissist or you wont survive.
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/24 01:46 AM
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Been there... I was with a super hot girl during my divorce and she was exactly what I love in for physical attraction but I just could not finish. You have to take time and sort out your divorce. Its emotionally draining you even when you think it's not. I see the difference in my performance after I got it behind me. Rub a few out and go to strip clubs or just hire one. Emotional connection will not work no matter much you think. Your not ready.. Work on yourself.. finish your divorce, once it…
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/24 01:42 AM
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Happy for you!!! We will take your win !! Love it..go celebrate we normally get screwed.
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/24 01:09 PM
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Oooo there is alot more than that.. The house is a matrimonial home and you both have equal share of the equity. If you want to keep the house you have provide her the portion thsts hers..refi , sell it doesn't matter . U dont get to keep anything. ..since you are married everything is half hers so if tou want to you have to buy her out. There is no urs and hers. I want to keep this or that because I bought. Divorce does not work that way Your house :Example Courts dont care what you want to do.…
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/24 02:24 AM
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Date #3 has me rolling in laughter. I just met a sub and I can totally see this
/r/Divorce_Men15/09/24 01:58 AM
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There is no such thing ...lawyers have a incentive to keep the divorce going. But u have no choice since if you go in alone you will get screwed
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/24 12:48 AM
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Spousal support is based on the calculation of your income. You earn xxxx she is entitled to xxxx Where she lives expenses is not part of the calculation. You need to low ball the amount or offer her a lump sum buyout.
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/24 06:55 PM
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Change your lawyer.. Division of property is not something you can negotiate. Spousal support is what you need a good lawyer yo help you negotiate and mediate.
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/24 05:02 PM
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I'm paid $450 per hour 10k retainer Mine took 2yrs.. All the way thru meditation 85k in total
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/24 06:40 PM
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Good call out ..thanks for that POA
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/24 01:06 AM
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Cheat code.. Just invite her to come on your yacht for brunch That works everytime on all women..
/r/seduction16/08/24 04:16 AM
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Moms very manipulative- I was thinking I'm I over reacting but given shes 18 I guess I should make it my daughers decision
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/24 04:00 AM
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We are all forgetting that support calculations are based on your gross....before taxes. That alone is stupid and ass backwards. Your taxes , debits are not even considered as part of the calculation
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/24 03:54 AM
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Bro wtf ?? Fire your current lawyer ...sounds like there doing Jack shit but sucking your dry. File a motion that's she is hiding assets thru her business setups. Shes a emergency room doctor ? . Doesn't she have taxes filed..doesn't that show her income. Request 5 years or tax returns. Also shes a registered surgeon as you stated with a degree, you should me impuding her income based on her confirmed degrees as a doctor. She cant hide her registration. Why are you paying her legal fees. Your at…
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/24 04:48 PM
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It's doesn't matter what you provide or how much you give. The western world has trained women that theres always better , the consumerism mentality is to always want more and never be satisfied. The strains your relationship, tag that along with us guys out working our asses off to feed our family , Only to be rewarded with affairs and divorce where she gets half your shit. I was married 30 years , 4 kids , she got everything she wanted, 5 bedroom home, cars, designer bags, trips and still choo…
/r/Divorce_Men09/08/24 01:25 PM
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You first problem is believing you need people.to enjoy yourself. Go by yourself, do things by yourself.. Having company is great , but you should not deter your own adventures because you don't have a wingman. Solo works my friend
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/24 01:34 PM
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Forgive yourself ... Hit the gym Find a FWB (just to get your rocks off) Cut all communication Forgive yourself Reconnect with family and old friends Throw away all your old shit that connects to her Take a trip for clarity when needed Find good friends to talk to on tough days Make yourself the priority - Treat yourself Rub one out when you need to.. Complete your legacy, she wasn't it, just part of it !!!!
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/24 01:00 AM
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Sleep with younger (legal) girls Works wonders for ED ...ahahah
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/24 12:38 AM
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Hmmm not sure. What do mean by fix the problem ? There is no one fixing the problem of.divorce When there is a whole industry that profits from it. None of these stories are new, men have been getting fucked over years , no one is coming.to save you. Lawyers, mediators , therapists, insurance companies, court system, etc etc profit from it. So my point is to avoid this shit show, just dont get married ...and if want kids, go to some other country and have them. Also not sure where being single m…
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/24 12:32 AM
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No....all of this is the reason not to get married in the first place.
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/24 02:56 AM
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IDGAF
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/24 02:58 AM
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Dating is not a hobby to take up after your divorce You need a hobby, go find yourself, gym travel, focus on yourself. Finding replacement vagina is a bad move. My ex had the affair and she walked out, but still I realized things I needed to work on..things like my own boundaries, what I would tolerate, what I would not. What kind of "ship" I wanted, relationship, friendship, etc. I am at a point in my life of building how I want it to be not what is expected. I am finding from my own searching …
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/24 12:50 PM
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He remarried his ex...with all the girls throwing themselves at him..dam Phil...wtf ??
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/24 05:33 PM
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After a divorce..these 2 words ".future wives" will never be something I put together again. Why would you even think about potentially reliving this ordeal.
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/24 09:52 PM
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Super red flag...
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/24 09:50 PM
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$450 per hr.. 10k retainer everytime Divorce cost me 80k in total 2yrs of back and forth. Remember.. It's not the cost.. it's what it's worth..
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/24 07:50 PM
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Feel for you brother.. I found out about her affair during covid Some shit..hers was going on 7yrs with the guy and She would do all her fucking aroung when I was traveling. I was together 31 yrs and have 4 kids. Luckily my youngest was 15 at time.my others where over 18. I was devastated...these is part of the journey I was denial ..this is part of the the journey Few pointers : She will never admit it and will blame it all on you. Also first thing is to forgive yourself. As we all fall in love…
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/24 01:21 AM
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Freedom to do what I want , with who I want, where ever I want. Peace of mind No one to answer to No more mall runs Dont have to check in with anyone Dont have to explain myself to anyone Dont have to make sure "shes ok" No more dealing with her retarded family No longer confused ....
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/24 01:01 AM
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A win for the guys , we will take it
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/24 09:14 PM
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You dont want court.. But that's not something you want to show them They will use this to help you agree to things you normally would not - just to get it over with.. You dont show these cards, you show that you are willing to take it to a judge and make them decide. Show some IDGAF attitude- show a different side she is not used to..
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/24 03:59 PM
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U start my putting those comments in your briefing Highlight her instability and past issues and how you have a concern for the safety of the children. Use that to reduce her custody time. 80/20 Request Kids are with you and visits with mom are supervised based on her unstableness and on the weekends. That's your going in position, you must Weigh the odds against her and paint a story that she has to prove shes stable. She has go prove it's not true. That will force her to talk the assessment. I…
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/24 03:42 AM
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Soooo she didnt see the value you provided before the divorce, but after she had 4 male organs in her female parts she now sees that your "special". Wanting to come back does not fix the reason why you got divorced in the first place. Feeling sorry for someone else who caused you pain is disregard for your on self worth. No you dont take her back... She will be with 4 more guys later and continue her self validation run. Let her fiqure herself out. That's not your job anymore
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/24 10:58 PM
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All this hog wash ... You have been thru a divorce so have I If the person giving advice in this thread has not been thru a divorce they are not qualified to answer. Keeping this male to male First off.. If you want just some good times. To have fun with little and no baggage of expectations for long term let's get married , go to home depot together then.19 to 24 yes old. There Fun free and less jaded and judgmental, great body, have no sense of time and super flaky. If you want girls who are g…
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/24 08:31 PM
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Sounds like your not staying busy enough..
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/24 06:19 PM
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I have kids witb and ex but still practice zero communication Anything to with them I only respond via email. Also reponsed only with a few words.. Create your boundaries narcissist feed of your supply. Supply nothing, be emotionless, zero access to talk to you. That's how you win
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/24 07:16 AM
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The only person you forgive is yourself !!! That's it
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/24 07:12 AM
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Take it slow and just enjoy the moments . Hopefully you have healed from your divorce. Sex will be phenomenal, caution dont marry again
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/24 07:06 AM
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You must practice zero communication with a narcissist
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/24 06:34 AM
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No more mr nice guy The underground alpha Die with Zero
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/24 10:10 PM
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Book a trip to Thailand Take 2 of those and call me in the morning. Your need some vagina - with no strings attached - Dating requires emotional connection.. your not there yet. That's why you bail. You haven't not healed yet. It takes time, dating doesn't speed up healing.
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/24 07:38 PM
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I still have all my evidence.. Stored in a folder called LIAR Keep them as a reminder of what she put you thru. Dont re read them and re live it, wont help you heal. Also practise some boundaries- I have zero communication with mine. I dont even read her emails . Zero and yes I have kids with her. Dont re engage Shes died to me..my life goes on
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/24 02:57 AM
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Shes a narcissist Zero accountability Gas lighting you to feel guilty and then playing victim You are wasting your time trying to reconcile anything. You need to walk away from her. You cannot fix her . Shes toxic Been there my friend
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/24 05:46 AM
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Post divorce pussy.. It's a thing You will crush hard, because your free from your old life. Take it easy and enjoy it..we have all done it. 5 months from now you will read your post a d say wtf was I thinking. Just enjoy the time keep it light and fun.
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/24 01:25 AM
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Heres the problem Most men place all there "ships" in one women Companionship Friendship Courtship Partnership These are all the "ships" we embodied in our spouse When that ship sinks aka -diovrce hits- you feel lost All those ships where in one harbour and that harbor is now destroyed. You must learn that you can find other harbours for your "ships" Finds Friends , a hobby , reconnect with family, get a pet. Find a sugar baby , friends with benefits, girls to just have fun with , You have been …
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/24 01:00 AM
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Simple answer You dont deal with it because you dont care ..
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/24 12:27 AM
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I want sex I dont want a relationship Make sure you know what you want and dont confuse the latter with the former
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/24 12:14 AM
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Difference is lifestyle is not grounds for separation..your heading g down a slippery slope. You have the money, go travel what's stopping you ? She can enjoy the house you enjoy your life. If she wants to come great, go If she doesn't want to come, with you great , still go Stop appeasing to everything she wants without considering and doing what you want. You are self destructing . This will build resentment which sounds like where you are at . Do you !
/r/Divorce_Men07/03/24 05:07 PM
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There all so delusional .. Your will get this from your ex "Yes this happened and blah blah blah blah blah BUT [insert lack of accountability statement here] and [insert devaluing you here] I remember when [insert guilt tripping here] I have been with my wife for 30yrs and she had a affair. I have kids in the mix and regardless of this I have zero communication with her , zero ..I dont read her emails , dont send text messages , dont interact. Anytigh related to my kids she has to send via lawye…
/r/Divorce_Men07/03/24 05:00 PM
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Mine was 30yrs , 4 kids , House sold Her affair Finaincally destroyed me Emotionally irreparable On top that I have to pay her support (cs and ssl Cause I earned more Slowly rebuilding, remember you built it and you can build agian... Its unreal how stupid this system is .. Yes it gets better Once the divorce process starts.. you must get a lawyer. Her crocodile tears makes you weak.. Your free from her bullshit is the reward...there happiness is that..money can always be made..
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/24 03:36 AM
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You mean "accountability " No you wont get that at all . So dont bother waiting for acknowledgment Focus on accepting it wont happen and move on with your journey.
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/24 04:30 AM
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Ask for a financial audit and trace where the checks are being deposited That's all you have to do.. Then claim she is using martial funds and maliciously spending it. Let her now explain herself
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/24 10:17 PM
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So you want to wait 3 yrs to end it ? Staying entangled and keeping lawyers draining your bank account with the back and forth.. Sell it all...everything and split it.. Then just build like you did before. Sounds like you haven't accepted it's over
/r/Divorce_Men21/01/24 04:23 AM
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Yeah once co mingles it's part of your marriage. Example ..take money from your account and pay on something you acquired before your marriage. It's considered a martial asset. Names and titles and whe you got it does apply in family court. Only if it was inherited and you kept not separate.
/r/Divorce_Men20/01/24 02:17 PM
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I dont know you live but putting her name on it or off it does not matter..if it was acquired during the marriage it becomes marital property and she will get half of it. Doesn't matter who purchased it Doesn't matter who pays for it The safest bet is to purchase everything and place it into a trust. Have the trust as the listed owner on the title. The key to not losing anything is not to have anything in your name
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/24 03:06 AM
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Ypu will have cs for your child until 18 - if hes going to college your on the hook for it. Your condo..she gets half of the equity and your 401k. She does work she does work...blah blah .. What does her taxes say...that all the courts are going to look at. If shes listed as a business owner she has income. If shes on anything with zero income your gonna pay SS. Offer her a buyout - half of your 401k and extra from the condo sale.. start there.
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/24 01:18 AM
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Your Daugherty sounds just like mine.. She communicates well. You need to respond to her and let her know why u made your choices and that you love her. That's all you need to do...stop worrying about what your ex wife's doing. Spend time with your daughters.. travel 1200 miles and go see them.
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/24 12:52 AM
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Lawyer up..and get counsel Stay in your home dont leave Dont run to another vagina to lick your wounds Dont purchase anything major- freeze all spending It's going to get nasty - shes not your friend Be prepared to split half your wealth Be firm everything is 50/50 split - no exception Find some self therapy- travel, family whatever you need a out. Stay strong it's a marathon!
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/24 12:13 AM
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This is support ? It's all based on your income..sounds like you make more than her . 5yrs and it stops - lol Mine is indefinite - 3k per month to her
/r/Divorce_Men17/01/24 11:29 PM
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The #1 thing all men must do is.. Forgive yourself Without this you will never move forward on anything else
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/24 02:59 PM
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Keep your girls from those toxic people. Your girls will be your strength - so protect them at all cost.
/r/Divorce_Men12/01/24 09:09 PM
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We been there brother Get a lawyer... Everything is split 50/50 Reduce you contact with your STBX She is not your friend Yes it gets better.. Start a journal and Express your feelings in the journal. This really helped me ..for when I read the entires 2yrs lafer . I have seen how far i have come. Stay strong..update us often You got this ..we got your back !!!
/r/Divorce_Men12/01/24 04:11 PM
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The only thing a relationship is good for is building a family and raising your children If you have done this all ready Why do you need it ?
/r/Divorce_Men12/01/24 03:51 PM
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Dont date...its a waste of time Your not healed yet. Take a trip to thailand, costa rica and the other well known single destinations. Have fun Spend some money and enjoy the girls there Get a recharge and clear your head . Finish your divorce...dont date anyone Hit the gym , get a dog ..don't date you are not emotionally ready for another women's problems
/r/Divorce_Men11/01/24 09:38 PM
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What I'm I asking a lawyer ?? How to stop paying SS ?? LOL ..
/r/Divorce_Men11/01/24 09:28 PM
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For USA citizens you pay income tax on your global income . I am not a us citizen
/r/Divorce_Men11/01/24 05:27 PM
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Yes thanks for this. For clarity I'm talking about spousal support not child support. Child support ends next year for me. This is related to spousal support Guys am sure there is a process My point is - it's a long process..Canadian court , usa court the court systems themselves will take years to know what the right hand is doing. and then to find out which state I am in..this would take years or back and forth with 2 different attorneys. As far as I'm aware enforcement of spousal support hard…
/r/Divorce_Men11/01/24 05:19 PM
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Love this..
/r/Divorce_Men11/01/24 03:56 PM
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You first must forgive yourself... That is the first thing you must do !!
/r/Divorce_Men11/01/24 03:55 PM
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Hell no... You dont leave the home Tell her to leave..dont leave ..shes drunk..call the cops file a report ..then put a restraining order on her and force her to leave . That's how you play it.. Force her out...you stay with the kids.. Tell her she can come visit.
/r/Divorce_Men26/12/23 05:46 PM
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Yep...just me, myself and I Keep worrying about what people think and you will never leave that dark place .
/r/Divorce_Men26/12/23 05:01 PM
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You earn more...you will pay support Simple as that .. That support will be in the form of child support and spousal support. Half of all the assets will be split .. All the other stuff is just noise and legal fees.
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/23 03:38 AM
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Been there my friend... Order a Forensic Audit and just follow the money..this will show shes got other accounts . If money is there then its still considered part of the martial asset. If she spent it with no trace meaning she withdrawl it . Then label it as malicious spending and state she recklessly spent family funds.
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/23 03:09 PM
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Support is based in income.. Are you sure she earns more than you? Are you sure shes even working ?
/r/Divorce_Men17/12/23 02:30 PM
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Are you expecting her to say she ,sucked him off and he fucked the shit out of her ?? Not gonna happen.. Dont ask questions to comfort yourself. You know what happened. No girl stays at a guys house without getting fucked. Now that we have established that your guts always right.. she needs to go.. Go a lawyer.. Dont move out.. Get prepared to sell that property..and spilt the proceeds. If you purchased while married to her..its considered a martial asset. Prepare for her to get half. Work the n…
/r/Divorce_Men14/12/23 04:25 PM
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Religion has nothing to do with divorce..lol Why are you even considering getting married ?
/r/Divorce_Men10/12/23 06:10 PM
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She has rights to access the matrimonial home . With notice .. Your cannot lock her our or change the locks
/r/Divorce_Men01/12/23 01:43 AM
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You have to ask a women to stop talking to a other guy. Bro..listen to what you wrote here.. Your marriage is over.. she already left the relationship and your now begging her. WTF ?? Next step for you.. I would stay unemployed for a few months.. Get a doctors note saying you cant work due to stress .Get the business evaluated for what its worth Then file for divorce Get half of the Business and have her support you with alimony since your unemployed. Dont think its right? That's exactly what sh…
/r/Divorce_Men30/11/23 07:13 PM
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Yep alotta dudes shack up with the new girlfriend right after divorce... NEWS FLASH Shes doesn't have to say "I do" She can also still get half ..
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/23 07:27 PM
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Heres the reality.. Bank account balances Income verification are required You cant just refuse to provide it Receipts are not something I recall providing unless shes trying to prove malicious use of funds. ..sure you can decline.. she will raise a motion for you to provide and highlight that you are hiding funds and blowing money that's why you wont comply and cant provide proof where funds went. No is does not matter but its about painting a picture. Financial disclosure is required, Raising …
/r/Divorce_Men28/11/23 10:16 PM
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If your going thru a divorce and it has not been finalized by the courts ..you select.separated If its finalized and granted by the courts you select divorce
/r/Divorce_Men25/11/23 07:55 PM
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First Get lawyer.. Second Her tax returns will validate her income Your asking her??? Bro get lawyer...income disclosure is required and is proven from both your tax returns. Third.. Get a lawyer..this is not.something your gonna fiqure out. You have no idea what's coming Get a lawyer my friend
/r/Divorce_Men25/11/23 05:16 PM
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If you cant provide evidence of where the monet went.. It will be labeled as malicious spending...her lawyer will paint this picture about you. Funds showing in your bank account,,,then being withdrawn in cash without any trail l of where it went is malicious spending. Gambling, drugs, whores, are all habits money can get blown on..sure .but you dont want to say you blew it on these things ...then your coparenting and child safety will come into play by her lawyer and now your really screwed. Th…
/r/Divorce_Men25/11/23 05:09 PM
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Divorce entitles her mom to half Finish that.. Then setup a trust and your daughter as the irrevocable beneficiary.
/r/Divorce_Men25/11/23 02:07 PM
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Mine worked but same story .. Dont give her shit...voluntarily ..lawyer up 50 split on everything including custody. That's the hill you die on.. Impude her income to what she could make. Shes not your entitled wife anymore Shes a single women trying to take you for all you got.
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/23 07:32 AM
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Instrusion upon seclusion..its a criminal offense Look it up
/r/Divorce_Men23/11/23 01:57 AM
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There are no normal females signing prenups Which guy is asking his soon to be wife to sign a prenup. It's for people who are mutl millionaires, Hollywood actors and billionaires. Before they get married. Its not for me and you..the regular guy.
/r/Divorce_Men23/11/23 01:53 AM
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There are millions of us my friend We all have to pay her for her lack of loyalty. We have been there...some of us are further along My one advice to you..dont ponder on why she did it. You will never get the answer. Focus on yourself and getting your financials in order Consider her as just another bill to pay. Like a phone bill. She is useless now - you can still progress and make your life how you want it to be. Stay strong , visit family , travel , dont try to understand why...
/r/Divorce_Men23/11/23 01:22 AM
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Lol yes - prevention is the best cure.. Remember most places have a common law rule shes doesn't have to say I do...if your living with her for xxx then shes considered common law and then she entitled.. Check your state or country on that.
/r/Divorce_Men22/11/23 01:17 PM
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It's not about forgetting passwords .. Foresenc audit will show the funds where moved out from you account. The amounts and dates Forgot password...?? Really ,,seems like your hiding funds .(in judges mind) Doesn't matter.. for equalization to happen they will just pull it off another asset. Meaning yoir portion of House equity, stocks, 401k., Or increase your support payments to make up for it. The only way shes doesn't get it is if it wasn't there in the first place. Dont try the gambling rout…
/r/Divorce_Men22/11/23 01:09 PM
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No pre pups.get over turned ..that's pre nup stuff is all hollywood Trust is what you need Put assets into a irrevocable trust Place properties into LLCs Have LLCs be .owned by the trust Get a universal life policy. Make it payable to your irrevocable trust Create a bank account and make it a trust account Move funds into there .. Has to be trust Has to be irrevocable Make the beneficiary your mom/dad etc No assets in your name - zero No car, no home, no cottage, condo Sure you can have then but…
/r/Divorce_Men22/11/23 04:14 AM
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Women dont get remarried ..lol Why would they end the free cash Doesn't matter if it's in your decree Mine is indefinite- Yes surely you can get it adjusted But you gonna be back in court.
/r/Divorce_Men20/11/23 03:15 PM
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First off... Congrats on surviving Second make sure your healed As for apps Take is slow and have fun - I have personally tried and recommend one of the 3 below Bumble., hitch and badoo Again just have fun and enjoy the company Dating post divorce takes some adjustment and that's more around you being clear in what YOU want to yourself. Havig Company is one thing ,getting into serious relationships is another thing. So just be clear on what your really looking for.. If its " I dont know what I'm…
/r/Divorce_Men20/11/23 01:43 AM
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Yes Jim is wrong.. If you file your bankruptcy during your divorce It freezes your divorce proceedings Why ? Because filing for bankruptcy brings in the federal court which supercedes family court. All assets become seized and all debts are collected. These have to get resolved before the family court process can resume ' since the asset split will be based on what you actually own after the bankruptcy and your debts. Also there is a loop hole I will expose .. The equliazation payment to your ex…
/r/Divorce_Men20/11/23 01:04 AM
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30yrs...together I'm 50yrs old 4 kids I found out about her affair - (mind you not the first one) I ended it..refused to put myself thru the disrespect Last child is in support till next year , others are over 18 so there not part of my support She got 300k from the house in cash with zero debt and I'm paying 3k SS and $1500 CS. Signed the papers last week and court order is being processed for our agreement. Lifetime SS based on the length of time we been together. The SS calculator showed my r…
/r/Divorce_Men20/11/23 12:47 AM
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Your going to trauma bond Dont do it ..
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/23 12:47 AM
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Ur sugar daddy potential 👌🏼
/r/Divorce_Men31/10/23 02:05 AM
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You will pay support based on the table amount. Which is based on how much you make from your tax return .every state has a table. You will be shown the amount your suppose to be paying. All what you mentioned has no bearing on support. Dont let anyone get you confused. What you paid,, what she did during your divorce , thats shes a alcoholic blah blah blah. This only comes into play if she is abusing your kids and you can prove it with police reports. Her lawyer will say - you drove her to beng…
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/23 02:26 AM
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It's a shit show.. Laws take over and you must ride it out. Once it starts it cannot be stopped Confusion, anger, disappointment, pain Imagine pulling out each one of your teeth, one by one with no anesthetic, while being on a roller coaster ride , blindfolded and butt naked Yeah that's what it's like..
/r/Divorce_Men29/10/23 02:47 PM
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This guys been divorced ^
/r/Divorce_Men29/10/23 02:42 PM
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No I dont think this the correct approach. Building a family is important to your growth . Thst said...there specific things that should be done to protect yourself if divorce happens Pre nup is not enough..and most women wont sign it. This stuff only works in Hollywood .I have learned certain things since my divorce that I will teach my boys that will protect them that a pre nup wont do.
/r/Divorce_Men28/10/23 05:26 PM
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You guys need to read up on family law. The matrimonial home is both parties. No one can kick anyone out period. The only legal way is a court order related to domestic abuse. Go back to your house...go in the basement Find a empty room File for divorce- you will be not afford the upcoming legal fees, extising debt payments and payments to a new place. You have kids ?? The story will be you left them Dont do it...stay home , file and let the process take over. DONT MOVE OUT !!! Fuck what she wan…
/r/Divorce_Men28/10/23 05:18 PM
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She is owed her equity and portion of the home As long as you provide that she cant force you to keep the house. File a motion for the payout and removal of her name from the mortgage and title.
/r/Divorce_Men23/10/23 10:49 PM
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Commit ?? You want a wet vagina and some company That's doesn't require commitment Love free and let people do what they want and you do the same.
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/23 05:57 PM
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Never heard of that- courts not a document storage facility. Children traveling requires both parents authorization form signed. You can deny authorthzion the travel but courts dont save documents
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/23 05:54 PM
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Extradition ? Its support payments No ones getting extradited for supper payments
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/23 01:49 AM
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Ahaha classic narc results.. They will have you questioning your own reality.. Questioning yourself and what you know is true you have narcissist on your hands my friend. Educate yourself..these are all narcissist traits. Stop making up excuses for her.. shes not dumb shes not clueless..shes a narcissist, shes manipulative, shes self centered and they create there own reality and lie in front of your face if you call them out. They all fo the same thing. They have zero accountability, so instead…
/r/Divorce_Men16/10/23 05:22 PM
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No... Dont add new vagina to the mix It will alter your views. Finalize your divorce Get your head clear Smash if you want but be warned .. You will find solitude in that new vagina and that's not what you need right now. Finish your divorce .. Shes not the one...
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/23 08:29 PM
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Quitting your job doesn't work.. If it was that easy to get out of support...we all would do it.. If your support is fixed..you have 2 options 1.Make more money 2. Move to Thailand
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/23 08:23 PM
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Strongly Disagree ...what is this gonna to prove ? Shes already fucked some other dude and its confirmed What value does this provide ...what is he going to gain..? Let's see - Heres how the convo will go He calls guy Guy - yeah I fucked your ex wife, what are you calling me for .. OP - Well u just wanna know if she has feelings for you? WTF .. Fuck no ..dont simp yourself to digging thru phones and confirming I'f she swallowed . What's the point . Move the fuck on
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/23 04:37 AM
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Let me guess your trying to reconcile for the sake of the kids and the keeping a family . Doesn't work .. You had a inital issue that drive you to separation now on top of that she hads fucked her ex. Not even a new dude..she reached back out to a old flame and spread her legs instead of trying to work it out with you. I would not try to put back together the glass that cut my hand...its now garbage . Move on...
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/23 04:28 AM
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That's where the majority..of divorce.cost go..
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/23 08:45 PM
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Yeah ..what the damage
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/23 08:15 PM
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Bingo !
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/23 02:10 PM
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USD currency NORTH AMERICA region
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/23 01:39 PM
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100% once the lawyers see you have assets ..its GO TIME ..
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/23 01:04 PM
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News flash .... You know that funny gut wrenching feeling your fighting. Guess what it's TRUE... What are you going to confirm.. I see so many guys still denying this obvious. If you catch him and her..she will say she was just there to help him with some "xxxxxx" and nothing happened . Your the problem and dont trust her Classic excuse. Your looking for confirmation..you wont get it. Unless you have a video or audio of him fucking her. How is that gonna help you. It means nothing in family law.…
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/23 12:52 PM
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Many factors my friend.. Mine was 85k ...lasted 2 yrs Back and forth emails Pre trial prep Mediation Appraisals Motions It's not the cost it's what it's worth
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/23 07:33 PM
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I'm having fun with someone who is fit, fun and, loves to fuck, has no reason to want to get married, have children or settle down. Everything.is firm and they just want to have a good time and talk about nothing important. That's what I'm doing with younger women. They seem to live this way. Find a older one that does this and I might be intrested . We are attracted to there YOLO lifestyle and free spirit..first and foremost. There Age just happens to be younger...
/r/Divorce_Men30/09/23 12:24 PM
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I approve this message
/r/Divorce_Men30/09/23 12:20 PM
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Either you tell your version to your children or.someone else well. It my not even be your ex wife telling them there version.. so your responsibility as a adult is to tell your truth to your children . The way you explained it here , do the.same with your children Theres a saying " tell the.truth even if it makes your lips quiver"
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/23 03:08 AM
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I'm planning on moving out the country South Amercia to be exact. Slowly getting rid of all my connections and items. It's not about starting fresh its about continuing the story..!!!
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/23 07:48 PM
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Invite over some friends over to celebrate the new place. Why are you there alone on your first night. Celebrate the milestone. Shes gone..let her go..she loved what you provided , not loved you for you...leave her be.. Celebrate !!!
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/23 03:45 AM
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Its simple.. Define the equity- get it appraised Whatever the equity is left after the mortgage is paid she is entitled to half. That's how it works
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/23 02:20 PM
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Afraid of the unknown..that's all that is We have all been there my friend. Dont be afraid to end something which just gives you pain for the sake of the kids and losing some money. Kids will always want to be with you if you where a good dad. That's natural and I'm seeing it post my divorce. Money can always be made. Things re purchased. Actually my divorce has made me realize what I need and what I actually dont need. I divorced my wife after 30yrs and 4 kids - after her 3rd affair. Once she b…
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/23 02:03 PM
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Remarry...ahahha wow do guys actual repeat this ordeal. Ok lemme give it a shot.. 20yrs younger, a Entrepreneur, no kids , well travelled , super freaky , long curly hair, loves to swallow , can cook a meal , can hold a great conversation...has not been westernized, wait ..that's a unicorn I'll remain single ..thx Why would I risk the same outcome or remain stuck because I'm too old to leave. I'll remain single ..enjoy my freedom, travel and keep my various options , and create more memories I w…
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/23 11:07 PM
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Western women yes.. North America women yes.. Never get married..
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/23 08:33 PM
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I had the same demand.. The answer is no.. All items are property of the matrimonial home. This is called chattels .. Tell her to make a list of items she wants Along with how much it's worth. If she wants it and you dont..you will set it aside If she wants it and you want it..she will give the 50% of its value. It's part of home..period..no judge cares who bought it. So play this card to show her she cant just show up. If she disagrees on the value..tell her to get it appraises. (Let her spend …
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/23 08:25 PM
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The first wet hole you plug into post divorce is gonna be the best ever...you can't believe it shes Amazing, we click , it's great chemistry..yada , yada You just been starving. Dont confuse yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men28/08/23 11:50 PM
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Left my wife after 30yrs and her 3rd affair. Hardest thing to do..but I deserve better You can do it... Stay with family..u need support and strength
/r/Divorce_Men28/08/23 04:17 AM
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Date for fun, excitement, good vibes and to remind yourself of your worth and your a catch. Do not date to fix anything from your divorce Do not date to show that you can get women Do not date to fill the void left from your Xwife Do not date during your divorce I have kept my girlfriend experiences at a casual FWB level. We hang out ..I cover dinner, we smash and reconnect when the time works. Spend time working on yourself, your career, your business, your kids, your income. So many guys run t…
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/23 05:29 PM
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Bingo...this is exactly how it goes.. Been there ..did the same..worked out the same Let her go man..she doesn't deserve you. Remember you made her..she didnt make you. All her fairy tales will crumble once you walk away. Because it was all built on your relationship with her. Read that again..you taking care of her allowed her to have the affair. Once you walk away her affair wont have 2 feet to stand on. It's the law of the universe..u dont have to do a anything. She will be served with loneli…
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/23 06:40 PM
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Women age like milk Men age like wine My ex wife is a fat out of shape , toxic female There peak is 25yrs old ..then it goes downhill Our peek is in our 40s if you take of your self.
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/23 09:11 PM
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Why would you not comment and correct people ?. It's one thing to go out and tell everyone about her affair It's another thing not say anything..correct people and remain a person of character
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/23 12:40 PM
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Welcome.to the divorce machine. When you earn more your penalized
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/23 12:33 PM
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If you have equity is the home...cash out...that's what I did . Rent and have the kids move with you ..then once they move out rent a smaller place. Your not adjusting your lifestyle but expect not to get pinched . You have additional debt now. There no magic potion here.. Either.you make money or you reduce your debt load..
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/23 12:29 PM
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Covering up the lies is what females do.. . Grow some balls Tell your kids the truth and stop making up stories. Kids can deal with the truth . Your the one still playing games. Dont follow this ..who ever believes.your helping your kids by not telling them the truth your incorrect and just extending the lies I have 17, 21, 25, yrs old, so not really.kids . But when my divorce started my daughter was 15 and I told her the truth. All what counts is that your kids know you love them and will anyth…
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/23 12:23 PM
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4 months...lol 2.5 years in fucking court . 85k in legal fees Still have to pay her support I have all the debt She got 300k from the house sale And there are people in worse positions than me..count your blessings my friend . Find happiness and focus on becoming the best version of you.
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/23 12:13 PM
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There are younger and better versions of her. Work on yourself man, women are attracted to single, fit, financially stable and confident men. If You dont have that , you will never feel a new women .so you need to start there
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/23 12:09 PM
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Sell the.house .... Cash out and rent for a bit
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/23 11:55 AM
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Emails only for me.. and that's cause we do 50/50 With my daughter No text No messages No phone calls No direct access Emails only.. Protect your space
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/23 03:01 AM
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Dont under stand your post..is this after supper payments ?
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/23 02:39 AM
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Mine did her affair with my youngest sons Best friends , dad ..for 7yrs and I gotta pay her support because I'm the bread winner.. Aha this system is retarded.. zero accountability for women. All because the system doesn't want to take them and we are left to support them These women are trash .no character and lack basic human rational Throw her out and get a lawyer. 50% on everything- that's it ..that's all , kids, assets, money. Cut her loose Focus on results , not the feelings. You will be b…
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/23 01:34 PM
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My value increased Found back my IDGAF masculinity
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/23 05:44 PM
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This is 100% accurate for me .. Imagine doing all what your supposed to and she still wasn't happy I learned...its not you..its her. She was never happy with herself
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/23 05:39 PM
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Counseling you should try.. Sounds like theres no spark Divorce is inferno so make sure you give it all you got . Travel, plan things , do you guys hang out with other couples ?
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/23 08:44 PM
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Con.. Everything is on hold..bankruptcy is at a federal level And takes precedence. You will have to wait until all the bankruptcy is over to continue the divorce. Since assets and debts would need to be calculated as part of the divorce..you need to wait till its completed. Pro.. If There is large amount you may owe her in equalization payments ..that Is a form of unsecured debit and can be bundled in the bankruptcy which would be written off. Alimony and child support obligations are not impac…
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/23 03:13 AM
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Yep ..What this guy said 👆 Someone's gotta pay for there summer home and it's not gonna be your STBX
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/23 07:59 PM
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Not sure how many of these comments are from guys who's actually been thru the divorce machine. I have..so few.points Yes loans are considered debt.. The question will be where is the money now How did you get the funds and what did you do with if...show the money triail show the deposit , what did you purchase.. What you gonna say you got 100k cash ..lol The forensic audit will put holes in the story.. Better things is to have smaller loans given..say 5k here 3k there ..then add that to your de…
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/23 06:00 AM
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Bravo... Your story gives us a strength.. Much love from all of us ..
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/23 05:49 AM
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Welcome..we all been waiting for you.. Yes it's all fucked because there is money to made on the backs of us guys . The government doesn't want to deal with them either that's why we left to pay them money. Getting married to someone who earns the same amount of money is not a good strategy...that's not realistic So if you get a promotion you shouldn't take it because your gonna earn more than her ? If you get a higher paying opportunity you shouldn't take it incase you divorce..?? Wtf Dont het …
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/23 05:30 PM
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Assume you dont have daughter... Name checks out..
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/23 05:21 PM
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Just stayed focused on my kids and other family members..sip on something to relax you. Try not to get into "what happened " or "what's gonna happen" with anyone. Just be present...dont interact with her.. It was hard but I did it..and you can do it Dont let what happened define you and change the relationships you have with your kids. Just go.. Everyone expected me not to show up..I did..it was hard but ..worth it..
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/23 01:58 PM
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Go.. Your not going for your ex wife Your going for your little princess I had to go to my grandsons 1st birthday party 1 day after my mediation after spending 2yrs in courts after she had the affair. Haven't seen her in person since I confronted her . Hardest thing I had to do.. I spoke with some of her family members. Respectively , I had no words for her...have your clear boundaries Be respectful and show the man you are. Your kids will always remember you for what you did..not what you didnt…
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/23 01:09 PM
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This guys been divorced ...nailed it !
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/23 03:28 AM
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Validation from anyone.. Pass !! Validation from a ex ?? Hard pass !!! If your wanting that you need to do some self work Women take zero accountability - so it's always going to be your fault. She will see no need to " take them blame" or even some of it ..100% reason is you caused it.
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/23 04:53 AM
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Throw all your marbles you have in a bag She throws all hers Courts dont care who owns what. All assets are spilt down the middle. Your in the weeds ...and will waste money on legal fees.trying to prove you paid for it , she didn't contribute. It's useless... It's all in the bag then divided in half
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/23 01:37 PM
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Trip to Brazil + Working out + zero communication with ex (email only)
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/23 01:33 PM
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There all covert until you understand there ways Once you understand there ways you can identify them If you haven't educated yourself they are all covert
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/23 02:34 AM
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Sorry- I would be living in Thailand- living on 1000k pre month. She would be kicking rocks..f that
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/23 03:43 PM
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The women you marry is not the same women you divorce...
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/23 04:29 PM
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85k in legal fees ...2yrs
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/23 12:44 AM
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Well said... Marriage is useless and benefits only the women and a billion dollar industry of lawyers, judges. The machine is only there for her benefit. Zero accountability for her You can work 4 jobs, cook , clean , take care of the kids, and fuck her so good as waits. Then one day she can get up and say ..I dont want this anymore. She gets half of your shit. Its ass backwards.
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/23 05:59 PM
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Yeah...dont wollow You need to play... We built this city...
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/23 12:55 AM
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Out with my kids today.. My oldest is working today so I wont see him So I got a text message My other kids are with me and I'm grabbing a bite Just enjoy the day...fellas Happy fathers day..
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/23 06:52 PM
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I stop reading after...My ex wife said...
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/23 03:50 AM
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No It's more like New Study Shows Approx. 95% of WoMen in US are Covert Narcissists
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/23 03:15 AM
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When my 21 year old son wrote on my birthday card " keep going , dont look back"
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/23 01:05 PM
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Do you know the financially implications of your divorce.. Support Asset split Who will get what ? You need to do your home work first.
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/23 01:07 AM
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You have read the stories and see what will happen if it goes sour. None of us saw this coming..we all felt she was the one.. Life changes my friend.. Simple answer..no I would never marry agian .. Would I have a relationship with a new women yes. I got what I wanted out of my marriage, kids, home, bbqs , family trips , there is nothing a new marriage can give me I dont already have or I didnt already experience. This only thing is a companion...and well I dont need to get marriage to find that.…
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/23 03:55 PM
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50/50 by default What is the concerned about your kids safety.. Unless theres previous self harm, drug, violence from your STBX is gonna be 50/50 and that's with a fight. You need to start there
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/23 05:21 PM
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Dont worry about moving on.. that will come Focus on getting the divorce over with .. Getting yourself a lawyer Once the fog starts to clear focus what you want tou lifestyle to be.
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/23 04:57 PM
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Spousal and child support are based on your total iincome and table driven...you make xxx your suppose to pay xxxx Child support is not negotiable as part of your decree or mediation. Spousal support is based on many factors..
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/23 02:07 AM
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Whenever the snap shoot is taken for your financials ..you need to have more debt . Offloading debt before financial disclosure is not recommended. I kept all mine...just to minimum payments
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/23 03:43 PM
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Thanks bro...keep going !!! We love.it
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/23 05:02 AM
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Who pays what doesn't matter Who's on title doesn't matter Once you got married,,,what ever you owned becomes matrimonial property. Since it was acquired before your marriage Equity gained after you got married is what Shes is entitled.
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/23 04:58 AM
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Married lawyers ...guiding us on the divorce process..what a joke .the whole system is ass backwards.
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/23 03:10 AM
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Put a full list together.. Decide on what you think each item is worth If anyone wants to keep the item - they have to buy out the other person's value.. For me I didn't give a crap about the chattels ..that's what items from the home are called Just buy new stuff , the fight is ego and a sense on control....This is not time to spend 2k on legal fees for a $500 item.
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/23 02:55 AM
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Hit the Gym...its the magic sauce
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/23 11:34 PM
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Shes a narcissist.. Educate yourself
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/23 09:00 PM
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You leaving ... Her lawyers will position this as "you left" "the divorce process is all about optics...not the truth" Stick it out in a separate room or basement. Tell her to go stay at her mothers or girlfriend so you both can get some space.. Let her leave...you stay put in the house.
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/23 09:01 PM
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You need to think further down the road.. Are you selling the house ? Are you renting ? Are the kids visiting you ? Dont set a precedence where your "visiting the kids" Who's paying the Bill's for this house ? Is she contributing to the house maintenance if you leave ? I would stay..its tough..but make her leave and stay with her parents or some shit. Stay put..until the house is sold..keeps things leveraged.
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/23 06:46 PM
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Heres how the story goes... She will fuck one of those dudes.. Get caught .. Destroy her husband's world Destroy her family .. Kids will need therapy She will Get a lawyer ...file for divorce She will Get half of her husbands assets + support Her affair will be blamed on her husbands "lack of attention " or whatever excuse she can come up with. Her lawyer will weaponize her children She will get child support Husband will be financially destroyed and emotionally ruined taking years to recover. S…
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/23 06:14 PM
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Yep Welcome the the circus... Either you make allot more money that does not show up under your income..so she cant increase support Or You get a 1 bedroom condo in Thailand The machine is set to make us support them instead of the machine..that's all this is about
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/23 04:40 PM
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You need a support mechanism You needa output mechanism That would be close friends.. Some friends can be both Trying the go thru the emotional alone is not recommended. Hit the gym, travel, find ways to relieve the anxiety and stress. That is what I did
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/23 12:47 PM
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Acquire zero assets during the divorce process Debt is fine ...assets are a no no .. It all goes into the bucket for equalization
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/23 12:40 PM
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Your lucky.... You have no kids which you would have to support And some of us have to pay life time maintenance support. Get a lawyer, request a court date and be ready to give up half of what you have acquired in assets . Worrying does nothing, your in the divorce machine now and theres nothing you can do but survive it.
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/23 12:36 PM
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Who cares what she wants.. You wanna have sex with the person your divorcing ? How does this help you separate? I'm confused on the benefit YOU get Stop thinking about what SHE wants.. Shes not your responsibility anymore.. Dont let your bottom head entangle you more.
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/23 12:27 PM
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Yeah your wallowing bro.. Think about what your going to do.. Not what your she didnt do..move past that
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/23 02:18 AM
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Educate your kids.. Moms playing victim card and will always do that. Sit your kids down and explain to them ..what you are paying to live , how much you earn and how much support is... I did this with mine so it is clear that your not a ATM and there is only a certain amount she can get. Dont be afraid to share your financial details with them. Being transparent only helps clear up what they think.
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/23 06:48 PM
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What are you paying your own lawyer for ??
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/23 03:49 AM
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It's just a tactic ... 50/50 on all assets..period
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/23 07:26 PM
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Cause... Now she has to fiqure out life by herself Her subconscious knows she cannot do it alone ... Her conscious thinks she can ... Ask her and she wont know why she is crying ..guaranteed Dont worry yourself..stop trying to fiqure out a females logic. Wont work using a male brain.
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/23 07:44 PM
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Thought dont go away...they get replaced Find something else to keep you busy Do things that make you happy If your Sitting around doing nothing- that's all you gonna think about.
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/23 06:08 PM
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Not clear ?? Sign what papers ? Serve her ass and get your divorce done .
/r/Divorce_Men28/05/23 02:08 PM
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And what are you doing ? What's keeping you busy ? How are you moving forward ? Talking about your exwifes dating life is toxic
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/23 09:55 PM
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Only thing you need to keep is your sanity and peace of mind and some baby photos of the kids Everything else is garbage..I chucked all of it. They will become triggers later
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/23 09:50 PM
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You will fail at moving on if you do not change Let we go ...accept it dont try to understand it Get rid of the memories...after your house is sold move out ...dont leave before hand Garbage all the photos of her ..keep just ones with your kids. Stay busy..we all work..that's just a excuse my friend Do things that make you happy . Gym , hobby , whores, painting , travell, what ever to take you thru the storm . Sitting at home in your room while your ex wife is being smashed by the new guy wont h…
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/23 05:14 PM
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After a divorce... New women cant fix you Another women cant heal you You must heal on your own and fix yourself. The pain is on the inside...only you can fix it ..
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/23 04:09 AM
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Sell the house... Give her share Rent .... Get ride of the parasite Once the lawyers get in her ears on what she "could" get ..everything changes So what you have to rent ..I did ...and I'm glad I sold
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/23 01:01 AM
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Bro the mere fact that your not sure what it is.. Means your not ready... Hanging out,having FWB , good conversations are all good things. All needed to help move thru your divorce. The problem is you haven't had time to fiqure out what you want....your just going with it... That's not what you need right now.. you need fo know what you want..
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/23 12:15 PM
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Book a trip to thailand .. Tell her you gonna visit a old friend . Give your hand a rest. Lol She can remain who she wants to be..... Go live yourlife..you dont need to divorce someone to do that. You just have to do what you want.
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/23 04:07 AM
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Waste of time..your playing games with a clown so you will just become part of the circus. 50/50 on custody 50/50 split on assets Nothing more nothing less...judges dont care about your banter and accusations. If it's not jeopardizing the safety and well being of the child. It does nothing..your just gonna waste time and money for nothing, lawyers will love the emotional responses it provides and just sit back while you both vent ...its useless.. shes gotta be smoking crack and disappearing for …
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/23 10:19 PM
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Funny... All us men try to do is keep the family together We stick thru there affairs for the sake of "family" We stick thru it.. These women just repeat there affairs...then file and we have to pay.. What a load of shit..
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/23 03:49 AM
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Just divorced after 32 yrs.. Tread carefully... Are you liable for support? How long ? Kids are are grown ? What does that mean Adult grown or in school grown.. Does she work or was a stay at home mom The minute you open up the can on divorce be prepared to get fucked as the male. Go talk to a lawyer and confirm what you will be liable for support wise..and how long. Once you start down the divorce road ..she will retain a lawyer and the system will make you take care of her thru support and ass…
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/23 06:54 PM
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Doesn't matter if you work and she doesn't 50 / 50 custody should be your default position Her lawyers will conjure up more stories to they and change that. Stick with 50/50 Children need to see there dad 50 % of time . Simple as that.
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/23 03:51 PM
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100% They know amount and frequency All my kids Your ex wife will play victim the whole time Dont hide the truth.
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/23 04:40 AM
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Shes been gone months ago , even years.. Your just seeing it now. You dont fight for people to wish to leave.. let them go.. You need to accept that..
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/23 11:39 PM
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2 yrs my divorce took I sold the house ..cashed out Gave her portion , renting now Now paying down the debt. Carrying the house + lawyer fees + support Nope sell the house. No bank is listening to the sob story .. If the becon score isnt jn the 650+ your gonna be at a second tier lender paying extra at higher interest rates. All for the sake of keeping the house.. Crunch the numbers..
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/23 06:53 PM
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All good..just go off numbers..and what makes sense... I had good equity and needed to cut off off the old and start new.
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/23 06:52 PM
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Previous income that varies..they will average Child your is not negotiable Spousal support is negotiable...try to get to mediation
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/23 06:49 PM
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2 yrs my divorce took I sold the house ..cashed out Gave her portion , renting now Now paying down the debt. Carrying the house + lawyer fees + support Nope sell the house. No bank is listening to the sob story .. If the becon score isnt jn the 650+ your gonna be at a second tier lender paying extra at higher interest rates. All for the sake of keeping the house.. Crunch the numbers..
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/23 01:26 AM
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Marry....?? Did you say Marry ????? Why ???? Do you read the divorced forums ? Educate yourself
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/23 01:53 AM
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1000% ..Well said..!!!
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/23 01:48 AM
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Post divorce this should be prescribed to all men So many men run into the arms of another women during there divorce just because they think they need companionship when it's just the need for some pussy. I have seen escorts and sugar babies post my divorce and I am not ashamed to say it...this has helped me tremendously. Yes, hitting the gym a eating right, finding yourself are all required but many seem to forget we are men and require sex. You cant just jerk off until your all healed. Thats …
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/23 02:01 PM
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Its only valid to use for income and support Separate, morals from law. Courts dont care what you do legally for a living I have been thru the divorce machine How does having a only fans impact her from being a good mother. It doesn't, lawyers will make you think it does to bill you hours that go o where. If shes making $$$$ then she needs to show this income and if it's more than what you earn she will owe you support. That's the only angle where her onlyfans come into play. That's how the mach…
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/23 02:27 PM
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DEFINE DATE ?? Means different things to different guys Let me break it down with a example Date V1= laugh , have fun, casual hang outs, meetup, grab a bite. Rough wild sex , no long term planning, no sleepovers, sex in back your car. Little to no discussion about your ex wife and your divorce Date V2: romantic talks, I love you let's move in together, meet my parents , put my IKEA furniture together. Kill this spider. Sex in her house or your house, talking about how your ex is a bad person and…
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/23 02:18 PM
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Pussy power is real bro.. That's how you got trapped the first time. It wasn't how great she was as human being You just wanted to smash her , you did, you got pussy whipped and BOOM fast forward shes now your ex wife.. Dont fall for that trap agian ..2nd time your the fool Go there, smash but keep your feelings in check. All that afterglow " I found the one" will come since you haven't nutted raw in a long time" dont get caught up in the chemical release after you nut. It shall pass. (Spolier a…
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/23 01:58 PM
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Wait...sooooooo You guys are on that forum trying to educate a females with a vagina that shes my be the problem Hmmm...
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/23 01:51 PM
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Perfectly prescribed.. We been there bro.. Shes served her purpose and is no longer useful That's how you need to look at it..
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/23 01:18 PM
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Your in your feelings No .. Send your mom Shes not your mother
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/23 03:56 AM
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Yeah...I'm lost..WTF on this one.. Your providing therapy to your ex wife who's a drug addict who prostitutes herself to support her habit. She needs to seek help ..that all you need to say to her as a human being and as someone who "cared" ..(notice is use past tense here cared. .NOT care for her) You need to grew some balls and tell her to get herself into rehab and you need stop being her cuddle little bear she calls after her crack high comes down and shes broke. She playing victim and your …
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/23 03:01 PM
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U need to crunch the numbers More importantly what's important to you Cash out and give it all to her Keep the cash and pay her long term I crunched the numbers and giving all my equity Made no sense. I can invest it and have my investments generate income to pay her.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/23 03:13 AM
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Mediation is not negotiation ?? Not sure what your calling it .. My CS, SS, Equalization, asset split all got negotiated and solidified in mediation. Do it there in my opinion. Lawyere cant negotiate there getting paid to win not settle for less. My mediator cost me 4k + my lawyer to show up for the day at 4k ..10k total for that one day when all said and done. Best 10k I spent since me divorce started. Lawyers are only going to banter back and forth and run up the billing hours. This is the onl…
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/23 05:40 PM
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Just did my mediation Super challenging 2yr divorce process Took 8hrs - all day Go in with zero emotions. Know what you want 5yrs from now Think about where you want to be Do not focus on the now. Fight for things you dont want - read that agian Then give it up..example: I want to keep all the furniture, then you give in and give it up Mediation is all about concessions and giving up Something.If you go in thinking you not gonna give up shit. Your gonna waste your time and money Also - dont be a…
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/23 03:40 PM
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She worked, didnt worked , you paid all the bills, names on title , not on title, mortgage in your name only , she whored around , she worked part time , you worked 8 shifts at 3 jobs and she slept all day , took care of the kids, renovationed the home and took care of her mother. 50/50 split...regardless ...just went thru it.. She has zero debt .. So it's never really 50/50 us guys still have to clear our personal debt that someone doesn't belong to her.
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/23 02:17 AM
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Yep..he has no idea what he is in far. Let enjoy the loving bombing It will crash and burn
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/23 08:58 PM
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Dont get her prego, dont have her move in with you, dont get married. All else is a go..enjoy.the good vibes.
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/23 04:34 AM
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Female with vagina = delusional
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/23 05:00 AM
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Yes congrats...the.refilef of not being obligated is worth the wait..good riddance enjoy.tour freedom
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/23 06:46 PM
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You know who achieved all those goals...?? You my friend .. You know who can achieve it agian You my friend.. We have all been in that moment of disbelief. It will pass Set a plan ..set some goals..stay with friends family to help get you back on your feet. Then get back to making some money...2yrs you will be back better then ever . We been there...its just the next chapter ..I'm typing this laying on a mattress in my house that's been sold. Its just a chapter , not the end...you got this !!!!
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/23 01:03 PM
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All I read is your heading.... I didnt even read the details.. The answer is fuck no
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/23 08:47 PM
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100% agree Single , divorced, physically fit , financially stable.. You can fuck anything between 18yrs old and 50yrs old. I'm finishing mine and my ex is used goods with luggage. No one is going to settle for her. This is why there so many lonely miserable divorced women They all thought there was something better on the other side and instead of building and growing the relationship they followed the prescribed false Hollywood dream of romance and love was with some other dude who just wanted …
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/23 02:25 PM
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Yes she works full time, makes 65k I make about 300k .. We share custody 50/50 with my youngest daughter who is 17.. So I pay 1200 as the offset amount for child support I used a mediator and negotiated the following. 2k per month to her until 2027 3k after 2027 and indefinite I rolled over some funds from my retirement to hers until 2027 like 50k She gets about 300k from the house sale I keep my investment condo which I will rent out on e it's done in 2024 By 2027 she will be a lost cause, she …
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/23 04:06 PM
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Narcissist
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/23 11:23 PM
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She will compare every guy to you and non will match . So she will remain searching for a unicorn. Women age like milk Men age like wine.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/23 12:07 AM
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Lawyers just rack up the billing hrs and take from what's shes gonna get They dont pay attention..
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/23 02:02 AM
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I have kids with mine Email communication only Respond only to messages regarding the kids Do not discuss anything else other than pick times and drop off times. No SMS No phone calls No whatsapp Nothing but email.
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/23 02:38 PM
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Narcissist require supply Zero communication If kids minimum thru email No they dont fix themselves it requires meds and therapy . Narcissist people had child hood trauma
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/23 07:05 AM
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Sell the house... Doesn't matter whose name or title. Is you lived.in it and was married. It's considered a matrimonial home She is entitled to half of the equity Only time it is protected is if was a inheritance before you got married. You will need to buy her out and pay her share Refinance or sell...see the fn house Also lawyer up..you will be on the hook for spousal support and child ..dont waste time , book a court date and offer her a buyout.
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/23 04:05 AM
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Lawyers are dragging it out and finding ways to add more gas.. Billable hours.. Send her a email directly and ask her what is hold up Lawyers are billed "while getting " divorced not before or after.
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/23 01:19 AM
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If its 50/50 parenting plan and your kids are not "independent " child support comes into play... based on your state guidelines and income. Also Be careful on that new baby shes popn out...if she claims it's yours..your paying for the new bundle of joy also...
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/23 06:41 PM
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You need a plan my friend.. Divorce road has a few major pillars Equalization Child support Spousal support Running up the Bill's and fileing for bankruptcy doesn't element child support and spousal support If your the bread winner your on the hook If you maliciously spend the money and create debt it's not gonna look good. You must slowly cash out and liquidate all assets. Move the cash into a irrevocable offshore trust. If she knows you have cash sitting somewhere her lawyers are gonna come af…
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/23 01:00 AM
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Feel for you bro... Most guys stick out there unhappy life for there kids. You sound really unhappy .. Take this from a guy in the middle of his divorce It gets fucking messy. If she does work and your in a no at fault state your paying support to her and those kids. Divorce will have paying for her lifestyle, sounds like your just drained and tired. Maybe you just need a romantic trip and respark some things . If your still having sex and attracted to her things just get mundane. Then everythin…
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/23 12:34 AM
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Third this...we been there bro...shes been a leach all along. Get rid of her ass...kids always see who is who. Become your best self
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/23 08:12 PM
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Doesn't matter who paid what...shes gonna get half.of all your assets. If CS is.in play it's off your income and the table So theres nothing for mediation unless your discussing something other than 50/50 SS Is something that can be mediated..ie..settled With a offer of additional assets or lump sum payment I'm hearding into mediation in 3 weeks.
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/23 07:10 AM
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You just see thru there bs now .. Benefits of a divorce
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/23 01:28 PM
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Guys are still searching for the holy grail.. It does not exist ..no women holds all what you require. This belief that one person will be able to provide all that you need is hog wash. That's the kool aid that made you get married. I Keep 4 types of women in my stable post divorce. I have found this has helped me keep variety , fun and options open. These are the four : 1 who is young and fit for good sex - inexperienced at life - You can teach her things. But great sex and youthful energy to k…
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/23 03:31 PM
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Support is based on income Equalization is based on total assets
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/23 10:13 PM
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You placed no context on your reason she is now your ex. Immicaable differences and a peaceful divorce - no issues- she doesn't want support..took nothing , wanted nothing but separate lives..sure send her a nice gift Anything otherwise..fuck no ..stop playing husband.
/r/Divorce_Men01/03/23 10:27 PM
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To Buy her out you have 3 options You refinance the house if you want to keep the house. (You wont retian the same interest rate) You get a HELOC and buy her out with that (additional payment on top of your mortgage) You sell the house The first 2 will have you paying more money out because yes you bought her out but you have just bundled your debt into the house. If your pay check to check now..with 1150 mortgage how much is your new amounts gonna be ? Certainly more than what your paying now. …
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/23 05:53 PM
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House titles have nothing to do with it...alotta comments from people who "think they know" Her having a affair..courts dont care in no fault states. I'm in this scenario.. Whomever is paying.the bills the courts dont care If she doesn't contribute courts dont care Bank doesn't care your going thru a divorce they want there payment. First - have him call the bank and see if he can defer payments . Skip 1 month let's say then Your dad needs to first get a lawyer . Raise a emergency motion for the…
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/23 11:41 AM
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Sell the house ..rent That's what I'm doing Get rid of that debt..all of the.debt
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/23 03:47 AM
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If it is considered the matrimonial home. Doent matter who's on title or pay the mortgage You have access to the home..believe it's within 1yr of leaving. You have to give advance notice your coming. You cant just show up I went thru the same thing. Dont nit pick. Make a list of what you want and work thru who wants to keep what . Believe Only if there is domestic abuse and a retraining order is in place are you not allowed without a escort. Lawyer up bro...get advice from experts who know the f…
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/23 03:21 AM
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Sugar meet my friend I don't enjoy the bar pick up crap. I dont have time for that. Not putting in so much work just to get laid. Bumble = chicks want to settle down ❌ Hynge= chicks want a husband ❌ Tinder = good casual fun ✅ Sugar meet = my best solution ✅ I have 3 girls I see on a regular They all work or in school , all between 21 yrs old and 23 years old. Everything is light ,fun, positive, no drama , and the sexual chemistry is amazing. This has kept my satisfied without any risk of it gett…
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/23 01:39 PM
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Your not ready bro..I did this and self sabotaged..you need time to heal. Dating is not required to feel healthy and wanted
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/23 02:06 AM
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This should be a required high school credit for all males in North America Court Field Trip 1 credit = Attend divorce court and take notes then provide a summary of what you learned when guys get married...
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/23 03:16 PM
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You have a prenup and no kids..lol Your not happy., release her Most of.us have to give half of our assets and pay support . You can make a clean break..So manu guys stay in a shitty relationship because there worried about being alone. Read this quote "Being alone doesn't mean your will be lonely"
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/23 03:47 AM
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I'm almost thru my 2yr divorce proceedings Its emotionally tough ..Post divorce ..im Not interested in any serious relationship. Sugar babies is the best middle ground I have found I have the same kind of arrangement . I give mine a allowance (that's the term) per meet up and it's perfect. We hang out for 3 to 4 hrs every weekend . We grab some food at a nice bar..order food, hang have fun, totally safe place to vet a little and because she doesn't know me personally there are no repercussions. …
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/23 03:18 AM
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Takes 2 to reconcile my friend..2 emotional mature adults wanting to move forward with there lives for the sake of there financial ,emotional and spiritual healing. That women you married and now divorcing may not meet those requirements.
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/23 02:45 AM
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Forget dating agian..I'm emotionally unavailable I just want to bang a hot young chick every now and then without the relationship part.. Yeah theres a app for that:))
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/23 01:22 AM
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Rule #1 Get a vasectomy..why ? Most married guys went raw for years Your divorced now and it's not your wife She will get pregnant your will eventually go raw. That's what your used to.. Rule #2 Dont overspend and try to impress her I did this on my first rebound Let her like you for you.. Rule #3 Dont fall in love and get re married Have fun, enjoy life , have many FWB
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/23 03:53 AM
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Well said !!!!!
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/23 02:40 PM
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I have a 16 yr old daughter who turns 17 this year I was with her mom for 30yrs . We are doing 50/50 with her We are going thru a nasty divorce. 2yrs in court so far. Sit your daughter down and tell her what happened ( no details) . I did this and had to hold back tears, it will hard but you must do it. Tell her What's going to happen ...divorce steps .. And What to your going to do..your plans The biggest challenge kids have at that age is not knowing what happened , what's gonna happen and wha…
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/23 07:40 PM
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Yes keep your ex in payroll and in your life .. Sounds like your still married
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/23 02:49 AM
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I believe- if they both if and cannot agree on who will take what property wise - the judge can force the sale. Things like kids , who has custody where are kids going to school would be considered. Also if one wants to keep one of the property assets and other does not ..the other spouse has to be bought out of there portion. (Refinance- cash whatever) Given property resides outside of usa jurisdiction Assume legal counsel in the other jurisdiction will come into play .
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/23 04:59 AM
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Bro your crazy The simple solution. Setup a trust..make it irrevocable Assign a trustee Place all assets in your trust- house, car, stocks That will protect your assets,, but your fucked support and if she gets pregnant- which she will Your paying child support Why do guys run out and get re married I dont get it All you really want is vagina from younger women. Travel and have them remain in there country. Go see them when you want and send them some cash. But getting remarried after divorce an…
/r/Divorce_Men17/01/23 04:07 PM
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My kids get it and she cant touch it
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/23 10:04 PM
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Create 2 LLCs in a state that has privacy laws Where You cannot see the owner. LLC 1 will own property and assets Purchase all my assets under that LLC LLC 2 Will generate income Place both LLC into a irrevocable offshore trust. Make my beneficiaries of the trust my kids. Own zero assets in my name LLC 2 will pay me no more than $20.000 salary from the business as income. Other Profits from the businesses will purchase real estate assets and hold under LLC 2 obtain lines of credit or pull the eq…
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/23 09:55 PM
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Get legal representation Do not matter what you did during the marriage. How you supported her what your sacrficed if she was on title for or contributed. She could have smoked drugs all day , not work. Her contribution or lack of means nothing . She gets half your shit. No kids ..count your blessings my friend . Give her what the law says and never say I do agian.
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/23 09:38 PM
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Mine is also indefinite. Either I'm buying her out or I'm relocating to south east Asia. She can kick rocks.
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/23 09:29 PM
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This is my plan..spousal support is a bitch to have pay ever month. I have some passive income streams as well and looking to build more. To me it's better have income streams to support my lifestyle and never have to deal her.. rather then hold the asset that does nothing and I'm stuck dealing with her. Remember in 5 yrs she can bring your ass back to court and ask for more money from you. The last thing I want is someone getting a portion of my future hard work. Get rid of her now... If you ge…
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/23 07:20 PM
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Females apologize ? Entitled parasites dont apologize. You can catch your ex wife with a dick in her mouth in your house and it will be.yoir fault. Dont hold your breath my friend... Me .. 30yr married and 4 kids older I caught mine in a 7 yr affair and played her the recorded tape of her conversation with her affair guy On those recordings... She states "how he is the most important person in her life" not me not the kids but him. After confronting her I told her to leave. She moved out and fil…
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/23 06:52 PM
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Bro been there.. Let me say this..shes trash get rid or her I'm in the middle of my divorce Sell the house first off Get rid of it. Use the extra equity you have to buy her out. Paying spousal support to a parasite who does nothing but wait for you to send her money is not something any man should endure. Get rid of her. The freedom of not having to pay her is priceless. I'm doing interim SC and I fuckong have it. Home goes up for sale this month and I'm planning out giving her a lump sum paymen…
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/23 11:04 PM
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Fwb bro...go have fun ..not sure what's the concern All we I would tell you is dont fall in love Heres what's gonna happen Your going to go..by the 2nd night your down each others throats. You will sleep with her and feel like a 1milllion bucks. Just enjoy her and the moment. DO NOT I repeat DO NOT fall in love with her first younger tail you sleep with . It's a standard trap all new divorce guys fall into. I am seeing a girl who is much younger than me and loves to please me. But I keep it as F…
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/23 10:49 PM
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Jesus christ....well I'm 36k in on attorney fees and fighting motions and 2yrs in and it's looking like court. 30yrs and 4 kids...gladly only 1 needs support To everyone reading this...the minute you file ..request a court date to see the judge. Then try mediation or whatever. You will not resolve it amicably. If you do .. your lucky...these women are trash They have affairs, get caught, then drags out in court to get all she can.. Fucking parasites.
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/23 11:51 PM
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Nope it's a few things Story..while in the middle of my 30yr divorce from my narcissistic wife. Had a hot 30yr naked in bed, no kids, firm body and all though she was smoking hot I could get rock hard. I could not believe it. Also we used condoms which I have never used with me wife. So you have stress of the pending divorce and then plastic on top of that .. I realized it's too much too fast. Take time to heal from it and work on building back up your testosterone by working out and getting hea…
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/23 02:36 PM
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Happiness is not a place it's a state of mind Enjoying someone's company is different Having female friends to hang with is different Having girls you just have sex with is different Once you believe "someone" magically holds your happiness and your only happy whenyour with them your going right back allowing someone to hurt you. No one should ever hold that key There is no greater feeling than freedom
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/22 02:16 PM
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Peace and freedom are better than conflict and toxicity. Loneliness is not the same as being alone. Your kids, family ,friends still love you..reach out to them, keep good postive company As for her fuck that lying, selfish parasite with a vagina You will be better without her in the end .
/r/Divorce_Men26/12/22 12:12 AM
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No Pay off nothing..all debts will be split 50/50 NFP will be calculated. I just pay my miniims Then you equalize.. Dont not pay off anything..you won't get any credit for for it. She will be on hook for all debts also..
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/22 10:10 PM
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Some girls ...what ??
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/22 01:16 PM
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Guys the message is never to get married..the message is understand what really happens.. Know how to protect yourself Example if your parents are going to help you purchase your house.. have them place it in a trust and then give to you. She has to work and she has to make as much as you do..or your screwed.
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/22 11:41 PM
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Cigars all around ...congrats..
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/22 12:38 AM
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Your ex wife is gaslighting you and manipulating you. It's not a game and it's not something you should not be tolerating. Shes discarding you l I also have kids with share custody. . But I have boundaries set. You allow her to sms you about useless shit stop it You allow her to speak to you a certain way and you allow it .stop it Grow some balls and tell her. " Unless its regarding picking up your daughter or an emergency." Your not interested is the conversation. She can go kick rocks . Dont l…
/r/Divorce_Men14/12/22 08:44 AM
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Lol....after a divorce... I will never deal with another women's emotional maintenance
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/22 01:21 PM
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First off women never admit there wrong .. So dont expect any such thing..all the guys here been thru that. She cheats, has no guilt , provides no explanation. You wait for her to say sorry..not gonna happen Second item You need to heal ..leave that parasite alone to her own demise Focus on yourself, meaning go do what you enjoy visit family , old friends, hit the gym. Dont stare at the 4 walls . You need to get over her . That's done by staying busy working on yourself
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/22 01:02 PM
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I'm 20 months in and going no where. Mediation got cancelled and I see she will Come up with something new to delay the next one. I'm asking for a trail date ..
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/22 05:19 AM
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I'm in the same with a narcissist 50/50 split with my daughter My contact with her is only email No phone , no text Limit email contact...to only child issues I drop my daughter off...dont get out the car Zero contact. These people are toxic
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/22 05:16 AM
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Thanks ..No this is not that case ..i actually just found out that her counsel is a civil litigator. So this may be there normal tactic. My point here is..I think pushing my divorce in front of a judge would help resolve this..and obviously changing counsel I think a judge would remind her consul that its family law not civil law A judge would clearly see the amount of disclosure already provided and confirm what's really neccessary valid.
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/22 05:24 PM
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Bro... I found a UID still in the package - prescribed to her from a walk in clinic when cleaning out my wife's shit from the home. Get this..she already had her tubes tied..what does that tell you ? The women are unreal ..dont trust them and be aware the rabbit hole gets deeper.
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/22 04:24 PM
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Women never admit to the affair.. It's always your fault
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/22 07:26 PM
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Bitter sweet.. Let it out my guy...its all good Move forward proud of the chapter you created
/r/Divorce_Men30/11/22 03:09 AM
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If you get remarried after a divorce u need ur head checked If you get remarried to same women your a loser. How low do you value yourself to take back the person who destroyed the first marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/22 04:52 AM
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Not sure what you mean ..you cant file for bankruptcy. ? My understanding is I can file single for bankruptcy. I have 90% of the the debt load. The divorce will be paused until the trustee clears all debt including any equalization payments since its considered unsecured debt. Why would I claim bankruptcy after the divorce? Claim it during the divorce before you agree to any equliazation payouts. I'm aware support payments are exempted.
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/22 05:50 AM
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We have all been there She has moved.on months before..women checkout You need to change everything Change where you go, what you do, where you live Who you spend time with. Hit the gym..stay busy, you cant just sit around in the same environment doing the same things.
/r/Divorce_Men16/11/22 12:06 AM
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Congrats brother..I debate the same around monthly spousal vs buying her out. I am doing my first spousal support payment today on a temporary support order and it sucks shit . I'm already cash strapped until my house is sold I cant offer the buyout until then . I think getting freedom from this mess and your own ability to bounce back should the things to consider. Happy for you !! Salu to your new life
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/22 03:04 PM
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Love.this.quote.
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/22 10:48 PM
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Karma is a bitch .. Funny my oldest daughter is the same She has zero tolerance for her mother and has not spoken to her in months once I exposed her affair. My oldest daughter choose to live with me and my divorce is still pending Its crazy I think another female quickly sees thru there bullshit.
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/22 03:13 PM
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Date after you separate. If you need a women while your going thru a divorce for anything other than sex your looking for emotional support. Which leads to a relationship, which leads to you not healing correctly from your divorce. Go take a trip somewhere. Get your rocks off and sort out your divorce. No STBX wants to see who is possibly a)going to get some of her money and b) take your attention away from her . Amicable sure...unless your wealthy no women will ok with living in the same house …
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/22 03:18 AM
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Wow real world solutions.. I love it its...thanks gentleman Yes this serves 2 purposes.. After I settle my divorce i plan on disposing of all assets.. house, cars, investments and cash out. Setup the structure and keep the income Level same...say 100k earnings . So every year when taxes are reviewed for any spousal adjustment. Nothing changes . I will show no new assets owned under my name and stll making my same income. On the back end .. I move all newly acquired assets under the LLC ..say new…
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/22 12:52 AM
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It is probably going cost you 5k in legal fees . Do the math ..cost should not outway the win
/r/Divorce_Men12/11/22 01:54 AM
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Never leave the house .
/r/Divorce_Men11/11/22 05:08 PM
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Cant wait for mine to be official Yes get a vasectomy - Get a new lease on life - FWB only...
/r/Divorce_Men10/11/22 03:31 PM
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Heres how it looks to the courts Wife and husband has martial problems Wife and husband live in the matrimonial home Husband moves out Husband abandoned family You have set the stage as someone who left
/r/Divorce_Men10/11/22 03:25 PM
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For Windfalls - have someone else claim it Go to a lawyer and sign a agreement to have the funds held in trust
/r/Divorce_Men10/11/22 03:22 PM
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It's all about weak men at top ..all afraid of there own wives. Not one of them have any morality to stand up and say this system is broken.
/r/Divorce_Men09/11/22 04:06 PM
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30yrs together ..4 kids ..home , stocks , assets alimony child support while still 18 months in the courts. First thing ..I'm selling my home, getting rid of all those emotionally connections. Second thing is I'm going to rent , sort or living arrangements for me and the kids. (Kids stayed with me) . Dating is not going to work post divorce. You need some pussy ..we get it , take a trip somewhere and order some. Do not find another female to emotional fill that space. You are wounded..you need t…
/r/Divorce_Men09/11/22 02:27 PM
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Before divorce ...this was priorities in order of ranking Wife Home Kids Work Friends Health Yourself Post divorce it should be ... Yourself Health Kids Friends Work Home This is what we mean...you should be first priority Do what makes you happy... focus on making yourself a better version ..
/r/Divorce_Men09/11/22 12:43 PM
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I interested to hear your mediation I am about to sell my matrimonial home and then go to mediation. I dont think it will make any progress. I am preparing to head to court . My spousal is 2300 (low end) child is 1100 (she's 16 yrs old ) I just signed a temporary order for interim spousal. Still have to deal with equalization This whole process and in justice for us men. With a whole system benefiting of our demise.
/r/Divorce_Men09/11/22 02:13 AM
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If you leave ur screwed
/r/Divorce_Men09/11/22 01:28 AM
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Verbal??? Wtf ?? Lawyer up bro..she has no respect for you
/r/Divorce_Men06/11/22 12:11 AM
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I have a few of these "girlfriends" Some knew my ex so knew of my ex. Use them just for that.. its emotional support that's all and that's it..of course feelings grow but keep it just like that. They call to checkup on me since I'm still fighting thru my divorce of 30yrs You need to heal and find yourself, you both have emotional luggage and both 'get it' . This does feel good as I have felt this also , but I refuse to get into another emotional relationship and rebound with these kinds of girlf…
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/22 06:07 PM
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Large or smalls , cash or charge I'm 35k and still not finalized . Pay it
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/22 03:01 PM
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No wife moved out..she does not live with me Yes my marriage is plus 20yrs..so indefinite has been calculated What is 60% of long term mean ? So you mean the remainder of what I would pay till I retire
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/22 11:38 AM
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Narcissist bro...in 17 months in my divorce There garbage ,trash. 30yrs together gave her everything and she was having multiple affairs Its not you that is broken its them. Always remember that. Money can always be remade . Happiness cost you nothing. Just get ride her as fast as possible. Zero communication, nada, it's all manipulative. Emails only and its regarding my youngest. These people are trash. Ca t wait to get it over with
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/22 03:49 PM
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Interested!!!
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/22 10:17 PM
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Buddy FV , DV, IVO ?? Expand ..no one gonna know what your talking about
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/22 09:45 PM
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Broooooo Are you serious??? Your considering getting your ex wife pregnant I will ask again are you serious . I can even go any further ..just stop
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/22 10:33 PM
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Yep..Gotta love your kids..they have been my biggest supporter..hugs for your little one my friend, funny kids are able to see things way before we can. Mine is 30yrs togther married for 20 - 4 kids - I remember at my wedding . My 5 yr old daughter cried the whole wedding. I literally had to hold her while doing my vows to my STBX and while I was signing the marriage license she was in my lap sobbing. I never knew why. Now she is in her 20s and she has been my biggest supporter during my divorce…
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/22 06:44 PM
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Mine was the same..agreed good riddance
/r/Divorce_Men17/10/22 09:56 PM
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Doesn't matter ..who paid, who's on title or mortgage If it was acquired during the marriage..she is entitled to half of the asset. Note she is also liable for half the debts. So make sure you do a full financial disclosure that will determine her full equalization Only inheritance is the exempted . Retain a lawyer for legal advice. Once you retain one its game on.
/r/Divorce_Men17/10/22 02:48 PM
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That's not what happens...what happens is you are no longer a husband , a spouse, a lover , a fixer. That person no longer exist becuaze that person died with the relationship ended. The problem is most men try to still be that person. You cannot. You must find and new version of you
/r/Divorce_Men16/10/22 01:12 PM
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Poetry right there ✅
/r/Divorce_Men16/10/22 01:07 PM
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Bro ..let me be straight with you.. Sell the fucking house a stop making excuses. Take and cash and rent for while. Everyones spent time and money into there home. Your emotional connected to a physical object. Think of your sanity and your freedom. The only way your gonna keep the house is buying her out of her portion. Which will increase your mortgage as you will have to use the equity in the home to buy her out.then requalify for the full mortgage based on your income. Did you do all those n…
/r/Divorce_Men16/10/22 12:52 PM
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U cant illegally record the conversion ..what I'm I Missing
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/22 10:04 PM
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Your wife is goofy .. Take the ass to court and get support She wont apologize so dont wait that. Focus on yourself and your kids.. Shes for the streets and someone else's problem
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/22 12:07 AM
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I'm in the same boat. My lump some is about 200k for equalization and home buyout. Then my.spousal support is about 3k per month. Indefinite. I'm 50 next year so "official retirement" is coming When I did the math - buying her out is gonna be at least 300k + 200k equliazation..shes gonna get 500k I struggle with giving her all that cash. I would rather put that money in a investment and use it to generate income to pay her. 200k shes gonna get but that 300k ..I'm like I can buy a condo in the DR…
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/22 10:57 PM
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Ahah yep it's not the cost it's what it's worth. Doctor's orders,,,divorce her ass let her go figure life out on her own.
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/22 01:04 PM
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Of course this is part of the process..lawyers goal is to slander your image as the bad guy. This is what led her to cheat. Zero accountability on her side and list of false accusations. Divorce her
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/22 08:51 PM
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50/50 is standard unless you can prove they are unable to properly care for the child. Like shes in and out of rehab and been arrested 10 times. As for the home..who ever wants to keep the house Has to buy out the other person's interest of the house , doesn't matter if shes on title or not. So you can refinance if theres enough equity and buy her out and keep the house. Or just just sell the house and split the proceeds. In my case, I'm on title and only one on mortgage but I still need to buy …
/r/Divorce_Men05/10/22 08:44 PM
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Ahah a little bit of.everything..
/r/Divorce_Men05/10/22 08:35 PM
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Anything acquired After the separation date is not considered communal property.. key word here is separation date, not when to argued not when you left. You need to be clear on separation date. Mine is stated clearly on my court documents. I asked my lawyer a very hypothetical question which I hope answers the question. suppose I won the lottery post separation . He said my STBX would have to prove that the money you used to purchase the lottery ticket was from a joint account you shared. So do…
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/22 09:30 PM
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You are looking for closure.. News flash..its not gonna happen Your a fixer and your looking for a way to "fix" it . It's not fixable, I struggled with this ..internally After a 30yr marriage and 4 kids ..she had ongoing affair. Aha your lucky mine is still fighting me in court 16months so far as if it was my fault. My kids stayed with me so shes even more mad. I tried to understand why she would do that...i learned you must let go of the why ..you must learn to accept that the person you marrie…
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/22 05:13 PM
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To add...I am not saying dont have FWB and side girlfriends. Dont get into any serious emotional relationship
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/22 10:33 PM
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You have not healed my friend Do not get into a new relationship Your still thinking about the women your not with anymore. We all remember the good days, but dont forget the reason why you separated. Take some time for yourself, replacing her with something new and shiny is not.the answer. Everything looks better after her..many guys fall into this trap and think they found the one and end up divorcing agian. Heal and find yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/22 02:01 PM
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Dont do it..
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/22 02:27 AM
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It's not the marriage that's the problem it's the divorce. She needs make more than you ..like wealthy or making the same amount as you do.. Otherwise you lose
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/22 02:26 AM
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File a police report.. Shes physically abusing you... Get it in record .. Then file for divorce
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/22 08:20 PM
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I'm there bro... 30yrs married .she had a affair. I make 4x her income ..I have to pay her 3k I can work remote I do a few side businesses that can cover paying her we have , 4kids - last one I have to to pay CS -(offset) Life time support for me - Suicide..no bro..your kids will suffer more with you gone. Keep that in mind. Your kids will be forced to deal with her bullshit if.your gone. That alone keeps me fighting I will fight till the death to ensure my kids have a good life and there future…
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/22 08:15 PM
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I saved a few pictures that I had of us or us and the kids and put them in a storage bin. Deleted all from my phone. Saved one of my wedding pictures on my phone (of her she was really As hard as it was - I thru out the rest
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/22 02:25 PM
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Bro...let.her go.. Stop trying to figure out why and who shes fucking Shes love bombing you then trama bonding, gas lighting, Sounds like a narcissist . We have all seen this same from our exs . Zero communication..and file.
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/22 12:58 AM
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Accept what it is..and Try marriage consulting You have young kids and she does not work. You will be paying support out your ass.
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/22 12:46 AM
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Thanks..yes I read this is not what they want since it's out of.there control and they are not able to manipulate the judge. I like that statement. I think my fear.of going to court is gone . I'm seeing that both lawyers are just billing and milking us both With no sight of resolution. Has anyone one reached out to theere STBX and tried to tell them we are both wasting money , we are not making any progress and they want to skip mediation and go to court. Its 8k for mediation and I'm like...why …
/r/Divorce_Men01/10/22 11:07 PM
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I'm paying CS..the.offset amount... I make 4x her salary.
/r/Divorce_Men01/10/22 10:53 PM
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Yes I'm doing the same.. let's chat looking some guidance on this also
/r/Divorce_Men01/10/22 04:13 AM
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Yep...all that money and will die lonely. Jeff is the winner
/r/Divorce_Men30/09/22 12:36 PM
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Trauma bonding..look it up
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/22 12:35 AM
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Second marriage...never Serious emotional relationship...never FWB only What purpose is it going to serve you ?? You need sex - become a sugar daddy You need company - invite your guy friends You need food - use uber You need your place cleaned - hire a maid You need companionship - get a dog Tell me what you need a women for besides bearing your offspring ..I will wait..
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/22 03:37 PM
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Narcissist traits.. We all got bamboozled into there tricks. This is a sick disorder and when the mask falls off and you refuse to play game they get vindictive When your a good spouse, husband, boyfriend, you try to provide any support needed to make things work. Its unfortunate that educating people and making this disorder identifiable as a mandatory practice in divorce proceeding is not even looked at. This society refuses to identify people with these disorders and provides a framework to h…
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/22 12:34 PM
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This !!
/r/seduction27/09/22 01:49 PM
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Dont confuse coming back as some sign that shes sorry.. If your x was narcissist she is coming back for more supply. Becuaze she cant get the same supply from other people.
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/22 10:29 PM
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Cheat code.. Buy a ticket to Colombia Spend 1 week and fuck ask much girls as you want. No relationship No aniexty No commitment Return refreshed Repeat until symptoms are gone
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/22 11:45 PM
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I'm in the same boat.. Mortgage and title is only in my name. I'm selling the house and cashing out. Then buy her out. Find a new place , new energy , new life The matrimonial home served its propose. Next chapter
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/22 12:45 PM
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150k each...?? WTF and your complaining 🤣 Means you are both equal Means No offset required on spousal or child support, Means you do 50/50 on everything and move on. Some guys are paying 4k per month on support becuase they make way more money. You should count your blessings my friend. Steps Sell the house.. Split custody Split assets Kids in public school It suxs because your still staying in something that's provides no benefit. . Move on
/r/Divorce_Men13/09/22 03:22 AM
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Eatables...relax and just listen to your favorite music.
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/22 09:35 PM
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Been there.. Intrustion upon seclusion (look it up) That's what her lawyer will claim its something your gonna have to fend off.. Confronting her does nothing my friend Your looking for admission, not gonna happen She will say she was meeting up with a old friend and you will get mad so she didnt tell you. Then you will show her your proof which she will make up another story /friend/coworkee/her girlfriends ex ..lairs will conjure up shit and you end up defending yourself. It's all manipulative…
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/22 08:24 PM
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It's a bumpy ride my friend..normal up and down days. You have to go thru it. I'm 15 months in divorce and fighting thru it every day. Spousal ,child, home , good you dont have to deal with these also.. As for post divorce I will never re marry again ..I will never allow anyone to damage me again after I have healed. Fellas be careful of the reboound girls, Yes it looks good to find a partner..but I will have friends and FWB but to every give someone my heart . I wont do it.. CE LA VI
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/22 03:49 AM
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Preach !!! When your a man..in your latr 40s , 50s you can still bang 25yr olds girls. Women in there 50s cannot bang 25yr guys..25yr old guys dont want 50yr old pussy.
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/22 02:24 AM
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Amazing...these parasites want half of everything except the family debt. I'm in the same boat..how.did you sell the home ?.did she have a designation on the matrimonial home. ?
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/22 01:54 AM
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Nothing is worth your happiness ...its not the cost of the divorce its what it's worth. That stress will shorten your life span.
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/22 01:45 AM
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We all came out of one...and spend our lives getting back in one..ahhaha we ahe hard wired.. The trick is get your goals and make your money.. the default outcome is women.. Never chase them ..do u they will be attracted to you.
/r/seduction03/09/22 12:57 PM
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Your unhappy because you are carrying all the weight and she has some kind of entitlement. Like popping out a baby is all she needs to do. Try marriage consulting..she needs to financially contribute to the marriage. She needs to go back to school or take a course. Get employed. If you divorce her now..the law will forice you to support her since she is unemployed. Speak with her , and get counseling first.
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/22 12:51 PM
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What's the point..?? To save you from your selve my friend.. When you start this journey and the amount of landmines your gonna face which you dont have the experience to navigate your gonna get screwed. Ask any one here who has been thru a divorce. I'm in the middle of mine....sure no lawyer if.. No assets No children No stocks No investment property No home No business No disparity in income Sure you can consider it and just log online to fill out the forms .she signs ..u sign done..divorced B…
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/22 06:38 PM
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They take on many names.. Ex Soon to be ex STBX Ex wife Ahah
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/22 06:18 PM
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Yes I tested out this model.. I took a girl out on a travel vacation few months when my divorce started and it was great. I found that most women will take a free trip.. we had great sex , seen some cool things and have a great time . Return and leave it at that..we are still friends but I dont want anything serious. Dont need a mommy to look after me and check in on me..lol That's for destinations where company would be great...then I took trips to places like brazil where you want not female c…
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/22 05:43 PM
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Dont get married... If your divorced dont remarry If your married and want to divorce her she better be making more income, you need to quit your job ..stay home and let her work and support you for a year while you take care of the "home and kids" Then divorce her. 21 to 25yrs olds for me going forward. Build a full lifestyle so that all a women can contribute to it..is providing sex and fun company. Girls that age want fun and good times..no babies..no marriage..no crazy drama. Over 30 and the…
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/22 08:04 PM
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That's called a parasite ..
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/22 07:53 PM
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I have the same scenario..just got my RSU appraised. Assume terminology will be the driver here Using terms like guaranteed or percentage without using as "long as you remain fully employed " will scrww you. How did you guys word this ..I have about 40k in mine so assume 20k would be hers.. Cant I say she gets the full 40k and word it in a way so that when I leave and forfeit them she gets nothing..
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/22 07:49 PM
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There is no give my friend... Let the court decide what you are legally required to split. That's what you should be doing. Give nothing..the taker will not stop taking so change your mentality on this Let me be very frank here..you are just caught up in new pussy and jumping into a brand new relationship is a red flag. You haven't even healed yet . So many guys think the fix is in some other women ..its not it's just bat shit crazy creature with a vagina. Stop letting your dick guide your choic…
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/22 11:48 AM
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21 yr olds have a tendency to do that ..ahah
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/22 11:38 AM
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The will a average your income
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/22 11:55 AM
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30 years..married 4 kids.. She had a 7 affair going.. I found out.. She left..and filed 15 months in so far ..35k Iegal fees spent. I'm paying for everything still in top of that.. She was toxic and I cant believe I stuck around for this long.. Cant wait to get this finished..I dont care how much gonna cost me..its not the cost my friend it's what it's worth.. Dont chase anything that wants to go..let them go Let them see what life is really about..you continue to be great guy you are and plan t…
/r/Divorce_Men28/08/22 08:32 PM
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Celebrate with some strippers ..get a cake with your exs name on it.. and send some flowers to her sister. Congrats brother.. score 1 for the good guys
/r/Divorce_Men28/08/22 08:22 PM
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My bread machine is ok with crumbs..
/r/Divorce_Men28/08/22 08:20 PM
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I would not piece meal it .. Bundle it all and sell at as a golden parachute It will be her windfall.. (that's how she may see it) All or nothing..that's my approach.
/r/Divorce_Men28/08/22 08:04 PM
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We have been there brother ..its hurts.. Take this with a gentleman hug and pat on the back. "Things dont happen to you ...they happen for you " You will flourish..
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/22 08:09 PM
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Hmm.. I thought about selling but I'm gonna hold on until mediation and trial approaches. Gives me better leverage. If I sell now money will go into escrow until we settle. The prize will be known. When people see theres 100k locked up somewhere ..and it's possible they and there lawyers will do anything to get to to the carrot. My ex moved out and provided zero help to the home Bill's. My lawyer did a great job in saying she gets no spousal support since it's being off sett by her portion of th…
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/22 08:04 PM
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I will never be a slave.to this jaded system where everyone profits from your hard work except you. Your left broke, having to pay your lazy self.entitled ex money. Your forced to work while she lives off your money. I will sell all my shit and move Thailand before becoming indentured slave.
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/22 03:04 AM
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Get a lawyer... She may owe you support if you have no income She could be paying you money every month Get a divorce lawyer yesterday. Not friends advice not what you think .. Ask the firm for a payment plan ..most will give you 1hr of Consultantion to hear your case. Get a lawyer my friend...I'm in the middle of.my divorce
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/22 02:27 PM
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We have been there my friend.. Your in toxic relationships and trauma bonded. File the papers and move on..dont worry about your work. People get divorced so what if your department knows. You gonna soon find out how many others are also divorced. This takes courage and you need to focus on what's the most Important thing thing. That's your happiness. I'm in the middle of my divorce and its 15 months in fighting thru courts and motion. Cant wait for it to be over. The.faster you get it over.with…
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/22 05:11 AM
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Cultural difference...you can pickup women easier any place else.
/r/seduction22/08/22 04:44 AM
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Congrats...freedom is the new wealth. He wont be able to fill those shoes and there lifestyle that you financed will come to a end. They should both thank you for the run
/r/Divorce_Men20/08/22 08:32 PM
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yeah There useless..those 4 places produce the best females.
/r/seduction17/08/22 05:55 AM
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Dont do it...you need time to heal. I dated someone 2 months into my divorce. I soon realized I was not ready to be in a other emotional relationship. I cut if off..I saw that.i was wifeing her. I'm 14 months in my divorce and I dont plan on dealing with any women at that level. I know some guys enjoy the company of a companion, but I will never let anyone come before me.
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/22 05:43 AM
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She needs to find a job. You are financially the only bread winner and doing all the work.. Sorry she plays video games all day ? She needs to financially contribute ..she needs to figured that out and help keep things afloat. Get financially stable then assess divorce. If.you divorce her now..depending on your state and how long you been married. You will be paying support to her. She needs to get herself employed to reduce your stress.
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/22 11:00 PM
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I'm going to be a global citizen..one women cannot support my lifestyle. Multiple loyal women ..all under 25 ..each bringing me enjoyment in there own way..all residing in different parts of the world. That age group is all about having fun, sex and enjoying life. Finding all what you need in - 🤣 1 women is unrealistic . Unicorns dont exist.
/r/seduction12/08/22 02:38 PM
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Dont put the cart before the horse.. Sell the house as part of the divorce..not before It's great she sounds amicable but things change quickly once her friends start putting shit in there ears.. Believe Equliazation has to happen...
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/22 02:13 PM
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Shes a narcissist.. Educate yourself.. on gaslighting , projections, tri angelation, manipulation. Its classic traits of a narcissist. Divorce her shes toxic.
/r/Divorce_Men11/08/22 05:31 PM
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Welcome bro...shes a narcissist..be glad you got rid of them.. there toxic parasites. I'm in the middle of my divorce and cant wait to get it over with.. there mask fell off. Go educate yourself and heal. It's a mind fuck job they do..takes years to recover. Hit the gym, change your circle , provide zero communication to her and give no more supply. You will revive yourself and change your frequency. It the words of Bain..."you will survive"
/r/Divorce_Men08/08/22 08:44 PM
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Champagne all around ..congrats..score 1 point to the good guys.
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/22 07:03 PM
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You make 660k she has inheritance and you guys are still broke..?? Wtf Your spending is the issue ..
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/22 08:32 PM
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31 yrs..4 kids...I make 4x her salary. It's tough, it's a headache but you can do this The next chapter will be even better , yes it's hard to see but once you remove her toxic energy and start living for yourself your life will be full and fun. Money can always be made, pay her ass out , go to Colombia and fuck some young women. Leave the trash to kick rocks. She is useless to you and serves no purpose
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/22 12:16 AM
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Bravo brother...this was the most relevant change I have seen since zero communication with my STBX narcissist ex wife. You learn to re trust your instincts and trust yourself. I learned to listen back to my gut and not second guess it. Narcissistist do a fine job of mind fucking your reality where you second guess your own gut feelings. Totally manipulative and being away from there gas lighting and manipulative tactics helps your heal , regain your self and re trust your gut feelings . Stabili…
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/22 02:19 PM
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Haha love this ..
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/22 02:09 PM
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Passport stamps..my friend Go fly somewhere outside your home country
/r/seduction11/07/22 02:08 PM
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Toxic ..these creature's ...do zero contact it is the only way you will flourish after
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/22 12:39 AM
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This guy provided solid fucking advice.. thx bro
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/22 08:59 PM
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I do only email communication I only respond when it's related to my daughter who we do 50/50. Otherwise she can go kick rocks. You need to do this for your own mental health. These people are poison and toxic. Consume as little from them as possible.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/22 08:44 PM
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I do only email communication I only respond when it's related to my daughter who we do 50/50. Otherwise she can go kick rocks. You need to do this for your own mental health. These people are poison and toxic. Consume as little from them as possible.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/22 08:44 PM
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I do only email communication I only respond when it's related to my daughter who we do 50/50. Otherwise she can go kick rocks. You need to do this for your own mental health. These people are poison and toxic. Consume as little from them as possible.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/22 08:43 PM
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WTF ??? Why would you "break the news" to her ? What did expect her to do ? Say... Ok hun ..I'm sorry your not happy , I wish you and your new girlfriend all the best.. I'll help you pack your stuff. Stop sharing what your doing and why your doing it. Retain a lawyer and file. Kids involved means custody and support battle Home involved means buyout Assets involved means equliazation Employment involved means support to the less earning spouse depending on jurisdiction Stop sharing how you feel …
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/22 01:52 PM
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So who are fucking then, Its gonna be her. We all know how this story ends. No you cant come over.i live with my.ex wife.. ahah no we just live together. We don't have sex..at all ..
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/22 09:30 PM
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How it screws up your head is you will eventually end up fucking her agian You will trauma bond to her You will never heal and you will have emotionally remain connected to her and reward her behavior. No man can go back to "friends" after fucking a women. You are fooling yourself and she has done a good job on convincing you to remain her support blanket while she figures out herself. Have some self respect..dont swallow that we are both the problem shit..she opened her mouth and legs to some o…
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/22 09:27 PM
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Any house purchase would require a large deposit or transfer from her bank accounts. Request accounts where her tax refunds got deposited Where her paychecks where deposited Where her 401k is located and look over any large transactions dating back to when you think ot was purchased. She may have purchased it in someone else's name
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/22 10:32 PM
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Read this 2x "when the Kraken awakes from her slumber, death and destruction ensues without mercy… Prepare for battle ..Retain a lawyer
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/22 02:00 PM
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Narcissist- hovering Look it up... It's a thing in there MO Dont respond zero communication It's a tactic used by the to restart the supply She fucked you , filed for divorce, caused you trauma Lifetime trauma that you are healing from. Respect the new you, tell the old you that bitch can go kick rocks. Fuck her , keep healing , zero contact.
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/22 01:53 PM
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Travel, outside your city, outside your country . Become your best self , financially secure yourself with a career or business. Make money on your own Do Chase do not look for nothing , then when girls show up, make sure they have achievements under there belts. The only.thing a female should bring that you do not have already have is giving to a child . She should have her own achievements and be happy with herself Start there..
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/22 12:55 PM
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Been there.. Divorce her ass..she has no respect for you.. You where laughed at by both. She is trash...your best friend was able to pry her open...he is trash File..and make her kick rocks Clarity is been provided to you about her and your friend ..listen to the universe when it speaks.
/r/Divorce_Men23/06/22 02:25 AM
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You must talk to both of them and explain your choice to remain and finish high school. You dad must be made aware of why that choice is made and how you plan on continuing to keep your relationship strong..ie..daily messages , weekly video calls..whatever you need to make him not feel left out. As for your mom..same thing explain to her that your making this choice to finish high.school and having a good relationship with dad is important and she needs to respect that .. Then plan some trips to…
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/22 11:54 PM
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Bro...what's the problem ?? Some of us have kids with these creatures and have to deal with them Some of us are still locked in family court and have.to see them You have no ties to her except what your own mind is creating. Go fuck some other women go to Vegas and blow some money. Stop allowing her to impact.and change your being.
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/22 12:49 AM
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You wont handle your own. Now you will see the who she really is... Finally if no one said it I will , DO NOT HAVE SEX with her..you will trauma bound
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/22 03:10 PM
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Bro..I'm turning 50...divorcing ..kids , support , home, investment property all what I built is being converted..not dismantled not starting over, converted , look at that way.. Second..what else do you do..besides think about her...??? Go Hit the gym , travel, reconnect with friends , find new friends in meet up groups , go chase other women..do something else besides worrying about what she is doing. I blocked my ex on everything. Email communications only and that's for kids discussion. That…
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/22 03:04 PM
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The classic problem I had ..wake up bro The evidence has been shown to you by the universe that she is not for you, yet you still want more evidence. Stop it..she has been attached emotionally , physically or both to someone else while you work your ass to please her. Stop it.. She has checked out...what more do you want to confirm. ? She is getting cornered and he will just deny anything happened "were just friends man" She will dictate the whole show becuase she has pussy whiped both of you. W…
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/22 02:17 PM
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My divorce is still pending.. 13 months have passed and I'm still in the matrimonial home. So this is what I have done so far.
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/22 12:08 PM
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No pre nup , no cohilbilatition for me cause I wont be getting re-married and no chick is living with me.
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/22 12:05 PM
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Spot on ...
/r/seduction17/06/22 01:44 PM
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Yeah..did you say 20k per month ???
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/22 02:34 PM
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Yezzir
/r/seduction16/06/22 01:21 PM
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Faxxx
/r/seduction16/06/22 01:18 PM
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Step 1 - remove pictures Step 2 - get rid of all her shit Step 3 - re arrange furniture Step 4 - replace/sell old furniture Step 5 - add new pictures from this new life *Step 6 - sell the home and downsize Step 6 depends on what you want for the chapter. I no longer want the big house , backyard etc. My kids are grown. I want a condo with a balcony overlooking a beach.
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/22 01:10 PM
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Find new friends...keep 1 or 2 from the old chapter If you find new friends it means your energy.is changing . If you keep the same..nothing will change
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/22 10:36 PM
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First and foremost..environmentally change is a must to heal from such trauma. I am still in the matrimonial home while my divorce is in process. She moved out .13 months ago I took all the pictures off the walls and redecorated or rearranged the house over the past fee months All her shit is gone. It helps but.. I will be selling my house regardless of the outcome. Buying her out and selling is a must to close the chapter. Holding on the memories will do me more harm than good. This is the seco…
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/22 03:49 PM
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I hear you bro..would love to hear more on your story.gonna message you
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/22 02:34 PM
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We need to chat..I'm thinking to same. I have a few passive income streams and building a few more . I have done thailand ..alot of expats there I have done rio also and it's my other option 120k and you can buy a nice condo = expat life Few passive income streams your living like a retired king.
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/22 02:19 PM
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15k monthly support ? Bro I would be retired in thailand on the back of a motorcycle eating chicken wings and she can kick rocks in USA.
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/22 05:53 AM
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Also..I have a attorney..13 months into my divorce. We are now going to try a mediator. As recommended by my attorney. I'm a little apprehensive. We aren't even on speaker terms.i assume this will drive out what she wants and how creative it can accomplished.
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/22 03:36 PM
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She wants , she, moved out, she wants sex.. Sounds like she knows that she wants.. Sounds like you dont my friend. Draw some boundaries. That's toxic pussy. Stop providing the D
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/22 01:51 PM
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Looking into this..no way I'm working to make her lifestyle comfortable Parasites want to live off your hard work.
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/22 01:06 AM
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Narcissist..no you dont defend yourself. You are providing the supply they need Zero communication Zero communication That's how you defend yourself
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/22 12:22 AM
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Your looking for comfort..from your STBX ?? Bro she doesn't desire to hear your emotional state. Zero communication with her. Hit the gym Take your mind off her and look at protecting your peace.
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/22 12:15 AM
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Why would you roll over and take it... Shes making you scared ..so what her dad has a big checkbook . If you have not been a abusive father/spouse why would you not expect 50/50.
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/22 12:11 AM
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Mine is 2300 spousal..and that's low range. Indefinite also... Fight the good fight my friend.. My told me ..CS is a science..look at the chart ..see what you make, what she makes ,higher earner pays the difference. As for spousal support he said it's more of a art. Many factors go into that to determine the amount. Does she works , earning potential, who has the kids, etc etc.
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/22 12:07 AM
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Well said my guy..well said !!!
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/22 02:48 PM
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Respond, with ..its been too long
/r/seduction13/06/22 03:35 AM
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Do not move out if you want any portion of the house. Stay put and talk to lawyer Do not.leave not leave.the house
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/22 01:58 AM
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Agreed ...your job is not to save to ex wife's reputation. Sugar coating infidelity to your kids is wrong No I'm not saying share details " But your children need to be aware of why your actions towards her are how they are ..why you live separately. Saying we just dont get along another if she had a affair is wrong on your part. I have just faced this.. They also need to understand what they should tolerate in from someone and what they should not Keeping your kids in the dark to save "her imag…
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/22 02:41 PM
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Not sure why you believe this is a nightmare. As a fyi... All fortune 500 companies follow a similar process for company expense charges made by managers or executives.eithet by reimbursement or expense accounts Flex accounts operate different. It's for Health spending. This is more like a company expense account which operates different You have company credit cards These have a per diem expense threshold. ..example Charges under $25 do not required a receipt Charges over $50 and above- receipt…
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/22 01:27 PM
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Still missing the point. Neglected to the point basic needs are not met. No.. Why do u get immunity to validate thats what you did. You guys are brainwashed
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/22 11:52 AM
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Before, after, no one is challenging when the funds are provided. Help In trust , special credit cards, We are challenging that there is no accountability. Stop making it sound like its impossible to do..its not.
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/22 11:50 AM
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So you recommend protecting her image to your kids. Stay quiet hold it all inside like a nice guy. Awwhhh yeah that really helps . She will respect you now. Once the divorce started the family structure got destroyed . Your still holding to what ? Your kids are devastated and must navigate there emotions now. While she plays victim and makes you like the bad guy. Op These bitches dont care, you are now seeing how low and evil they are . Address it with your kids. Dont let her manipulate your rel…
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/22 11:44 AM
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If you Dont get a good lawyer you will be robbed. Do your homework and find the best you can afford.
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/22 09:53 PM
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Ur kids are off.to college When there done they will find there careers Move out and build.there lives The excuse of staying for the kids is expired It will be just you 2. What's there that you enjoy. Ponder that
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/22 08:58 PM
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Sit down your kids and tell them what she did. Yes of course shes playing victim You are the bad guy for not putting up with her disrespect and answering her pussy tingles .lol (I like that comment) Do not hide it..its not saving or helping them Stop thinking about how your ex will react. 4 kids and they all know my youngest is 15 I told my 15yr old daughter..mommy had another boyfriend Daddy found out and it made daddy sad and that's why mommy left . If you choose to stay with mommy daddy has t…
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/22 08:43 PM
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I replied on this same topic previously and it was removed . Some one responded that this would me a administrative nightmare. My response was no Consultants do it.. Contractors do it.. It's called reimbursements Spend it..show receipts and its reimbursed How does the law allow that I am forced to pay for something but the reciever of the funds is not Required to prove where the funds went. The spouse could be spending all on cocaine with nothing left for the child to benefit. Zero accountabilit…
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/22 08:17 PM
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Bravo !!!
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/22 02:46 PM
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Legally its child support and spousal support What she does with it isn't tracked This is how stupid the system is.. She can be giving it all to her favourite slot machine , expanding her shoe collection and covering her trips to hawaii with her new boyfriend. Weclome to the jungle ...
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/22 01:40 PM
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Your paying child support and liable for spousal support Based on your higher income - you will be paying her She could have fucked your brother in your bed. It doesn't matter who had the affair. Good old feminism at work here. Retain a good lawyer If you relocate to the uk thinking you can avoid support. Your US passport would be blocked Basically you would have to never return to the usa. The beauty of reddit and anonymity
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/22 01:37 PM
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We are men, we all wanted family and children But if she doesn't want it..let her go Your 30 ..plenty of time left for you to explore .
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/22 12:45 AM
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Order financial disclosure from your lawyer She will have to show all accounts and there activity up till the day of separation. Then once you get her activity ..comb thru it and identify any accounts funds where transferred to ..then request those. Agree to some kind of temporary support for your daughter in the meantime. Lawyer up is the take away. Yeah lawyers get rich, but money can be made back. Trying to do this on your own will cost you a lifetime. These are not waters to try to figure ou…
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/22 01:33 PM
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Soooo Why do u have to pay child.support if she makes 2.3x more.than u? She would be paying u
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/22 04:30 AM
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Your question lacks the biggest component What do you want ? A girlfriend A fuck toy A wifey. A side girl Seems like she knows what she wants and you dont
/r/seduction05/06/22 04:12 AM
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No ..fuck her !!! The hate just Plato's and we ride on cruise control 🤣 sorry had to speak for the other side
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/22 03:08 AM
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Do not leave the house .. Read this agian Do not.leave the house If you are getting physically abused..file a police report Read it agian Do not leave the house Retain a lawyer U get half the equity in the house Period . She will owe you child support if she makes more money than you even when its 50/50 split Start there..dont simp or pussy foot out This is where guys get fucked. Fight for your life as if your treading water. These first steps will make you win or screw you forever.
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/22 05:22 PM
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Before u head down the divorce route. Do your research on support based on your state. Its gets bumpy ..good luck but your relationship is ended. Your just roommates
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/22 04:39 AM
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What do u need a women for ? The only thing they can provide is Sex.. Kids.. If you already have kids..then its just sex If you need companionship you have 2 much time your hands. After my.nasty divorce , I'm chasing young hot latin women in 3rd word countries. Remarry..🤣🤣🤣🤣 Why ? What's the benefit from that ? To sit and watch Netflix..go grocery.shopping , put IKEA furniture together, listen to her dysfunctional family.stories , tell her shes pretty and support her. When she feels down, listen…
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/22 02:08 AM
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/r/Divorce_Men29/05/22 04:16 PM
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/r/Divorce_Men29/05/22 04:14 PM
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Good show brother !!!
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/22 11:38 AM
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So how does your contracting work.. is she getting any of that from a support perspective ?
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/22 04:31 PM
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I will say it for you..fuck her
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/22 11:48 AM
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Well said..fat pockets on backs of broken men. Who are left to support these parasites. I hope all these men in power get what taste of there own medicine
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/22 04:29 PM
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I have a investment property Purchased 2 months before I found out about her affair. Mine was a pre construction- 100k made on the deposit over the course of 1yr all by me. It will complete in 2 yrs. So theres nothing there now. Since it's a pre construction it is not a asset at this point. There is no title until I close. Really unsure how this will be divided. I assume they can do a market assessment based on other condos but I'm also prepared to say it's for one of my kids incase shes liable …
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/22 03:41 PM
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Lol..these vagina having creatures...love that!!!
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/22 01:33 PM
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Train wreck ...you will end up sleeping with her , your in no shape emotionally to get advice from a female. Stop the pretending , talk to men if you want advice. I had women who gave me advice on my divorce and I knew where it was going to lead. So I stopped those conversations. We are adults..we know what's going to happen. Start adulting..that's what going to get you thru this.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/22 02:18 AM
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This is so pathetic..u have to pay someone funds to help take care of a child and they are not required to show what they spent on the child . What kind of retarded system is this and how come no Male lawyers are judges are fighting to change this..what a bunch of pussy Simps we have in power.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/22 02:11 AM
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We all tried to fix what we saw. As good human beings . Dont beat yourself my friend. Good people try and help others. When you see they dont want to be helped and it's all a game. Leave them alone.
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/22 12:20 PM
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Read some books on narcissist and recover. It mind fucks you. You need help to get thru it trust me. Only those who have dealt with a narcissist can help you. Your friends and family cannot help you. Gaslighting Projection Manipulation Victim blaming Bold face lies with tears These people are problems Dont tangle...zero communication You can't fix them , you will become the problem Its bait shit crazy
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/22 12:19 PM
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Stay at the house...retain a good lawyer. That what you pay them for.
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/22 12:14 PM
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Educate yourself... Narcissist you have on your hands Zero communication..you wont beat there twisted victim mind games. You will lose . Zero communication
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/22 05:32 PM
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We needed this...thanks !!!! This should be a sticky note
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/22 03:16 PM
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You must remove yourself and heal . Staying is a slow death
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/22 03:19 AM
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You better get some advice on what you will be paying out. Your afraid to be blamed for breaking up the family. Live your truth , utilize all the other avenues before going down this road. As you can see from the divorce men forum It's a bumpy.ride
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/22 09:42 PM
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That's called " intrusion upon seclusion "
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/22 09:29 PM
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Say .."I really want to fuck you later tonight"...then go back to your conversation. Women like confidence and straight up guys. Now I dont do this on the first date..on my 3rd date onward I tell them Telling her will not change her mind on what she has already decided. Read that over if it went over your head.
/r/seduction16/05/22 09:27 PM
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Yeah I saw your older post.. Been there.. Your home got broken when she decided to fuck a other guy. That was destroyed. I had to come to terms with that. Kids will adjust..you need more therapy than they will. Seriously. Find a lawyer and file for divorce I will tell you right now..dont ask how many times they fucked , where it was, it's not going to bring any closure. Unless she sits you down and tells you openingly what happened and that she is trying to save her marriage and will do whatever…
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/22 07:37 PM
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It's all about the culture ..states differ countries differ. Go to brazil bro..you wont believe your eyes
/r/seduction16/05/22 03:47 PM
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Age reference is based on your exposure and experience . I have dated girls 20yrs younger with more incommen who where , open minded, good traveler, foody , independent entrepreneur minded . No kids I have dated girls 2 years younger than me and they where co dependent, insecure , trapped in there own world. Age has nothing to do with it..its similar values , experiences that determines if it will work.
/r/seduction15/05/22 10:13 PM
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Thanks No contact is in place Lawyered up months ago .. Just seeing what others have done
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/22 09:11 PM
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Yeah ..solid guy..I concur
/r/seduction15/05/22 12:47 PM
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Thanks. Yes I started this kinda review.. Im 50 next year , I have a lawyer so I assume this would be until I retire which would be in 10yrs at age 60 So in total it would be 230,000 played in spousal. Shes gonna re marry and lost out on 2300 per month . Has anyone retired early ? What was the impact on spousal ?
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/22 12:17 PM
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I'm indifferent- I had my kids , home, did Disney, 2 cars , cook breakfast chapter. To me my divorce signifies the end of that chapter You just stayed busy with her.. Now that she is gone you must find other things to occupy your time. Thats all
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/22 12:10 PM
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North american women are a waste of time They have nothing around family values. The friends you guys mentioned who remarried all did it with women out of NA ..see a pattern ? The survival kite post divorce - join a fitness club - start a new hobby - get a vasectomy - take a trip to rio or Colombia or Thailand - fuck a bunch of younger girls in these places - download tinder - bumble- - be free and single - answer to no one You only need a women to bear off spring , that's all .everytigh else yo…
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/22 12:07 PM
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Exactly... women are to bear off spring. They can have everything and still go out and mess around.. I would never settle back down at this point We will fuck and be friends. That's it Money , security , relationship , support and they still are not fulfilled.
/r/Divorce_Men14/05/22 11:59 PM
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It's the Outstanding mortgage minus how much it's worth = equity and then split Example (replace with your numbers ) 100,000 owed 200,000 worth 100,000 Equity Divided by - 2 is 50,000 each. So 50,000 is what she would need for buy out the home for.
/r/Divorce_Men14/05/22 08:54 PM
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Keeping things friendly.good luck You make more than her You will pay the offset difference for child support Spousal and length will be based on your state You make more income sure so prepare yourself. Alao lawyer up..its gonna get bumpy
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/22 03:37 AM
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They will take 5 years tax returns and average it... Same applies if your in commission based or sales related income.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/22 07:27 PM
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Wow..congrats..I'm 13 months in my divorce We need more wins..can you share what she was asking and what grounds it was denied. my case conference coming up and it may help a bunch of us out.. Congrats again
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/22 05:59 PM
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Yeah..what's the confusion?? Shes hot..friends or not , stranger or cashier Your gonna want to fuck her Why are you fighting what your hard wired to do.. Which is..Fuck pretty women
/r/seduction12/05/22 12:47 PM
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You need a attorney.. Start there
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/22 02:23 AM
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Fuck her.. Mines fighting for my home, investment property and alimony..and she had the affair. Entitlement that's what's it's all about. You take care of them with your hard work They believe they deserve what you have Along with mainstream media projecting that they need to do nothing but sit there and have a vagina Self Entitled whores
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/22 02:18 AM
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Let me say the obvious Shes going to suck cock and get fucked.. There I said it.. Get over it..your life needs to continue You should do the same.."the suck cock" part Is if your into that..haha Been there bro...build your next chapter That chapter is over , sell the house , split and Move on..there are younger hotter girls that will show you the time of your life Move the fuck on..
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/22 06:02 PM
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30yrs.. 4kids Divorce proceedings underway House split Child Support Spousal support Narcissist, gaslighting , projection, manipulation, multiple affairs, We have all been thru it.. Some have more challenges than me.. But we are men..we will conquer , she is a women she will not be able to succeed on her own. It's the universal law of life. They are not wired like us. It's the brainwashing for north American society to make you believe that bullshit. Walk away ..she needs more than you need her.…
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/22 02:18 PM
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I know child support is enforced...I have no issues with paying that.. Paying for my STBX to live of my hardwork while she is still employed is retarded
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/22 04:02 AM
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Wow thanks for the great input .. Few additional comments I'm not based in the USA So I would leaving my country to work in the USA I am also considering purchasing a vacation property in a "Latin country" from the proceeds of my home. I would by it cash I am aware This kind of purchase can also provide residency status. I need to check into citizenship options I would retain my US residency for work purposes. I travel for work 90% of time and live out of hotels When not working I would to my pl…
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/22 08:38 PM
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Stop!!!! Get a lawyer, pay them on some kinda of payment terms Do not try to negotiate without legal representation who knows family law in your state Your a smart guy...but your not a lawyer
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/22 02:58 PM
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South America ..that's all I gotta say.. I went to Brazil...and it changed me.. I have done thailand it is a good candidate The only thing I dont like is the time difference and it's a bit of a of a jont to get back to north America I run a few online businesses so need to be in the same time zone The lifestyle in brazil and cost of living is amazing . Rentals are like 1000 for nice apartment. You can buy one for 160k usd. 2min from the beach As for the women..jesus christ . I have never seen so…
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/22 12:21 PM
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Your a rational guy..so it makes sense. I offered her a buyout of 350k which is enough to put Down on a new condo and get herself setup The problem is since where the ones providing financial guidance they are left with no financial acumen. It's not that they lost us..they also lost the guidance We provided. I am preparing for the next chapter of chasing young 20yrs olds to fulfill all my sexual desires in a foreign country..ahha . Thx bro
/r/Divorce_Men22/03/22 03:53 PM
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Gotcha I offered her 350k buyout and they declined I think for me the indefinite support is the issue I have seen what I have done with her I know what I can achieve without her So I'm seeing buyout as a preferred option We meet with a DRO end of April Case conference is in Sept. Interested to hear how it works out All the best bro..
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/22 05:06 AM
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Yeah I have one retained 25k so far. 1 year passed and First meeting is end of April with DRO Equliazation Home Spousal support Child support All on the table Thanks for the input..appreciatated
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/22 04:29 AM
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Well All 3 individuals purchased the home 2003 2 people paid the mortgage (records to show) Me and my mom Since this is a matrimonial home. It excludes the 3rd purchaser (my mom) ? That doesn't sound fair and equitable..
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/22 04:17 AM
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Your spousal support is indefinite?
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/22 04:10 AM
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Lol...every other countries women remain feminine and fill their female role, just like we fill out Male roles. North America women are useless and have been brainwashed by the media that they dont need a man for anything and they will get half when they split. There useless brainwashed Cant cook, watches fake reality shows , then feels unsatisfied..what else do you think happens Dont compare apples to oranges. My next girlfriend wont be a citizen of either canada or the usa.
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/22 03:33 AM
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House purchased had all 3 of us back in 2003 Me,, STBXW , my mom Today mortgage and title is just in my name only Removed.them both since there credit was no good years back So from a home perspective I'm fighting for a 33% split each from the home equity. Since shes not.on title or on mortgage she cannot force a sale. I just need to buy her out of the matrimonial home I assume. We are in a no fault country so her affair plays no merit. After financial assessment my net family is 45k (I have all…
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/22 03:24 AM
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Love this!!
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/22 02:43 AM
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Shes a narcissist..that's what they do Manipulation, and your your trama bonded. I had the same,,I took her back after the first affair. Guess what heard later she did it agian You miss a relationship, not her, heal yourself first , stay healthy, she is a parasite that feeds off your supply. Zero communication...zero..unless it's about your child. Everything that they do is manipulative. It's a disorder . It's real. Narcissist will suffocate you.
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/22 02:36 AM
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Been on 2 trips.. Taking the 3rd in prep for first court appearances Do what you need to do..to get thru
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/22 01:14 AM
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Fuck younger single bi sexual women..🤣😂🤣
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/22 01:03 AM
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Doing mine ...post divorce..June I'm booked I have seen numerous guys end up with babies post divorce
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/22 12:58 AM
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Rule 1 : dont fuck your ex Rule.2: if she cries she has some kind of trauma She needs therapy
/r/seduction01/03/22 04:53 AM
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Age is not as significant as experience Age does not make a relationship work (same or age gap) Simailair life Experience, passions and chemistry makes a relationship work. Age does not Manipulation can happen between any age gap. Younger girls are attracted to older guys because they provide a new experience. Like in any thing experience people have more knowledge. If your the older one , be transparent ,be candid, be there go to. Dont make it a emotional deep relationship. Have fun , that's it…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 02:37 PM
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Women fuck who they want, men fuck who they can..
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/22 02:18 PM
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Age has little to with it.. It's all about what have both have in common and what life experiences you share. Emotional intelligence Emotional maturity Self awareness These all come from life experience People can be the same age and have nothing in common.The only thing that's common for similar age groups is education. Based on the industrial education model After that its life experience. What do you offer that resignates and provides value . That's all people look for in relationships. It ha…
/r/seduction23/01/22 05:41 PM
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Answer = Tinder Case closed..
/r/seduction16/01/22 04:32 PM
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Be straight. Meaning say Let's meet next week Friday at 8pm at xxx Give date ,time, place no room doubts. She will accept or decline.. She declines just say.." I would like to see you, so you let me know what works" That's it..no more contact , no.more followups, dont read her stories or like her post of ask agian. Those are the subtle signs she will pick up on that your not giving her any more attention until she sees you. Your not that guy for attention only. I have a new girl I'm dating doing…
/r/seduction16/01/22 04:27 PM
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You forgot to add . 1 too many tequila shots That shit makes women super horny . Orded a few rounds and have a backup bottle at your spot. Talk ..laugh..take a shot ..repeat until she just stares at you eyes glazed over and that's your que Your fucking. When tequila was involved the night before, I never woke up alone the next day. Just sayn ....
/r/seduction15/01/22 10:01 PM
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Never asked and didnt get it... It's works because ..you let her know your intentions and it prepares her for the emotional ride. Then you proceed with kissing her.
/r/seduction15/01/22 09:26 PM
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Late 40s..still pulling , late 20s and 30 year olds. Your energy and vibrancy they pick up Look good, have a good quality of life, travel. Make money and treat yourself well This age group seems to be my sweet spot. At that age..they seemed to have been played enough and cheated on and now figured out that guys her age are not mature enough. You become a stop on there journey to becoming self aware and measure you everyone in her younger age circle to you ..she the sees she likes things up she d…
/r/seduction15/01/22 09:18 PM
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Cash is king my friend !!!
/r/seduction12/01/22 02:29 PM
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Younger girls want to be lead.. Older more mature girls want to feel like there in control..its weird..dont ask me why
/r/seduction08/01/22 06:37 AM
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Younger girls you just kiss..dont ask Older girls you pause and ask.. Those who know..know
/r/seduction08/01/22 04:23 AM
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Gotta try this..thanks
/r/seduction07/01/22 08:23 PM
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No she is my exs ex friend -
/r/seduction07/01/22 08:38 AM
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Banter her.. Respond and say .."define crush" Let her explain what that means to her, respond to her if her definition aligns to yours. Tell her what you enjoy and like about her .. Congrats.. You are now flirting with her..you can take it from here.
/r/seduction06/01/22 03:24 PM
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As long as you don't have a girl ..post all that shit with different girls.
/r/seduction06/01/22 04:07 AM
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Bro..we using excel to map progress. That's next level
/r/seduction06/01/22 03:03 AM
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We are attracted to women who have purpose., ambition, drive, confidence and is a total slut in the bedroom. Needy women are a turn off..dont hound us be super needy. Women who can communicate, and be curious about what we do and what makes us tick. Know when to follow and when to take the lead Guys fall for that..notice I mentioned nothing about looks or physically attractiveness.. if you have those qualities and your in shape, natural beauty, (this depends on personal taste) will try to DT and…
/r/seduction06/01/22 03:01 AM
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Nailed it..what he said ☝️
/r/seduction06/01/22 02:52 AM
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Hard to understand how the picture is taken..but First.. If the picture is you in the center and a bunch of hot girls around you and JUST you and them. Yes it will attract other girls.. Girls are very competitive and will wonder what do you have or do that enables you to have all those others girls around you..they are intrigued now. Second.. If it's not you alone with a bunch of.girls ..like theres other guys in the picture..that has no effect. Girls dont care. Post up if it's the first scenari…
/r/seduction06/01/22 02:38 AM
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Smooth as Sunday morning....bravo keep it professional , 2months in you DM her and ask her how things are going in the new role Also add that you might be in the area...coffee ?? :)) My job is done here.. The bridge is yours scotty..
/r/seduction06/01/22 02:04 AM
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Why its wont go anywhere Dm all you want, good luck with that Why it wont go anywhere Your IG is private Your IG isn't blue checked
/r/seduction05/01/22 02:27 PM
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If B Is cool with it..no problem but As long as A and B dont have a fallout your good. The minute they have a fallout - B may not be cool with keeping it private. Dont trip..Enjoy it...while it last
/r/seduction04/01/22 11:00 PM
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Is this a female or males perspective? Validation ? Can you expand on what this means like what do girls get from this ?
/r/seduction04/01/22 08:53 PM
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Aka swagg
/r/seduction04/01/22 04:29 AM
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Analogy... Focus on making the honey..the bees will swarm
/r/seduction04/01/22 03:35 AM
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Just like I left you wondering.. she will do the same That's what she will ask..then you say *Recovered from your birthday celebration" Now you have her attention ..setup the meetup
/r/seduction04/01/22 03:16 AM
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Say.. Actually.I'm gonna be in your area on (insert date) let.me know if that works, we can grab something around (insert time) if that works. Hope you recovered " smiley emoji
/r/seduction04/01/22 03:01 AM
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Those are called lesions.. u learn from them, apply
/r/seduction04/01/22 02:52 AM
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Lol...Ahhhh ask. How are old are you I dont believe you let.me see your DL
/r/seduction04/01/22 02:49 AM
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Shes spending one on one time Shes sending you gifts Shes sending you notes Shes allowing you to lay in the same bed with her Shes sharing her other relationship with you and telling you she may not stay in it. What other signs do you want..a blowjob ? Of course she likes you, take it slow and keep enjoying the time..she will keep becoming physical and you just have to get her comfortable. Dont force..let it naturally.progress Actions will speak ..words dont matter at this point. .
/r/seduction02/01/22 05:29 AM
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Yeah it means she wants to fuck you .lol...is that what you want to hear It means nothing..girls will send love heart emojis all day to every guy who responds to there post. Its means zero..actions speak ..not spelling of words.
/r/seduction28/12/21 08:55 PM
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Bravo..well explained..cliffs notes won't make you understand. Great read
/r/seduction28/12/21 11:17 AM
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Money gives you more options Options give you freedom Freedom gives you power Power gets you pussy Example Take her to a local pool or Turks and Caicos If we both invite her which one would she be intrigued by ? What do you think ? Of course if plays a part, it plays a large subconscious part that most people are not willing to admit to. It is a life hack. Chase money the pussy will follow. Once you find out what a women enjoys and you can expose/treat her to it, you can fuck her. Who ever says …
/r/seduction26/12/21 08:18 AM
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Build the tension.. "HEY HOWS YOUR CAT XXXX" " MAYBE WE SHOULD SETUP A CAT DATE SO OUR CATS CAN MEET " smile and leave it there Catch her next shift (few days later ) "HEYYYWHEN ARE WE DOING THAT CAT DATE ?" DO YOU WORK EVERDAY, WHAT FOOD BRAND DOES YOUR CAT EAT. , ARE YOU ON TWITTER OR IG ? Build a center and a common item that will create a bond .build on that , Get the social media first , build the bond and then ask for the number.
/r/seduction26/12/21 08:04 AM
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Bro..I'm I the same boat..first Take advice from guys who are/have actually dating younger girls not guys who have not done this..they dont get it. It's not same game as dating someone your age or a few years apart. When its decades (in my case) it's a different ball game There is a fine balance of treating her (not giving her money) , supporting and mentoring her . It takes a little of everything. Girls this age are dealing with immature guys who just want pussy. You have to expose her to shit …
/r/seduction26/12/21 07:46 AM
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You fucked her already.. so Offer her 2 dates to choose from Then tell - dont ask - tell her uber will be there are 12pm..let her say no or that's too early. This pushes her to make a choice a d provide feedback . Stop the games and trying to get the stars aligned Send her a uber to pick her up Bring her back to the telly Fuck her Brains out Send her back in the uber Check out the hotel Repeat
/r/seduction20/12/21 03:49 AM
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To me its Irrelevant...that's like asking someone who pulled up to the gas station if they want to buy gas. If shes agreed to meet up with you or provide you the time to speak one on one. He is irrelevant
/r/seduction18/12/21 01:22 PM
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Good point.. the hotel lounges 🏆
/r/seduction17/12/21 11:54 PM
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Yes it does thanks.. when your not looking they all appear. If I stay within my passion ..they will suddenly make them appear..thx
/r/seduction17/12/21 07:55 PM
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Yeah I dont do bars ..folks who earn a good living won't frequent those watering holes. Ok so where else do women of that caliber like to hang out and when I mean "earn more" Im talking 6 figures and up earners. Point in the right direction ⬅️➡️ Any Guidance please
/r/seduction17/12/21 07:18 PM
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Where are these women you speak off....lol
/r/seduction17/12/21 07:07 PM
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Look good ..show your worth..just set boundaries. Let them know they must earn you sharing your spoils with them. It make them work harder to get your attention
/r/seduction17/12/21 04:54 PM
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Beats for bass tracks, Bose for crisper vocals..my 2
/r/seduction17/12/21 04:53 PM
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Let's recap She went out with you - she likes you She invited back to her place- she likes you You both went into the hot tub- she liked you You both starting touching each other - she like you She knew if you touched her kitty it was over That means shes a little unsure . This means she needs to feel secure. Your move .. Text her and tell her you had a great time Would love to see her agian and this time Not in the hot tub... This does 2 things, it makes her know you like her company and it als…
/r/seduction17/12/21 04:40 PM
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I noticed a few things, girls take time to open up about there emotions and when they do there is a sense of vulnerability. So don't get more deep, make her more comfortable that she feels she can continue to share, you listen and move on , dont dwell on what she shared, just keep learning more about her in a exploratory way not in a interview way (if that makes sense) Women will open up (emotionally, first) There legs and mouth open after (lol) It's not the other way around Take it slow and giv…
/r/seduction17/12/21 03:23 PM
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Enjoy her and learn about her experiences. It's the journey that will change you, not the destination
/r/seduction15/12/21 02:38 PM
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Agree with this thanks
/r/seduction13/12/21 01:54 PM
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"She asked you if there was anything you wanted to say" and you said no? Confused here..when she stated her reason for breaking up you had the opportunity to talk about her concern and you didnt do it. 2 weeks later - ?? She was probably was like - ok - you dont care. Anyway sorry about what your going thru. Seems like you need to have a final chat with her and then move on if it can't be reconciled.
/r/seduction15/11/21 03:45 PM
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All older women want relationships doesn't matter the app 🤣
/r/seduction11/11/21 03:19 PM
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100% transparent on intentions Women see it for what it is and they make the choice to tangle with you. It's like having a long time friend, you dont see them everyday but if in town you catch up that's what this is about. Most people are confusing needing someone vs having fun with someone. This is awesome bro..was always thinking about this since I travel already, but I am now thinking of making this a actual lifestyle change
/r/seduction04/11/21 05:15 PM
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Interesting.. I am looking into this digital nomad thing and I think it's my calling. I have done about 20countries. Is there is reddit thread on this.?
/r/seduction04/11/21 04:58 PM
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Where did you get I deleted the post? Embrassesment ..lol you sound so immature Reddit moved the post automatically You sound like a mr now it all ..so let me put you in your place. News flash when people ask for advice Its for input from others who have been thru similar. If I didnt have the 2k to drop I wouldn't be on here asking...lol Your black magic comment sounds retarded. It's called a forum,what are you the admin ? Agian its input to hear different perspective You seem to cant handle whe…
/r/seduction31/10/21 02:15 PM
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Gotcha..thks
/r/seduction29/10/21 11:40 PM
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Paying for someone and treating them is a sign of neediness? Whatttt? Lol Neediness is a emotional state . Calling every day, texting 3 times when she does respond . Always needing reassurance from her that shes still interested . Constant running behind her. That's needy..
/r/seduction29/10/21 06:12 PM
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I'm divorced now..I dont think I will ever have a another wife or girl... Still not clear on ..how paying for a female will get her to lose respect. Would live.to hear a women's opinion on this
/r/seduction28/10/21 09:56 PM
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Thanks Not clear on this...are you saying that women will lose respect if you treat them ?
/r/seduction28/10/21 05:16 PM
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Dam...wow.. thanks for this. . I think my view of this thing I have is showing some holes. Appreciatate the breakdown .
/r/seduction28/10/21 03:30 AM
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Appreciatate the clarity .
/r/seduction28/10/21 12:48 AM
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Yeah you younger girls are less jaded
/r/seduction28/10/21 12:14 AM
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Yeah I'm aware the tone it sets and that's not sustainable. I'm also aware it's for the moment So not expecting her to marry me..a few good smashes and we keep it casual. We continue and do another trip agian sometime I guess I like the no luggage, no kids, no drama ex husband, boyfriend and YOLO attitude I have others girls who are in there 30s but they want a boyfriend, call me let's go by my parents house. Watch a movie.. I'm done with that. I think I'm using her to get thru this rough patch.…
/r/seduction28/10/21 12:12 AM
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Awesome bro..yeah you got a winner
/r/seduction28/10/21 12:03 AM
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Good points here .thanks..gonna go over and discuss the trip :))
/r/seduction27/10/21 11:58 PM
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Wow awesome..thank you ..was looking for a females perspective. Yeah not sure where I stated she was going to be in separated rooms. Lol Yeah of course She will be staying with me in same room. We fucked already in our hometown. Of course if we go away in a exotic location we are fucking every night. Shes laying in the same bed after a day full of fun and adventure, food and drinks. All paid for .. who wouldn't fuck you ? That's the problem - you guys think shes playing you or your a simp. That'…
/r/seduction27/10/21 11:53 PM
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Money is relative- based on your income, debts and lifestyle. Telling people what is alot of money and what isn't is your perspective. 2k on a cc is becuase I collect points for the spending. Again your assumption on using is a cc is becuase of own perspective Dont you need a few dates before fucking. I shared that we have been together on a few dates. Second. - its replying to people who have taken the time to respond to my question. This a forum ..I posted you replied. We all take trips..you e…
/r/seduction27/10/21 11:45 PM
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Lol
/r/seduction27/10/21 11:29 PM
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Shit thanks...yeah I'm a dom.. Leader, top shit, the boss, go to guy. Lead, tell people what to .. That fits So what should I be doing to test her submissive side?
/r/seduction27/10/21 10:35 PM
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I'm clarifying to those who think I'm willing to pay for her to "try and fuck her " that's simp shit So I reiterated- I've already fucked her Where are guys that see its for fun ? You guys must all be married and thinking I'm looking for another problem..lol
/r/seduction27/10/21 10:32 PM
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Thanks - younger more put together , lol Doubt it..(my confidence coming out) When you have layers of things that separate you from other men. Girls never get over you . Be well travelled (20 countries) Be financially stable (can pay for shit) Be a foody ( enjoy any food) Take shots of tequila (you get wasted) Be calm , cool and collected (no stress gets to you) Have a IDGAF attitude (I'm divorced so yeah) Help them grow with no strings (mentor them) They will never find a younger guy like that.…
/r/seduction27/10/21 10:29 PM
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Thanks for your input
/r/seduction27/10/21 10:18 PM
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Ahahah bro ..if 2k puts you in debt you have bigger problems. You never covered someone who didnt have the funds ? Simp is getting no pussy and spending money on her. Agreed I have already fucked her after a few dates
/r/seduction27/10/21 10:17 PM
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"Someone more profitable" Well said ..I like that
/r/seduction27/10/21 10:03 PM
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Thanks for this..I agree I think I'm more bummed out I don't get to fuck her brains out and dont want just walk away from it like.. Dam remember that girl I didnt fuck her how I wanted. Surely after I will move on..I'm sure more will come but I think it's more of redemption than anything else.
/r/seduction27/10/21 10:02 PM
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Someone posted this..I will requote Women... You either love them or understand them You cant do both Give her some space..women are like that ..driven by feelings at any time of the day.. reach out to her 2 days. Ask her what her plans are for Halloween. Pretend like nothing happened
/r/seduction27/10/21 09:41 PM
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So proceed and cover the trip?
/r/seduction27/10/21 09:37 PM
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Ok so your saying I should cover the cost of the trip for my 27yr old
/r/seduction27/10/21 09:36 PM
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No I fucked her already once. Schedules dont align so do agai So its like ok let's.go somewhere ..I planned I told her .shes like I'm sorry we could not hook up agian , but she said I'm coming with you on that trip I have to make it up to you.
/r/seduction27/10/21 09:34 PM
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Point taken..thanks for the reminder
/r/seduction27/10/21 09:31 PM
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Being clear Covering someone's trip is one thing Paying someone to fuck you is another thing
/r/seduction27/10/21 09:27 PM
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Thanks bro Well I fucked her once already so it won't be the first time getting it. She loves food and does shit..no coach potato kinda girl. Always our doing shit. I had girls with me before. But they just want to sit on the beach and tan Borrrring
/r/seduction27/10/21 09:24 PM
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Bro..name me a women who does not want a man for some kind of resource.. Womens legs open for these 2 resources -Emotional -Financial All women want something from you. Some hide it better some are just upfront. Regardless the pussy is never free
/r/seduction27/10/21 09:18 PM
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Ahaha broooooo 🤣🤣🤣 Yeah I said the next time I fuck her The ambulance will be outside ..either for me or for her.. lol What's tea bagging ? Yeah I'm looking to see if she can be added to my stable. She may cost me some trips but who cares..I sense shes really open and shes been with younger guys who cant unlock her freaky side. I have done all the brothels and escorting scenes while traveling. The difference is when I return I can still fuck her and hang out . When another trip opportunities com…
/r/seduction27/10/21 08:59 PM
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Ahah YOLO bro .totally I dont really care if the ghost me I don't care if we stop talking when we get back I highly doubt it though . As you can see most guys won't spend money on paying for a girls trips, this has more to do with income and low confidence worrying if shes using him..why do you care...who gives a shit ? Shes accepted and is willing to travel with you alone to a foreign country. That speaks volumes for what's really going on inside her brain on her comfort level and openness. Als…
/r/seduction27/10/21 08:26 PM
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Yeah ..guess payment is for access
/r/seduction27/10/21 07:17 PM
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No ..friend zone is when no sexual tension is there If she brings it up again say some shit like '" yeah your hot , I would try to talk to you" " I would invite you back to my house " Let her know you want to fuck her..that eliminates any confusion on friend zoning.
/r/seduction27/10/21 07:15 PM
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I got her there..clothes off dick inside , kissing, etc location was bad and timing was bad. When I say didnt get to enjoy I mean 1hr long if foreplay ,fucking , after glow etc. Yeah its 2k..not saying it's nothing for me.. but I can throw the charges on one of my cc with a 10k limit. Heavy changes come with divorce. So I think I'm positioning it as my celebration / fuck my ex- redeem my manhood - fuck a 27yr old - redemption trip..lol
/r/seduction27/10/21 07:12 PM
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Noted.. well sad ..thanks for the wisdom.. See age is nothing to do with wisdom
/r/seduction27/10/21 07:05 PM
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Perfect response..cool .. Then move on to a new conversation Shows her you YDGAF. Then Ask her when are you meeting up for drinks
/r/seduction27/10/21 07:04 PM
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Bro... Expand on this..what are some of the signs. You got my attention. I just told a girl she flaked on me and it won't go well if she does it again " She replied - "I won't, I promise" I sense some submissive traits in her reply. I humble Master..teach us...
/r/seduction27/10/21 06:43 PM
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Yeah I thought about that ..that requires , talking up girls..hey how are u ? Where do u live, blah blah blah. Not wasting time picking up girls. Get them comfortable, invite them over, possible see if I can get laid . All while on vacation. For this one I broke the sexual ground with her already since we already fucked. I just didnt get to really enjoy her. Multiple positions, making her cum etc. Since I got her over the threshold already Getting her naked again won't be a problem. Also surely …
/r/seduction27/10/21 06:36 PM
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Thanks bro..yeah just make good money , stay fit, healthy, have some swag, younger pussy still comes to you .
/r/seduction27/10/21 06:25 PM
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Yeah I'm ok with it..im leaving a destroyed marriage and the non attachment she provides me + fucking + going out to eat actully helps me heal. I think if she was really clingy (girlfriend boyfriend) type I would not engage. It's like our - I will call you when I call you - relationship fits where I'm at. Maybe just point where I am at.. I have 3 others older girls very interested in spending time. I find I shune away from seeing them. Just not interested in another relationship. Yeah I'm ventin…
/r/seduction27/10/21 05:57 PM
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Agreed.. dont think we are labeling as boyfriend, girlfriend. Yeah I think that's the grey zone. we going on trips , fucking , sounds like a relationship to me..but I saw shes hesitate to label it that, based on her prior bad relationship
/r/seduction27/10/21 05:51 PM
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If was just sex, yeah paying for a aex worker would be a easy answer. Sex workers are not traveling with you unless your paying for there trip and also the time there with you on the trip. If girl says she is willing to travel with you but cant afford it and you like her , should you cover it or say ok forget it. Guess it comes down to how much you like her and if your budget allows it. Didn't make up me mind wanted to see if my reasoning sounded reasonable or I'm totally pussy whipped 😂😂
/r/seduction27/10/21 05:48 PM
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Thanks..yeah I like your comment..I spend 200 on dinner so its not a issue. I think shes sees that and is pushing for me to pay. At the same time she could be like no thanks . Taking a trip with a new guy to a forign country is not somethng every girl will do. So know she likes me Again , what is this trip worth to me vs what it cost. How many us at that age are fucking a 27yr olds. I think I'm of thr belief to enjoy her while I can.
/r/seduction27/10/21 05:00 PM
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You broke the tension to take a piss ?? Bro...wtf ?? Girls are like ovens and guys are like light switches. Girls don't just switch on and off like we do.. They need time to warm up (oven) , get horny You walked away and let her get cold again, had time to think. when you are in a room with a girl you should always be prepared that you might fuck..so be clean, have condoms in pocket, dont have holes in your socks etc..lol dont do anything to break the momentum. Seems like she still healing..give…
/r/seduction27/10/21 03:58 PM
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Table for 1..all the time, there is some much.power in enjoying your company
/r/seduction24/10/21 04:57 AM
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I am seeing girl who is 20yrs younger. This is what she told me..when I asked her why she doesn't have guys her age. Now in sure many are trying to see her and maybe shes dating them but Shes stated.. Guys her age are too immature Guys her age just want to play games and get laid Guys her age won't take her out and treat her She likes that I'm open and well traveled Established and financially stable Give her room to do whatever she wants What she didn't say.. I have a dont give a fuck attitude …
/r/seduction24/10/21 04:52 AM
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She broke your heart..why would you get involved Repeat she broke your heart . Heal yourself
/r/seduction24/10/21 04:39 AM
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Leave it as is..pretty much the theme with women. I was told the same , she said shes not looking for anything serious. But enjoys the hanging out . Takes days to respond, but she eventually responds. She likes you, if she would not even respond. Shes not looking to be your girlfriend You need to understand sometimes girls want the attention , sex, without it having a girlfriend title. Yeah go figure Give her some space.,,2 weeks text her and just see if shes good , if she doesn't respond move o…
/r/seduction24/10/21 04:35 AM
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First of all..this is typical wishy washy females.. they all do that. Suffocate them they push you away, pay them no attention they come back. How retarded...but hey we are to understand there ways. I have a 28 yr old who much younger then me girl who is super flaky and one minute shes seems like she wants to claim me the other minute I dont hear from her for 3 days . Totally retarded. I dont run her down or ask why ..I just leave her. You see girls get attached to the emotional feeling you prov…
/r/seduction21/10/21 10:41 PM
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Open the door for her.. Treat her to dinner.. Talk respectfully in public Flirt a little in public Make her feel like a good friend who likes her When alone Fuck her hard and pull her hair Squeeze her tits and ravish her body Choke her a little and Make her feel like a whore Balance my friend..
/r/seduction21/10/21 01:23 AM
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Easy... Just say, I would love.to kiss you Pause .. Wait for her response ..usually ok Then kiss her
/r/seduction21/10/21 01:09 AM
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Spot on !!! Example My 28yr old is super flaky But she has no kids , no commitmen, no drama no attitude. We hang, we eat food, we drink , me make out , we fuck. I leave , call her 2 days later Does she talk to other dudes..dont know , dont care. Are others dudes trying to fuck her. Of course they are. Dont care. Shes well aware I really like her..she's even told me But at the same time shes aware I dont run her down. You see women wonder why your not all up her ass like the rest of the guys runn…
/r/seduction20/10/21 03:59 PM
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Totally agree... I am talking to 3 other girls at the same time. Hey OP if shes the only one in your stable thats not good. You need more in rotation . I have.. 1 that's my young girl later 20s - party have fun, eat , travel no kids 1 that's my age - cook's, go for walks talk deep shit, has kids 1 that's my older- busineses minded has kid 1 that's in her mid 30s - trying to figure out shit no kids All provide a different level of excitement. The moment you have other girls to consume your time o…
/r/seduction18/10/21 08:44 PM
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Yep just - text her. "Hey what's up when we hanging ?" No I miss you or I want to see you Just let's hang Give her options like next friday or Thursday ? Give her a date to choose , then let her choose the time. Hang out,,dont talk about anything but the moment, and that will her the get comfortable to open up and trust you. That will begin the start of the conversion. Once a women opens up to you she is on her way. There legs are easier to open than there minds. Always remember that She needs t…
/r/seduction18/10/21 07:02 PM
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Bro I had the same scenario Exactly...the same She doesn't intiated but if I reach out She responds, if I ask if we are going to hang She will give dates but flakes sometimes She kisses me and when together give full attention no cell phone, no texting etc. I have fucked her on the 5th date Shes 20yrs younger than me When I tried to fuck her I could not get hard Too much fucking drinking that night. She also mentioned getting hurt in a previous relationship so I am in the same exact boat. Some p…
/r/seduction18/10/21 04:13 PM
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first date - you invited- you pay
/r/seduction13/10/21 03:58 PM
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I send a message- show the IG page of the spot,..I then ask " have you been here ?" Answer yes - cool , how was it , wanna go back? Answer no - cool lets go next xxxx
/r/seduction09/10/21 12:31 AM
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Hug her and then kiss her on her cheek ' That's how you progress the tension Next time when your alone you kiss on her lips
/r/seduction07/10/21 04:46 PM
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Again when people brand a hang out as a date its gets cloudy , dont make a girl feel like shes getting relationship by labeling it as a date. Just keep it fun..let it work it self out. It's like trying to tell me what the picture is before the painter is done That's my point
/r/seduction07/10/21 04:20 PM
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What ?? She intiated contacted Shes fucked you Shes invited you to her house Shes texting you first good morning Your worried that shes not flirting back ? Wtf Maybe that's not her love language Bro stop thinking everyone enjoys the same thing you do. Learn to see what she likes. Bringing her a box of chocolate that may get her pussy more wet than any flirty text your sending. Revisit what she likes ..not what you like
/r/seduction07/10/21 02:44 PM
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Just relax and let it flow..dont label anything. It's like going to watch a movie you already seen Just pretend it's your first time, dont say anything , no spoiler alert, no labeling things. I have came to the understanding that ..let the actions decide the kind of relationship you have not the title. Dont force a title. This way it keeps things light and fun for her. You get all the perks of without the label. Just enjoy that..it will sort itself out.
/r/seduction07/10/21 02:39 PM
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This is so true.. hot.chicks take time since they have many guys chasing them. This whole- she has to respond and accept my first attempt or else ahes not interested is stupid. You had not dealt.with enough women. Take your.time and work on removing the layers of concerns she will have. . I took 8 dates to final fuck my dreamgirl.be direct with actions and plans . Tell what you want her to do and why .women need respectful direction
/r/seduction07/10/21 05:36 AM
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So..you hang out, you fuck, you have good convo and your worried about the title shes placing on it.. Who the fuck cares. Your trying to understand women mind...lol...I'm seeing a theme here so many guys keep wanting to fix a title the girl wants to give the relationship. News flash..its the actions that define the relationship not the title. She can call it whatever she wants. I have a girl I meet. Been on 7 or 8 dates, kissed her and had sex , know all her personal shit, been to her condo, mee…
/r/seduction07/10/21 05:20 AM
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A title is irrelevant. The action of 2 people hanging out and having a good time is what's matters You dont need to tell her what it is.. She accepted, does she need to tell you shes interested ? No she does not .. Becuase her actions speak more than her words.
/r/seduction07/10/21 04:50 AM
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Very interesting I had the same question with my scenario, the response requires more context. I will share mine and look for feedback So I have a age gap with a few on my scenarios. We both agreed we just want to hang and not get into anything serious since we both left bad relationships. So we dont talk every day and when we try to hangout her schedule is crazy since shes a bartender. If she cancels our meetup she will explain why and send me screen shots of conversations I guess to make me be…
/r/seduction04/10/21 02:28 AM
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Ahah ..just say "You are super hot, I want to taste you" Her eyes will light up..she will laugh and say what do you mean. You respond I would love to fuck you YOLO
/r/seduction30/09/21 11:23 AM
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You thought it was more She thought it was casual Never be needy..go jerk off of you feel needy Let her reach out out . Let her tell you her availablly. There always guys chasing her You do you and let them show you when there ready to recieve you. Check in ever now and then..how are you ? When are we gonna hang ? Etc Keep it light , fuck her good, eat pizza after , call your other girl on your way back from seeing her. That's how you keep the balance
/r/seduction30/09/21 11:11 AM
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Bro.. Take her out and tell her you dont want anything serious .just good times and that you want to "sleep" "smash" "fuck" her . But do this after the you get the kiss a couple of times . Get her comfortable first. That is the key. Once she tells me shes comfortable then ne direct Girls like honesty and straight forward men. Dont let anyone tell you different. They trick is if you do it too early is comes off as repulsive I meet a girl online , we went out a few times , after the 5th kiss . I s…
/r/seduction30/09/21 11:02 AM
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She likes you..shes nervous..walk over and say something like you dropped this..and hand her a pen or something. Anything. Break the ice and then move forward from there. Dont just play the staring game..shes interested..its your move ..
/r/seduction30/09/21 10:46 AM
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Sometimes girls dont want the label , but everything your doing is a relationship. It does not matter. If she is hanging with you ,talking about 3somes and fucking you ..what is wrong with that,,? Sorry what did I miss. Look at her actions , not at her words, usually if shes coming from a bad relationship she does not want this new one to have that title. Just call it hanging , keep it fun and lose. She will attract more to you given shes not getting suffocated
/r/seduction29/09/21 03:02 AM
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