Love seeing men educating other men :)

gingerwabisabi · 2021-12-16T22:53:50+00:00

Me remembering how at about 8 years old I started noticing and trying to compensate for my dad's laziness in gifts to my mom. Ugh. Do better, scrotes.

BelleCervelle · 2021-12-17T01:03:41+00:00

Oh my god. 🤯

Men like this EXIST?!

That term “Weaponized Ignorance” wow.

“It’s when you know you don’t know, but you put no effort into learning.”

I finally have a term that described the frustration I have repeatedly experienced in my life. Now just with men, with friendships, parents, relatives. This is incredible.

Wow.

His description gave me so many flashbacks.

“So literally I want to say this to every guy who is preparing to get a gift, or an experience for a woman that they care about.

If you give her a gift, that she has to then do work to actually fully enjoy, you did not give her a gift, you gave her a task.

How would you feel if she said dinner is ready, and on the table there are just a bunch of raw ingredients?”

Wow.

I can’t believe these words came out of a man’s mouth, and that fact that he released this information on a major platform in a digestible format, I give him my respect and applaud him.

This gives me hope, and this has validated the experience I have had in past romantic relationships with men.

If he ever sees this comment, I want to tell him thank you good sir, thank you doing this work to set a new standard of behavior in society.

You give me hope.

Saga-the-fierce · 2021-12-17T12:25:54+00:00

Hmmm... I understand the general message which is put much more thought into things.

For me personally, I used to HATE getting flowers for this very reason... Finding a vase, finding a place for them, having a general tidy so that the flowers are in a nice place, trimming the ends.... I hated it.

Now that I'm a fully formed adult, I LOVE getting flowers. I love the process of trimming the ends and finding a beautiful spot for them.

For many men, it's the go-to gift which requires little thought. I wish I received flowers more often 😅

DarbyGirl · 2021-12-17T02:40:25+00:00

Yesssssss!

The few times my ex brought home flowers I was still having to make decisions surrounding them. "Do you want me to cut them? How short? Is this okay? Which vase do you want them in? Do you want them on the table? Or do you want them here? ". All. The. Time. It was exhausting.

1Here4Bach · 2021-12-17T14:02:44+00:00

Then they get on the deadbedroom sub Reddit and complain like, “I don’t know why she won’t have sex with me! I buy her flowers (that she has to cut and find a vase for) and take her out on dates (that she has to schedule a baby sitter, make the reservation and pay for).”

PeanutButterPigeon85 · 2021-12-17T08:36:39+00:00

Great video! Between this and the greyhound that dresses in costumes, it's almost enough to get me on Tiktok.

MACMUA · 2021-12-17T13:47:22+00:00

I know men really absorb this. They listen for stupid sports facts and dumb shit that doesn’t make them better ppl. No excuses

andwhenwillitbegin · 2021-12-17T15:59:52+00:00

What a great man for recognising this.

EmpyrealMarch · 2021-12-16T23:20:35+00:00

Maybe I am being too picky here, but I don't like the phrasing "weaponized ignorance." The weaponized of weaponized incompetence shows that they play dumb with an ulterior motive, either shirking responsibilities or to exhibit control. There is no ulterior motive in not cutting the flowers or putting them in a vase. Lots of flowers come pre-cut and lots of people have their own vases and don't need another. Giving flowers not inside a vase is very normal.

I think the best way to frame is is not in comparison to weaponized incompetence, But instead men's tendency to not take on the mental load and consider all the different aspects that go into planning one thing. Instead of seeing a task to completion they only see a portion of the task. I think this better describes making breakfast in bed, but not cleaning up after. Or planning a date night, but not getting the kids ready. Heck, even applies to everyday chores.

My Dad has a habit of doing everybody's laundry to be "helpful". His schedule changed regularly, so sometimes when I was at school he would strip my bed of sheets, and wash my laundry. He'd spend about 2 minutes collecting everything, dumping it in the washer, and then putting it in the dryer and be so proud of himself for doing the laundry. Then he would expect me and/or my mom to fold everything up since he washed it. Not only is the time commitment between using the machines and folding completely different. But he didn't know if I had some stuff that needed to be pretreated for stains, or shouldn't go into the dryer etc. His helpfulness would sometimes interrupt my self sufficient system and make things harder.

Just to clarify, I do like the overall message this guy shares and entirely agree. I would just label it something else.

2021-12-17T01:11:15+00:00

King 👑

LetsGetin_Formation · 2021-12-17T05:55:25+00:00

Mmmmmmm anyone else refuse to believe men don’t know not to do this to their wives?

Like am I actually watching a step by step tutorial on how not to make a wife put together her own gift while the man plays video games?

Nothing ignorant or incompetent about it. Passive aggression doesn’t even seem like enough. Maybe pure aggression!

Had to stop the video because it felt like a teacher explaining a very simple task to a second grader.

It was an intentional choice he made to hurt his wife. He wouldn’t do that to Megan Fox now would he? Not so incompetent or ignorant then, huh?

malibooyeah · 2021-12-18T22:56:17+00:00

Low effort ignorant men deserve nothing.

Novemberinthechair · 2021-12-16T23:59:10+00:00

Seth Rogen?

reddit_is_real_bad · 2021-12-17T21:20:00+00:00

I hate to play Devil’s advocate here but I don’t trust the guy making this video. It seems like he’s trying to be a “nice guy” to impress women.

I appreciate the message but the messenger looks like someone who cannot get women without pretending to be something he probably isn’t.

I hope I’m wrong but he just looks off to me. And it’s never wrong to approach ALL men with caution.

Title	Love seeing men educating other men :)
Author	Eqvvi
Upvotes	1684
Comments	44
Date	December 16, 2021 10:15 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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