I ask because this question is relevant to my dating life now, but I also figure that some other women on here may have the same question at some point in their FDS-guided dating journeys. So I’d like to ask:

How much enthusiasm should we expect in the very early stages of getting to know each other? Or rephrased, how much lack thereof would a HVW tolerate before deciding she no longer wants her time wasted?

If he wanted to, he would.

This phrase applies to a man who knows what he wants and will stop at nothing to make sure it is known.

FDS advises us that a HVM should be planning dates, he should be contributing to engaging conversations, he should be IMPRESSING us from the very start. And this is the bare minimim for us to entertain the thought of continuing to meet.

So how do we handle a man who shows enthusiasm most of the time, but not so much at other times? How big of a red flag is it if by the third date he’s asking for ideas? Do we count it as a green flag or yellow/red flag if he calls us to say good morning each day before work, but doesn’t actually have much to say and then stays quiet the rest of the day?

Do men get a “grace period” to warm up to a woman and decide just how much they like her? Or are lukewarm men just LVM but better disguised than the average scrote?

Please share your thoughts below! (and knock some sense into me, I’m in need of a proper FDS rebuke😭)

EDIT: He was handsome, charming, and sang beautifully but it was time to cut things off. Blocked and deleted! Thank you ladies!! Glad I only wasted two dates on him🙌🏻