if a guy has a really high sex drive and he wants a partner(s) who can keep up can the guy realistically get the high sex drive met from 1 woman?

wtknight · 2022-10-11T12:08:39+00:00

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CimZim · 2022-10-10T22:29:52+00:00

I'm one of those women, and it's actually the man who can't keep up.

Remember, women don't really have a refractory the way men do...sure I need 3 or 4 minutes to get over the sensitivity of a good orgasm, but then ready to go again. Even when my guy was still in his 30s, he'd only be able to go a maximum of twice in a few hours. No matter how high a males sex drive, he simply cannot compete with a high libido woman, as a fact of biology.

63daddy · 2022-10-10T22:05:22+00:00

Yes. A woman who is really into sex can put in more rounds than a guy if you know what I mean.

While such women exist, as you indicated with the statistics you provided, the odds are against finding such a woman. That’s the challenge.

Eric-Ridenour · 2022-10-10T22:34:55+00:00

I know I am a man, but from my wife's perspective, you likely will not be wondering if you want sex every day when you are 35. I can't keep up with her. I tried once, three times in a day in a week of like 12-15 times total and she wanted more. The definition of insatiable.

Ppdebatesomental · 2022-10-10T22:20:42+00:00

idk he probably shouldn't get in a relationship and he should just hire a sex worker if thats his driving force/primary care for being in a relationship.

ashpr0ulx · 2022-10-10T21:55:15+00:00

there are women with high sex drives. but realistically even if you wanna fuck everyday most people also have other priorities- work, family, general adulting, community, hobbies- that get in the way.

hungrychick404 · 2022-10-10T21:55:45+00:00

There are plenty of women who are in relationships with men who have lower sex drives than them. If you’re hornier than your partner, just jerk off or get better at seducing them idk

ViolentTakeByForce · 2022-10-10T22:16:19+00:00

Women with higher sex drives do exist and from my experience, they are sometimes insatiable because there no real refractory period outside of a 5 minute period where their clits are a little too sensitive.

I think it’s more realistic to find a relationship where you both have an understanding that you aren’t both always going to be horny all the time but won’t be discouraged from doing the deed outside of rare exceptions. There are plenty of women with decent sex drives that understand their man needs to get off, and want to be the source of their man’s pleasure. And that more often than not, their bf/husband will want it more than their female counterparts.

I range between 15 min to 45, give or take in the sack. If I really wanted to focus on my pleasure and only making my girl come once, I can make it happen in 15 min. From the jokes I hear about men being too quick in bed, I’m pretty sure their wives can find 5-10 min or in my case, 15 to make it happen. So I’m not really sure where all these women complaining are coming from, no one I know of isn’t jerking around for a couple hours a day if they are being honest. Could be Fb, IG, Reddit, TV.

I don’t think telling your husband to just Jack off all the time you aren’t in the mood as a wife is the answer. One of the main reasons to get married is to only have sex with one person(for most marriages anyways). Why would I lock myself down to be told “you’re too horny, go jerk off by yourself” several times a week. No thanks.

nemma88 · 2022-10-10T23:04:21+00:00

I just commented the same on the question on the daily thread so I'll just post it here.

should he even bother with a relationship?

Is getting much less sex a better circumstance to this man or? Regardless of anything else, relationships are higher frequency of sex than casual because juggling is a lot of work, people don't usually want to spend all their time on getting laid but perhaps that is important enough to this hypothetical guy. Generally speaking casual is trading frequency for variety.

do women who actually want sex that much even exist?

Yes. When I got with my partner I figured I'd compromise on his ideal of every other day. In reality its worked out less than that (and in reality his answer was NRE + not having sex for a while, not his real ideal) but in the end I love him and our relationship is much more than just about sex.

*Edit; To mention, one of the major deciders for leaving my previous relationship was lack of sex (months) so I was pretty touchy about it coming into this one.

ToberOct · 2022-10-10T23:54:31+00:00

Realistically he will not get his high sex drive met with more than one woman. He can only meet it with one woman. A monogamous couple has infinitely more sex than you ever could with hook ups or multiple relationships.

Women wanting sex with their husband once or more a day is extremely normal. Especially for couples who were virgins for marriage. Waiting for marriage increases the amount of sex you have during marriage. A man who wants sex about 10 times a week would never be able to meet that with mutliple women. He needs a wife.

gymbro718NYC · 2022-10-10T22:54:24+00:00

The only men who have a high sex drive are the ones who are not having much sex. It works the exact opposite for women. The more good sex they have, the higher their sex drive. The more sex men have, the lower their sex drive gets and they start making excuses to not have it every day.

ghkblue43 · 2022-10-11T00:34:56+00:00

There are wives who will have sex when their husbands wants it even when they aren’t really in the mood. I’m mostly indifferent about sex unless I’m ovulating (which is probably pretty normal). That doesn’t stop me from having sex when he wants it.

Ppdebatesomental · 2022-10-11T02:13:03+00:00

Men with partners get more sex than unpaired men. Unless you are a total Chad or some pro baller, your best bet is probably sex 3 times a week with a steady partner and beating off 4 times, otherwise you will probably end up beating off 7 nights in a row.

The other options are finding an oversexed woman or one happy with an open relationship or get really, really good at sneaking around. If you opt for the open relationship, be prepared to have men swarm around her like flies on shit and accept your sloppy seconds until she branch swings. Then you will be back to 7 nights a week with your hand. Or be sneaky and when you get caught…most likely you and your hand 7 nights again.

In general, something is probably going to be better than nothing

_demidevil_ · 2022-10-11T10:04:42+00:00

We can’t realistically get everything we want. I want a lot of things. I’d love a holiday right now but I can’t have it. Sex every day is unrealistic.

soulangelic · 2022-10-10T21:52:47+00:00

Of course women who want that much sex exist. Plenty of women have very high sex drives.

AstronautLoveShack · 2022-10-10T22:41:39+00:00

Yes, it's possible. You might find it unsustainable though over long term, but yes, a woman can be as insatiable as a man, maybe more so if she has multiple orgasms.

bunnakay · 2022-10-10T22:58:27+00:00

Even before my husband started meds that lowered his sex drive, I wanted it more often than him. Assuming scheduling is not an issue, I could have sex multiple times a day.

2022-10-10T22:35:50+00:00

Probably not, and if that's your priority monogamy probably isn't gonna work for you. Sex drive changes for people throughout life, both men and women. Even someone with a high sex drive can end up with a health condition or on a medication that lowers it, so there's not gonna be a guarantee.

howdoiw0rkthisthing · 2022-10-11T01:17:22+00:00

To be honest I think it comes down to the woman being accepting of masturbation and porn.

Also, if the man were single it’s very unlikely he’d find a woman to bang every single day, even if he’s the ultimate 6-6-6 Chad (I’m sure someone will tell me I’m wrong though) so I would argue that inside or outside of a marriage desire to have sex doesn’t automatically equal having sex.

mumblebumblegrumble · 2022-10-10T23:30:34+00:00

I think it would be harder for the average man to get sex every day and more on weekends outside of a relationship, even with lowering his standards below hell.

tommysamson · 2022-10-11T00:35:16+00:00

its hard to find a hot young woman with a high sex drive that isnt a whore

Beanicus13 · 2022-10-11T09:36:58+00:00

Lol. I’ve never met a man you can keep up with me sexually. But my current boyfriend comes close. At least once a day. Plus 2-7 on weekends

JoeRMD77 · 2022-10-10T21:56:51+00:00

I've only dated promiscuous women so I've had the opposite problem. Luckily I had friends.

kinhk · 2022-10-10T22:23:50+00:00

No, it's one of the reasons men throughout history and silently today have women on the side.

Cr1v3ns · 2022-10-11T00:06:38+00:00

You saw a post making that claim, you say? How many women were asked? Is there any evidence at all that anyone we asked and someone didn't just pull 6% out of nowhere?

How many women that were surveyed were having sex with men being selfish in bed? I find, more often than not, men are selfish in bed and the women are left horny. Have you ever wonder how many women masturbate and why they would rather do it alone than with a man?

Koipisces · 2022-10-11T06:07:24+00:00

Idk the most ridiculous topics that are being started in PPD that I see posted these days come from OP, seems like he is very young.
Men, even with a high libido, don’t need to always still give into it. It’s give and take, and whatever you choose. You can choose to stay single and get your needs met, though if you aren’t an attractive man you probably won’t get laid as much as you’d like plus you might feel lonely as you don’t have a real connection. You could find a partner who is ok with an open relationship, though it means your partner also gets the option to sleep around, find a partner with a high drive herself-ideally someone you could really love and have things in common with- or you find a partner you really love and who you have things in common with and are willing to sacrifice your sexual needs for the well being of the relationship. My male friend did that for nine years, no cheating, because he loved his ex that much. Eventually they split up but still much respect for him. If a man wants to, he can restrict himself. Also while it doesn’t effect a man’s sex drive, testosterone does effect a woman’s sex drive. The irony is that some men in manospheres just want a timid wife who probably doesn’t enjoy much sex while despising women who do enjoy it.

Vegetable-Rub3418 · 2022-10-10T22:37:30+00:00

Not really you want to have the super high sex drive are not as common. And even if they were most men wouldn't be able to get them

Aubrey_D_Graham · 2022-10-11T00:14:39+00:00

I happily could and did have a relationship like this.

I'd be looking for strange if it slowed down or stopped.

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2022-10-10T22:52:00+00:00

Yeah. My partner and I are like this, but realistically we do have days here and there where we have to take breaks (like when we got covid) or when work kills us. But we do get down often/near daily, usually weekends are when we have time for more than once a day.

Granted, I am also obsessed with him and his body and will do thinks like try to sniff his armpits or his crotch. Like anywhere that has his smell.

High libido women 100% exist. Most will be okay and even into you being upfront about sexual needs because they'll relate.

2022-10-11T03:12:59+00:00

Every other day is sufficient for me…sometimes the girlfriends wanted it more often which I’d usually oblige. Multiple times a day sounds tiring though

anjovis150 · 2022-10-11T09:00:32+00:00

Pretty high possibility, at least in the first phase of the relationship.

januaryphilosopher · 2022-10-11T09:23:54+00:00

Yes, he can. He can find that 6% for a start, but practically speaking, even if he and his partner have a high enough sex drive to want sex every day, they're unlikely to actually be able to. I have a sex drive probably higher than that, and although I could do it if I had a way freer schedule and neither of us got tired from sex, it just isn't happening and it's not a particular concern that I have to meet my partner's substantially lower drive.

Title	if a guy has a really high sex drive and he wants a partner(s) who can keep up can the guy realistically get the high sex drive met from 1 woman?
Author	Ok-Cupcake-2854
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Date	October 10, 2022 9:36 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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