Maybe I’m late to the party, but I’d honestly never heard the term “gaslighting” before a few months ago. The wife (STBXW?) keeps throwing it at me…the problem is, literally everything she accuses me of (okay, most of what she accuses me of) is exactly what she does.

I go back and forth on whether she has Narcissistic Personality Disorder or if she’s just a bitch. She certainly displays several of the NPD symptoms: self-centered, no empathy towards others, almost never apologizes (my teenage kids made a big deal that she did about a year ago, first time they remembered her doing it), inability to forgive, needs to be the center of attention, etc.

Anyways, no idea the point of this post, but we’ve been married 15 years, 3 kids, 2 dogs, and every interaction is awful. The two teenagers have told me on multiple occasions to just get divorced. I keep sticking around like an asshole for the little guy because I know he’s too young to see through her bullshit and she’ll poison him against me. But I think it’s really starting to unravel. I’m tired of keeping her out of control anger focused on me instead of the kids. I’m tired of every interaction either beginning with or ending in an argument. I’m tired of never having sex (3 times in the last 4 years). I’m tired of being told we need to save money, then her going to Sephora and spending $582 on skin care because she’s important (yes, that is how much she spent last weekend on makeup).

I’m just tired. I tried. I really did. I don’t want to be a quitter, but I feel that I’ve endured enough.