Female attorney is told her photo is "stunning". She erupts in outrage, he apologizes, she decides the apology wasn't enough and decides to publically shame him on social media because "He hasn’t in my view accepted the fact that his actions were incredibly sexist"

EricAllonde · 2017-12-12T15:24:41+00:00

There's something dysfunctional about these 20-something feminist women today. They're completely unable to deal with an issue 1-on-1, absolutely everything has to be a public performance.

All this stupid woman had to do was email the guy back and say, "Don't comment on my appearance". He might have agreed and apologised, he might have thrown a tantrum - it doesn't matter. Either way, he's not going to compliment her again and she hasn't trashed her career by being an asshole publicly.

But these stupid feminists can never do that. Instead they need to turn the whole thing into a public performance, presumably to show their peers what a big victim they are and thereby ascend the victimhood hierarchy. It's pathetic.

Remember Adria Richards and "donglegate"? At least that incident had a happy ending: she may have got the guy fired, but he quickly got another job while she was fired and driven out of the industry, never to work in software again. That's the outcome we need more often, until these childish professional victims learn to grow up and deal with other people as adults.

Mr-Zero-Fucks · 2017-12-12T16:30:30+00:00

Good luck getting job offers after that, I wonder how many firms, institutions, and organizations would be glad to work with someone that makes public outcry for a very small and personal situation.

She's hurting herself in order to get attention, how ironic.

IronJohnMRA · 2017-12-12T13:51:47+00:00

Unacceptable and misogynistic behaviour. Think twice before sending another woman (half your age) such a sexist message.

Ouch!

orphancrippla · 2017-12-12T18:48:26+00:00

Don't touch women, don't look at them, and don't compliment them. If possible, don't be alone with them at any point in time either. If you break any of those rules, bye bye career and possible freedom. After all, we all know compliments are part of rape culture.

And these people wonder why fewer and fewer men bother anymore.

SaggingZebra · 2017-12-12T15:10:35+00:00

I don't compliment women at work, i do not walk up the stairs behind a woman, i will literally wait until they are no longer in sight.

I keep everything to a simple good morning/afternoon.

I won't accept lunch invites with other women nor will I touch them in anyway, I even try to avoid handshakes the best i can without being disrespectful.

I need my job and enjoy my way of life, i will not allow a woman to destroy it because she decides to have a "metoo" moment over a handshake or workplace type compliment.

-manatease · 2017-12-12T17:39:37+00:00

"I'm sorry, I take it back. You're ugly. Inside and out."

2017-12-12T16:15:34+00:00

Accept a compliment lady. And quit this sexist crap.

Proteus_Marius · 2017-12-12T16:41:05+00:00

LPT: Don't use Linkedin for personal commentary.

AgentSkidMarks · 2017-12-12T18:02:17+00:00

People can’t even take compliments these days. Just shameful.

ExpendableOne · 2017-12-12T14:38:35+00:00

It's funny how often "half her age" is brought up in her words. Not only is it irrelevant, because it's certainly not an objective law that older people can't get into relationships with people half their age when they are both clearly adults, but it also kind of completely discredits her own point in that, if age is such an objective, universal and determinant factor then a guy messaging a girl "half his age" probably wouldn't be doing it in a sexual or objectifying way.

2017-12-12T16:02:17+00:00

Yes, how DARE he throw out a mild compliment via a digital medium, such that it takes her all of 1-2s and a calorie of energy to delete. She had far more important things to deal with in that 1-2s than some unsolicited, vague compliment from a senior partner at a law firm. At her normal billing rate, that arrogant fucker just cost her ... well ... pennies.

Melrose_Jac · 2017-12-12T14:22:33+00:00

"Stunning"?!?!? Really????

serial_crusher · 2017-12-12T16:33:49+00:00

Unlike her male peers, the barrister said she has never received a job offer through the professional networking site.

Um, don’t you usually have to go to job interviews etc before getting an offer? What is this lady talking about?

Mr_MRAnarchist · 2017-12-12T14:14:02+00:00

Good... drive older more powerful men away... enjoy your 15 cats in your 40s...

serial_crusher · 2017-12-12T16:38:00+00:00

Show of hands, how many men have had a business contact compliment one of their photos?

I have. Some recruiter was trying to butter me up for a job I wasn’t all that interested in. Let me know how tough and masculine I looked in my google plus photo (just some random picture of me running). It was a little cringey, but I just rolled past it. This post is the closest thing to a rant I’ve written about it. Then again, I’m not trying to make a name for myself as a feminist lawyer.

TravelingShitLord · 2017-12-12T15:57:12+00:00

Why apologize?

2017-12-12T18:12:45+00:00

So giving a compliment is now sexist...

I dont want to live on this planet anymore

MagicTampon · 2017-12-12T18:09:29+00:00

This is from 2015.

pronorwegian1 · 2017-12-12T20:24:33+00:00

This is why I don't compliment people anymore.

beerhiker · 2017-12-12T15:09:18+00:00

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MrMultibeast · 2017-12-12T16:34:57+00:00

Meh, she isn't even that good looking.

Santaball · 2017-12-12T21:26:44+00:00

I remember this. Turned out to be career suicide for her.

TheNakedMars · 2017-12-13T01:13:51+00:00

Fantastic marketing campaign! At 27 years old and with the world at her feet, she's figured out how to catapult her career at the expense of an old white guy!

oranbhoy · 2017-12-12T17:53:29+00:00

yet its ok for her to do it

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-3229951/Ooh-la-la-hot-stuff-s-prim-barrister-centre-sexism-storm-said-men-ogled-web.html

lowsodiummonkey · 2017-12-12T17:34:06+00:00

If she’s straight (then again if not either) good luck in ever finding a relationship. She’s a ticking time bomb and a lawyer on top of it. Talk about red flags.

Imnotmrabut · 2017-12-12T19:50:55+00:00

Oh It's Ms Proudman again! Yawn.

sonofsuperman1983 · 2017-12-12T20:00:19+00:00

I must not be seeing what he sees.

BlockNotDo · 2017-12-12T15:49:16+00:00

There are a few too many people who confuse LinkedIn with Tinder.

But this woman? C'mon! She should be taking compliments from wherever she can get them. She's an average-looking, late 30's lady.

Electroverted · 2017-12-12T19:18:23+00:00

Old news, and if I remember correctly, she got in trouble for this.

Haisha4sale · 2017-12-12T19:27:58+00:00

damn, she should walk around with a sign on her warning people off if she is really that concerned about someone seeing her as something other than a cardboard cutout of a human.

TracyMorganFreeman · 2017-12-12T21:50:40+00:00

"If I were gay or bisexual and saw a stunning male photo I'd say the same thing."

Bingo. No longer sexist.

2017-12-12T21:54:45+00:00

You're a lovely person is probably something she has ever heard from anyone once they get to know her.

hyugafan · 2017-12-12T22:26:03+00:00

What the actual fuck, lady. This is why we can’t have nice things.

scyth3s · 2017-12-12T23:12:22+00:00

The misogyny in this thread is real. Yes, she fucked up by making a public outcry... But he has no business calling someone obviously looking for professional contacts "stunning." It just doesn't fit in that context, and this sub seems to be missing that point.

GreatBayTemple · 2017-12-13T00:14:51+00:00

Ignore their looks. Respond with any pics or things related with their appearance with "cool". Something simple and with little or no enthusiasm.

xmrb3nz3dr1n3x · 2017-12-13T00:42:39+00:00

Kevin Costner's standards have certainly taken a hit in recent years if he's complimenting her.

candidly1 · 2017-12-13T02:24:18+00:00

"WAIT!!!"

"When I said 'stunning', did you think I meant in a GOOD way? Because I didn't. Straighten that shit up, man; we're looking for clients here! Don't fucking flatter yourself."

Factushima · 2017-12-13T02:40:40+00:00

Distinctly not stunning. Well, at least she's saving a bundle on good hair cuts.

JackBond1234 · 2017-12-13T03:12:50+00:00

She may be stunning on the outside, but her decayed inside makes her absolutely repulsive, and she will rightfully spend her life alone, unless she finds a self-hating person to join in a "relationship"

gryffyn1 · 2017-12-13T04:20:51+00:00

A photo does not capture an image of your mind, capability, persona, or knowledge. It captures what you looked like at one particular moment in time. He commented positively on what she chose to look like in that photo. Total nonsense. If you want people to comment on your mind, show your resume, not a photo.

Revoran · 2017-12-13T04:23:28+00:00

The comment was mildly inappropriate, but not worth a social media shitstorm.

McFeely_Smackup · 2017-12-13T05:27:56+00:00

So, she didn't intentionally use an attractive photo?

This seems like a 2017 version of complimenting someones outfit and responding "what, THIS old thing??"

2017-12-13T06:26:10+00:00

In acting, casting directors look at your shoes, and that is their first impression of you. And its nothing that society tries to fight. Thats just the game. Fuck this woman, take a compliment. A good headshot goes a long way. Because all casting directors (theyre mostly womyn) decide based on your headshot before your resume/talent. they really are shallow uptight people tasked with interacting with the zany outgoing risk-takers by nature or passion. When i get the chance to be on stage infront of camera, im a fucking lunatic. Outside that... im rather reserved, but it still pisses me off when some uptight shrewed in charge of casting simply reels their head when you decide not to act like a fucking social robot. poor guy... probably got gaslighted into thinking he is actually a sexist.

2017-12-13T09:29:47+00:00

This is why the sex dolls are a multi billion dollar industry

bhavv · 2017-12-14T06:42:33+00:00

Imagine the following headline if I called such a woman 'beautiful' or stunning:

'33 yo gay, autistic virgin with debilitating social anxiety sued for calling a woman beautiful'.

Oh god if I actually went outside and had the balls to compliment random people.

seafood10 · 2017-12-14T16:58:07+00:00

OK. This shit is going too far. Should we now call them ugly or say the picture is normal or statistically average?

2017-12-12T21:29:37+00:00

Old news.

PenisTorvalds · 2017-12-12T13:18:46+00:00

Why would you use linked in as a dating website? Dumb.

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