It's a fact that we live in a society that breeds pickme behaviour. It's a fact that women are conditioned, from the day they are born, to put the needs of other people, especially men, above their own. However, at FDS we encourage women to have agency. You do not have to be a victim of circumstance. We know that patriarchy and men, as a class, screw women over. Unfortunately, that is unlikely to change anytime soon. Your armour against patriarchy and low value men is accountability.

Being accountable for your actions is not the same as blaming yourself for how other people have treated you. Accountability is about examining why you decided to stay in a relationship where you were used. Accountability is about reflecting on past decisions so you know not to make that mistake in the future. Accountability is about examining your behavior, practices and beliefs. You cannot change the actions of other people.

Many women have managed to live a successful, high-value life on their terms. Every woman who has achieved this has recognized that they need to take ownership of their decisions, so they are not sucked in by people or situations that bring them down. Nobody is going to save you from the patriarchy. Liberal feminism has seen women throw other women to the wolves in the name of appeasing men. And it is clear that men will not save us from patriarchy, because they are the main beneficiaries. You have to choose to save yourself.

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