For those of you that have been out of your marriage for a while, currently separated, or freshly divorced; how did you cope with your pain? What did you do to get your spouse out of your head. How did you try to stop caring for them and going out of your way for them? You can ignore the next paragraph as its just me ranting.

Right now I am going through with the divorce process with my wife, all initiated by her. I wish we could work things out but she is checked out and won't reciprocate any of my efforts to try. I still love and care for her and I told her I won't beg or force her to stay anymore and that I won't try on reconciling our relationship. But its still hard. I'll have good days where I don't think about her and then I'll have days where I am worried sick about her because she hasn't been home for a long period of time. She has been going out a lot lately and leaving me to take care of our pets. I have no friends in the area so i've been cooped up in the house, starving myself of social interaction while she goes out partying/drinking. I already planned on moving to where a majority of my groomsmen are living so that I can be near my support systems. I've asked for friendship and she told me she doesn't feel comfortable with that and hates hanging out with me anyway. She has been incredibly rude/hostile/distant with me while I have been only caring and being friendly as can be with the situation. I've seen so many posts of people saying something along the lines of "the person you marry is not the same as the person you divorce". jesus, no kidding. what happened to the sweet gal I married that always had my back and smother me with kisses and hugs all the time.