Why are single people told not to actively pursue a relationship, and one will come to them when they least expect it? Does this ever actually happen?

Nothing frustrates me more than when bluepilled normies tell people who are single and struggle with dating to "just not worry about it!", "a relationship will come to you when you least expect it!", or the classic "just learn to be happy alone! How can you love others if you don't love yourself?". As if our society doesn't constantly demonize single people and there isn't a hard-wired biological incentive to be in a relationship.

So basically, if you are single and want a relationship, you shouldn't actually actively try to get a relationship, instead you should just coast by and you'll get a relationship naturally?
Imagine if we applied this logic towards other desires.
"I want a job."
"Oh, don't actually hand out any resumes or apply to any jobs. Just learn to be happy unemployed, and you'll get a job when you least expect it!"

"I need money."
"Oh, don't actually actually put any effort into getting money! Just learn to be happy broke, never work, and money will come to you when you least expect it!"
Sounds pretty stupid, right? Not actively trying to get something and hoping it'll come to you without trying. So how is this any different from people who tell single people not to actively try or put in any effort into getting a relationship?

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