I've been going on multiple dating app dates recently and I thought I would share what's working for me to set up those dates as I think it could be useful for some of you guys, especially to avoid flaking. Note: this is about what I do after I get a match with a girl so I won't be discussing profile photos, bios, or anything like that as that's another topic altogether.

Every time I get a match, I usually use the same opener. I say something like "heyy what's happening? Just wanna say that I love your vibe". Girls eat that shit up because it's not a compliment about their looks (which every other guy will give), but rather the personality they give off in their photos/bio. They will usually say thanks and say something similar about me too and then I have a little discussion with them. Common general topics include how their week/weekend is going and then asking follow-up questions based on that.

After a little back and forth, I'll usually say something like "hey let's get off this app and grab a drink what do you think?" When they say yes, I'll then ask them for their IG to figure out the time and place. I don't use snapchat, but if you do, maybe you can ask for that. I just find more girls (especially older than 25) use IG than snap so it's safer to do that. I then follow them and wait for them to follow back. I almost never ask them for their number and here's why.

Everything you can do via texting, you can also do via IG DMs. However, IG offers so much more to build rapport than texting does. First of all, it gives the girl more of a look into your life as well as more photos of you to reassure them that you're not a catfish (this is also useful for you to make sure they're not a catfish either). Secondly, stories are an amazing tool for maintaining attraction before a date as you can comment on what they're up to and vice-versa, which is great for finding excuses to chat with them.

The other features like sending gifs, videochatting, and read receipts are also nice to have. In general, I find that DMing on IG instead of just texting does a way better job of preventing flaking. It also makes it easier to know if a girl is avoiding/ghosting you in general as if they're not responding to your messages, but still posting stories or reading your messages, then you know they lost interest and you can move on from them.

Anyway, once they follow me back on IG, I'll continue the conversation with them and eventually set up the time and place for the date. If it's 2 or more days away, I will also send a message in the morning on the day of (sometimes the day before) to confirm that the date is still on. This is very important as it weeds out any potential flakes and in the off-chance that she does flake, it gives you enough time to find a plan b in case you have another girl that you wanna see.

And that's it! Using this method, I haven't been flaked on in a while. Can't even remember the last time it happened lol. Hope this was useful!

EDIT: Man, some of you need to get your heads checked. So much negative energy when all I'm trying to do is share my experience and what has been working for me. If you don't see value in anything I'm saying, then just move on. All these bad vibes won't help you in life.

EDIT 2: For those of you questioning the effectiveness of my opener, see here for a collection of screenshots demonstrating that it works and gets responses: https://imgur.com/a/bLPIFJF