Guaranteed way to know if a girl wants to be Approached

Therocksays2020 · 2021-05-23T19:05:27+00:00

Fairly good advice. I wouldn’t assume down to chat though. In some parts of the country it’s just customary to smile or greet people even if you have no interest in approach.

But like you said if they don’t offer at least that don’t waste your time

Kuvanet42 · 2021-05-24T03:14:44+00:00

When I realized that most girls who reject you, you’ll never see again. Then who cares? Move on. 👍🏼

Alive-Doughnut2345 · 2021-05-23T19:42:56+00:00

Smile? Most people are wearing masks though

TheOffice_Account · 2021-05-24T05:39:18+00:00

If the girl smiles back

Brits & Bostonians have left the chat, lmao.

Kidding. Definitely a simple and great post by OP.

Haunting-Pride-7507 · 2021-05-24T06:22:18+00:00

This feels in the same vein as "don't approach women at X place because they're there to finish Y activity". In fact, it seems like a direct response to that post. It's still based in the assumption that "all guys are creeps and I am scared".

Black and white advice to dating is harmful.

If she has a boyfriend, she can say so. She's not a victim. If we tell people not to approach, you are taking away their willingness to try.

If she has a boyfriend and still smiles and doesn't tell the that she has a boyfriend, that still is a potentially explosive situation that a shy guy wants to avoid.

If she's scared, she'll make a reason to avoid.

So why don't we let the woman decide who she's comfortable talking to or not? If a guy doesn't listen, talk to someone higher up managing the location.

That still is no excuse to be creepy. Men need to learn and do better with regards to social skills and dating.

And these arbitrary modern social rules kill dating and social skills might just kill their desire and push them back into their shell.

Thai_ice_Tea · 2021-05-24T00:56:26+00:00

How do I smile with my eyes?

BootyFatMan · 2021-05-24T08:17:48+00:00

This advice is going to ruin my life, I can feel it.

lameo312 · 2021-05-24T02:05:34+00:00

How many women are way too shy/self conscious to make eye contact

ucfstudent10 · 2021-05-24T05:49:40+00:00

My problem is I smile back because I’m not rude but I don’t want to be approached either 😭 I feel so bad telling guys I’m not interested because some of them are so respectful when approaching,

VDKay · 2021-05-24T07:39:09+00:00

I don't get it. You signal her somehow to make eye contact? Or you just stare at her until she does? Or is all this for after you said "hi"? What about if she is focused on something besides exchanging looks with strangers, like, she is grocery shopping or reading a book?

I dunno. Maybe seeing a stranger standing 5 feet from her, looking at her and grinning sounds a bit creepy to me.

Judging from my statistics (and the statistics of friends), literally no girl ever made eye contact with me and smiled, like ever (maybe because I'm not so good-looking?). So, I've approached literally 0 girls who made eye contact with me before even saying "hi". And from the girls I've approached, like 60% were clearly pre-occupied with something else, and from those pre-occupied girls, like 50% were GLAD that I talked to them (= down to chat).

Maybe waiting for an eye contact and a smile is foolproof. Maybe it's creepy. I am a bit biased though. But in any case, it is inefficient as hell.

ZestyAppeal · 2021-05-24T06:52:24+00:00

I smile at smiley people, doesn’t mean I’m inviting specific attention. Just living my life as a friendly introvert. If you want to approach someone just do it (circumstances permitting).

It’s weird to keep lookout for specific signs or cues in people’s public behavior. Women who return a smile are likely just responding in kind, and definitely not covertly participating in your perceived body language code.. that’s silly.

MasterTeacher123 · 2021-05-23T19:45:56+00:00

I don’t wait for signals. If I think a girl is cute and I wanna talk to her I go for it. This is very true for Daygame and approaches outside of traditional social environment like clubs and bars.

I would say of the last 10 girls I smashed through cold approaches, like 7 or 8 didn’t give me some type of direct signal.

GickyRervais · 2021-05-24T10:05:03+00:00

How about stop wasting time trying to figure out who wants to be approached and who doesn't, and just go and say hi to any girl you find attractive?

YetzirahToAhssiah · 2021-05-24T13:24:53+00:00

Move on because she doesn't smile back? Many girls are just awkward or afraid of eye contact. You don't have to give up that easily

Judas_7803 · 2021-05-23T23:55:14+00:00

Nice. What advice do you have for online dating. Cuz im getting mixed signal from a chick in interested in.

burncushlikewood · 2021-05-24T05:45:23+00:00

Richard la ruina talks about this in his stealth attraction videos. When you're in the club you make a little gesture to get their attention, then it's sort of a comfort builder, like a nod or a smile, if they react back then you approach

2021-05-24T06:12:03+00:00

Above all, a no is a no. It's not as much about winning or losing, it's as much about respect for the companion in prospect.

2021-05-24T06:18:39+00:00

does this work with guys too

UpsetFuture1974 · 2021-05-24T09:54:25+00:00

I don’t think you know what “guaranteed” means

Chance_Lengthiness_1 · 2021-05-24T09:57:27+00:00

Fair enough strategy. Works most firms. The mask is goig to be a hindrance though.

2021-05-24T10:21:06+00:00

I imagined it in my head and it was my creepiest smiles i have ever imagined

Nikkinicole57 · 2021-05-24T13:58:35+00:00

Damn. I'm a female and usually look away from a guy I find attractive but can stare down and smile at one that isn't my type

Attractive guy has got me needing to recentre my thoughts where a guy that doesnt ring my bell is like looking at a clock 5 minutes before a shift ends.

2021-05-24T14:42:54+00:00

I see what you’re getting back, but I disagree with the smile basis.

I would politely smile back at a random dude who smiled at me but I wouldn’t want him to approach me. Though if she keeps looking at you after she smiles instead of looking away, then that’s a more friendly signal. So smile + continued friendly looks = more likely a good outcome to starting a conversation.

One Midwestern American’s contribution.

(Also this post popped up in my feed as one of those suggested ones, apologies if this isn’t welcome.)

Eagleeddie · 2021-05-24T15:12:07+00:00

Shy girls will often look away because theyre nervous, so important to monitor to see if they look at you again

Armybert · 2021-05-24T06:30:03+00:00

Let's remember that staring, smiling, and even stalking are romantic things to do IF you're handsome already.

loofyd · 2021-05-23T20:26:55+00:00

you're going to get me arrested

or physically beaten

Available-Outside-19 · 2021-05-24T09:23:16+00:00

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Woujo · 2021-05-24T12:08:36+00:00

This is terrible advice. Women very rarely clearly indicate that they want guys to approach them. You have to approach them anyway. If they are not interested they will let you know.

brawdhampshire · 2021-05-24T02:18:06+00:00

every girl where im from avoid being approached, even the ugly ones... so we have almost no chance to even try

alwayhorny_sendtits · 2021-05-24T01:36:35+00:00

Okay but what's the next step? Do you give your number then leave.

yuckyuck13 · 2021-05-24T06:25:26+00:00

When you get a hair tuck along with the look it's game on.

sexualdream · 2021-05-24T08:24:20+00:00

Basically just approach her and see if she would carry on. Good one.

throwawayyy980 · 2021-05-24T09:44:13+00:00

I look way and seem uncomfortable with guys I want to talk to ~ woman here

Koreact · 2021-05-24T10:34:22+00:00

Does this work the other way around?

L1ttl3Lun4 · 2021-05-24T10:52:21+00:00

Good advice! Eye contact is really helpful for women to know that you're interested. Plus who doesn't love a good smile? 😊

RiseFearless5927 · 2021-05-24T11:38:24+00:00

good idea! as a single girl ready to mingel yet sometimes shy and sometimes afraid if boys are too straight forward this trick is a nice way to start and see if im interested before approaching . i should try this with guys as well.

RecentFunction6294 · 2021-05-24T11:40:48+00:00

Yeah okay but how tf do you make eye contact lmao? Seriously do you keep staring at her until she stares back cause that looks really creepy?

rebootlovelife · 2021-05-24T12:21:05+00:00

*Instructions not clear*

Currently being beaten by a boyfriend.

Computershoes · 2021-05-24T13:12:14+00:00

Geez ive been doing this all wrong. Ive been holding them down forcing my dominance on them until i finish. Than i wait to see if the cops show up the next day. Than i know if the cops dont show up she liked it. So far haven’t had any dislikes. Next time ill just tell her, her eyes have a pretty smile see how that goes instead.

skaryhunk · 2021-05-24T15:17:45+00:00

It’s true. Women will pretend not to see you if they don’t like how you look or think you’re creepy.

Although some of them might be too naive to understand smile isn’t basic human friendliness.

2021-05-24T21:43:04+00:00

I'm not a fan of this method at all. In my experience in the field, all this does is make it so you approach way less women because you inaccurately interpret her body language far too often. Just approach. If she doesn't like your approach, you should be able to tell within a minute.

Hayden_Beroc · 2021-05-24T22:49:19+00:00

From my experience its better to just keep the eye contact with the girl, because when a girl makes eye contact with a guy she knows what she is doing and as guys we make it obvious just with our eyes when we like a girl. In any case she is the one who should be smiling at you not you, i'll tell you why the 10/10 girl will not smile or even make eye contact because she is used to that kind of attention. If you get your eye contact from your hotty would you not approach just because she didn't smile back? No. bucuz that's low value to me.

So my advice for you out there gentleman approach approach approach even if she did not saw you, girls love it but do it in a calibrated way watch "james tusk" on youtube will get an idea. Even if she reject you doesn't matter plenty of hot girls out there so rise from your couch and make it happen as nothing good will happen if you guys just watch porn all day.

I'll tell you a secret there are more hot girls out there than there are high value guys so become one and take what should yours because somebody else will take it and will not even enjoy it.

note: a high value guy is not someone who has a lot of money, a high value guy is someone who has good friends, has a sense of self worth, who doesn't get bitter when life throw some hard punches at him and dress nice.

"But do smile when you approach."

Peace.

VaalesteXD · 2021-05-25T09:02:44+00:00

But this girl I'm talking to (that "passed" the test) has a boyfriend?

_myvanitythrowaway_ · 2021-05-27T06:01:38+00:00

What do you do when women almost always never hold eye contact and look straight down when you try to make eye contact with them?

NewGrad222 · 2021-05-28T04:31:51+00:00

Looks like girls never want me to approach LOL

Title	Guaranteed way to know if a girl wants to be Approached
Author	Noxatrox
Upvotes	858
Comments	121
Date	May 23, 2021 7:00 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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