Why you should focus on meeting women in person and not OLD

tunnelblick · 2024-03-07T16:02:27+00:00

“You are not my usual type” is the sentence I have heard most often. 🤣 Almost every woman I dated said this. This is because women often think they know who their type is, but actually they don’t.

OLD can be a good supplement, though.

president_at_gmails · 2024-03-07T16:41:13+00:00

These are all random odds that I just made up, but it proves the point.

Unfathomably based

ChicoBrillo · 2024-03-07T16:32:07+00:00

OLD is a double edged sword in that it's easier to be put in front of more women but also just as easy to be rejected.

If you focus on meeting people IRL you will stand out for actually having confidence / social skills, plus you don't have to arrange a meet up, you can establish chemistry/interest then and there

petkoTHEVIKING · 2024-03-07T21:05:00+00:00

You can do both?

mister_k1 · 2024-03-07T16:32:36+00:00

The problem though is that once you graduate college and have real responsibilities and jobs it becomes hard to completely focus on approaching women. Like most people during the week have full time jobs, errands to run, go to the gym, cook dinner, spend time with friends and family. From Monday - Friday there really isn’t a ton of time to cold approach. Bars and nightlife spots are way more dead during the week. You can still meet people occasionally when you’re out and about running errands and shit but it’s not like people are realistically going to wander around a mall on a Wednesday night talking to girls. And even if you are able to do this, the success rates in cold approach are still very low.

That’s the advantage of OLD. You can approach and talk to shit tons of girls during the week while you’re doing all of the things above. And yea you should still be going out and talking to people when you have time. But it’s ridiculous to completely focus on that and ignore OLD completely.

Both should be done hand and hand not one significantly more than the other

jtaylor27141 · 2024-03-07T19:20:09+00:00

You may be their "type" on online dating or attractive to them. Yet even with pictures, video and voice before we have our initial date, OLD dates are usually awkward as hell. Jokes that they laughed about on the app, or on texting in real life, they just stare at you like a deer in headlights in real life. I experienced this myself the other night ago.

She asked me "what do you do for work?" and instead of the same boring "I do blah blah blah", I said "I'm agent 008". And she was like "pardon me?" And I repeated again "I'm agent 008. James Bond is agent 007. I am agent 008". And she said "I dont know what that means". I said "that means Im a secret agent of the highest order but shh dont tell anyone". She looks like a deer in headlights at first and then says "what" with an angry look on her face.

These sort of jokes, 90% girls give me this response on OLD dates. Yet if i meet someone in person, they pick up on the joke right away and flirt back. The other one is when they ask me what my background is. On that date the other night ago and in the past i usually say "you have three guesses. Choose wisely.". She then let out a huge sigh and says angrily "do we have to do this?" Then they blurt out one response and give up. Just extremely low effort.

TripleDigitNomad · 2024-03-08T08:48:13+00:00

It all comes down to the quality of your profile (and of course how physically attractive you are, which is something you should be improving regardless of whether you're approaching IRL or using dating apps).

Most guys who complain about OLD usually just have shitty profiles (or don't take care of themselves). I'd wager OP is just another one of those.

I have a high quality profile and am going on dates with attractive women every day of the week, sometimes more than once a day. So much more convenient than cold approaching.

ZenoGeno · 2024-03-07T17:26:18+00:00

You can swipe while you're taking a shit and that might lead to a date my dude, I don't understand why this community dislikes OLD so much.

puma085 · 2024-03-08T10:23:23+00:00

I only do direct approach. I need to see a women in real live and need to know how she talks and moves before i can attracted to her. It is impossible to me get attracted to pictures alone. Ok this is only half true I have to admit. There would be some really hot playboy or penthouse magazine models that would sweep me away with their pics alone but that kind of women are not on dating apps. And even if they were the app would not recommend women like that as potential match. Attracting women by written text alone is also much more stressful than talking to them in person.

In other aspects of live I love mo dern day technically but dating apps are the only modern technology I do not like to use. They are simple not working for me.

JackSquirts · 2024-03-07T16:05:30+00:00

While I agree with the breakdown, you're ignoring the ease of access that OLD provides. I can "approach" 100 women in a single day on OLD. Approaching 100 in the wild, even if I'm really trying, might take months.

Weary_Significance53 · 2024-03-07T22:15:20+00:00

Dating online is super competitive . You need GOOD pictures ! You need to make sure they are also in the right order. You need a good bio. You need to have good texting game. Women scrutinize every little thing when they come across your profile.Don’t even expect to meet up right away . I Hardly get any matches on apps and when I do I hardly ever get a message back ! Dating apps probably work if you are a professional sports star or some kind of social media influencer. I’m a bit below average looking to be on dating apps anyways.

HIGHLY SUGGEST WARM APPROACH ! I haven’t cold approached yet cause I haven’t gotten over that fear of Rejection like 95% of men . I do warm approach though . If I see a woman I like take a few glances out in public or at the bar I go up to her and shoot my shot . I’ve hooked up 3 girls just by warm approaching.!When you approach you are creating STORY in her mind . They also get a better feel for you when you approach them. It takes zero courage and confidence to message a woman online ! Even the girls who aren’t that great looking have so many options when it comes to online dating . I encourage all men to get out there and meet some women in public !! Be a regular at your local coffee shop or bar !! Look presentable and look clean !

Best of luck to you all ! You are one cold approach away from your future gf , wife , friend , or FWB 😎

MO_drps_knwldg · 2024-03-07T16:03:46+00:00

Hate this take. Why the this or that mentality?

If you get good at OLD, you are passing up tons of opportunity that comes to you.

Even if you are excellent with daygame, the truth is the majority of interactions don’t translate into actual dates, the success rate with ACTUAL DATES is superior with OLD if you know what you’re doing.

You said yourself you made up those stats.

Utilize everything at your disposal—daygame, social circle/ activities plus OLD. OLD is like your passive income stream for opportunity.

Guys who advise to quit OLD haven’t had success and get in their feelings about it. OLD is a tool you use to your advantage.

roakmamba · 2024-03-07T20:09:16+00:00

Also, you avoid being cat fished. I went out with this chick last weekend and she looked wayyyyyyyyy older than she did on her profile pics and turned me off.

RandoRambo1 · 2024-03-09T18:16:58+00:00

Bars and nightclubs make money off giving you the illusion you will get laid. You will go to a bar or night club for a year and barely get a kiss close. The problem with bars and nightclubs is logistics and getting women to separate from their friend circles to go back home with you. It’s not going to happen and even if it does you both live too far away because you suck at logistics. Don’t go there. Go to places where the logistics are better. This would include hobby groups (soccer, dance groups like salsa night, martial arts, the gym) where you can isolate her and build rapport. Also, get female friends who can source women for you (social circle game), where the social proof your female friends give you builds trust so the girl wants to meet and builds your value super high before you guys even get introduced. Places where logistics are damn near perfect would be bars with a hotel attached to the same building that you’re renting, cottages where the cottage is close to the beach and bars, house parties (bathroom and bedrooms in the next room to the party). Logistics, isolating the girl, and building rapport and connection as quickly as possible ON TOP of attraction and arousal is how you’re going to get laid. So many dudes sitting in clubs and bars either never approaching, or never closing and taking women home (I would argue 99.9) of all approaches in these venues fail because of the factors listed above). Pickup women like you’ve at least done this before and be smarter

ElevationKey · 2024-03-23T13:22:58+00:00

I made a youtube video on this exact topic

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7hVIS2sjT8U&t=10s

Future_Network_2158 · 2024-08-11T12:14:02+00:00

I think OLD has kind of overinflated what “my type” is for most ladies. Bc there’s a ton of guys who will match with them, sleep with them and move on but will never date them. A lot of women include those guys in their type but those guys will only date the really attractive ones

shocklance · 2024-03-07T23:54:44+00:00

Underrated post.

IGetBoredSometimes23 · 2024-03-08T07:15:17+00:00

If you "approach" 100 attractive women in OLD, you might only be "the type" of 5 of those women.

And those are five women who I'm gonna be fucking later.

I do great online. I'm surprised so many people complain about it.

penisweed · 2024-03-08T00:06:19+00:00

How is this at all insightful or new information?

alcoyot · 2024-03-08T16:07:53+00:00

The problem is women don’t go out like they used to. Beautiful women aren’t going to bars clubs or social events. They’re not even going to restaurants, or even the supermarket, everything is just ordered delivered to to them.

Title	Why you should focus on meeting women in person and not OLD
Author	unswunghero
Upvotes	146
Comments	67
Date	March 7, 2024 3:51 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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