Why girls you meet in high energy, social environment like parties or clubs tend to ghost or flake the day after, even if there was good chemistry the night before.

Women experience attraction differently than men-- especially in high energy environments.

Scenario: Single Guy meets a woman at a club or bar— they flirt, dance, maybe even make out. Numbers or Instagram profiles are exchanged.

The next day, the guy is excited. She was soooo into him (he thinks), she only paid attention to HIM the entire night and talked to no other guys.

They danced what seemed like a hundred times, so much in common. She said she’d like to see him again.

The next day he reaches out to her on Instagram: “Hey! Had a great time last night. Do you want to get coffee this week?”

Blocked.

“What?!” He wonders. “Did I say something wrong? How could she feel differently less than a day later?”

Guys fall into this trap because we expect women to experience attraction the same way women do, which is vastly different. When we (men) meet a woman we find attractive—online, at a bar, at the store, etc.—she becomes our focus.

We want to see things through and make something happen. Men are future oriented.

Women are extremely anchored to the present moment, emotionally. In the scenario at the club, in that moment she very may have well wanted to see him again. Emotions were running high because she met an attractive stranger in a high energy environment.

Alcohol maybe have played a factor as well. This is it's important to realize why girls they meet in high energy, social environment like parties or clubs tend to ghost or flake the day after, even if there was good chemistry the night they met.

Guys need to understand just because you flirted and got her number that you’re somehow bound together. It’s a huge mistake to attach a premature feeling of commitment.

Full article on subject: https://modating.substack.com/p/fell-in-love-in-the-club-dont-get