The gym!

Smooth-Sheepherder86 · 2024-04-06T17:14:07+00:00

How do find the motivation? I’m in this night now for almost 2yrs, year 1 was okay, had a lot of momentum maybe fueled by hatred and most likely anti-depressives. I did not want to rely on those drugs for my recovery, but maybe i got off too soon. After the separation and divorce dust settled I not only gained weight back, but also got further depressed and lost motivation to go to gym. I need to lose about 40-50lbs and it’s been tough. Major struggles include using food as comfort/reward and lack of motivation. How do you change these or manage in an healthy way?

Any-Dare-7261 · 2024-04-06T11:25:07+00:00

I do a full body routine 3x a week. Think push, pull, squat, hinge, torso for 2 sets. Warm up and cool down. Some walking on off days and music or podcasts.

sak144 · 2024-04-06T00:04:08+00:00

Yes, yes, yes. I'm in my late 40s and have pecs. Energy through the roof. When you look good and feel good, it's a self-fulfilling loop that builds confidence and causes good things.

Tannhausergate2017 · 2024-04-05T22:30:17+00:00

Gym is important. I went to see a shrink about some really stressful shit a few years ago. He didn’t try to talk me out of my stress; he said exercise to get rid of the stress. If it’s 5 feet or 5 miles just start.

dday_throwaway3 · 2024-04-05T16:56:38+00:00

Good post. If you don't know where or how to get started in the gym, I recommend Stronglifts 5x5 (no affiliation). I found it to be a great way to get started with weightlifting, and it's free. https://stronglifts.com/stronglifts-5x5/

Upbeat_Improvement30 · 2024-04-05T15:16:07+00:00

I can honestly see the difference in my mood if I’m accomplishing something throughout the week in the gym. On weeks that I’m too busy, I’m also sad/anxious more often. I know working out releases endorphins and lowers stress. I appreciate this post as a reminder as well!

acg34 · 2024-04-05T14:05:22+00:00

If women are looking for men, the gym is loaded with fit single/divorced men.

Ok_Individual6763 · 2024-04-05T13:22:40+00:00

Yes! Best thing I did was get a trainer to kick my ass at least once a week. Going in 5 days a week, as well.

Pushing heavy things and getting results over the past few months has been great. If I do have a week where I can’t make 5 days, I get a little down.

Currently on a road trip for a festival and I was dreading missing a few days, but I’m sure the hotel has a gym. It’s kind of an addiction now.

MidniteOG · 2024-04-05T13:19:03+00:00

Nothing better. I had a solid regimen prior to my situation, but once it hit, sometimes I went twice a day. It’s all I can do to sleep at night sometimes…. I lay awake wondering, thinking, trying to make sense of it all. But the gym is a great outlet, with a positive outcome.

Flimsy-Ad-1959 · 2024-04-05T10:54:40+00:00

Lift first. Treadmill second. It will help you make more progress. But either way I 100% agree with you.

I’m down 43 lbs in 11 weeks. It can be done if you put in the work. I’m past my goal weight. Now at 172 lbs.

The mental benefits and confidence you get back as a result of the gym or combat sports cannot be duplicated anywhere else in my opinion.

Signal-Dot2326 · 2024-04-05T10:17:18+00:00

I don't train in a gym but I've been doing workouts with home gym and dumbbells man it feels good

DaddyNoBux · 2024-04-05T09:08:01+00:00

As much as I love the gym, this advice really only applies to guys who let themselves go during their marriage.

A lot of guys were training hard while their marriage was dying.

For those guys, combat sports is the logical route. Something to truly occupy and re wire your brain.

Either way, just fecking train hard regardless. Getting muscular and lean is going to put you way ahead in the game

HerbEverstanks · 2024-04-05T05:59:32+00:00

Or a road bike. Never rode one. Quit smoking. Rode 7 whole miles and felt like I couldn't walk. Now I'm riding 50 to 60 mile rides with groups. No impact. Just another way you can feel better also it's alone/thinking/reflecting time. Great cardio/stamina/ heart health booster.

DarkEnergy67 · 2024-04-05T05:24:16+00:00

Some the simplest best advice ever.

I did similar many years ago but I was dumb and over did the gym because I lacked proper knowledge and ended up injuring myself.

Do the gym but also research and do it wisely. I hope you learn from a stupid old man’s mistakes.

WartimeDad · 2024-04-05T04:04:22+00:00

Exactly right. Good job man. Hit the sauna too and hydrate in there. It’s like a multiplier on the effect.

Title	The gym!
Author	Comfortable-Long-419
Upvotes	49
Comments	35
Date	April 5, 2024 3:53 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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