I've worked as a part time mover and a part time cleaner / airbnb host / landowner for several years now.

As a mover, I've been into several people's homes ranging from the tiniest apartments to 5 story mansions and came across clean and dirty homes of all demographics. I've never seen men help around the house more than women and vice versa when we needed help or directions ( i.e. figuring out how to move things through a narrow corridor or re - arranging furniture the way they want it.)

As a part time cleaner and former Airbnb host, I am responsible for making sure the room is clean after the previous tenants leave. From what I've seen, almost nobody has left their room in the condition we left it in. There's always grease in the microwave, on top of the stove, in the stove, as well as the sink, crumbs scattered across the floor, leftover trash, hair clogging the shower drain and dark stains everywhere around the bathroom. Some of the dirtiest rooms were occupied by women (although I admit most guys were barely cleaner). We even have a deposit in place to prevent this, yet most would rather forego several hundred dollars instead of spending a few hours cleaning. And no, most of them weren't busy either. Most of them had one or both spouses working at home to watch the kids and a lot of the dirtiest rooms didn't even have kids or a spouse. They also ate a lot of microwavable meals or ate really bland - boiled food so I know they weren't cooking for themselves or for their partner either.

If feelings change and women want a divorce. I have no problem with them doing so but I also don't believe that all marriages fail because the husband is at fault.

One of my newly divorced relatives had this happen to him even though he stayed with wife for 14 years and had 2 daughters with her. All my relatives knew him as a great guy (we are honest about relatives who aren't "great" to say the least) and as a culturally influenced Asian American, he was heavily involved in her life. Now his wife has full custody because they live too far away to visit and he's unable to cut time away from work due to our countries work ethic, on top of having to pay a lot of child support.

People hate on passport bro's and even the people I tried dating overseas mocked me for not being able to find a suitable partner in the U.S but how can I when I have so many assets at stake on top of being generally undesirable which only exacerbates my fears.

You can say my sample size of 30 - 40 is too small or my personal anecdotes don't count but I could also say the same thing about women who claim the latter.

I'm also convinced that men stop doing chores because the marriage was failing, and they were about to get divorced anyways. Hence, it's the cause, not the effect.