Campsite Observations

jakochis1 · 2024-08-18T12:59:03+00:00

But seriously, why are (many) women this way? My STBX is a very educated, intelligent, and accomplished woman, but has no self awareness about how she treats me (or the kids). I don't "watch the kids" because I'm not constantly yelling at them. I have never demanded of her the things she demands of me.

rickyspanish12345 · 2024-08-11T05:26:18+00:00

Fuckin A dude.

I love to camp and take road trips. Actually leaving tomorrow for Sequoia National Park.

Anyway, when on the road I usually pull over on off/on ramps and lean on my hood while I eat tuna out of a can or whatever. I'll see men piloting minivans once and awhile looking at me as they drive past with total envy. I can just hear his wife bitching in my mind. I want to scream "get the fuck out dude!"

Acceptable_Piano4809 · 2024-08-11T01:00:25+00:00

My STBXW would do this thing where she’d demand to go on vacation, which meant I needed to find a hotel, find a place to go, find things to do, buy the tickets, rent the car, pay for the flight after finding everything, take off work, and then entertain her the entire time. She would usually complain about the hotel, something was always wrong, too dirty, bed not perfect, pillows too soft, etc. Then I’d have to take her to eat, take her to whatever event we’re going to, drive the entire time, pay for everything of course, and we’d get back and she’d have something negative to say about the trip. This would keep her happy for a few months, maybe half a year, then she’d start complaining how we never go anywhere and I need to take her somewhere else. She would honestly wonder why we don’t go on more vacations and do more things.

Diablo_Canyon2 · 2024-08-10T17:28:10+00:00

So glad I no longer have to solve an unsolvable puzzle.

mr21vp · 2024-08-10T15:02:35+00:00

My STBXW nonstop would give commentary on my actions and always yapping her mouth about anything and everything. My newfound peace and quiet is priceless!

yes2matt · 2024-08-10T14:54:57+00:00

I also camped this week at a conference, helped this older couple set up their vendor stall. It went the opposite way for them, he would snap at her for any perceived misstep. They were old enough to have been married for 50+ years and it made me cringe every time.

So it goes both ways, is my point. I felt sad for each of them, for her being constantly bruised and for him having made himself a bruiser. That's not what marriage is intended for, I'm sure.

shrimp_42 · 2024-08-10T11:34:46+00:00

I just came back from breakfast with a friend and his girlfriend.

Throughout the whole breakfast she corrected him when he was telling me a story, she would move his arm from his face if he was holding it a certain way and generally didn’t really leave him alone!

This is a girlfriend who is otherwise a lovely person who I get on with when I see her, but it just kinda cemented home how much I like not being under someone else’s influence or control.

I rarely see any man who is happy with his relationship, and most fathers seem to be just going through the motions for the kids as the alternative is worse

bond2kill · 2024-08-10T07:28:00+00:00

Thank you!!!!! I glad you are watching the fire🧐. 👍

Reflog1791 · 2024-08-10T07:23:26+00:00

I remember when I would get yelled at for just walking. My ex accused me of checking out any female who was more attractive than her. Eventually I just started walking with my face down waiting for her to snap. I didn’t realize how pitiful that existence was. She eventually cheated on me so I divorced her and my life became awesome.

SpacemanLost · 2024-08-10T04:34:58+00:00

Reminds me of my first marriage. I think my ex believed the universe would explode if she failed to criticize me at once on everything she saw me do.

Thankfully, my second marriage is about as opposite to my first as possibly could be. It's not in her nature to do so. She trusts that I know what I doing and does not feel that stuff like that has to be perfect anyway. AND she knows I would shut that down so hard the moment I felt she was behaving like that ( established that from day one )

MotorBoatingCFL · 2024-08-10T04:17:30+00:00

Cheers my man! Soon....soon.

randomly421 · 2024-08-10T02:20:39+00:00

I often notice the glazed over eyes of men shopping with their spouses. Target is the worst.. The male misery in Target it palpable.

keencone · 2024-08-10T02:04:36+00:00

I witness these types of situations on a regular basis and it makes me want to throw rocks @ foolish old-me who couldn’t imagine peace and harmony without my ‘person’ 😂. Holy shit, never again!

Ancient-Homework7557 · 2024-08-10T01:31:11+00:00

What a contrast. “Happy wife happy life” my ass. I hate what I and most of us are going through. But little glimpses into potential futures like this give me hope. Thanks for sharing.

DivorceTA1988 · 2024-08-10T01:27:33+00:00

I watched every minute of the men’s Olympic golf tournament and no one came into the room and said “Ugh why are you watching THIS?!?”

Cheap_House8696 · 2024-08-10T01:21:29+00:00

Yup, reminds me of when I was on a vacation with my daughter and were sitting on pool chairs by kids pool eating chips and having a ball and the couple nest to us the husband goes oh honey let me move the stuff off your chair so you can lay down, and she goes I can't lay down because you won't watch our kid. The awful dejected look the husband had ouch I remember those moments

Title	Campsite Observations
Author	Alswelk
Upvotes	104
Comments	38
Date	August 10, 2024 12:49 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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