My wife wants a divorce, refusing counselling. I have done a lot for her over the years. She pays nothing towards the mortgage or running of the household, brought her on great holidays, paid for extravagant gifts, cars, etc. She’s a taker.

She now said she wants a divorce like yesterday, we had some heated discussions recently but nothing out of the ordinary. Now she’s claiming I’m abusive and she lives in fear. Absolute nonsense.

Over the last two months she has been totally horrible to me, looking for arguments over anything. Laying down the law over things like how we parent the children. Hostile, aggressive and ill seems to be her modus operandi. She tells me I now can’t speak to her unless it’s regarding the children.

I’m trying to stay calm but have been lured into the odd heated discussion.

Anyone deal with this where STBX is unrecognisable from the person you married?

I’m struggling with the hatred directed towards me. Someone said in an earlier post this level of hate is biological and not emotional but with my wife we will never know.