a combination of things going on here - I'm really stressed at work right now and I'm trying to get on top of it, I don't EVER complain about work to wife, but tonight before bed I let her know I was very stressed about work and I was going downstairs to watch a movie and take my mind off it before going to sleep. I finally hit the pillow and less than an hour later my 2 year old wakes up screaming. History with him is that he is a little asshole (we have other kids so I know what I am talking about) and he screams and kicks and claws and won't tell you what he wants but nothing is good enough and it literally feels like he is challenging you to a game of wills. So I let her know that the baby is up and I need her to take care of him....she gets up, goes in, baby screams at her and doesn't want her to pick him up so she comes back in to bed. I'm indifferent, almost predicting that she wouldn't put much effort in, but I don't have the energy to deal with her so I get him a bottle and then try to give it to him and so then he is screaming at me and won't take the bottle...so I leave it with him and come to bed as well. After about 30 minutes of this, I tell her the baby is still up and I would like her to sort him out. (she is a SAHM - it is in her wheelhouse - I have my own problems at work and need to get rest + she is normally decently submissive), but she says "no I'm going to let him cry it out". I disagree with her and ask her again so she knows I am making a direct request, not suggestion. I get a very defiant no.
I don't have time to deal with mutiny at 2 in the morning so I sigh and get up and go in to deal with the baby...it needs to be done.
Baby is still being an asshole, I'm trying bottle, video on the phone, light on, light off, books, rocking, music, everything....he objects to everything and kicks and I reliably and firmly tell him not to kick, if he kicks harder I give him a swat to the butt and raise my voice and say "don't kick". I ask him to use his words, all of the things I'm supposed to do....nothing is working and he is just screaming and thrashing and kicking.
Wife comes in and starts laying in to me about how I am going to wake the other kids and I just say "I told you to deal with it and you didn't so either take him or get out". for some reason she went off and said "you need to check yourself, blah blah, you're scary", and I was just a broken record "either take him or get out". She finally screams "I am trying to take him but I'm too scared to get near you!" so I lift the baby to her and then as I am getting out of the rocker to head out she punches me in the head...hard. This has never happened. I have NEVER lifted a finger toward her, and never threatened or given her any reason EVER to fear physical harm - EVER. And upon immediate reflection it doesn't add up that she is feeling "scared" at my behavior yet she gets in my space and punches me? I think if she were scared she would have stayed in her room....right? watch what they do not what they say?
Anyway, I think the combination of both of us extremely exhausted from dealing with this difficult baby, she's hormonal, me being stressed at work and even less sleep, neither of us wanting to be woken up by a screaming terrorist child, and the fear of waking up other children and it escalating got us both in a bad frame... I'll be the first to forgive and move on, but I had half a mind to call the cops just so she knows I won't tolerate that.
I'd appreciate some solid insight - yes I have read the sidebar and I lift - so don't waste your time telling me I'm a faggot and deserve to be hit or whatever....if you were in this situation what would you actually really do. I'm going to bed now and not saying shit to her, and I'll probably head off to work before she wakes so that I can take some time to reflect and be calculated about my response to this.
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