Q4W: What percentages of your friends "ride the cock carousel"? Do/Did you?

aznphenix · 2017-07-16T00:59:05+00:00

None. None of my IRL friends. Obviously some of my PPD friends.

Mr. Arthur has stories from boarding school, though. Good Lord.

Willow-girl · 2017-07-16T01:53:02+00:00

I grew up in the '80s, post-Pill, pre-AIDS. None of the girls in my circle were chaste by choice; the only thing that ever held us back was if we weren't pretty enough to attract the attention of the guy we had our eyes on.

Those were some good times!

SpaceWhiskey · 2017-07-16T01:13:47+00:00

I know one woman with confirmed triple digits who has been married for ten years. I was one of her bridesmaids. I don't know the partner count of any of my other friends, but I'd assume most have slept with less than ten people each. I've had PIV sex with less than ten men myself, which some people in this sub define as chaste and some define as horrible slut territory.

[deleted] · 2017-07-16T00:51:13+00:00

Out of my close female friends, which consist of six women plus myself (all in our late twenties):

-Two married their first boyfriends in their early twenties (one of these is now divorced - long story - and dating someone else. He's the second guy she's ever slept with.)

-One had only LTRs and is now engaged to a guy she's been with for 6 or 7 years.

-Three (including myself) had some casual sex that usually led to an LTR (all three of us are now happily partnered with guys who started out as hookups/FWBs).

-One was a bona fide slut who slept with nearly every dude in our circle and is now married to and about to have a baby with one of her most frequent hookups from her slut phase.

All but two of us have single digit n's.

Obviously the last girl rode the CC. Depending on your definition, I and the two girls with similar histories may have too. Safe to say the first two girls did not. I have other friends who may or may not have, but I met them in my mid/late twenties when they were already coupled up so I have no insight into their past. (The girls on this list I've known since hs or college.)

(Edited for formatting.)

Edit 2: Forgot about my other slutty friend. Idk what her n count is, I don't think it's terribly high, but she gets in a lot of fuck buddy situations where she and the guy aren't on the same page and lets them go on for way too long.

Atlas_B_Shruggin · 2017-07-16T01:50:36+00:00

All of my friends had the same lives as me. Teenage boyfriends (1-24 monthsish) interspersed with hookups, first real bf from like 18-21, period of dating after that breakup, hooking up and STRs trying to find next bf, settling with someone around 23-24 who became their next longest partner, culminating in either marriage or staying together til now, or breaking up around 28-31. Most then went on to marry someone else. Only one I know of became a cat lady

shoup88 · 2017-07-16T01:47:04+00:00

I guess that depends on how you define cock carousel. I'm going to interpret it as multiple ONSs. Percentage wise I would estimate 15% have done so at some point in their lives. I have not, mainly because I've virtually never been single and sexually active.

Lyanina · 2017-07-16T00:41:12+00:00

Define CC? If we mean high double-digits, new guy every month, 0%.

If we say an average of two new guys a year counts (some ONS and STRs and FWBs and LTRs), 25%. Or, you know, 2 women. One (24) has been off it with a boyfriend for over a year, the other (22) has a fuck-buddy thing going on now and I expect she'll have a new partner by the time the year is over.

I haven't.

Dominic_Badguy · 2017-07-16T02:18:18+00:00

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[deleted] · 2017-07-16T09:59:11+00:00

My best friend rode the CC hard for about 2 years when she was 18, after she got out of her first LTR (who she lost her virginity to). She writes as a hobby and basically fucked a lot of guys for the story/drama of it, at least it seemed that way to me at the time. We had a huge falling out over it and I cut her off for most of the 2 years, which broke my heart in a way, but I couldn't respect her anymore. It felt that every time we hung out, all she would talk about was the latest episode. I mean, it was bad. Like, 4 guys at once kinda bad. And each guy was a "chapter" in the novel.

I guess she grew out of it but I'm always doubtful of anyone ever really growing out of anything without serious work/commitment to change. She spent about 4 years moving through short-term LTR's. Then she met a really wonderful guy randomly at a music festival; they're married now, and live in a magical treehouse/forest together with lots of animals and a huge garden. He knows about it all. I think it destroyed him a little bit when he found out but he already loved her by then and probably pretends otherwise now. I'm just waiting for her to tell me that she's pregnant. She's very Motherly and has been harping on about that ache in her body to have children for the last few years now.

philomexa · 2017-07-16T02:24:40+00:00

I only know two women who slut it up, and I'd only call one of them my friend. The rest of my lady friends snagged their LTR in undergrad, married around 25/26, and started popping out babies around 28-30 years old.

I'm a low N count good girl, all my friend's are low N count good girls except for that one who started slutting it up after her 14 year relationship with her boyfriend since high school fell apart.

We're all attractive, college educated, employed, middle to upper middle class women raised in two parent households in suburbia. I grew up with these women, knew them since we we're kids. No instagram party girls, but we'd low-key party with our boyfriends (future husbands).

DemonConsulting · 2017-07-16T05:38:31+00:00

None of them and I didn't either. All of my friends are introverted nerds or religious with the most "slutty" one having had a FWB "relationship" for a week with a guy she had a crush on in high school. Her N = 3 because of that, the rest being LTRs including her current one. The rest have an N of 0 - 2, most being in an LTR/ engaged/married with their first or second for years now.

I've never been into the party scene and my entire social cycle is outside it as well so while I witnessed the hookup culture with other girls, I never actually experienced it myself.

[deleted] · 2017-07-16T07:10:27+00:00

I don't know many details about the sexual history of my friends to be honest, but then again I never really had "close" friends, just people I occasionally hung out with.

As about me, well I suppose it depends on how you define the cock carousel. I never liked casual sex, I tried it once and decided it wasn't for me. I have slept with 5 men including my current partner.

lurfly · 2017-07-16T12:12:08+00:00

The sluttiest friend I had was a girl I knew in my college dorm who went after guys for sport. She never slept with them, aside from a very select few. But she gave and received oral. She would literally pick a target and get herself an in then go for it. She had me play wing girl a few times so I've seen it, wouldn't have believed it otherwise.

All of my close friends are around 10 or less with 90% of partners being from committed relationships. Personally, I never did the cc thing. I have 3 partners from 3-4 year committed relationships, 1 from a 6 month "fling" and 1 umm awkward thing.

Hairbrainer · 2017-07-15T23:55:07+00:00

Most everyone has a slut period in their life, men and women alike. I'd put around 3/4 of my friends have done so at some point in their life. And that's likely conservative

BookwormJane · 2017-07-16T01:51:43+00:00

Why are we still referring to women with many sex partners in here as sluts? Am I in the 50s or what?

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RockinSocksII · 2017-07-15T23:42:06+00:00

Some would say I do because I don't think relationships are a worthy investment. All of my friends are not this way. Most of them are still with their boyfriend from college.

whichbladeN · 2017-07-16T00:02:37+00:00

Just one of my friends had extensive casual sex that I know of.

She went to school at a maritime academy, so there were way more men than women. But she only did that for one or two years, and since then she's been in one LTR for about 3.

pinkgoldrose · 2017-07-16T00:06:24+00:00

I have only one friend who takes dating casually and says she doesn't want to have kids in the future. She dates guys without defining the relationship and moves on if someone else comes up.

In college the "sluttiest" girl I knew was all talk and no sex. She told everyone she was bisexual and talked about her vibrator. She was a big flirt, but she didn't actually sleep with anybody. She went around aggressively looking for guys in different programs. It worked because she found herself a boyfriend and I would say it was the best boyfriend anyone found.

The actual sluttiest girl I knew in college was in a friends with benefits situation with an older guy (phd student praying on freshmen girls) where she was in love with him and he wasn't. She kept sleeping with him whenever he showed up even though he told her he didn't want to date her. Maybe she slept with another guy at some point.

Everyone else was/is either single or in LTRs.

slavicgypsygirl · 2017-07-16T00:11:19+00:00

My friends: Maybe 30%

Me: Yes, I do. I don't believe in monogamy :)

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ClarityofDisaster · 2017-07-16T02:29:24+00:00

All my friends are straight men, so 0%. My N = 1, so no for me too.

Gorgatron1968 · 2017-07-16T05:05:51+00:00

None of my friends from college did, they did put out but it was always someone who being tried for a long term lease.

pinkdrawings · 2017-07-16T07:12:45+00:00

I've never slept around.

I would say about half? None of my friends road the CC in high school, but now I would say...yeah about half?

nagadife · 2017-07-19T16:38:54+00:00

I never considered myself attractive enough to do it. Now that TRP and Incels have all said that 3 and 4's can pull Chads because of thrist and what not, if I'm ever single again, I think I'll try.

Butt-Factory · 2017-07-15T23:45:03+00:00

I have always had a few slutty friends, but they were/ are a minority. An ever smaller minority now in my thirties. Most of my friends were/are in several long term relationships with some gaps in between where they dated casually, which has been my pattern as well. Most of my closest friends are married or in solid LTRs now, including the slutty ones.

[deleted] · 2017-07-16T00:11:30+00:00

~10-20%. A couple friends were huge sluts, the rest didn't seem to have sex outside of dating or relationships.

I did not and do not, as I have been in one relationship or another since I was 15.

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Title	Q4W: What percentages of your friends "ride the cock carousel"? Do/Did you?
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Date	July 15, 2017 11:37 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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