Thoughts on /FemaleDatingStrategy/?

PPD-Angel · 2019-10-27T15:34:10+00:00

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findingfemininity · 2019-10-27T15:58:16+00:00

Their "strategies" only work for women that are extremely attractive (like 8+/10). And it's not so much the strategy that works but the fact that men are more willing to put up with shit from hot women. Any regular looking woman who acts bitchy is only going to attract low tier betas since men with options won't put up with that.

FlavFal · 2019-10-27T16:31:16+00:00

I think they have some great advice about self-respect, but their focus on traditional gender roles puts them closer to The Red Pill and Red Pill Women than they imagine.

When they tell young women that they shouldn't date fellow students and should date older men instead because they can "add financial value" to their lives, they're doing exactly what TRP wants and proving the Red Pill theory that a man's value goes up as he ages because he can be "generous" with women.

Them saying you should never approach is also something you'd see on RPW. It's an ironclad rule that doesn't make much sense. Some men approach countless women and don't remember the names of 1/10 of them. Just being approached doesn't mean the guy values you, maybe he's just playing the numbers game.

Orange_Paisley · 2019-10-27T15:23:23+00:00

I hadn’t perused it before. I don’t mind the empowerment stuff - healthy boundaries, learning the difference between being with someone because you like them vs because you are lonely, etc. The “how to get him to spend money on you” stuff is a little gross and nods toward TRP’s notion that all women look at men as walking wallets (we don’t).

red-priestess · 2019-10-28T02:40:34+00:00

They're manipulative and definitely deserve to get made fun of as much as they do on all the other subs around reddit. Most of them are just jealous of women who are more attractive or seemingly dont need to try as hard or else theyre taking out abuse theyve suffered at the hands of past men on future men, becoming abusers themselves.

They are the female version of MGTOW: present themselves as harass independent women, but their very first pinned post is about how to change yourself into a prostitute for men.

sublimemongrel · 2019-10-27T14:45:28+00:00

It’s TRP for women although tbh a lot of it just seems to be posts aimed at building confidence or a sense of self worth rather than focused on some strategy to exploit men

Atlas_B_Shruggin · 2019-10-27T14:44:52+00:00

just like the rules, how to catch and manipulate a beta and be a cunt, which betas LOVE

Letseatthots · 2019-10-27T15:00:43+00:00

Seems like a femcel sub to me. They call males “moids” and show the level of hatred of men that MGTOW does towards women.

3gm22 · 2019-10-27T15:02:48+00:00

I was just browsing them this morning. My first reaction was of disgust. The strategies used ensure they pick and date men that they can use financially or sexually. The sub itself is proud of not caring for the feelings of men, and in fact, it appears the sub deletes any conflicting viewpoints. It seems less about understanding dating, and more about encouraging women to use men for immediate personal pleasure and financial gain.

The strategies also openly condone using men for pleasure, at the expense of their emotional needs. Now I couldn't go so far as calling it hate bc they do not openly call for physical violence in any way, but they are definately manipulative with selfish intent.

RP strategy on the other hand is about understanding male and female behavior, and using that understanding to first accept, and then navigate gender relations. RP teachings seem to also say they can be used to meet your needs, but encourage the men to treat women with equivical respect in things like comfort, conversation, holding your partner to a standard and calling them on it with intent to help them see and fix the issue, not to toss them away. FDS literally spells out how to make a date, manipulate to get a free meal out of it, put on a fake persona to do so, and immediately block and ghost when the man requests the woman split or pay for the next date. There is not authenticity in that, there is no personal responsibility in how you treat the needs, emotions and desires of others. This is very typical of most feminist agendas.

How do you develop respectful relationships when you start your interactions with an alterior motive of financial gain? You can't, because you have marginalized yourself to the position of a fancy hooker or escort, you have made it financially transactable instead of doing so on an intimate level. This behavior breeds broken men and cold, callus, unempathetic women.

You can't spend your life pretending like the unrational emotions of human beings is not a legitimate need and expect to make meaningful relationships. This is EXACTLY what defines a sociopath. The sub is toxic in this regard.

If it were just to empower women to be better, to be responsible for their actions, and to interact truthfully and honestly for a common good, then I would not think so poorly of it.

MrHerbSherman · 2019-10-27T15:38:16+00:00

I subbed for a while hoping to get some insight on how women approach the topic and maybe better understanding

It was just a lot of rants tho

we-are-men-with-ven · 2019-10-28T10:20:53+00:00

I got banned from there.

It's mostly just a circle jerk where women botch about men so they don't feel bad about being mean to them.

It's closer to the red pill than redpillwomen tbh.

Vegetas_Haircut · 2019-10-27T15:34:35+00:00

Seems to be more politics than actual strategy, to be honest.

That's what this stuff often devolves to, I feel. Kind of like how r/mgtow is mostly just politics and bitching, rather than going one's own way.

goatismycopilot · 2019-10-27T16:18:33+00:00

I can save them all some time. Reward the positive and ignore the negative. Don't be pleasant or accommodating with anybody till they earn it. Have a reasonable backup plan.

bonusfruit · 2019-10-27T16:49:53+00:00

Useful for keeping abreast of the trends in female psychopathy and manipulation. They are open about what behavior or phrases they should use to deceive men. Why not soak up the wisdom

ThorLives · 2019-10-27T17:23:12+00:00

i thought that sub was an elaborate troll like meninism. i laughed at the posts. is it real?

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Truedemocracy5 · 2019-10-27T17:30:01+00:00

Made me more self aware as a red piller as how some of us come across - because that sub is clearly full of low RMV trash women dealing with cope.

Difference is that sub is about blaming men. TRP, when applied correctly (not always the case), is about BUILDING men. Red pill attracts low SMV men. Female dating strategy attracts low RMV women. Difference is TRP turns those men high SMV. Female dating strategy turns those women into even bigger bitches

Takes one second on that thread to see that.

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tschwib · 2019-10-28T11:58:19+00:00

IMO it's mostly for women who want to blow off steam when they are bitter about men for various reasons.

I think most of them really suffer from deep problems with low self-value which shows in how often this "He didn't text me!!" comes up.

A reasonable person would think "Oh he probably has stuff to do, I'll check later". They think "He doesn't text me because he doesn't value me. If I were of higher value to him, he would text me a lot more. I should deserve better [...]". Exact same story with paying for dates or what kind of date it is. They obsess over men choosing a setting that fits their "value" because they are incredibly insecure about it.

People should treat this sub as a place for ventting with probably a lot of stories that are either exaggerated or made up.

I just feel sorry for people who leggit take the advice given there. No, you won't get that high value dude when you invite male competition to your date.

madness1106 · 2019-10-29T05:53:45+00:00

Sub is filled with mentally ill women leading each other to further depths of misery and loneliness

AllUsermamesAreTaken · 2019-10-30T21:58:01+00:00

It's incel rhetoric. They're incels EXCEPT they're probably not celibate.

FatmanSlim93 · 2019-10-27T17:21:32+00:00

Seems like great advice to follow if you're essentially going through an anger phase and want to beta bux as many men as possible. One of my favorite youtubers is a gold digger, she says a lot of shit that gets posted on that sub. "Don't date men you find attractive, date rich men that find YOU attractive." "Date for lifestyle and comfort, not short term feelings." Great advice if that's the road you wanna go down, bad advice if you just want a normal non manipulative relationship.

Skratt · 2019-10-27T18:51:15+00:00

Whoa. Dafuq? Been looking for a community like this for ages and here it is, right in my lap. That's nutty. Thanks for linking it I guess!

Dora_Bowl · 2019-10-27T14:49:21+00:00

I never look at the description of a subreddit to tell what the subreddit is about, I always look at the front page/top posts of all time and it gives you a general idea of what the subreddit actually about.

It is just a meme subreddit, like r/MGTOW or r/JordanPeterson with the theme of critisizing what males are like with dating. I generally think that kind of stuff is really boring, so I stay away.

mistresswhat · 2019-10-27T17:23:56+00:00

It's basically TRP flipped, with less nastiness. Similar thing where it sounds like the way they date and do relationships is miserable for everyone involved. People very specifically looking for tangibles at the expense of intangibles and then telling themselves that they won with their HB10/rich dude they've never had a truly honest conversation with and have to put considerable ongoing effort into manipulating and everyone else is secretly miserable.

Title	Thoughts on /FemaleDatingStrategy/?
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Date	October 27, 2019 2:42 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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