OMFG. The relationship advice sub is so toxic I can’t even

mightbethrowawayyy · 2020-04-22T00:16:32+00:00

Communication my ass

Also, the source is he’s a guy? How’s that a source? Apparently someone thinks having a weenie = a masters degree in communication or something 😂🙄

PhospholipidB · 2020-04-22T00:32:05+00:00

His advice sucks and reinforces the idea that he should keep stringing her along. Source: you're a lame guy.

But I cringed when I read she bought a house with this guy. She took a big financial risk, could lose big money, could wreck her credit -- for a guy who after 3 yrs cant even commit to an engagement. Dont be this woman. Bad credit will punish you for 5-7 years after you dump his ass.

radical__daphne · 2020-04-22T00:28:02+00:00

Yeah how dare a woman leave a relationship with a man who clearly doesn't want her and she's already wasted four years of her twenties on him! That's abusive! Source: I'm a man!

Capable_Okra · 2020-04-22T01:32:12+00:00

How come mEn aRe StuPiD and don't know things until you literally tape it to their foreheads, and yet society is supposed to respect and pay them more than women??

AyemHerself · 2020-04-22T01:58:07+00:00

Notice how it's only women who need to communicate, and spell everything out exhaustively. Men can just keep their mouths shut until convenient, and act shocked when they're treated like simpletons.

Cobmobster21 · 2020-04-22T00:25:03+00:00

If she’s willing to wait three years with that guy she can clearly start over with someone else. Geez that guys advice is shit

BabyGothQ · 2020-04-22T01:58:26+00:00

“Wow, you were upfront about exactly what you wanted and he continued to date you? You need to communicate more.”

thedevinefemme · 2020-04-22T03:15:07+00:00

Life advice: NEVER take advice from a man. They always give suggestions that only help themselves 🙃

Adawritesrules · 2020-04-22T00:50:14+00:00

JuSt CommmmUniCate.

How do you communicate with men who have literally fried their brain with porn, misogyny, and patriarchy while swimming in entitlement? For what purpose? Would you attempt to communicate with an ape? No. You would walk away.

2020-04-22T00:49:39+00:00

Why do people in the relationships sub act like wanting to marry is some out of space crazy thing that you need to do some sort pf extensive prep work to make sure he really really understands the concept because it’s so unusual???

2020-04-22T07:25:24+00:00

Someone message her and said the reason he doesn't want to get married because she technically already acting like a wife before the ring. That was her mistake, the minute you show a guy you stay by his side and be loyal is the minute he thinks he can away with anything. Judge Lynn says it many times on divorce court never do extra stuff and play pretend house before actually marrying the guy. They always get comfortable then never want to get married.

randomgirlimok · 2020-04-22T04:29:13+00:00

I wonder if he bought the house in his name only and she’s just living in it, paying rent and/or putting her own sweat into renovating it. She’ll never see a dime when he flips it.

postmodernistweasel · 2020-04-22T09:17:55+00:00

When I was 21 I got pregnant by accident, by having unprotected sex ONCE, at a time I thought was safe (just after my period) AND whilst using withdrawel. At 30 it took 8 months of trying before I conceived. At 35, I could not get pregneant at all. Two years of trying, nothing. This was all with the same male partner. You can never assume you will be able to have children later.

Don't risk your chance at motherhood for a man. Don't let him tell you it's ok to wait till the end of your window. 'If we aren't having children now, I'm leaving' is NOT an unhealthy ultimatum. Dumping a guy who doesn't want what you do, has lied and betrayed your trust, and doesn't care about destroying your dreams - that's not an ultimatum at all.

This guy annoys me so much. He's doing this because he feels utterly confident that he can do exactly what he wants, without considering his partner, and that she will accept it and stick with him anyway. Watch him change his tune and beg if she walks away. But he would still be selfish trash.

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Logical-Influence · 2020-04-22T03:43:09+00:00

Fuck that guy! Fuck that sub. They are the worst!

aTrueJuliette · 2020-04-22T06:05:38+00:00

Wow I was reading that post earlier and when I read that comment I said “hell no” and left the post. Lol thought it was interesting you disliked that comment too. It was HORRIBLE advice.

Eat_Pant_b0ss · 2020-04-22T03:19:53+00:00

The memes write themselves

RegularStatus5 · 2020-04-22T07:32:47+00:00

Girl,no. Don't buy a house with a man who isn't commited to you. Personally I am never going to marry a man unless we have lived together for a few months- what if he has gross habits I don't know about or we simply can't live together? But a rented house is good enough for that. Just make sure your name is in the lease. A house is a long term financial obligation. If you break up, do you really want to be paying for a house you no longer live in? Or do you trust him to make the mortgage payments on time? And can you pay the house bills on your own if he is no longer there to contribute?

Deep-Blackberry · 2020-04-22T10:57:11+00:00

How awful! I have questions about this house. Is her name on it as well? Is it only his? I would never in a fucking million years co-sign a house or a lease with someone I'm not married too. Working everyday, slaving away, making sure his needs are met only for her needs to be met with resistance. 5 years? Wasting time like that? Nope.

We all know what this is, he doesn't want her, but I have a very strong feeling the next one will be the one he marries. I've seen it time and time again.

Also that guy in the comment with his "advice" is...lame as shit. She's clearly communicating her needs, why should she continued to be strung along like this.

mightbethrowawayyy · 2020-04-22T16:21:55+00:00

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azngirl7689 · 2020-04-22T13:16:53+00:00

DiD yOu tRy taLking To HiM?

buffysummerrs · 2020-04-22T08:03:09+00:00

Ah the age old “I’m a guy comment.” That just makes it worse and you’re pointing out how guys can’t admit how shitty other guys are. Give her some real advice, how her boyfriend is a sociopathic half wit who she needs to drop now!

iM A gUy.... please.

lickyblickyuhh · 2020-04-22T08:29:30+00:00

“Source: I’m a guy” LMFAO oh, love.

I hope she leaves him. He went into this relationship and spent all these years fully knowing her goals. He is selfish, he doesn’t even have a single goal which includes her, instead he wants to waste more of her time to “see if he changes his mind” FUCK NAH, he can keep his house and seeya later

Title	OMFG. The relationship advice sub is so toxic I can’t even
Author	mightbethrowawayyy
Upvotes	188
Comments	64
Date	April 22, 2020 12:15 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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