Q4Men: Which do you think is more intimate, sex or a blowjob

LeanLoner · 2020-06-19T20:05:55+00:00

Depends what you mean by intimate.

Personally I feel more vulnerable while receiving a BJ. You really have to let go of all control.

Missionary definitely seems more emotionally intimate, but other forms of PIV like doggy style feel about on the same level as a BJ.

The whole thing is kind of moot though because I don't think theres ever been a time that I have done one without also doing the other in the same session

AggravatingTartlet · 2020-06-19T20:32:52+00:00

Both. We know vaginas have teeth so both run the risk of us getting our dicks bitten off.

In all seriousness, I'd say both are pretty intimate because I wouldn't want just any woman touching my dick.

AussieBrooks · 2020-06-19T23:10:04+00:00

Women who enjoy pleasing you and WANT to suck your dick are the real keepers when it comes to the world of sex. Any woman can think, “well he did do this and that, he deserves me to lay there and give him missionary” versus, “what CAN i do to please my man”?

SeemedGood · 2020-06-19T20:05:46+00:00

PIV. Though I have known women that feel differently, it always seems strange to me that they do.

It’s just so much more intense in every way.

I’m one of those guys that are “meh” about receiving oral. Sometimes it’s hot, but rarely. It’s very difficult for me to orgasm to oral as well. Could be a fit issue.

Barely-moral · 2020-06-19T20:31:46+00:00

Intimate is something I feel and not something I think.

I feel like sex is more intimate but feelings are erratic and don't make a lot of sense. There have been instances of blowjobs that felt more intimate for me than other sex positions/instances.

2020-06-19T20:35:23+00:00

BJ if she swallows.

But seriously both are rather intimate.

Workaholiconew · 2020-06-19T20:43:36+00:00

Which do you think is more intimate, sex or a blowjob

Define 'intimate'. In the definition of the world I know of: "private and personal". They are both intimate, different in some regards, but in level I think the difference is insignificant, so much so I could not say which is more intimate.

After all, in oral sex (regardless of gender) you are leaving one of the most sensitive part of your body, between the teeth of another person and give them the entire control of what gonna happen with that body part, for good and for ill. That is some real trust. Pretty "private and personal" if you ask me.

And in my mind, 'intimate' is more about the relationship between two people, how they feel about each other, not so much about what they do with each other.

Tyler_Gatsby · 2020-06-19T21:09:47+00:00

It's a catchy thing, the comparison. On one hand I don't really care for blowjobs that often, and feel more of a connection from being insidàe someone in missionary.

On the other, I do think a woman cares about me more, and my pleasure more if she occasionally grabs my dick and plays with it. Women rarely do this, and it seems like sex is more for them. Like them wanting a back massage, same sort of thing.

wtknight · 2020-06-19T21:30:50+00:00

They both seem the same to me. Anything sexual that involves touching the genitals has the same amount of intimacy in my mind, including a hand job.

2020-06-19T21:54:23+00:00

Depends if it's a gf or wife or just some girl. If it's just some girl I'm chilling with wether we're doing it or I'm eating her out or she's blowing me, it's just sex. It's intimate if it's my gf

drok007 · 2020-06-19T20:20:12+00:00

Blowjob, serving someone and not doing something for mutual pleasure is more intimate.

2020-06-19T20:00:15+00:00

Blowjob, you have to put effort in it.

I'm not gay!!!! Just sayin...

MrHerbSherman · 2020-06-19T20:12:04+00:00

Depends on the blowjob, depends on the sex

In general sex, I agree with your analysis in broad strokes

2020-06-19T21:28:45+00:00

There is a missing layer here. PIV when I get to cum inside of her is the most intimate and unfiltered for the man.

PIV with condom < BJ as far as intimacy because of the man's ability to cum freely and most pleasurably.

Appomattoxx · 2020-06-19T20:17:00+00:00

I wish I was brave enough to answer this honestly.

SilentLurker666 · 2020-06-19T21:53:47+00:00

Whatever acts when the it shows that the women is into you.

DangZagnut · 2020-06-19T22:01:48+00:00

Neither. Intimacy isn't a sexual act to me.

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MajIssuesCaptObvious · 2020-06-19T22:15:33+00:00

Depends on how good she is at each. If a woman gives killer head, and if I'm in the mood for head, it can be head. Otherwise, I like the closeness of sex.

PickleLine · 2020-06-19T22:44:18+00:00

Equally. Both are +1 to N-count.

Expensive-Guitar3609 · 2020-06-19T22:59:04+00:00

- Hello I'm Expensive Guitar, want to fuck? -

- Hell no fuck off creep! -

- Too fast? Sorry, may be you want to give me a blowjob first? -

Ey I think both are intimate, but if you let me chose I take the blowjob. Like, you know... Men are not sex maniacs always thinking about sex and sex and sex. Sometimes we just want a blowjob and cuddle.

wolftom01 · 2020-06-19T23:03:37+00:00

Sex because you're physically closer to the girl when you're on top of her penetrating (talking about missionary)

Also there's more sounds involved in sex rather than BJs. Some sucking noises here and there but it's whatever really

2020-06-19T23:21:40+00:00

Blowjob.

skystar86 · 2020-06-20T01:07:38+00:00

Sex because you can get pregnant from it and more likely to get STDs. Sex also because it causes virginity loss if you are a virgin.

thetruthishere_ · 2020-06-20T03:31:47+00:00

What is intimate for me is Im with someone I care about and they care about me no matter what we do sexully.

Im a sex worker and what I do with my clients in not real intimacy as we are not in love/true sexual attraction, its sex acts. I wont do things with clients but would do them with a man Im committed to.

How I feel with a partner I truly care about and he cares about me is not even in the same ballpark as my sex work.

Seems so many think having sex is intimacy when its not. It may be an intimate act but true intimacy is not there.

IMO true intimacy is experienced when you are truly into/care about each other.

OXOzymandias · 2020-06-20T04:12:20+00:00

RAW PIV

decoy88 · 2020-06-20T07:28:49+00:00

For the sake of the OP, I’ll pick sexual intercourse.

I don’t really associate intimacy with specific sex acts. It comes more from how I feel about the person.

AbyssinianLion · 2020-06-20T23:19:06+00:00

I say neither. Probably kissing. I specifically felt really vulnerable when I experienced my first kiss.

ToraChan23 · 2020-06-21T22:05:18+00:00

I’ve never seen a blowjob as intimate. Cunnilingus is, but not blowjobs. Idk why, it’s just me.

dorksideofnever · 2020-06-19T20:37:08+00:00

I prefer the BJ. I love the way my partner looks when she does it. The confidence look in her eyes. She's putting in time and effort to do something for me, and she knows I love it. In all my LTR I've had to fight for every bj I got. Birthdays, "Babe will you give me a bj?" followed by "ugggggg why isn't my vagina good enough for you"

I like it when there is effort and enthusiasm, it shows me that they truly care about my pleasure. I've had enough sit there and let him do all the work sex. I want my partner to care that I got off too. I want them to do what I like and not throw a fit about it.

SexySPACsMan · 2020-06-19T20:02:26+00:00

Blowjob

Somehow most women seem to think the opposite, makes no sense to me.

2020-06-19T20:15:24+00:00

stats135 · 2020-06-19T20:32:44+00:00

PIV. I think its a trust thing for me. BJ doesn't require much trust. I can probably trust a hooker to give me a BJ without a condom, I cant say the same for PIV.

Neyjuve · 2020-06-19T21:05:42+00:00

Blowjob. Most of my memories of good sex revolve around blowjobs. Women that are good at oral sex stick in my memory.

Expensive-Guitar3609 · 2020-06-19T21:05:46+00:00

BJ's are the consolation prize -- nothing more. They're what high school girls do when they don't want to go all the way.

wtknight · 2020-06-19T21:09:10+00:00

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2020-06-19T21:09:39+00:00

Title	Q4Men: Which do you think is more intimate, sex or a blowjob
Author	hammerhaunts
Upvotes	15
Comments	120
Date	June 19, 2020 7:58 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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