[Rant] Men are far more 'high maintenance' than any 'high maintenance' woman I've ever met

Rebelladonna · 2021-01-06T19:46:21+00:00

The day I realized I had to leave a NVM I was seeing was the day I was sick with the flu and he refused to make me a plain piece of toast to eat because: "I don't know how."

He didn't know how... to make a plain piece of toast... when we owned a toaster that was already on the correct setting...

I wasn't even asking for BUTTER.

What the fuck is more high-maintenance than expecting someone sick with the flu to teach you to use an appliance that literal children know how to use?

Men call women "high-maintenance" for things we do BY ourselves TO ourselves (hair, makeup, shaving, etc.) with NO expectation of help from them, and yet they're NOT high-maintenance for expecting us to do literally everything for them except wipe their asses?

Calling women "high-maintenance" is literally just a form of negging.

missgirl649 · 2021-01-06T19:57:08+00:00

I’m convinced “high maintenance” isn’t even a thing. It’s just a term men use to call a woman when they can’t live up to her standards and they’re mad about it.

Samvanderkamp123 · 2021-01-06T20:29:36+00:00

The number of posts on Reddit where the man gets COVID. He takes to his bed for a week. Then the woman catches COVID. She gets a day in bed, the house falls apart, and then he’s yelling at her to get up. Once she’s feverish and cooking dinner, he heads out to the bar, leaving her with the children. These women were also doing the full Christmas prep while suffering with COVID.

Melbournegeek · 2021-01-06T20:21:39+00:00

I think when they say that they don't know how to do something, what they actually mean is I don't want to do it. I'm sure if they were living by themselves then they would absolutely be able to make toast or whatever.

GlitterMars · 2021-01-06T21:06:06+00:00

I'm proud to be high maintenance. I do it for me, I use my own money for all the unnecessary beauty treatments that make me feel good, for the 100th body lotion, the hair salon for all the ridiculous hair colors and everything.

When I was still married, I literally owned two pants, I could never afford to buy anything for myself because he wouldn't work and mostly everything I earned went towards our house. For him I was nothing, and he was annoyed by my "high maintenance" ways so I gave everything up.

I'm now happily single and I want the best for myself. I learned not to be embarrassed by it.

evergreenarchivist · 2021-01-06T19:42:56+00:00

A man who’s scared of high maintenance women has probably already realized his own neediness, decided his needs should be the only ones who matter, and is trying to shame you and those around you into getting on board with his decision.

BBQCoolRanchQueen · 2021-01-06T22:04:01+00:00

They're mad when women maintain themselves. They're mad when we spend our own damn money on ourselves because they can't take credit for it. They can't stand the fact that their narrative of women being "mooching gold diggers" is being debunked. They can't stand women treating theirselves the way they deserve to be treated, without a man. They don't want to treat a woman well, they can't measure up to us.

2021-01-06T21:01:01+00:00

High maintenance = standards I can't/refuse to live up to

2021-01-06T21:02:17+00:00

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favoritesound · 2021-01-06T22:59:31+00:00

This is a really good point. If you added up the hours the wives/girlfriends of these whiners spent on doing their laundry, cleaning up after them, cooking them food and doing their dishes, the hourly rate for that (even at min wage) would probably far exceed the cost of taking her out to a dinner every week or paying for her manicures/pedicures + flowers and the occasional gift.

ThrowawayKITTY777 · 2021-01-06T21:21:42+00:00

"My decision to be high maintenance is because I am high maintenance. It takes a lot of time, work, money and energy to maintain me."

THIS really speaks to me.... I have put all this time, work, money and energy into myself for the past 17 years.... so if you can't treat me at least AS good as I treat myself then you are not worth my time, work, money and energy.

I'm not who I am and where I am for no good reason. I busted my ass, I learned, I grew, I did without things I wanted in the short term so when I finally GOT to my long-term I could have everything I wanted.

Now I pamper myself, spoil myself, if I want a thing I go get it. I can DO that. I've reached the goals of home ownership, getting my "fun money", getting my "FUCKOFF" money and I've done all I needed to do to ensure I'm safe and comfortable for life. I'm just going to sit over here collecting valuable antiques and blowing my hard earned cash "irresponsibly" on surrounding myself with beautiful things I love.... that appraise for more and more with each passing year.

So... if you're not the kind of man who can add to my enjoyment of life and WANTS to add to my enjoyment of life you'd just be wasting my time and yours to even attempt trying to be a serious part of my life, it won't work.

I don't do shit I don't want to do, why would I at this point?? I've paid my dues!!!

...if your tastes and your level is ONLY about going to dive bars and drinking cheap beer or eating at Applebee's... well I'm not above throwing darts in dive bars and having a good time of it and doing it often but, if I'm also treating MYSELF to the symphony and 5 star restaurant meals, you should also be into that and capable of that or it won't work between us.

I'm not going to stifle myself, skimp on enjoyment and lower myself down to a level that I don't have to be at because I've EARNED a higher level and I deserve my happiness.

So everyone ( pickmes also like to use that phrase towards other women in a mean way ) can definitely fuckoff with the "high maintenance" bullshit ... it's a piss poor excuse for not wanting to put in the same amount of effort, respect, caring and cash that I'll be putting into whatever I do.

switchitbitch · 2021-01-06T23:31:36+00:00

I fucking love this sub ❤️❤️❤️

feminologie_ · 2021-01-07T02:25:46+00:00

I've been called high maintenance in many ways and with different phrasing. But at the end of the day it comes down to men wanting me to lower my standards rather than rise to meet them.

JN3LL3V · 2021-01-07T04:44:38+00:00

High maintenance women put a lot of work into maintaining themselves. High maintenance men expect women to put a lot of work into maintaining them.

pickadaisy · 2021-01-07T03:09:20+00:00

And yet you’ll catch them talking about how women “maintain” themselves enough too. They dig their own holes to bury themselves alone in with their dumb ass projections.

Stuffnthings1840 · 2021-01-07T07:15:59+00:00

My husband's co-worker once said I was "high maintenance". He sleeps on a mattress on the floor next to his baby momma in his parents home. My husband sleeps in a bed that I paid for, on sheets I paid for, under a comforter I paid for at our house (split mortgage). I guess everything is "high maintenance" when you don't maintenance at all.

Myplummms · 2021-01-07T13:58:14+00:00

Do men actually love the women they’re with? How can you expect someone to bear the brunt of the domestic work 24/7 without considering how life is from their perspective? It’s delusional

BiscuitWoof · 2021-01-07T01:25:49+00:00

I hate other pick mes who always called me high maintenance because I liked to present myself well (makeup, hair, outfit etc). How is that high maintenance? If anything, I’m the only one doing the maintaining.

shmarhar · 2021-01-07T15:57:21+00:00

Men ARE super needy

Title	[Rant] Men are far more 'high maintenance' than any 'high maintenance' woman I've ever met
Author	sillychickengirl
Upvotes	718
Comments	49
Date	January 6, 2021 7:15 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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